I'm so excited for your lodge, I can't believe it's already time! Give that baby belly a rub for me:)
oh, yay! I'm so excited! Thank you, Vanessa! I'll post an intro a little later.
Welcome to your lodge!
Welcome to your lodge! Can't believe you're so close:-)
Welcome to your lodge! Looking forward to fallowing it and getting to know more about you.
Welcome to your lodge!
Welcome to your lodge Brittany!!!
Okay, so I have been working on an intro in microsoft word, but I realized it's going to be really long, so I'm going to start posting it in installments...
I’m Brittany, 24, married to Tiatia, 27. DH is half-Tahitian and his name is pronounced “tee-UH-tee-UH” in English and “TEE-tee-uh” in Tahitian. I come from a background of having a dad who worked in a field where you move around a lot, and my DH ended up going into the same field.
DH and I met in 2005 at college in Utah. I was 20 and in my second year, working on my prerequisites for the Early Childhood Education program (certification for Pre-K to 3rd grade). DH moved in after Christmas break, and was just starting school because he had been serving a 2 year mission in New Jersey before that. My friends and I already knew his roommates, so naturally we eventually crossed paths. We started dating in April. He moved back in with his family, about 20 min away, to take his spring term classes at the secondary campus, and I was taking spring term classes at the main campus and I didn’t have a car. So we only saw each other on the weekends, but things still got serious pretty fast. We pretty much knew we wanted to get married about 2 months into the relationship. He moved back down to the main campus for summer term, but I wasn’t taking classes that term because my family had a family vacation to the Caribbean planned—so when we couldn’t even talk to each other for a whole week while I was in the Caribbean, we REALLY missed each other. He came to visit Nashville and meet my family for a weekend in July, and that is when we got officially engaged, as in he said “will you marry me?” and I said “yes,” though he didn’t give me a ring until Homecoming in October—and he did the whole “down on one knee” thing in a rose garden in the moonlight, which was beautiful.
My brother took our engagement pictures, so they were free. He has gotten really into photography since, but didn't know what he was doing as much here, but they turned out really good:
We were married December 30, 2005 in the Nashville, Tennessee LDS temple. It was a wonderful day. My parents wanted to do something special for us, so they paid for our honeymoon to the Sandals resort in the Bahamas, which was totally amazing. Here are some pictures from the wedding day:
I had 2 semesters left to finish my degree after we got married. I went off BCPs about 2 months before the end of my student teaching. (Student teaching was a huge challenge for me, but a good learning experience). I had a false positive pregnancy test (it was this weird “reusable” test where you insert different strips into the same digital reader) and I thought I was pregnant for a few weeks because I never had AF. I found out I wasn’t pregnant after a huge ordeal that I don’t even want to talk about, but then I still didn’t have a period, just some very light spotting each month, so I went to this gynecologist at the student health center who did blood work (by then, because I had graduated, I didn’t have the student health insurance and so I paid out of pocket for it…wow, it was expensive) and diagnosed me with PCOS and gave me a prescription for metformin. By this time, I had taken a part time job as an afternoon teacher at the daycare for children of employees of the local hospital. I hadn’t looked for a job while I was student teaching because I thought I was pregnant, and the time I found out I wasn’t, my classmates had filled any openings I would have wanted to take. The metformin worked pretty fast to get my blood sugar regulated and my hormones back on track (I think some dietary guidelines would have worked just as well, but I didn’t know that at the time), and my chart showed ovulation about a month after I started taking it. Two weeks later I got a real positive pregnancy test.
I figured from my chart I was due around February 2, 2008. My part time job didn’t qualify me for insurance, and we couldn’t afford to pay for “spouse coverage” from the university. I found an OB office near where we lived who did free pregnancy tests , which I needed to get Medicaid coverage, so I went there for that, and then I decided to just go back there for prenatal care because I didn’t know enough about things to care who my doctor was. Plus, it was a private practice with just the one OB, and I liked that I’d see the same guy each time and he’d probably be the one to “deliver” my baby (I didn’t realize that this equaled ridiculously long waiting times for every appointment). I ended up having an ultrasound in my first trimester because I was bleeding kind of a lot, but everything was fine and the u/s gave me an EDD of February 6. Later we were thrilled to find out we were having a girl.
Ultrasound of DD at 24 weeks
Now, I had always figured I’d just get an epidural because I was young and uninformed about birth (I thought that the fact that I watched “A Baby Story” meant I knew something) and I thought everyone got epidurals. I didn’t understand why anyone wouldn’t. I thought “why would you have pain when you don’t have to?” and figured that if epidurals were as common as they seemed to be, they must be pretty safe. I thought God must have created epidurals so that women wouldn’t have to suffer.
