*~*~Kara's (K&Jplus5) Lodge~*~*

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*~*~Kara's (K&Jplus5) Lodge~*~*

Congrats on the homestretch, Kara! I look forward to sharing the journey with you!

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Congratulations Kara! Biggrin

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Welcome to your lodge!

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YAY! Welcome to your lodge, I can't wait to hear more about you Smile

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YAY another August Mamma lodge!!! Welcome!!!

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Geesh, Karly!! You totally caught me off guard...in a wonderful way!! Thanks so much for the welcome ladies. I have just now been able to check in, after a very busy day, and I promise to work on my intro ASAP. Biggrin

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Welcome!

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There are more and more familiar names showing up here.:D

Welcome to your lodge. Can't wait to read your intro.

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Yay, August mamas are taking over the board! lol Congrats on your lodge and I look forward to your intro.

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Welcome to your lodge, can't wait to read your story

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Kara's got a lodge!!! OMG!!! Smile Welcome!

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I still can’t believe this is happening! And I would like to say first, how much I appreciate all the women on this board, and their wisdom. It truly has helped me get my right mindset about this pregnancy, and my ability to try and achieve the natural birth of this little one.

I’ll try to keep it as short as possible….but no promises!

I’m Kara, 28, married to Jeff, 35. We just celebrated our 3 year anniversary on the 18th. We met in December 2002 by total fate. At the time we met, I lived in Orlando, and I had sworn off men, (or so I thought ;)) due to a pretty rotten divorce. He lived about 1 ½ hours north of me, and was in Orlando on business. My best friend and best guy friend were at a local eatery/bar a few weeks before Christmas. Jeff was there, by chance, with his boss. We just all hit it off, and pretty soon hanging out and enjoying ourselves. There was something about Jeff that just drew me too him, and we became involved in our own conversation, like no one else was there. We said our goodbyes, and that was the end. No phone numbers, nothing.

I worked for a very large law firm, which was mentioned in our conversation at some point in time. The next day at work, I received the most beautiful roses I had ever seen. From Jeff. With the most beautiful card. It was just amazing, because I didn’t think I would ever see him again, even after the previous evening we had. From there on out, we kept in touch, and I don’t think we went a weekend without seeing one another.

In May, 2003, I decided that my daughter and I needed a change of scenery, and I also wanted to be closer to him. I moved myself, and my 3 year old daughter, 1 ½ hours north. It was a decision I will never regret.

Jeff has three children from his previous marriage. They are amazing kids, and they all get along just like “normal” blood brother and sisters do. Whenever we get comments out, or I’m asked how many kids I have, the normal reaction for me is 4. I love them just as they were my own.

Here is, from left to right, Emily, Timmy, Elayna & Shelbie from Christmas this past year. Timmy is 15, Shelbie is 12, Emily is 8, and Elayna is 7.

In February, 2005 Jeff proposed to me on the intercoastal waterway near Tampa. We had been talking about marriage, and looked at rings, but he totally caught me off guard. (He’s REALLY good at doing that!)

Since we both had formal weddings with our first marriage, and wanted to keep things as simple as possible, we decided to elope to Gatlinburg, Tennessee. It was a picture perfect wedding, with just Jeff, me, the preacher, nature, and God. We exchanged vows on a rock, in the middle of the Little Pigeon River.

I knew that I wasn’t ready to be done having kids, and Jeff is actually the one that brought the subject up. By October, 2005, I was off my birth control, and we figured we would be pregnant within a few months, since I obviously could get pregnant, and Jeff had 3 kids. Right? Oh, how wrong! 19 months later, I still wasn’t pregnant.

I finally went to the doctor. In May, 2007, I was diagnosed with PCOS. Started the Metformin, but that just made me sick as a dog. I stuck with it until October. October, I went back to my doctor, and we did a round of 50mg Clomid. Nothing but mood swings and hot flashes. November, round 2. 100mg of Clomid. I was in so much pain from ovulating; I thought I was going to die.

