Hi Cynthia, welcome to your lodge!! Wishing you a wonderful home birth:)
Welcome to your lodge!
Welcome to your lodge!!
Welcome to your lodge! Did you have one with your son?
Welcome to your lodge! It's so exciting to get to hear how everything is going!
No, Connie, I didn't have one with my son; it's a first for me.
I'll post an intro later tonight!
Since Jacob is only a few months older than Ethan, I thought I would've remembered if you had a lodge with him but I wasn't sure:-)
Welcome to your lodge! another December mama!
I'm Cynthia, married to my husband Isaac, with one son, Jacob, who is two and a half. We are very much looking forward to the birth of our second child sometime over the next 2-4 weeks! We will (assuming all goes well) be having a midwife-attended homebirth.
My husband and I met when we were 12. We were in the same band class and youth group. Something about him always stood out at me, but we were both the very quiet, brainy, introvert type, so we didn't talk much. We were friends throughout high school, but the type of friends who sat next to each other reading our own books and never really saying anything. After we graduated, he moved away to university. We kept in touch off and on through email. He came back to town a couple of years later, and at that time we finally started to spend time together and *gasp* talk to each other. We started dating a few months later. He went back to university the following year, so we did the whole long-distance thing for two years while I finished up my schooling (I'm a Certified General Accountant) before heading out there to join him. We were married seven months later, and DS was born two months after that. It's like the midwives used to say...the first one can come at any time; all the rest take nine months.
DS was a natural hospital birth, no interventions. I was actually quite please with the labour and delivery portion of his birth (the post-partum hospital stay, on the other hand...some of those nurses could really use a few people skills). My labour with him was 10 hours long from the first contraction that woke me up. The entire pregnancy (I was seeing a family doctor for prenatal care) had been uneventful, other than being mildly anemic.
The day before he was born, we had done a lot of walking, had a spicy dinner of honey curry chicken (extra curry :lol:), and finished up the evening with some marital fun. I had decided that he should be born the next day (my doctor was talking induction, and my clueless boss kept scheduling me with clients even though I was already past my due date), so these were my attempts at helping him along. I felt fine (as fine as you can feel at 40+ weeks pregnant) when I went to bed that night.
A contraction woke me up at 1:00am. I went to the bathroom to find that I was losing my mucous plug. My bowels were also working on clearing themselves out. I set up camp on the floor where I timed my contractions while reading a book and making frequent trips to the bathroom. The contractions were very regular and steadily getting stronger and closer together.
At 4am, my stupid cat tore through the bedroom and woke my husband up. He asked what I was doing on the floor, so I told him quite calmly that I was in labour, but it was fine and he should get some more sleep. Not surprisingly, he didn't think much of that suggestion. He got up and tossed the last few things into the hospital bag. We had a shower, at which time the contractions went from "oh, this isn't so bad" to "ohmygoodness, this hurts!!" It was about 5:30am when we headed to the hospital.
Wouldn't you know it, we had to drive through the middle of a freak April snowstorm, at 5:30 in the morning with very unplowed roads. My husband tells me it was the only part of the labour that I was mean to him. Something about his need to hit every damn pothole along the way, or some such thing...heh. Seriously though, that car ride was the worst part of the entire labour. Would you believe it was actually a factor in making me want a homebirth this time around?? Not the entire reason by any stretch, but it was a consideration - that half hour car ride was awful. *shudder*
Anyway, we finally got to the hospital. Apparently I should have been screaming my head off or something, because they kinda rolled their eyes when I told them I was in labour and sent me off to a back room to be monitored for a while. I was strapped to the machine and told to sit back and not move. Hah. DS was posterior and the back labour was horrid, so sitting back was probably the most painful position possible. I put up with it for 15 of the 30 minutes she wanted, then I said screw it and sat forward. Of course she comes rushing in to give me heck for messing up the straps (whatever, lady), but when I refused to lay back again she gave in and called someone to come check me. Turned out I was 4-5cm and very much in labour. Funny how they stopped rolling their eyes and huffing around the room right away. Anyway, they got me all settled into a room.
I was asked what sort of labour I wanted, so I told them I didn't want any pain medications and yes, I wanted to labour in the tub. The nurses on duty were all very excited and supportive because they didn't get a lot of natural labours there. I was GBS+ so I had the first round of abx, then got into the tub with DH, who applied counterpressure to my lower back through the next two hours' worth of contractions. After that I moved to the bed, then followed the nurse's advice and got on my hands and knees and rocked back and forth. This turned DS around almost immediately and everything went very fast after that. My water broke at 8cm, at which point I pretty much went straight to 10 and told the nurse quite strongly that I needed to push NOW. DS was born after half an hour or less of pushing. He was 8lbs 9oz (so much for my doctor's guess of 6-7lbs!) and was perfectly healthy.