During my pregnancy, a lot of things happened that led me to rethink my birth views. One thing was coming into contact with other women online, including on pregnancy.org, who had natural births, and I thought, “well, apparently some people think there is a good reason for it” but I mostly wrote them off as “hippies” and figured they must just be weird. Then, I saw an ad at Babies R Us for a seminar for “Hypnobirthing” and for some reason I was interested, so we went, even though we were already taking the hospital’s generic “prenatal course” at the time, because Medicaid would pay for it. It was basically an advertisement for a course, but it introduced me to the idea of hypnosis for childbirth and the idea that natural childbirth isn’t necessarily a horrible experience . I started having issues with some of the things taught in my hospital course, like how they assume everyone will get an epidural and the way they talked about giving routine preventative pitocin during the third stage as if it were not a big deal and like it was weird of me to question it when I did. I would have loved to taken the Hypnobirthing course, but I really didn’t have the time or money for it at that point. I did end up later buying the Hypnobirthing book and trying to use that to prepare, but it wasn’t enough for me to really be able to use it. Around this time, someone on my birth board told me about this board, and I joined. I realized that there were women who actually enjoyed the experience of natural childbirth, and they weren’t just crazies, either, and that for some woman, birth is more than just something to get through so you can be done being pregnant and meet your baby. I started reading books and articles people here recommended. I discovered that epidurals were not as simple as I had thought and that birth, as designed by God, is a beautiful and delicate process, and that interfering with that process can easily through it off track, leading to complications and a need for more interventions.
One of the books I read was The Thinking Woman’s Guide to a Better Birth, and I realized I had a lot more decisions to make other than just epidural or no epidural. I realized that if I wanted to try to do it naturally, and I was pretty sure I did, I needed to be free to move around and all of that, and I realized I needed to have a talk with my OB. Now, Dr. B was an older guy, and very old-fashioned. I had never really felt comfortable with him, but I didn’t know there could be anything better. Looking back now, I feel like he talked down to me and it bothers me that he would always lift up my shirt to check the heartbeat instead of just asking me to do it. My conversation with him about my birthing choices, much as would be expected knowing Dr. B, didn’t meet my satisfaction. He cited a ridiculously high episiotomy rate (“a third to a half”), said I didn’t have to get an epidural, but I’d have an IV and continuous monitoring, using scare tactics to try to talk me into thinking intermittent monitoring was a bad idea, he also said he didn’t do squatting births and claimed that gravity doesn’t do anything to help the baby come out, which still bugs me to think about even today.
So, needless to say, I went home that day and made an appointment with a CNM group that attends births at a smaller more NCB friendly hospital. I was 34 weeks when I had my first appointment with them. I was supposed to try to get appointments with all of the midwives before I had the baby, but there was one I never met, luckily she wasn’t on call when I had DD—the one who was on-call was actually the one I knew the best, which worked out really well. I was so much more comfortable with the midwives and they were really supportive of what I wanted. The birth story will be in the next post.
I got to have the experience of a lodge with DD’s pregnancy, and I really fell in love with the idea of the lodge tradition. You can find that lodge in the archives if you’re interested in looking at it.
My Belly Pics Slide Show from my pregnancy with DD:
When I write DD’s birth story, it is typically long. The long version is in the birth stories sticky and in my first lodge. I’m going to TRY to write a short version here.
Since it was my first baby, I really had no idea what to expect contractions to be like, so I kind of overreacted to the early labor contractions I had. I didn’t want to expect labor to be painful because the Hypnobirthing book said that if you expect pain, you’ll experience pain. I also felt like something was slowly leaking out of me, but I tested negative for amniotic fluid twice—once at a midwife appointment and once at the hospital, from which I was sent home because I was about 1 cm and 80% effaced, I think.
I went back to the hospital the next morning (February 2nd--the EDD I had calculated from my chart) after having more contractions for the afternoon and all night, and they had been about 5 min apart for over an hour (they weren’t very strong, but I didn’t know how strong to expect them to be). I didn’t really sleep. They found I was now 2 cm and fully effaced (I think these contractions also rotated DD to a better position, because she had been posterior the last few weeks), and they would have sent me home except while they were monitoring me, the nurse was changing the pad under me and saw a trickle of fluid, which she tested and it was, in fact, amniotic fluid. I think I had really been leaking all along. Hospital policy was that they were supposed to keep me there if my membranes were ruptured.
