*~*~Shannon's (singlemomoftwo) birth lodge~*~*

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*~*~Shannon's (singlemomoftwo) birth lodge~*~*

Welcome, sorry this is late, look forward to getting to know you!

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Ooh, looks like I get to be the first to welcome you to your birth lodge! I can't wait to follow the end of your pregnancy and your birth story! Smile

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Welcome to your lodge! Sorry we didn't get this started sooner!

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INTRO time hun:) We can't wait to get to know you! Hope all is going well for you.

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Welcome to your lodge! Smile

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Thanks all!!

Hi I am a 29 yr old single mom. My DD Alexis is 8 and my DS Riley is 5 1/2. My lil surprise is due on the 19th of May. His name will be Tyler James. Umm...lets see I have gone natural and I have tried an epi but it didnt work. I am going to try to go natural again but I am worried I will freak out again towards the end of the birth. So I am trying to read as much as I can on relaxtion and breathing. Well, thats about it for now.

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Very nice to "meet" you:) Sounds like your experienced with the process, that's a great place to start. Feel free to ask any questions you have, there are so many mamas here with great advice. The end is very intense, I don't really know that there is any way around that? I know I had to keep reminding my self that I was just getting closer to seeing the baby, and that if I didn't work hard I was going to stay prego longer! Do you have pics of your kids or any belly pics you'd like to share? My hat is off to anyone who can handle being a single mom, I can't imagaine how hard that must be.

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I hope you have an enjoyable birth experience this time. Who are you going to have with you during the birth? I think the presence of a person with a calming influence can help with those freak out moments.

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OT vent

Where to start. Well, it just finally dawned on m me I am totally alone. I always thought this BD would leave. I was sure it would been in the early stage. I never imaged it would be this far into it. I guess it took awhile to hit me. Im really scared too! I have my best friend Chris to be with me in the labor room. He is probably the only thing keeping me sane at the moment. He says I should go after child support even though I told BD I wouldnt. I want too, but I am afraid he wont be able to pay (he has other kids he is paying for and work is really slow here) and they will lock him up. Then I'm the bad guy!!! Well life does go on. I dont know why but this pg I have felt soooo werid like I am waiting for the second shoe to fall or something bad is on the horizon. I think thats why I need the birth to go as smoothly as possible. Sorry OT. Thanks for the vent time.

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:bighug:
I'm sorry you have to deal with the BD leaving and deciding whether to go for the child support or not when you are so close to the birth.

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:bighug: Thxs!
If I can keep the stress down i am hoping labor want be as bad.

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That is a tough situation to be dealing with at this point. Just because this guy has other kids to support does not mean he should get away with not having to support this child. You are not the bad guy, he is.

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How are you doing, Shannon?

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Hanging in there as best as possible. I will probably lose my car come June which will lead to having to quit my job and go on TANFA (Welfare) until I can get on my feet its sad because I havent had to in 8 yrs. I am afraid to tell my family they will be disappointed. But a lesson learned that you can only count on yourself *sigh*

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Sorry to hear that Sad You have done great to not have to use it for 8 years as a single mom of 2. I hope things get better for you.

I mentioned your child support situation to my DH and he said that you should get the child support because Tyler is the BD's baby, too, and him leaving and not paying child support is an unfair burden on you. He says that him playing it would be him accepting his share of the responsibility for his child and not paying it would be giving all of that responsibility to you, which isn't fair.

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Your DH sounds like a keeper your lucky. But thank him for the advice. I going take it. Hopefully the judge will be fair(Ok see it my way Lol).

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"singlemomoftwo" wrote:

Your DH sounds like a keeper your lucky. But thank him for the advice. I going take it. Hopefully the judge will be fair(Ok see it my way Lol).

I will thank him for you. GL with the judge.

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I'm so sorry you have to deal with this kind of stress right now. I definitely think it's a good idea to try to get some child support from BD. You and the baby deserve it.

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I had my 38 wk appt today I am 1 1/2 cm and he did a sweep. I am going to be induced on the 18th if I dont go sooner. I just tell this lil one just hang out until the 15th (last day of work). I hurt right now but i think thats just from the sweep but I am packing and reading about nautral birth. Lol its like craming for a exam or test lol.

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I guess the cramps turned out to be just from the exam and sweep? What made you decide to schedue the induction for the 18th?

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One its my first due date and Two my doc is going out of town. And I really want him to be there. So we made the first EDD the Day

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Are you sure you want to be induced? If it were me, I would wait to go into labor on my own--it's much harder to have a natural birth if you are induced and there are a lot of risks with induction. I, personally, wouldn't be induced because it was my EDD or because my care provider was going out of town. It's your decision, though.

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Hi hun, I'm just thinking of you and wondering how little Tyler is doing? Please drop by and give us an update as you can. My thoughts and prayers are with you both.

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All I can say is Wow what a ride! I am glad this is my last one. I couldnt handle this again.

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Ah, huge hugs to you hun. I'm so sorry this has been so tuff:( Please feel free to process here if it helps.