I had been using ovulation tests every month, and I had previously opened one of the free pregnancy tests on accident. I wasn’t even late for AF yet, had no symptoms, but decided to test for fun. Or so I thought. A few seconds after I laid the stick on the counter, I looked at it. 2 lines. 2 pink lines. I couldn’t believe it. I had always wanted to surprise Jeff in some special way, since it had taken us so long, and make it memorable. That all went out the window. I stuck my head out of our bedroom, and in the calmest voice possible asked him to come in the room to talk to me. He was in the middle of watching a show, and wanted to know if it could wait. HA! Uh, no…now please! He followed me into the bathroom, and I showed him the test. I was crying and shaking uncontrollably, and he was so confused! “What’s this mean?” he kept asking. And I said, through tears and drippy nose “I’m pregnant!” It was truly a magical moment. But I still didn’t believe it. I had him drive me to CVS at that very second, to get a digital. I wanted to see the word “pregnant.” We got it, and I peed on the stick, and it flashed a couple of times, and it said that pretty 8 letter word! I called the next day to schedule our first appointment.

At our appointment, they did and internal u/s. We saw one beautiful heartbeat…then another one. We knew this was a possibility with the fertility drugs and were willing to roll the dice. Our doctor told us not to get our hopes up, as the second did not look healthy, and he didn’t expect it to make it a couple of weeks. He scheduled us to come back for another u/s at 10 weeks, because he wanted to make sure the healthy one was developing as it should, and that the other was gone. At 10 weeks, the other was still there and had grown some, but not as much as it should have. We went back at 12 weeks, and it was no longer there. It was very hard to deal with, but we knew in our hearts that it happened for a reason.

My pregnancy has been totally uneventful. I was one of the few lucky ones with no morning sickness, my libido has stayed the same, if not increased, and I have only gained 7 pounds. Totally opposite from what happened with my daughter. I knew that it was a boy. I had his name picked out, his life planned, and the name of the baseball team Jeff was going to coach when he was old enough to play. Imagine the look on my face when, at 20 weeks, the u/s tech looked at us and said “It’s a girl! Congratulations!!” I put on my happy face, and made it all the way to the parking garage, before I started bawling. I was so happy to find out that she was healthy and developing as she should be, but I was really not prepared to hear that “he” was a “she.” I think I went through a period of grieving my dreams, but now, could not be happier. We have decided on the name Callie Elizabeth, and she is set up! I had my baby shower yesterday, and received lots of beautiful gifts. I had almost forgotten how fun it was to shop for a baby girl. Almost! Wink

I think I’ll stop here for now. It’ll be amazing if anyone gets through all this! I’m not good at making long stories short, as you can see! I’ll save my DD’s birth story for another post, and the reasons I am so pro-natural now.

Here is my latest belly shot, which was 4 weeks ago. I need to update, I know!

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That was so fun to read:) I look forward to following your story! You "knowing" you were having a boy cracked me up. Your wedding sounds like it was beautiful, I hope you can share some pictures! Thanks for the fun intro.

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Great into Biggrin

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Great intro. You have a gorgeous family and adorable belly there! I was sure I was having a boy the first time too...and I was sad for the afternoon. But I couldn't have been more happy to have my DD...and actually girls have all the cute clothes anyway. Wink

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Great intro story! Yay for NCB!!!:D

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I loved your intro. I get so happy to read PCOS success stories as my sister has struggled for over 2 years unsuccessfully! I can't wait to follow your birth story.

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That was a great intro!! How cute DH kept asking what the 2 pink lines mean. When you've tried for so long, sometimes even 2 pink lines can't convince you!! I also like to hear success stories from a fellow PCOSer. Congrats on the final few weeks and can't wait to start stalking your lodge!

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Welcome to your lodge Kara! Great intro, thanks for sharing that with us. I was also POSITIVE that my DD was a boy. Couldn't have convinced me otherwise until she was born and I saw for myself! But yes, the girl clothes are too darn adorable, aren't they?

Looking forward to following your birth story!