My midwife Mindy arrived and started talking about pitocin because I wasn’t contracting much at this point. I cried and said I really didn’t want pitocin, so she said we could try walking and stuff. She told me that he on-call OB that day was one she didn’t usually work with and he was very medically minded, but she told him that she was going to give me 6 hours before starting pitocin (she said her normal docs would have been willing to give me a lot longer). I had almost no cervical change in those 6 hours, so Mindy broke my water the rest of the way and started a low dose pitocin drip. I REALLY started feeling the contractions then—it was like zero to sixty. I distinctly remember screaming and thinking, “did that sound really just come out of me? I’ve never made a sound like that before.” Mindy did a great job of helping me focus on my breathing and I found sitting on the birth ball and bouncing while breathing in for four bounces and out for four bounces helped me stay focused. Next cervical check showed I wasn’t progressing, and I really lost my focus and was really disappointed. Mindy said she needed to increase the pitocin and I didn’t like that idea. I think I complained quite a bit at this point. I tried getting in the tub, but it was hard to get comfortable in the tiny tub with the monitors (they got the telemetry monitor for me) and the IV.
While I was in the tub, Mindy took DH out and talked to him about the possibility of pain relief, then sent him in to talk to me. He told me that she said the on-call OB was talking about doing a c-section if I didn’t show progress soon, and we really didn’t want a c-section for failure to progress. I know I didn’t need a c-section. We decided to go with the epidural (DH later told me that Mindy had originally suggested IV narcotics, but DH had told her he remembered me saying want to do narcotics because they were more likely to affect the baby).
The anesthesiologist was sent for. My ILs arrived (my MIL was supposed to be my extra support person because she had 7 natural births, but they had another responsibility that day). I was tired of pitocin contractions. The nurse suggested I get back on the birth ball, which helped. Anesthesiologist arrives and I get the epidural, which was well-dosed so that I wasn’t completely numb. I got the rest I needed and they turned the pitocin up a few more times, and then had to turn it back down a little because the contractions were looking scary on the internal pressure monitor they’d put in (but DD’s heart rate did fine and we kept her on the external monitor). I remember I started feeling a lot of pressure and I felt her moving down. I got checked and there was just a lip of cervix.
The next time Mindy checked, it was time to push. I had really wanted to do mother-directed pushing in a squatting or hands-and-knees position, but with the epidural, we just raised the back of the bed and dropped the foot of it and I pulled my knees back and pushed while Mindy and the nurse counted to 10. I remembered from reading Ina May Gaskin’s book that it helps you not tear if you open your mouth, so I tried that. I watched her crown in the mirror, which was cool. DD was born 54 min after I started pushing, with three small 1st degree tears. She was immediately placed on my belly and it felt so surreal. Mindy waited a little while to cut the cord, but didn’t wait for it to stop pulsing completely so they could take her to the warmer and deep suction her because she didn’t have a strong cry (her 1 min apgar was only 7). Then they weighted her and dressed her and put goop in her eyes while the placenta came out and Mindy stitched me up.
They brought her back to me and I looked at her and couldn’t believe I was holding my baby. She was beautiful. I think I said “She knows me.” I was able to nurse her and she did well.
We named her Tehani Lindsey Belle. Tehani (“tay-HAW-nee”) is a Tahitain name that means “the sweet fragrance of flowers,” Lindsey is my mom’s maiden name, and Belle is my great grandmother on my mom’s mom’s side’s middle name which she went by and an “-elle” name, which is a tradition for girl’s middle names on my mom’s side.
I was sad that I didn’t get the natural birth I wanted, but my baby was just perfect and I was so happy to have her. I also treasure the whole experience now for what it was. I had always wanted to be a Stay at Home Mom, and help from my very generous parents to get DH through his 1 year graduate school program in Arizona made that possible.
I was able to breastfeed DD for almost 19 months. I was having issues with hormone imbalances causing constant spotting and ended up trying the herbal remedy Vitex, which made the spotting stop and I had AF on my own for the first time in several years. Around this time, we were visiting my parents house for Christmas and kind of threw caution to the wind (we had been using protection because we didn’t want any surprise really close together pregnancies, but we forgot to bring protection with us on the trip). Since I was having periods now at least I would have some clue if I got pregnant, though my cycles were still pretty long at that point. I didn’t know if I would be able to get pregnant again without going on metformin again, but I didn’t really want to go on it because it is rough on the system, so I thought we’d just see what happened for a while. One day, on a whim, realizing I hadn't had AF when I probably should have, I bought a dollar store test and took it:
I had no idea how far along I was because I had kind of lost track of my cycle. I’d had AF 2 months before my BFP, but then I had weird spotting for about 2 weeks about a month after that, so I never recorded an AF for that month because I things were weird. So, I didn’t know what to consider my LMP. I went to the practice that used to be the freestanding birth center in Phoenix (the birth center part is closed, the group just does hospital births now) and the nurse practitioner ordered a u/s for me to date the pregnancy, which gave me an EDD of March 8th. I knew we’d be moving after DH finished grad school in a few weeks, so I didn’t make a big deal about shopping around for a practitioner.