As smoothly as the hospital birth went (check in aside), I have to credit nearly all of it to the nurse who was with me the whole time. She prevented the doctor from breaking my water early, she helped refocus me with some quiet words during the pushing stage when everyone else was yelling at me to push, and she stopped the doctor from taking DS away when he was born a bit blue, telling him the heartbeat was fine and handing him to me instead. Because of her, I would never again labour in a hospital without a doula. Her support helped me to focus on labour rather than dealing with pushy doctors. My birth would not have been what it was if it weren't for her.
DS nursed like a champ - and continued to nurse, and nurse, and nurse. By the time he was 18 months old, my post-partum period still hadn't returned, and we had been ready for baby #2 since he was a year old. I slowly started to reduce his nursing sessions at that point. Perhaps not the "best" solution, but I so badly wanted my fertility to return that I hugely resented nursing by that point anyway. Even with the reduction, my pp period still didn't return until he was 21 months old. This baby was conceived two cycles later. I tested positive just before DS's second birthday.
DS continued to nurse until my milk dried up over the summer, at which point he slowly weaned himself (shorter and shorter nursing sessions until he wasn't nursing at all). Part of me was/is sad and part of me was quite ready at that point. He will still, on occasion, ask for "mommy's milk", which now consists of literally half a second on the nipple before letting go and saying all done. I joke to DH that he's really just kissing them goodnight. I am undecided as to whether or not I'm willing to tandem nurse after the baby is born. At this point I don't think I will encourage it, but if he wants to nurse I'll let him try (he doesn't seem to really know how to latch anymore anyway) and we'll go from there.
Anyway. I should probably talk some about THIS baby now! Sorry for the length!!
This pregnancy has also gone quite smoothly. We have moved twice during the pregnancy. We first moved when I was just a few weeks pregnant. I went back to work full time for four months while DH stayed home with Jacob. Since we were only there temporarily, I saw my childhood family doctor for my prenatal care. This typically consisted of an hour long wait followed by a five minute checkup. There were no problems with the pregnancy at all. I was tired and had some mild morning sickness, but nothing like I had with my son, where I could barely function for the entire first trimester.
In September, we moved again so that my husband could return to school. I had found a midwife center ahead of time and had a couple phone appts before we moved. The midwives (a team of three) have been great and I'm enjoying the more personal care. Still no real problems. Mild anemia again, a few weeks of low platelets, and another positive GBS test (*sad*), but nothing significant.
I decided I wanted a homebirth this time around. DH was initially unsure, but open to the idea, and he felt better after attending a homebirth info night at our midwives' clinic. I think he still has a reservation or two (amusingly enough, his biggest concern seems to be the potential mess - as though there will be blood everywhere by the time we're done :lol:), but he's been very supportive and helpful and encouraging.
I have a lot of reasons for wanting a homebirth, but I think the biggest is simply that hospitals and doctors are for disease and trauma, of which pregnancy is neither. So long as my pregnancy remains what it is, low-risk, I don't feel the need for medical care. Other reasons include wanting the comfort of our familiar home, avoiding the potential for unnecessary interventions, having DS be involved, and yes, avoiding that dreaded car ride during labour. We have most of our supplies ready to go, and the rest (minor things) will be gathered this week.
My MIL will be coming down to help with DS during the labour. Unfortunately, I'm due on the 12th and she won't be arriving until the evening of the 13th. I'll be keeping my legs tightly crossed until then! We do have a backup caregiver in place, I would just be so disappointed for DS if he didn't have the opportunity to be involved as much as he feels comfortable with. Right now he is so excited about it and can't wait to see the baby be born, but of course if he changes his mind when the time comes, that's okay. That's what MIL will be here for. He's also very excited about the baby in general and talks about him or her (no, we don't know the gender) all the time. He always asks me to "open your tummy!" (pull my shirt up over my belly) so that he can pat the baby. He tells me about 50 times a day that the baby's head is down there, his bum is up here, his legs are over here, etc. For the longest time he was convinced the baby was going to come out of my foot, but fortunately I've finally managed to correct that notion. I only hope his happiness over this baby will last when the baby's actually here, laying on my knee and drinking "his" milk and taking up lots of Mommy's time and attention. I've tried to prepare him for all of those things, and he talks a lot about what he can do with the baby, what we can do together while the baby drinks Mommy's milk, that sort of thing. It's been really neat to watch his understanding of the whole pregnancy/birth/baby thing grow.
