YAY KATIE!!!! Welcome to your lodge!! Can't wait to read your story.
Welcome to your lodge!!
Katie!! It's time for your lodge!!
YAY!! Thanks! I will have to write up an intro. I can't believe its already that time!
Elijah ~ 8/27/04
Evan ~ 06/14/06
Emelia ~ 11/13/08
Elliana ~ 9/10/10
Welcome! I am so excited for the November Mamas! Looking forward to following your journey.
Mommy to three gorgeous girls
at 6 weeks 22/10/09
Congrats and welcome to your lodge!!!! Can't wait to read your intro!
Congratulations! I look forward to following your HBAC story!
Hi! My name is Katie, I am 25, 26 in November. I am from the middle of the US, the great state of Nebraska. GO BIG RED!! Its really not ALL corn and fields..LOL I am the oldest of 4 girls. My sisters are 23, 19, and 16. I have been married to Dustin my hubby for 5 years now. We met the summer after high school both working at HyVee (a grocery store) while going to school. He came from a small town in Iowa and had grown up on a farm and came to Omaha for college. At first I thought he was a CRAZY stalker! He would always come bag for me at my register and would purposefully go out of his way to help me. I guess that’s how farm boys roll. HAHA That doesn’t happen in the city often! So eventually I liked it and we started dating. I still remember our first date like it was yesterday, I was pretty nervous and we went to a stupid (IMO) movie, Rush Hour 2. I am not so much for action movies. But I sat there and watched it and he didn’t know whether to put his arm around me or just look at the screen I could feel the weirdness. Afterward we went to Dairy Queen (ice cream place) and I paid. I felt so bad for him paying for the movie and everything, he thought that was weird and kept giving me a hard time for it. Anyway after that weirdness we didn’t date for a while, he would call and I would kind of “have something else to do”. That was July and in January he was having a party at his apartment and I kindly invited myself after hearing about it. He was more than thrilled because he had been interested in me for so long. Well we had a “little” too much to drink and he actually opened up and I was able to get to know him better. We officially started dating the next week. We got engaged that following October, only about 10 months after officially dating. And planned the wedding for the following August. We got married August 30, 2003. I was 20 and he was 21. His parents were less than thrilled we were getting married so young, but if you know you know right!? Why wait!?
Well November came along three months after we got married and I was turning 21. So we went out to the bar and again had a “little” too much to drinky! This time getting pregnant!! We were shocked and excited! Our joke is that was my first and last time at the bar. My parents actually had bets on when we would get pregnant! My dad won saying it would be within the first 6 months…WHAT!? While pregnant with Elijah I read a lot of your typical birth books..What to expect, The girlfriends guide to pregnancy etc. I wanted to go natural but didn’t look into it more. I didn’t realize how our hospitals were. My mother had 4 natural births with no meds etc, I thought I would just do the same. I went to 41 weeks with Elijah and they wanted to induce me, by this time I wanted to be induced or so I thought. The pain was horrible and I had about every intervention possible. I got there they hooked me up to an IV, put me on a monitor, stuck me in bed, and put me on pit, gave me a catheter and said I wasn’t able to get out of bed. All I wanted to do was move my hips and get around when I was having contractions but they wouldn’t even let me move around in bed. I had to stay to one side till they said I could move. A couple hours later the doctor came in and broke my water. That made things even worse. Then I ended up getting the epidural cause I couldn’t handle the pain not being able to move. Low and behold I wasn’t progressing because of ALL the interventions that took place. After 9 hours I was still only at a 4 and the doc said, well we are going to do a c-section cause you aren’t progressing. I just cried. I didn’t want anything to do with that. I was in shock…how could my mother and all my aunts, grandmas and everyone do just fine in birth and I HADE to have a c-section. I thought I was broken. I was soooo sad and depressed before even going in there. Elijah came out a whooping 10lbs 4oz and the doctor told me my section was due it CPD (BS in my opinion). That I would be forever stuck with sections. I was depressed but never really thought about having PPD so I just went about my way. I had a really hard time nursing and even just loving on him, I felt like this child was just given to me. After a couple months we really started bonding but now I know what they mean when they talk about the sections and not bonding right away. I wouldn’t trade him for the world now.
When Elijah turned one we thought it would be nice for him to have a playmate. And since I was on these boards and it seemed like it took a while to get pregnant from watching others and Elijah wasn’t planned I wanted to start trying right away as I didn’t know how long it would take us to get pregnant. (My mother was fertile mertile so that should have been a clue for me). We decided since we already had a boy that we would try the shettles method for another boy, (and it worked!!) so Elijah would have a brother. We ended up getting pregnant on the first try and were a bit surprised it happened so fast. During Evan’s pregnancy I really wanted a VBAC. I didn’t see why not. I went to the same doctor (stupidly) and he said I could “try”. So all along I really thought I was going to get that chance at natural birth. I went into labor on my own at 39w 1d and went into the hospital. They decided I needed an U/S to see how big the baby was measuring. Why I agreed to this I DON’T KNOW. But he was measuring over 9lbs and doc said “too big, we will prep for a section”. I just stared at him, I was in labor ON MY OWN and he wasn’t even going to let me try!! I wish I knew then what I know now. I would have told him NO! I didn’t know I could say no, so off to the operating room we went sad again. Crushed and broken. As U/S’s are a lot of the time wrong Evan came out only 8lbs 15oz. Yes almost 9 lbs but doable for a birth. Again I was sad couldn’t believe I just had had another section and thought NEXT TIME WILL BE DIFFERENT!