I had one more appointment with the nurse practitioner at the midwife group before we moved to WA. Then I had to try to find someone here. DH works for a hospital (in administration/accounting), but his hospital doesn’t have an L&D department, so we’re using the small hospital about 25 minutes away that is owned by the same company so we can get the company discount. Unfortunately there aren’t any nurse midwife practices that attend births at that hospital. (By the way, there aren’t any homebirth midwives in the area either and the nearest birth center is too far away, so options are quite limited) I talked to a former doula and an L&D nurse at the hospital and they both game me the name of the same OB as who to go to if you want a natural childbirth. Dr. I. is awesome. I trust that she will keep me and the baby safe without unnecessary intervention. She had some of her own babies naturally and she also breastfed.
We found out we’re having a boy at my second appointment with Dr. I. DH is really excited to have a son and to give his parents their first grandson since they have 3 granddaughters already. I’m excited for the new experience of a boy. The name we have chosen, which isn’t set in stone yet, is Teio Tiatia Edward. Teio (“TAY-oh”) is my MIL’s maiden name, Tiatia is DH’s name and he’s also named after his maternal grandfathe, and Edward is both my dad’s and my paternal grandfather’s middle name, and my grandfather goes by “Ed.”
ultrasound of baby Teio
I decided that this time I would do the Hypnobabies homestudy. I really wanted to do Hypnobabies last time, but time and money were factors. I feel much more prepared this time and I feel like I have a much better grasp on how to use hypnosis during birth and I really love the program. I have been really excited ever since I found out I was pregnant because I am really looking forward to a chance to try again for a natural childbirth. I have had worries about the reality of having another child and even some fears about feeling trapped by breastfeeding, but I have delt with them.
By the way I will probably be using Hypnobabies terminology in my lodge. The idea is to avoid words tied to birth that might have negative associations in your subconcious, and replace them with positive or neutral words. The biggest ones are:
Contraction = Pressure Wave (which I like)
Labor = Birthing Time (this one I struggle with because it sometimes results in awkward wording and it kind of reminds me of Power Rangers…“It’s birthing time!” like “It’s morphin’ time!”)
Transition=Transformation (which I probably won’t use much in my lodge, but whatever)
yeah, so, that was a ridiculously long intro. I won't be offended if no one reads the whole thing
I loved your intro! It sounds like you are uber prepared for a natural birth this time around. I am confident that you will have the birth that you want. I am sorry your first birth did not go at all how you wanted it but with what you learned from that you can use in the birth of your son. I am excited to hear more updates!
Thanks, Marcia, and thanks to the other ladies who have given welcomes. I have an OB appointment tomorrow, so I'll probably have an update.
DD has been sick with a stomach virus. She threw up twice yesterday the evening, and then woke up dry heaving in the middle of the night. Her temperature was 100.8 before bed last night and I'm pretty sure it went higher while she was sleeping, but it is down to normal now. Most of the day she has spent lying on my lap, but she hasn't thrown up again. She's acting like she's feeling better right now--hopefully she is on the mend.
Ahhh, ((HUGS)) to you both sick babes are no fun:( I hope tomorrow is a good day for you and that she's all better in the morning. I got a little laugh tonight when my husband ask me "are you pregnant?", I ask why and his response "I saw a picture of one of those pregnancy things and I was scared"....I had your lodge up on the computer and he saw the bfp:)
LOL, that's funny, Vanessa. I think DD is feeling better. Her fever was down long enough that I felt okay about taking her with me to the doctor's office today. DH actually got to come, too, and meet Dr. I. for the first time. They had him working at the hospital I'll be having the baby at today, so he just came over to the clinic for my appointment.
My appointment went well. I'm still slowly gaining weight, up about 22 lbs from pre-pregnancy now. No concerns with urine test and BP was 120/70, which I think is similar to what it was at this point with DD. She didn't tell me what my fundus measurement was, so I assume it was in the range of normal. She did the swab for GBS, and hopefully it will be negative again so I won't have to worry about it.
After the appointment, we went over to the hospital and tried to tour the Family Maternity Center (that's what they call their L&D department), but they didn't have any rooms available to show because they were too busy. I did get the pre-registration paperwork filled out, though, so that is a few less forms that have to be signed when we show up for the birth.