So! There was everything you could possibly want to know and much, much more! I'm sorry, being concise has never been my strong point. I'll summarize it all in a second post!
DH - Isaac, student (electrical engineering). Met in '95, started dating in '03, married Feb 07.
DS - Jacob, 2.5yo. Born Apr 07. Natural hospital birth, no interventions, no complications with pregnancy, labour, or delivery. Labour was 10 hours from first contraction that woke me up. Pushing was less than half an hour. Currently looking forward to watching his baby brother or sister be delivered.
Baby #2 - EDD 12/12. Gender unknown. No complications with pregnancy. Seeing a team of midwives. Planning a homebirth.
Support person - MIL. Arriving in town Dec 13. Crossing my legs tightly until then! Will be in charge of DS during the labour and birth.
Great intro! My intro posts are long too:-) I don't blame you for wanting to avoid another car ride like that!
It's so hard to know what a 2-year-old understands about what's going on and what will happen... We're dealing with a bit of that ourselves since Ethan's only a few months younger than Jacob.
I hope you have a fantastic homebirth and I look forward to watching your story unfold!
enjoyed reading your intro, Cynthia! I hope you have a great homebirth!
That is a great intro!
Hope all goes well for your homebirth.
Oh, and I always love to hear about people who choose Team Surprise. I was on Team Surprise for both of my first two babies.
Had another midwife appt this morning. Heartbeat was 150ish, bp was 106/58, and I've gained about 24lbs so far. Baby is still head down and very low. Still posterior, unfortunately, so I'll be scrubbing a lot of floors on my hands and knees trying to change that. DS was posterior as well and the back labour was awful.
Picked up some toys for the baby's Christmas gifts today. Got two Under the Nile dolls (this one from us and this one that DS picked to give to the baby) and one of the Baby Belle Peppa dolls. She or he will likely get one of the bigger Peppa dolls after s/he's born.
Finally got all caught up on your lodge:) Sounds like your all set to go!! I'm excited to see how your homebirth goes. Your DS sounds like he'll be a great big brother! Do you have a feeling about the gender of this babe? It sounds like a girl to me.....but I don't know anything!
No, no feelings about the gender at all! Some days I'm sure it's a girl and other days I'm just as convinced it's a boy. I'll be thrilled either way! The only thing that makes me think it *might* be a girl is how different this pregnancy was from last time. Last time I was so sick the entire third trimester; this time I was tired and a bit nauseous, but nothing unmanageable. Last time I had all sorts of cravings and aversions (we were vegetarian for a couple months because I couldn't stand even the sight of meat, cooked or not!); this time I haven't really had any cravings or aversions at all. Last time I had crazy swelling and joint pain in my third tri; this time I've had some pain but no swelling at all. Lots of differences like that. The only things the same are the darn GBS+ results and the posterior positioning!!
It's so hard to know what a 2-year-old understands about what's going on and what will happen... We're dealing with a bit of that ourselves since Ethan's only a few months younger than Jacob.
Yeah, it's been so interesting watching his understanding grow. He loves to watch this site.
When we first started talking about the baby, he kept saying he wanted the baby to come out NOW. I explained that the baby needed to grow more, so he went on for quite a while about how the baby need to grow "big arms" before it came out. He loved to feel it kick. Now he's interested in its positioning (head down there, bum up there, etc). We talk about what he can do with the baby (read books, sing, smile, hug, kiss, etc), what he can help with (diapers, helping baby sleep, picking clothes, etc), and what we can do while the baby has mommy's milk (read, sing, play cars, etc).
But it's really hard to correct his expectations on what a newborn can do. He wants to play with the baby and he doesn't understand yet that the baby won't be able to do much for a little while. He's excited about helping the baby learn, though. He has a little 10 month old friend that he plays with - he's sooo great with her, it's adorable - and he takes it very seriously that she doesn't always know the right thing to do (she likes to grab hair and other such very typical baby behaviours) so he tells her very kindly that she shouldn't grab his (very long) hair, to which she replies with the usual baby babble and a tighter fist in his hair, lol. But he's so patient and gentle. I'm hoping he'll be the same way with the baby.
My MIL likes to tease my DH about a comment he made when his baby sister was about a week old - "so, when do we take her back??" That's the part I really don't know if Jacob "gets" yet - the baby will be here for good, taking up lots of the time and attention that he is used to having all to himself, and it won't be able to play cars with him like he thinks it will! So I think he understands a lot, even most, or he seems to based on what he says, but I think some things will come as a big surprise to him.
