Welcome to your lodge. I am excited to take this journey with you and see your lil one soon.
Oooh, A new lodge! Welcome!
Congrats on making it this far.
Welcome to your lodge!
Congrats! cant wait to read your intro
Welcome and congrats!
Woo hoo Kim!! You have a lodge! I'm so excited for you and so happy to be sharing this journey with you once again
Ah, so exciting. Welcome to your lodge Kim!
Wow, I can't believe you're in the home stretch, Kim! Welcome to your lodge!
Wow, wow, wow!! I have a lodge! I am so honored! You are such a great group of ladies and I am so excited to be sharing this journey with you!
I grew up in central Illinois, in a little town of about 17,000 people. It's one of those places where everybody knows everybody, which was both good and bad as a teenager who didn't want her parents to know everything she did.
Went to Wheaton College, just outside of Chicago and studied math and computer science. Yep, I'm a geek. I met my hubby there too. Even though he was also a computer major, we actually met in a gospel choir. We both volunteered to be 'roadies' to take care of the band equipment, which gave us lots of time together. I graduated in 2003 and he graduated in 2004 (the younger man!). We got married May 15, 2004-six days after he graduated.
A few months after we got married, we moved to St. Louis so he could start a PhD program in computational biology (using computer science for biology research). I was working for FTD, traveling all over the US and Canada to put computer systems in flower shops and train the employees on how to use them. I had a habit of taking the longest route possible to each city to earn frequent flyer miles. For example, to return from Minneapolis, I flew from Minneapolis to Milwaukee to Los Angeles to Detroit to St. Louis. It took 22 hours, but I earned almost 5000 miles.
With all my frequent flyer miles, I took a trip to Asia. DH couldn't come, but I visited a college friend in Japan, some friends from church in Thailand, and some other friends in China. It was amazing! While in Thailand, I heard about some of the needs they had at the school, and to make a long story short DH & I decided to drop out of grad school and move to Thailand.
So in August 2005 we moved to Chiang Mai, Thailand. We worked at a school for missionary kids, where I taught high school computer science and Jeremy did technical support. It was an amazing experience!! I learned to drive stick on the opposite side of the road, we rode elephants, we tried fried bugs, and we had the most amazing Thai food. Here are a couple pics from that:
While we were in Thailand, we found out we were expecting!! We were SO excited! It was a really tough decision whether to stay in Thailand or not, but we ultimately decided to come back to Illinois during the summer and not stay for another school year. We came back to my hometown in June 2006, and in September Ian was born.
Originally, we were planning on heading back to Chicago right after he was born so DH could find a job. But a lot of circumstances changed, and DH actually got a fantastic job working from home for a company in Cleveland doing audio-visual programming work. So we decided to stay in Jacksonville, the same town as my parents live in. They were thrilled of course to have their only grandson nearby. We ended up buying our first house here last spring.
Last fall, we got some very sad news. My dad found out he had leukemia. The very next morning, we got our BFP. Talk about a roller coaster of emotions. We waited until Thanksgiving to tell anyone about the pregnancy because we wanted to see how things looked for my dad. He was home after his first round of chemo then, and he was optimistic about the treatments. They were so excited to be grandparents again. My dad especially-he fought another cancer 10 years ago and said that living to see his grandkids was one of his biggest motivations.
Unfortunately, my dad lost his battle on April 28th after a failed bone marrow transplant. I knew his chances weren't good, but I had really been hoping he'd make it long enough to see this baby born. Here are a few of my favorite pictures of my dad:
The last month has been kind of crazy for us, trying to help my mom sort everything out. My dad was a practicing surgeon until he got sick last fall, so we had to close down a medical practice in addition to all the normal insurance, medical bills, etc. We'd been so focused on Dad that this baby has kind of snuck up on us. About two weeks ago, DH & looked at each other and realized that we only had 6 weeks until the baby was due, and we had done pretty much nothing!! We've started getting things together now, although there's still a lot to do!
Oh wow, Kim! I loved your intro. You were a lovely bride. What a story about how you guys ended up in Thailand! I'm so envious of people who just pick up and move across the world once they feel led to do so.
One of my RLBF's went to Wheaton though she was probably finishing grad school when you were there.