What a beautiful Lodge intro! I read your entire intro and it was very moving. Love your kids' names! Best wishes to you on this journey.
Hey Brittany! Can't believe you have a lodge already! I remember your old one and thinking I wanted one too! I do hope things go better for you this time around and that you get the natural childbirth you want!
Well, turns out DD gave me that 24 hour stomach virus she had. I felt really awful last night until I threw up, and then I still felt bad. I was feeling feverish and just wanted to sleep. I feel a little better this morning--I think the fever broke during the night, but I couldn't fall back asleep this morning after DH got up to go to work. My legs feel all tired and achy and I have a headache.
I've started to have pressure waves that feel different from the muscle flex kind of BH's which I started having in my second trimester. I feel these more in my lower belly--they are similar to the ones I was having before we started the pitocin with DD. It is not fun to be sick to your stomach and have your uterus flexing at the same time. I am also feeling like baby might have started to drop--my belly doesn't feel quite as close to my ribs anymore, and I have started to feel him push on my cervix occasionally. I'm kind of thinking now that I'll have him before my guess date (another Hynobabies term), since I didn't start feeling this way this early last time, but who knows.
Dr. I is going out of town next week, so I'm not having a 37 week appointment. Hopefully baby Teio will wait until 38 weeks or later so I don't have to take my chances with whichever dr. is on-call.
I am sorry you are feeling so sick. No fun at all. I wanted to say welcome to your lodge! I appreciate the comments you have given me, and I will be following your birth journey! We have a few things in common which may become apparent to you later on, but i just wanted to say that I hope baby stays in there for you, and that the flexes just get some of that early work out of the way! I am not familiar with the hypnobabies terms, so I apologize if I use the terms wrong or forget to use them! Hope you can keep some fluids down today and get some off-your-feet time.
Thanks, Elizabeth. Good luck with your search for a new provider and I hope you have a great birth experience. Oh, and don't worry about the terminiology, it doesn't "bother" me to hear the traditional words, and I obviously have to use them sometimes while posting on pregnancy.org so people know what I'm talking about. I also use them with my doctor. I just prefer to use the Hypnobabies words myself because it is helpful for me to not think of what I'm experiencing in terms of words that I might have a negative association. It's hard to say the word "contraction" and not think "pain," and I am trying to experience the pressure waves as something positive, and really, if I don't think about it as "pain," it really isn't.
I haven't thrown up today and I think getting hydrated has helped stop the pressure waves. I ended up taking some tylenol to help with the leg aches so I could take a short nap while DD was watching Sesame Street (I record shows for her on the DVR, so she can watch them whenever it is convienent). I felt a lot better after that. I'm still taking things easy today.
Wow- loved your intro! I especially liked where you said, "for some woman, birth is more than just something to get through so you can be done being pregnant and meet your baby." I totally agree!
I am glad that you and DD are both feeling better! I hope it keeps up and the stomach bug is behind you!
Wow- loved your intro! I especially liked where you said, "for some woman, birth is more than just something to get through so you can be done being pregnant and meet your baby." I totally agree!
I have come to believe very strongly that birth is a highly significant experience in the life of a woman. A doula I spoke with (who unfortunately won't be available for my birth) was telling me a story about a hospital nurse/childbirth educator she knows and how she told her that her way of teaching the hospital birth class (a way that pushes epidurals) is, in the doula's words, "taking these women's power away from them." Women who go through childbirth without and over-reliance on medical technology to "save them," learn to trust and believe in themselves, and they enter motherhood with confidence.
Our culture generally fails to recognize the significance of the birth experience for the mother. In my experience, it is often talked about in such a negative light. Pregnant women are told to focus on the pregnancy and "worry about the birth later." Unfortunately this leads to women choosing a care provider before thinking about what they need in a care provider for their birth (like I did in my first pregnancy). So women go through pregnancy ignoring their fears instead of addressing them by becoming educated and trying to prepare, and usually by the time it becomes socially acceptable for them to learn about birth, it's almost too late. Some just never try to prepare. One woman once told me that by the end of her pregnancy, she was so uncomfortable and tired of being pregnant that the idea of giving birth "didn't seem so bad"--what a horrible message to be spreading.
I could go on and on about it, really.
I am feeling much better today. I did throw up last night, but it was after gagging on my prenatal vitamin (I used to have big issues with gagging while swallowing pills--I only took chewable tylenol until I was about 16, but it has gotten much better over the years). The leg aches are better after getting a good night's sleep, and I so think the whole thing is behind us.