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Just now catching up! Great intro! Welcome to your lodge!

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Great story! I love the name you picked out so pretty.

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Welcome to your lodge! Going back to read your intro now! Biggrin

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Welcome to your lodge! Great intro & cute belly. Can't wait to read more about you.

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Just checking in:)

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Welcome to your lodge!! I'm just now catching up. You and your husband have such a sweet story - thanks for sharing.

Looking forward to following along with you Smile

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Only a few more weeks left Kara! I am SO excited to get that call/text! Callie is going to be so loved with all her sisters and her bro, not to mention you and Jeff!!!

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I wanted to see if I could re-create my birth story with DD, but I seem to be having a very hard time doing so. I was 20 when she was born, and I believe being so young and naive contributed to what happened during her birth, and that I was also married to a very unsupportive husband, but that's another story in itself. Wink

As far back as I can remember, I have always been enthralled with babies, how babies get here, and where they come from. but never did I think that woman had choices! When it came to having Emily, I did what I thought I was “supposed” to do. Listen to my OB. I did the internal exams, which were incredibly painful. I agreed to an induction when I was told she was going to be 9 or 10lbs, and that my pelvis would not be able to birth a baby that big. I thought it was ok to get hooked up to Pitocin and have AROM within an hour of the induction being started. Never once did I think it was ok for me to question what decisions the doctors were making for me and my unborn child.

After a long labor, of which also included a fever because of the epidural, and a round of antibiotics, and multiple threats of a c-section, it all came down to 20 minutes. 20 minutes to push my baby out, or I was going to have to have a c-section. I worked like mad, and got her out with 10 minutes to spare. Then, come to find out, she had meconium in her waters, so her and I were deprived of the skin to skin contact right after she was born, because she had to have her lungs suctioned.

I have always felt that there was something missing from the day she was born. And, in looking back, I see how wrong my OB was and how uneducated I was. She was 7 lbs 3oz, my pelvis is ‘proven’, and there was no reason for me to be induced. From there on out, I did what I could to find out what I could change for the next time.

When I moved to be with my now husband, I ended up doing some volunteer work for the local birth center, which also includes a school to become a midwife. I came to know the midwives and some of the students. I experienced a whole new outlook on child birth, and what your choices can be. I gained a whole new respect for childbirth, and the different options that were out there. I heard the stories and saw the pictures of babies that were born at the birth center or at a home. I also learned of all the benefits of having a natural birth. I was hooked!

I feel a thousand times more prepared for this birth. I haven’t been embarrassed to ask questions, like I was with Emily, or worry about what my body *might* do during the birth. I have found a group of 4 midwives, who I adore and I am very comfortable with them. They have helped build my confidence, and also have helped Jeff. His 3 kids were all born by c-section, so this will be a new experience for him, and also a new experience for me, since we are taking the natural route. We are both relaxed about the impending birth, and so very excited!

Thank you all for the warm welcomes, and since I'm not much or a writer or journaler (is that even a word?!) I'm looking forward to sharing this with everyone, and have something to keep for Callie's baby book!

Also, I had DD take an updated belly pic yesterday. Finally! LOL She’s a pretty good photographer!

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I'm so glad your journey led you to where you are now.
Great belly pic!:D

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"K&Jplus5" wrote:

Thank you all for the warm welcomes, and since I'm not much or a writer or journaler (is that even a word?!) I'm looking forward to sharing this with everyone, and have something to keep for Callie's baby book!

Lol that was my thought Blum 3

Look at you bump....It's so cute.:D

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Tomorrow we have our 36 week check up. I know it will be the standard weight, BP, heartbeat and fundal height check, but I feel like I need to be asking more questions. We are already on the same page for my wishes for the birth, but I feel like there is something missing...and I can't put my finger on it. I also find out my GBS results tomorrow. Crossing fingers for a negative result!

Other than that, I have been having BH, but nothing horrible, and they are few and far between. I guess I need to start deciding on what to bring to the hospital, and putting that together. I still have at least 3 weeks, right? lol

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here's hoping for GBS negative!!!