I'm so sorry about your dad. I remember having seen that picture of him with Ian in your signature and wondered what the back-story was. That had to be heartbreaking for you.
I know what you mean about the baby sneaking up on you, although it was under different circumstances for me. We listed our house when I was around 16 weeks pregnant and moved into our new house when I was 27 weeks which then meant painting, unpacking, etc. It wasn't until the last month that I really got to slow down and savor it. I kind of feel cheated out of the experience although all my BTDT friends have told me that subsequent pregnancies are just that way. You never really get to cherish it like you did your first. :shrug:
But here you are - 36 weeks! You have 4 to go so try to enjoy them!
I am so excited to follow your lodge and your upcoming birth! I love your back story, the pics are great.
I'm so sorry about your dad. It must be hard for your family.
Ahh, Kim, what a wonderful intro. I feel like I'm getting to know you all over again I know I've expressed this to you privately, but again, I am so sorry about your dad.
You are an amazing, grounded, and well-rounded woman, and I'm so happy to be sharing this experience with you!
I really enjoyed reading your intro and seeing your pictures. What an amazing adventure you had in Thailand!
I'm very sorry about the loss of your dad... I can't imagine how difficult it must be. I love the pictures of him holding your baby, what a sweet memory. Hugs.
I look forward to following these last few weeks of pregnancy with you.
What an adventurous life you have had. I'm so looking forward to following your journey. I'm so sorry again about your dad.
What a fantastic intro! It is such an honor to share this experience with you! I think it is fantastic you had the opportunity to travel with your DH before your first. My uncle is getting ready to undergo a bone marrow transplant as well. in a few weeks. I want to send my deepest regards I am so sorry about your dad. :bigarmhug:
I am thrilled about your new LO. I can't wait to follow your journey through your last few weeks. Congrats on your lodge!
Welcome to your lodge, Kim!
Today we're becoming a two car family.
It's not really on purpose. We actually kind of like only having one car-it forces good communication, and since DH works from home and I'm a SAHM, usually one car is more than enough. But since my dad died there was an extra car, and things got traded around so my brother got my dad's car and we're getting my brother's 99 Ford Taurus.
Truthfully, we didn't really want it. At first we said no, but then we thought about the fact that in approximately 2-3 yrs, when child #3 comes along, we'll need to upgrade. Our little hatchback seats 5, but there won't be enough room for all the strollers, diaper bags, toys, groceries, etc. And it will cost us less than $100/yr to insure this car. So we're going to keep it, drive it enough to keep it running, and hope to trade it in for $1500 or so towards a big vehicle.
On the baby front, we did finally order some newborn cloth diapers. Woohoo! So now we have a place for baby to sleep and diapers, and coming home outfits for either gender. Once the baby gets home though, I think I have about 6-7 outfits for a girl and a bunch of long-sleeved outfits for a boy. Either way, unless I want to do laundry twice a day (ha!) I think we'll be going shopping soon after baby's born.
That intro totally made me get teary-eyed. Especially the story about your dad! If you have a boy, are you planning to name him somewhere after grandpa? TFS. My former youth pastors have been in Thailand for a while now. What an amazing story!
What a great intro! I am so sorry to hear that about your father, I imagine this has been quite the roller coaster your entire pgcy!
I love your wedding pics, looks like you were both so happy That is cool that you got to go to Thailand w/ dh and work there- sounds like it was a great experience.
That is nice about the second car- esp if it is going to come in handy and save you $ down the road!
Welcome to your lodge! I loved reading your intro, thanks for sharing that, and all the pics too.
I'm so sorry about your Dad. :bigarmhug: That must have been, and must still continue to be, so hard for you and your whole family.
Can't wait to read about your new baby journey!
We don't know if the baby's a boy or a girl, and we haven't decided on names for either gender yet. We're just not good name people-DS got a name the day before he was born. But we are trying to figure out a way to name the baby after my dad whether it's a boy or a girl. I'll let you know in a few weeks what we decide.
Here are some belly pics-I have grown so much!
At 5 weeks:
And yesterday at 36 weeks:
Yeah, everybody who tells me I'm "all belly" is totally lying! Hopefully I'll be able to lose the weight again without too much trouble. I actually started this pregnancy 10 pounds lighter than I started with Ian, so I am hopeful and much less freaked out about the substantial weight gain than I was last time.