So sorry to hear you were sick hun:( I'm glad your feeling better now though!! I also had HUGE issues with swallowing pills until I was in high school. At certain points in pregnancy I take liquid vitamens, while not the most tasty they are easier to get down. Have a relaxing weekend!
Bit of a lurker here.. just wanted to throw in my congrats on your lodge and say that was a really great introduction! It is inspiring to hear other women's journeys that lead them to NCB. Thank you for sharing your point of view
Glad you are feeling better today, hope the rest of your pregnancy is comfortable.
Vanessa--I have been taking liquid iron after my iron level came back a little bit low. It seems to help me have more energy. I was taking floradix and it wasn't too bad, but I ran out and when I went to the natural food store again, they were out, so I got a different brand and it tastes terrible.
I didn't eat very healthy yesterday (had pizza and ice cream and not a lot of good-for-you stuff all day) and my digestive system rebelled. I got dehydrated again and had more strong and frequent pressure waves this morning, but they have calmed down now that I've gotten more fluid in me. DH woke up this morning complaining that he's sick, though he has something different from what DD and I had--congestion and feverish kind of thing. I was really hoping he'd be able to help me clean up the horrible state of messyness the house has fallen into during my and DD's sickness this week, but I guess that's probably not happening.
Nothing much going on here. Saturday, DD and I went to my friend's house who has a little girl DD's age and is due with her second, another girl, in April. They moved here from Seattle, and she had a NCB with her DD. A lot of my friends here are supportive of NCB, which is different from how hings were when I had DD. Anyway, we went over to her house and attempted to help the girls make valentines, which was pretty funny. The girls played and we talked and it was nice.
Yesterday we went to church. DD has this obsession with pianos (she calls them "pee-no"s) and she has been trying to run to the front of the chapel where the piano is during the first hour meeting. During the second and third hours, she goes to a class, and she has had horrible separation anxiety the last few months, so I've been going to her class instead of mine, but she needs to learn to go by herself, so I've left her the last 2 weeks, and she cries, but she gets over it. It's hard, though. She loves her class, though, and she even knows one of her teacher's names (it's Sister Campbell, and she calls her "sister camel" lol)
Speaking of DD and her separation issues, I need to figure out what to do about the sleeping arrangements. DD's bed is still the crib converted to a toddler bed without the extra rails. I usually try to put DD to sleep in her own bed (by lying down with her) and she gets up during the night and comes in our bed. We have a bassinet for the baby, (which I have changed the bedding to blue already) but we will eventually need the crib for him. If we had a bigger bed for DD, DH could go in with her while I stayed with the baby, or I could take the baby in her room and she could sleep in our bed with DH, but that won't work with the little bed. We have 3 bedrooms, but right now the 3rd bedroom is DH's video game room as well as storage space for the vacuum cleaner, ironing board, etc, because we don't really have a closet for that kind of stuff. So, I want to start getting things organized for the baby, but I don't really know how I'm going to do it.
ETA: DH did do a load of dishes last night, when I asked him. (He had said that morning that he was feeling mostly better) That is a huge help. Now I feel like I'll be able to get the kitchen all cleaned up today. I might even get to the bathrooms, but I can do those tomorrow if I don't get to it today. DD usually had her toddler gymnastics class on Mondays, but they were closed today for the President's Day holiday, so we have to go at a different time this week. Next week will be her last class until after the baby, then I don't know when we'll be starting it up again, because I have to do the class with her, so I'd need someone to watch the baby for me.
Getting caught up here! I loved your intro. It's nice to get to know you more :).
I'm glad you are feeling better -- seems like that bug has really been going around.
GL with figuring out the sleeping arrangments. I'm having my own concerns about how dd will deal with nighttime after the baby arrives.
I was in the same boat with DS sleeping when DD was born. I took the opportunity of being up at night to take the time to put him back to bed when he woke, for the most part anyway. He STILL trys to sneek into our bed at night! DD did really well transitioning out of our bed and isn't usually a problem. I don't know that I really have any advice, but I wish you the best of luck:) How are you feeling overall?
It's great to get to know you. We are in Wa also, more towards Seattle. We are also of the same religion. I look forward to following your journey as you welcome your little boy.
We're about 2 hours from Seattle. Our area is pretty small town-ish, but I like it. There seem to be a lot of women on pregnancy.org and on this board who are our religion
I'm still feeling good overall. At one of my appointments, Dr. I. said that LO's head was off-center in my pelvis, and I figure he must be on the right side, because my right hip feels kind of like the nerves in it are pinched. It kind of comes and goes. Other than that discomfort, I'm feeling good and like I won't mind being pregnant a few more weeks.