I'm interested to see how he'll handle the labour and birth. Right now he wants to be there, but I'm not sure how he'll do when things really get going. I've told him it will hurt mommy a bit ("a bit" - HAHA) and mommy might be loud, but that just helps the baby come out and it's okay, and he can be loud with me if he wants to be. I do hope he'll be there, but if he's not comfortable with it, MIL will take him out of the room or out of the house if need be.
It's such a fun age, isn't it? I guess, in hindsight, I'm glad he's a bit older than I had wanted him to be. I wanted them two years apart, no more (he'll be 2 years and 8 months), but I know his understanding 8 months ago would have been way less. His language skills between then and now aren't even comparable, and he's just really matured in general since then (I mean, he's still TWO, but definitely a way different kid than he was 8 months ago). I sort of hate to admit it, considering how long we wanted a second child and how much I stressed over it and the fact that I even started restricting access to the boob in an effort to get my darn fertility back, but I really do think he'll have an easier time adjusting at this age than he would have when he was younger. I hope they're still close enough in age, though, that they'll have a close relationship as they grow. I come from a family of six, some two years apart and some three, and the sets three years apart were nowhere near as close as the ones two years apart. Anyway, it is what it is, and hopefully we'll be able to foster those close relationships between all of our children.
And there I go rambling again. Like I said, being concise is not my strong point!
Let me start by saying - my 2 pregnancies have been TOTALLY different and it's 2 boys:-D
We try to talk to Ethan about the baby but he doesn't seem too interested most of the time. He's felt kicks - to the point where his head bounces off my stomach - but he seems totally oblivious LOL He's advancing so fast right now overall though that I could see how those few months older Jacob is can make such a difference!
I'm opposite - I never wanted my kids this close! But after it took 27 months of TTC the first time, it happened really fast this time!
Did you end up cutting Jacob's hair at all yet? Ethan's has grown back out and I need to get it trimmed. If I don't wet it in the mornings to make it curlier, the front falls in his face all day and bothers him.
Wow- Being fairly new around here, I love reading the long intros- I love getting a real sense of who you all are. Thanks for sharing your story. Every time I read a lodge intro, I think about what I will write in my own... and I bet you- mine is going to be long too!
I do hope you get the homebirth you want! Sounds like you have it all planned out!
No, Connie, I still haven't managed to convince myself to cut it!
You can get a pretty good idea of how long it is from these pictures:
I don't seem to have a good picture of the back, but it's well below his armpits and a bit curly at the bottom. I was so close to cutting it last weekend, but wouldn't you know it, he said he didn't want a haircut right then. Good enough for me! I'm sure I'll cry when I finally cut off those bottom baby locks.
How long is Ethan's?
I hear your pain with the hair, I had to Isaac's last week cause it's straight and was in his eyes and ears and really bugging him....then I called DH and cryed about it. Jacob and my Hadley have VERY similar hair, I haven't cut hers since she was tiny:)
Thirty-eight weeks today! My plan for the day is to finally get around to washing the baby clothes. Oops.
I'm almost finished knitting a baby kimono. Just one sleeve to go, plus the ties. It's so cute but I'm afraid I made it too small and it won't fit for more than a few days - especially if I have another big baby like DS. Next up, a pair of wool longies. I'll be making those a bit bigger, since it'll have a drawstring waist and the bottoms can be rolled up to fit during the early weeks.
Got all the clothes, blankets, etc washed yesterday. I think I have all the homebirth supplies I need now. Have one package of disposable diapers, 12 small prefolds, all of the cloth we used with DS (started at 4 months with him), and tons of covers. I think on Tuesday I'll pick up some more small prefolds. I have no idea how many cloth diapers I should have for a newborn, especially since s/he likely won't wear them for too long (right?). Anyone use cloth from the start? How many should I have on hand if I want to wash them every 2-3 days? And how long do they use the small prefolds before moving up to the regular size?
That kimono sounds cute, what pattern did you use?
As far as the CDs we started DS at one week. We only had 24 diapers and we were washing every other day. This time I got 36 pfs to wash less frequently. I got the newborn, but am thinking of switching to the smalls since DS was not small either. We started out in just o/s, but he was in medium pockets by our months. but he was a fast grower. Was your DS a ast or slow grower, that may play a role in how long the next one will be in smalls.
I have a doz prefolds, 6 thirsties fitteds, 4 Bum Genius small AIO's, and 6 covers. Dh doesn't have much interest in cloth diapering this time around, so we have sposies too.