You look beautiful Kim!
Welcome to your lodge and thanks for the intro, it was nice to read your story. I am excited for you and your new bean on the way. Thanks for sharing all the pics and I am so sorry to hear about your dad.
Kim you look wonderful!
Kim, you look beautiful! What a great belly
Had another appointment with my midwife today.
Everything is looking good. Baby's heartrate is normal, baby is still head-down (has been for months now), and I'm still measuring right on track. Got the GBS swab done too. Hopefully it's negative and I won't even have to worry about it.
We went over my birth plan, since I went over it with her backup partner at my last appointment. She is supportive of everything I want to do and said she'll try to meet me at the hospital when I arrive to make sure they don't push all the 'policy' stuff on me. I'm so glad that I found her!
Also, I found out that the window where her & her partner's vacations overlap is less than a day, not a day and half like I thought. So as long as I can avoid having the baby the second half of July 3rd or the first half of July 4th, I should get to have a midwife with me. I really like my midwife better than her partner though, and she's on vacation from June 28th to July 4th. Our official due date is June 30th. And my MIL is coming July 5th. So I don't know when I want to have the baby! It might be kind of nice to have the baby with my midwife and then have a week to recover before MIL comes to town. But I'm kind of expecting to go late, so we'll see.
Oh, and now I'm on weekly appointments. Until now, we'd been stretching my appointments by one extra week more than normal, since everything's going fine and her office is 45 minutes away. That makes for expensive gas and a long morning for a toddler. I guess I'm in the homestretch now, so she wants me to keep coming back. That's fine though. I have appointments booked every week through July 3rd-crazy!
Until now, we'd been stretching my appointments by one extra week more than normal, since everything's going fine and her office is 45 minutes away. That makes for expensive gas and a long morning for a toddler.
Girl, I hear you! My OB was 45min away and I had to take DD1 w/ me to each and every one. :roll: Do your MW's get you right in or do you have to wait around? How is Ian handling the appointments?
And you look fantastic! Who cares about weight gain? Healthy baby is the most important thing. The weight comes off. Trust me, I gained 60lbs with each of mine! :shock:
You look beautiful!
I hope that you get to have the m/w that you want for your birth! She sounds good that she is willing to come in and meet you upon admittance so that they repect your wishes- I like that!
Baby fluff day! Woohoo!
Most of the newborn diapers we ordered came today. We cloth diaper DS, but didn't switch over until he was 4 months old, plus we gave away most of the small diapers to some friends anyway. So we didn't have any newborn stuff. We bought a few (like 6) newborn AIO's and pockets in January, but that definitely wouldn't be enough! Here's what came today:
That's 2 dozen prefolds, 2 fitteds, 3 covers, and 50 wipes, plus some wipes solution. We've been using sposie wipes with DS, but I'd like to try switching over especially now that we'll have two kids using them. The plan is that once the baby outgrows the prefolds, those will become doublers for use in pocket diapers.
We also got out Ian's splash pool today, and he had a blast! It was 90 degrees here and horribly muggy, so it was nice to be able to splash in the cool water.
woohoo for fluff and water fun. sounds like you are getting ready.
what a great story of you and your husband. I am so sorry for the loss of your father, that must be very tough.
You look great! i hope you get the midwife you want at your birth. sorry your appt's are so far away that would be slightly annoying. Hope you are finding lots of time to relax and get ready for baby!
Yay for baby fluff day
It was great reading your intro -sorry about your dad though I look forward to hearing more about this baby and birth. Looks like your son enjoyed his water play!
Looks like your DS had a fun day in the sun!
It's been a good weekend so far.
I swear my DH is nesting too. We got the landscaping done (well, we hired some people to get the landscaping done) and he cleaned out the gutters and replaced the thermostat. He also insisted we buy hedge trimmers and pruning shears so he can trim the plants we didn't replace and take care of the weeds by Ian's playhouse. And he's touching up the paint on the outside of the house.