My brother called yesterday and said he and his wife are going to drive up here from Utah for their spring break, the 3rd week of March. They'll be gong to Seattle first, to see the city and visit my aunt and uncle and then they'll be coming here for a couple of days. Hopefully I will have had the baby by then and they'll get to see him.
Have I explained what is going on with my parents? My mom wants to come help out after the baby is born, like she did when DD was born. Well, they're in Japan right now. Yeah. My dad's company got bought up by another company and his job was lost in the merger, so he got another job, but they have to move from TN, where they've lived for almost 12 years, to FL. My dad is taking a few weeks off between the end of the first job (who gave him a great severance package), and the start of the new one and they're traveling. They went to Belize first to stay at a really fancy island resort and now they're in Japan (where my dad served as a missionary when he was young). They put their house on the market before they left and they already have an offer, but the closing date is supposed to be March 12. So, I don't know how they're going to work all of that out. It'll be okay, though. My aunt says she can come help out if my mom doesn't make it.
Well that's great that you don't mind being pregnant for a few more weeks!
Yeek, I hope things work out w/ your parents. Sounds a bit complicated! Especially since wherever they are, they would have to fly out to you.
For us, it's sort of similarish b/c we would like my parents to be here to watch Micaiah and even though they live only two hours away, with all of this snow, they could easily be snowed in when the baby comes. Where they live is a remote part of the county and their road is sort of last priority when it comes to being plowed/salted. Plus, they have to go over the mountains to get to us. So we definitely have to have a back up plan! Right now it's our neighbor across the street, but if I end up going into labor in the middle of the night or something, I don't know how it will work!
We have a couple people from church who have said they'd be willing to watch DD when we go to the hospital. One has teenage daughters at home who love DD and the other is our friends who have a daughter the same age. So, we have a plan and a back-up plan for her. And I'm sure one of our neighbors would watch her in the unlikely event that both of the other two are not available. If we have to go after she's asleep, we might just have to wake her up.
Nothing really to update. I'm not having an appointment this week because my doctor is out of town. Nothing really going on as far as pressure waves goes. I'm just working on trying to get some cleaning and organizing done before the baby gets here. I also need to go to the grocery store today because we're running out of food.
That is good you have so many back up plans. We only have one plan and i hope that she does better than what she has shown us so far, it's DH's mom. We never know if she is going to be home when we call her and she doesn't always answer her cell phone. I know i have some lady's in our ward that would be more than willing to watch him in case we can't get a hold if DH's mom.
I hope the little boy stays put until your doctor gets back. Good luck with everything!
Yesterday, we went to the library for storytime, though we didn't actually get there until the storytime was over and they were just doing the craft. I saw a few of the ladies from church there. People were asking me how I'm doing and I honestly said I feel good. One of them told me that she always knew she was ready to have the baby when she felt miserable, and I said I didn't have that happen last time and I don't think it will this time either. I guess part of why I feel good is that I don't get very big.
Last night, we had DD's gymnastics class at a different time than usual because of Monday being a holiday. I saw my friend who had 2 of her babies at home because her DS is in the class at that time.
This morning, we went to the MOPs (Mothers of Preschoolers) group, which is held at my neighbor's church. MOPs is an international Christian organization for moms of young children, if you haven't heard of it. DD actually went to her class for quite a while, and didn't cry the whole time. The topic was on talking to your kids about sex, and I thought it was really good. We watched a video of a presentation by Mary Flo Ridley, and one thing she mentioned was that children tend to ask about birth before they ask about conception "How is the baby coming out?" is more of a wonder than "How did the baby get in there?" Interestingly, before the presentation started, we were talking at our table about how my neighbor wasn't sure how to answer that question, and one of the other ladies said she just told her kids that "some" babies come out through a cut in the mommy's tummy and she left it at that. I personally had a big problem with that, but I kept my mouth shut. The speaker on the program made it clear that we should tell our kids about both vaginal and c-section birth, and gave an example of an age appropriate way to explain vaginal birth to young children, which I thought was excellent.
Well, I'd really love to update my lodge, but there really isn't anything going on. Yesterday, I tried out a receipe for barbacoa pork and it turned out pretty good. Not quite as good as Cafe Rio's (which we don't have here, and I miss it!), but it was good!
I think my doctor is back in town now, so I shouldn't have to worry about her missing the birth. No signs yet that this baby is going to make his appearance any time soon. I get occasional pressure waves, but they haven't been very intense lately--today they were mostly like Braxton-Hicks. I haven't seen any mucus plug yet, so I'm thinking it will probably still be a while, but I don't mind.