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36 week appointment

Had our first of the weekly appointments this morning. I found out that I am GBS negative, (:yahoo:) have lost 3 pounds, and my midwife suggested that I start on the EPO once a day! I asked about declining the internals and they have no problem with that, until I get past 40 weeks, then they want to check. She also said that they will "let me" go to 41 wks, 6 days and if I haven't delivered by then, then know that I will be on the schedule for day 1 of my 42 weeks. I was really satisfied with all of her answers, and have no complaints! Biggrin

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Horray for negative GBS!! I'm glad you had a good appointment!!

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sounds great Biggrin

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Wonderful!:yahoo:

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Congrats on the great appt and being GBS negative...I am always happy to not have to worry about that either.

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Wow, Kara, could that appt get any better! I'm green with envy re: the weight loss! Congrats on the GBS -. You're getting so close!

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Jeff surprised me Thursday, by telling me we were going away for the weekend. He usually never does that, so it was a wonderful surprise! We went to one of our favorite beach towns, St. Augustine. It was so nice to re-connect, and spend one of our last weekend’s alone, preparing for our new arrival. We enjoyed the beautiful (but very hot) weather yesterday, walking the historic streets, shopping, walking the beach, and playing put-put. But, let me tell ya..I am PAYING for it today! My hips and inner leg bones are SO sore, and I’m waddling like a duck, like never before! The braxton hicks have picked up lots, and I’ve even had some evidence of my mucus plug. I know these aren’t huge signs, but promising ones nonetheless. Wink

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That sounds WONDERFUL. Glad you had such a nice surprise!

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How did the putt putt go with the prego belly??? I want to go really bad but I'm pretty sure I'd be an embarassment! I'm glad you had a nice weekend!

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I enjoyed reading your story and I can't wait to read your birth story!

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"AmyJo86268" wrote:

How did the putt putt go with the prego belly??? I want to go really bad but I'm pretty sure I'd be an embarassment! I'm glad you had a nice weekend!

It was comical, for sure! A few adjustements were needed, but also came in handy when I really messed up too! LOL

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Aw, what a sweet DH to surprise you like that! Sounds wonderful, although, yeah all that walking would kill me too!

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Sounds like a great weekend! Yay for GBS-!!!

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Sounds like an amazing weekend!! What a sweet DH!! And funny on the putt-putt. I'm horrible at it anyway can't imagine how bad I would be now!

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Good weekend!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

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These past few nights have been rough. I'm not sleeping like I was, and I just wake up feeling "sickly". I think I'm just wearing down. I have thought about cutting back my hours, but I think I would rather stick it out, so after Callie gets here, I'll have more time with her.

My midwife also gave me the go ahead at our last visit to start the EPO. I really would like to start it, but my concern is that it will work too well, and I'll end up in labor before the 18th. See, my DD and DSS start school on the 18th, and I think I would be more comfortable with them in school already, when labor does start. That way, I don't have to worry about them being shuffled around. I know it's really minor in the big scheme of things...so I probably just need to let it go.

Jeff did pick up the stroller and car seat yesterday, and that is a HUGE relief to me! It was such a pain tracking it down, that we even had my mom on the lookout for one. Ugh! She found one by her, so he went yesterday to pick it up. YAY!!

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Way to go on finding your car seat and stroller - let's see pics!! Sorry your feeling so icky. DH sounds like he is being very thoughtful at least Wink

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Thats awesome about the stroller and the car seat. I can understand about the wanting the kiddos in school.

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I hope you can be at peace with the timeing and be able to enjoy the time you do have with the kids before school starts. It always feels good to get ahold of the big things your waiting on before the baby come! I know I really felt like I could be ready after we had the stuff we were needing for out second. Hope your feeling better soon, and best of luck with work.

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Oh yay!!! its your turn....how exciting!!! I wanted to be the one to start this for you but dang this country living,,,lol. I will get the internet soon. Keep me updated sweetie and heres to the last weeks of pregnancy

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