I went to a couple of garage sales and found some great clothes too! Ian didn't have nearly enough short-sleeved outfits, so I got him several shirts and onesies. And one lady had a bunch of neutral 0-3m stuff because they didn't find out the gender ahead of time either. So I picked up quite a few cute little outfits. I figure at 25 cents each, it's no big loss if we only use some of them anyway. I also picked up a couple of cheap crib sheets, which we're definitely going to need since we currently have a crib and a toddler bed set up for Ian (still not transitioned) and a second crib for the new baby.
Here are some before shots with the landscaping:
And after we got rid of the big ugly stump, the old rocks & bricks, and put in new plants:
We were kind of surprised at how small the plants started, so I'm glad we got this done now and they'll have 2-3 years to grow bigger before we sell the house.
Looks good, Kim! Sounds like you've had a busy weekend. Landscaping is such a chore, but makes a huge difference. You're right to get it finished now so things can mature before you list the house. My advice, make sure you trim your new plantings this fall and again in late spring. Our last house was new construction and I absolutely butchered our shrubs and it only made them grow more!
Looks really nice Kim. You sure were busy this weekend.
The house looks good Kim! I think it's funny dh is "nesting" too, only they do outdoor things. Also, YAY on the garage sale finds. Hot weather makes for cranky babies. Short sleeve outfits are a must.
Glad you're doing well!
The outside of the house looks great! LOL at the DH nesting!
I have somehow kept missing your lodge and finally just read through it. it seems like everything is coming together for you guys and WTG on getting all that yard work done, it's such a great feeling huh?
Wow, 37 weeks today. I can't believe how fast this pregnancy is going by.
I got a lot of comments at church yesterday about how I must be so ready for the baby to come, and aren't I tired of being pregnant yet, and any day now right? Most people were surprised when I said that actually, I feel pretty good and I'm not ready for the baby yet! We still have things to do, and I'm not sure I'm really ready to have two kids anyway!
The other day, I watched one of Ian's little friends for a few hours. She's a month younger than him, and usually is good, but that day she was just not happy about being at our house. Ian tried so hard to help-he was offering her toys and books and trying to hold her hand and bring her to things. It was really sweet. But then the air conditioner repairman came, so Ian saw DH talking to him but I wouldn't let him bother DH, so he got upset. I had two kids whiny and crying and it was really driving me batty. I simultaneously had two thoughts-1)I'm so glad Ian wasn't twins and 2)What am I going to do when I have two crying kids and they're both mine and here to stay?
I kind of go back and forth. Some days, I feel like things are really under control and I'm totally ready to take on a newborn. Then there are days like today, when Ian is tearing apart the house faster than I can pick it back up, and the dishes are piled up and there are bits of poptarts stuck to the kitchen floor and Ian has pudding in his hair, and I feel like it's all I can do to take care of Ian and keep the house from completely falling apart. How on earth would I have taken care of a newborn today too, spent umpteen hours nursing, changed three times as many diapers, and done it all on very little sleep?
Or going to the grocery store. I have my coupon binder (yes, I'm a coupon geek) in one hand and Ian's hand in the other. Sure, I can wear the new baby-but how do I keep Ian from running across the parking lot while I get everything together? And what about when he refuses to walk? I don't think I can carry a toddler and a newborn! Maybe I'll turn into one of those moms who does all her shopping at 2am when the kids are asleep.
I'm truly amazed at the women who have multiples and those who leave the house with more than one child.
Try grocery shopping with five kids. Oy. You're handling the comments quite well. I'm proud of you
Kim, your latest post has me laughing. Yup, it's crazy some days (as you know from my blog!). Don't worry, you'll manage . . . you just do, you know?
And I'm thinking these same thoughts about one child. I guess we do just figure it out. I still don't know how you do pregnancy and a small child.
Welcome to your lodge! I am SO excited for you
my thoughts exactly. I;m sorry babysitting didn't go so well, but there are good things about having multiple kids too. They play together, keep eachother occupied, ect. So even when you do get those moments where both as sick or both are upset, it's so worth it. :bigarmhug:
Another midwife appointment today.
The appointment itself was great. Baby looks good, still solidly head down and not budging. Heartrate was 164 again, so the midwife thinks it's a girl. I made sure I have all the correct phone numbers for her and her partner and the correct dates for her vacation time on the cheat sheet I made for DH. I'm measuring at 38cm-this is actually the first week I haven't measured right on, but the baby was moving pretty wildly when she was measuring so that could be the reason. And I've gained 1/2 pound since last week, so 1.5 pounds in the last 3 weeks. I'm glad the weight gain is finally tapering off!