This time around my husband had been out of town a lot for work and since I got pregnant with one try we thought we would wait till Evan would be two before this baby was due. So whenever he was home we would try to get pregnant using the shettles method again this time trying for a girl since we already have two boys. He ended up going on a 7 month trip out of town and often times when he was home I wasn’t fertile or it just wasn’t right timing. So this time around it took us about 3-4 tries to get pregnant. After he came home from the long trip he had his work party in February. These are awesome work parties let me tell you! We stayed at the hotel overnight and didn’t have the stress of children. With him being gone for so long, we were a bit happy to have the hotel room to ourselves. After the work party he had to go back out of town for two weeks to finish his job and while he was out of town I got my BFP!!! I was thrilled. We waited and waited it seemed to see if our shettles method worked for a girl this time. When we went into the U/S at about 18 weeks I laid there waiting…when she rolled over the legs, I screamed “There’s no penis!!!!!” She was like “Wow you are good!” I had seen two penis’s before so I knew what they looked like Haha. I was soooooo sooooo happy to be having a girl, I still can’t even believe it! I thought for sure we were bound to four boys since my parents have four girls. This pregnancy has been hard in the sense of finding a provider willing to take on a VBA2C. I have read and researched more on VBAC and natural birth than I could ever imagine. I switched doctors/midwives/OB’s and just couldn’t find one willing to work with me the way ‘I’ wanted to work, NO INTERVENTIONS. My husband and I watched the BOBB when I was about 25 weeks pregnant and after that we knew we were going to homebirth. I just needed to find a midwife and if we didn’t we were prepared to UC. When I was 30 weeks we had come to the conclusion that I wasn’t going to find one and we were going to UC, since in Nebraska it’s illegal to have a CNM attend a homebirth and lay midwives are far and few between, its all underground and hush hush so they don’t get in trouble. I was 33 weeks pregnant had been going to seminars on “The mother friendly childbirth initiative” and talked to a friend that said she was having a homebirth also and had found a midwife, I was like “WHO, WHERE!?” She gave me her name/doula website even though she knew she probably shouldn’t because they don’t want their names out there to everyone. So at 33 weeks I emailed her through her website asking about a homebirth and she emailed me back asking “Where did you hear that?“ LOL And wanted to know where I got her info from since the website is for “doulaing”. I told her how I found her and had had a few friends use her but just couldn’t ever get a hold of her. I had been talking with ‘The Nebraska friends of midwives’ group which is trying to get homebirth legal with a CNM. After she contacted my friend and figured out I was legit and not someone trying to get her in trouble she agreed to meet with me at my house. She came over that Saturday and she agreed to do a homebirth with me even with having 2 sections. She said she has had great success with ladies going for VBAC-VBA3C and I was more than thrilled!!! Perseverance and prayer paid off! It was all falling together, Dustin and I just couldn’t believe it!!! Now I am 36 weeks and have met with her twice and will meet with her every week now till I go into labor. Its so awesome having her come to me, I don’t have to worry about appointments and DH can be there too cause we do it on the weekends. So now we wait, I want a vaginal birth so bad I can feel it. I have been doing hypnobirthing and doing my visualizations often. We have our birth supplies and birth pool ready and she said as long as I go after 36 weeks I can stay home. I made it there so I am READY! I can’t wait. I pray all the time that this will work with no complications and we will have a successful HBA2C.
So that is our story! I hope I didn’t bore you too much! Here are some pictures of our family!
My parents and I at my wedding.
Dustin and I.
Dustin and the bridesmaids...he is a shy one!
Elijah at birth. My big boy at 10lbs 4oz.
Elijah 9 months.
Elijah 1 year.
Our announcement to my parents!
My sisters and I.
39 weeks with Evan.
Newborn Evan 8lbs 15oz
Evan 6 months.
Elijah and Evan (9 months), St Pattys Day.
Evan 1 year.
Elijah 3, Evan 1
Our Family last Christmas 2007.
They love each other!
34 weeks with Emelia!
And for kicks...to compare to our children...
Dustin at 3.
Me at 3.
Sorry I got a little pic heavy!!!
Last edited by MeesterMama; 10-03-2008 at 06:01 PM.
Elijah ~ 8/27/04
Evan ~ 06/14/06
Emelia ~ 11/13/08
Elliana ~ 9/10/10