Hi Brittany! Just checking on you. Sounds like you are staying busy and enjoying your last weeks of this pregnancy. About telling children how babies come out - I have a funny story. When our 5th was born, my oldest DD was soon to be 7. So I told her about the "special hole" between the legs where the baby comes out. Well, soon after that she was taking a bath and my DH peeked in on her and she said to him "I found the hole!" LOL He about died. He was quite surprised or embarrassed.
Now she is nearly 9 and I have started to think about how and when to have more of a puberty talk. fun fun!
Oh my! "I found the hole!"
My neighbor told this story about how children are curious about the anatomy of the opposite sex: When her DD was a little younger than my DD, her DH was home alone with her. He was changing her diaper and she kept saying "no tail!" And he was like "no, silly, you don't have a tail." Then she pointed to his crotch and said "Daddy tail!" When she came home, her DH was very distraught that their daughter thought he had a tail.
That's too funny!
TOO FUNNY!! We call all private parts by the same "name" and it doesn't seem to bother the kids that they look different:) I'm SO excited to see your little boy, come on out now little man!
I had my appointment today. It was pretty uneventful. My weight gain seems to have leveled off, which is what happened around this point during my last pregnancy also. BP was 110/70, which is great, lower than I remember it being towards the end last time, and everything was fine with the urine and fundal height, and heartbeat sounded great. Dr. I. said that the hosptial has all my info and a copy of my birth plan, and she gave me her pager and cell numbers so we can call her before we head in to the hosptial, but if for some reason we can't call, she said my file instructs the hospital to call her. She didn't even offer to do a cervical check, but she said we might want to do one next week. She asked if I had any signs that anything was happening soon, and I said nothing except for some occasional pressure waves and feeling like he is a little lower. I asked if his head is in the center now, and she said it is close enough that she could move it to the center. My next appointment is next Thursday.
Sounds like a good appointment! I'm getting excited for you, won't be long now!
Yay for a great appt!
Sounds like things are going just fine! Looking forward to hearing your birth story! (I know it could still be a bit, but I am!)
Sounds terrific! You are so close!
glad to hear your last appt went well!! We were in the Feb 08 birth group and our daughters are like 2 days apart. (my dd was born on 1/30/08 and i had a great ncb so I'm cheering you on . I hope you have a fabulous birth
Well, it's 4:00 am and I haven't really slept yet. I got up because I was having pressure waves that were keeping me from sleeping and I wanted to time them with "contraction master," but now that I'm sitting on my birth ball, I can barely feel them.
I had a really busy day today. Went to the library for storytime with DD, then decided to go straight to the grocery store since I already had DD in the car and everything. Then I came home and my friend with the daughter DD's age called me and said she was going to Costco (she has a membership and I don't) and she had told me she'd take me with her next time she was going if it wasn't on the way back from one of her prenatal appointments. I said I had just gone grocery shopping, so I might not need to get much, but I'd come along. When she got here, she was saying what a nice day it was, and she asked if I had been to a certain park yet, and I said I hadn't but had seen it and wanted to go. It is kind of in a weird location that you have to walk to, so along with DD's carseat, we put her stroller in their car, and we went to the park. I noticed a few pressure waves while we were walking, but I just walked through them instead of stopping like I normally would have. We put both of our DDs in a shopping cart (nice that Costco has double child seats in their carts) and walked around Costco, tried a few free samples, and my friend did her shopping, and I ended up buying a box of diapers for DD because they are a really good deal there, and it will be nice to not have to buy any for her for a while. Then the 4 of us shared a frozen yogurt. Then, they took us home, and she let me have some of the huge bag of spinach that she bought because it was so cheap and she didn't know if she'd be able to use it all. We obviously really are both pregnant, because we forgot to take DD's carseat out of their car, so her DH brought it over later. Anyway, it was a lot more walking than I normally do and I was feeling worn out. DD went to bed early because she didn't get a nap. DH got home around 11:00, and we had some "time" together. Then we wanted to watch the good parts of the Olympics that we had recored, so we ended up not going to bed until about 1:00, and then the pressure waves started.
I'm going to try to go back to bed now.
It's good to do lots of walking, but just make sure you are balancing it with rest too. Sounds like you may be in the beginning stages, keep us posted on how your pressure ways are doing.
Costco is good for double carts, but it's a trap too, I can never get out of the store without spending $100 even if I only go for one thing and don't need any groceries. But I like their Kirkland diapers too, they are essentially the same diapers as Huggies Supreme but at a better price.
Ugh for real! I went there for dog food last weekend and ended up with $100 worth of people food on top of it.