It was kind of funny-she has a student who came in first, and was asking me questions like whether I'm noticing any contractions. I said just when I'm really active, like when I was moving furniture. You should have seen her jaw drop. She started lecturing me on how my center of gravity is off and I could hurt my back....then my midwife came in and asked the same question, and when the student said "She was moving furniture!" she just said, "Oh yeah, sometimes things just have to get done. I was redoing my daughter's room when I was this far along." LOL She is so much more relaxed than her student. (For the record, I didn't lift anything heavy-just helped DH move some beds and mattresses around to accommodate the guests we're expecting.) I'm just glad I feel good enough that I can help move the furniture.
DH & I were discussing names again last night. I'm pretty sure we have a first name if it's a girl, and a middle name if it's a boy. And he came up with a girl's middle name I liked last night. For a boy, we're still not completely sure on a first name. We have one that we like well enough, and could live with, but I really love our girl's name and I want to feel the same way if it's a boy. Hopefully our midwife is right and it's a girl-between the name and not being decided on the circumcision issue, it sure would make our lives simpler to have a girl!
lol at the student m/w- I have the same things happen with the residents at my doc office every week
Glad you are feeling so well, and that baby is right where s/he should be!
And as for your post about how you are going to do it all- you just will! And you will do it well, esp once you get the hang of it. One good thing as to how to kee ds from running off while you are trying to get baby in the swing- don't unbuckle him until baby is in the sling, that is what I did, lol- then they can't escpe! And I bet within two weeks you will ahve figured out how to sling a nb and carry your ds all at once, and a sack of whatever else too, lol!
Today I woke up honestly thinking I'll be pregnant forever.
I'm not complaining, mind you. Once I manage to maneuver my large and unwieldy body out of the bed, it's really not so bad. My back feels much better since I figured out that walking 3 miles a day keeps it from aching. The swelling in my feet & legs is nowhere near what I had with DS. And I'm generally pretty comfortable. I just sometimes have a hard time believing that I'll ever actually start my birthing time.
Maybe part of it is because I didn't with Ian's birth. His birth was a very interventional, medicalized birth. We were induced at 40 weeks (because dr was going to be out of town over the weekend) with cytotec. I was doing fine until they started pit, and after about 30 seconds of that DS's heartrate dropped so they stopped the pit and had me get in bed. They told me I was going to have to lay on my left side and not move for the rest of labor. (??!!!) That was the first time it hurt, when I had to lay down and couldn't move. At that point I said that if I couldn't move around anyway, I might as well get the epi. So they gave me the epi and at first it wore off after 15 minutes, then they redid it and I was completely numb-couldn't feel pressure or anything. Then they announce it's time to push! Well, I couldn't feel a darn thing and just willing him to come out wasn't working. I asked to turn off the epi and let it wear off, but they demanded that we had to get him out right now (why? he wasn't in distress or anything. of course, it was 5:30pm) so they got out the vacuum and he was born.
I wish I had known then what I know now. I'm thankful that DS's birth wasn't traumatic, since I know that so much else could have happened with a start like that. Going into his birth, I thought I was one of those people who didn't care how he was born, just as long as I wound up with a healthy baby at the end of the day. But it turns out it did matter! I felt very unsatisfied after DS's birth. It was as if I was a passive participant-I just showed up at the hospital, they did a bunch of procedures to me, and then I left with a baby. I don't feel like I actually 'birthed' him.
In a lot of ways, I feel like a first time mom this time around. I don't feel like I have a benchmark for how long my labor was, or how far along I was when he was born, or any of that. I don't even know what it will feel like when my birthing time begins.
What I do know is that I am looking forward to it! I've been doing Hypnobabies and it has me really excited about the birth experience. I feel much more positive and patient at this point than I did with DS. I really believe that I'm going to have a great experience. DH is totally supportive, and we have a doula who is going to be great. I'm excited about it. But there's still a little part of me that wonders if it will ever happen, or if I'll be the first woman to be pregnant forever. LOL