Congrats on getting the laundry done. It must feel nice to have that accomplished. The Komono sounds so cute! What a cool idea!!
It's been 8 months since we cut Ethan's hair and it's grown back out a lot! This isn't the best pic but it's the most recent. It's from a day when I wet it.
Kinda hard to know exactly how long it is since it's so curly! Before we cut it I took some pics with it stretched out so we could tell exactly how long it was. Here's the collage from before we cut it.
I didn't cry when we had it cut but I came awful close;) It helped knowing I wouldn't have to deal with the tangles anymore LOL
Connie, Ethan's curls are so adorable! I have curly hair but Tehani's is just wavy. I haven't gotten her hair cut yet, but we need to because it is not even--the sides are a little longer than the back.
Cynthia, it sounds like you are getting a lot done to get ready for this baby.
Great intro! I love reading long ones. You did a great job of describing your last birth experience.
good luck with your home birth! My DP decided home birth was okay after attending an info night at our midwife practice too.
I used this pattern, adjusted a bit to fit a newborn. It's a great pattern.
Thanks for the CD advice. I picked up a dozen more prefolds today, so I have 2 dozen prefolds and plenty of covers. We'll see how that goes. DS was a big baby and grew quickly so maybe this one will be the same.
Those curls are adorable!! What a cutie.
Love those cute curls!
Hope all is going well. I'm glad to hear you are doing cloth diapering. It's a lot of fun.
How are you today? Hope all is well! I used fitted diapers with Isaac and had around 3 dozen to start with. LOVE cloth diapers!
Had an early morning today; woke up to use the bathroom and couldn't get back to sleep. I'm having a nap during DS's quiet time right away. FIL is coming over for dinner this evening (he usually comes once a week) so I've got some cleaning to do before he gets here. I'm just too exhausted to move.
DS and I went to a farm this morning. He loves the farm and it was finally sunny here instead of raining, so I figured we might as well go one more time before the baby arrives. He had a great time petting the goats, getting licked by the calf, and, of course, chasing the ducks. Poor ducks.
Oh, come on, you know the ducks loved it. (just kidding)
Please don't worry about the cleaning. I know the pressure of wanting everything to be clean and organized, but at this stage of pregnancy, your FIL should get some temporary blinders.
Thanks, Jennie, you're right. It's definitely not him, it's me. I tend to use his weekly visits as motivation to scrub down the bathrooms and floors, lol.
He's bringing dessert tonight and he promised it would include chocolate. He said he'd get something organic so then it would be healthy.
Just woke up from a nap. Time to clean out the cat litter (oops) and maybe tidy (just a bit!) before FIL arrives.
Had another midwife appt this morning. Everything looks good. Baby is no longer posterior (yay!). Right now s/he is ROA and very low.
Picked up Christmas cards today, so I can get them written and addressed. After the baby is born, I'll print out pictures and add them to the cards before dropping them in the mail. They'll probably be late, but oh well.
So glad to hear babe is turned!! I hope you have a good night hun. I should send out cards one year.....that's not my strength.
Yay for ROA!! (Hey, that rhymes!)
that is good news that your baby is in a better position! yay!
Wow, it's amazing what a decent night's sleep does! I feel so much better today. I actually got up at a reasonable time, had a proper breakfast, played with DS, made a proper lunch, and now we're about to decorate the tree while I get some more linens washed and ready for the homebirth!
Yay for good sleep! On the rare occasions I get it, it's amazing how much better I feel the next day!
What a great day! I'm glad things went better for you today!
I'm glad you got a good night's sleep and are feeling well today!
Nothing's happening here. Which is fine with me - I'm probably the only one here hoping to go overdue by at least a day. MIL doesn't arrive to watch DS until the 13th (I'm due on the 12th). We have a backup for DS if necessary, but then he won't be able to stay for the homebirth. He's really looking forward to it and I hope that he will be there. If he chooses at the time not to stay, that's okay, and MIL knows that she might have to take him out of the house if he gets upset, but I want him to at least have the option of being here.
Everything's pretty much prepared, just a couple little things to take care of. I'm starting to feel antsy now that I don't have a bunch of things to cross off my list.
Felt crampy last night but feeling fine today. Not much energy. Might take another nap this afternoon.
I hope your feeling better now, and that you have a good night of sleep. How special that your MIL is going to come stay! I always wonder if I'd like the extra help or be happy when it left, both my husband I where born and raised here and our parents both live here so never anyone comeing to stay when we have a babe. Have a nice evening:)
I hope you are having a good day!
Great idea on the Christmas cards. I don't think anyone will mind them being tardy with a pic of your little one inside.