wow --so much going on...
glad you had a good appointment with your doc!
Last edited by smoochietigger; 01-14-2009 at 09:37 PM. Reason: spelling errors
Yay! I'm glad your doctor was nice to you this time...I did read your other post about him being an *** and I felt so bad for you.
I don't have any experience with cloth diapers but there's a cloth diaper board on here with a lot of info and links.
I just discovered the cloth diapering board a couple of weeks ago! It has been great. The ladies there have been super helpful.
Today has been a weird day all around. I went to get my car inspected today and ended up getting the oil changed and a car wash as well - $59. I had to get my car inspected so DH and I could officially get our car titles and tags transferred $341. On the way to DH car I noticed he had a nail in his tire. of course, it had to be in the sidewall, so it couldn't be fixed -$101. (I had a recall on the valve stems for my tires so Monday I got them replaced the only free thing I have done all week!) Now I feel truly prepared to drive baby around and $500 lighter .
After picking up DD from preschool (she goes 2 days a week), I called my parents who just got home from a 19 day stint in Europe. My mom had offered to come before baby to help out and be here to watch our DD. THe plan was that she would come a week to 10 days before my due date. Anyway, I asked her about it again and she is hedging a bit so I tried to pin her down. She tells me my dad is also coming and they are thinking they would come the 27th or 28th. I was not too thrilled with that and asked if they could come earlier. . . that is just a few days before my due date and I feel like I might go earlier than that anyway. She is all well, we just got home and I want to be here, so we will see. I explain that I do not have anyone to watch DD if they do not make it. She says that they can be here in 5 hours. I am a little worried from the DD's birth that 5 hours may not be enough time for them to get here especially if we go to the hospital earlier this time. She then says, "well can;t someone else keep her?" Really we just moved here a few months ago and I know very few people. Most people we know either work full time or are going to school full time and working nights. There is only one person that I know (the wife of one of the professors in DH's department) who has offered to keep her if we needed it, but I have a hard time getting in contact with her. She is not home much and has no cell phone. She said that they could wait and see after next weeks appointment if I was dilated. I explained that I was not getting checked next week and she was completely unsupportive of that. She said that she'd like to know if I was dilated. Anyway, I changed the topic because I was getting upset and asked my mom if she could pick up some things from BRU since we do not have one here. She was adamant that I email her a list of what she needed to get. I told here that it would be easier if she could get them off my registry. She was really put out by that and said that she didn't want to get the wrong things or guess about what we needed. I explained that the only things on my registry were things I really needed and it was not a lot maybe only 10 things are on the registry total. She was still not very enthusiastic and almost acted irritated. I just told her that my sister could probably do it instead and she was obviously upset. She said that she was giving my dad the phone and he could talk to me about when they were coming. Then I talked to my dad and he was much nicer. He asked when they should come and I said that I felt that it might even be next week. He said that they could maybe come late next week and asked if there was some special reason. I said that I could really use some help now. He laughed and said to my mom, "Honey, I think she is nesting and needs some help and support!" I said that was it exactly and he said he would see what he could do.
After we hung up I was just so frustrated with my mom and a little less so with my dad (who was really nice actually). When I have needed them at some points in the past, they have not been "available" to help us. They did not move me to college even because they were taking my brother to Disney World. When we had our 80 mph head on collision on Christmas Eve, 3 weeks after DD was born, I begged my mom to come help us and she said that she couldn't because they were going to the Orange Bowl to see the Sooners play with my brother and his friends. Bear in mind that my parents are NOT OU fans they both went to OSU as did my sister. There have been a few other things like that and it is just frustrating because soccer games and my brothers friends have always come before whatever I am asking or doing. The trip they just ended was a trip they planned after knowing my EDD was trip they took with my brother and his now fiance. In Nov, they went with my sister, her DH and DD to Disney World and on a Disney cruise. Then in Dec, they went to California for the College Soccer National Championships where my brother's team finished 2nd. Then they all came here for Christmas for 2 days. Then they left for Europe. I am sure they are tired, but I just wish I had not been counting on having my mom's help. Now I am just feeling pity for myself because my plans were changed. I feel like a silly child and yet I am still crying over this. Stupid hormones!!!
It is important to note that I am not neglected in any way and I know that my parents love me, it just sucks because my parents really are cool and I want them around more- NOW!!! (Well, soon. . .)
Well, I must say I was slightly shocked about prioritizing a sports event over helping you after a serious, life threatening car accident.
I'm sorry your mom isn't being more supportive. Hopefully she comes around. Maybe she was just tired and in a cranky mood, it sounds like your dad might talk some sense into her. I hope it all works out.
I'm cloth diapering too and the advice I have gotten is get a variety at first and then actually invest in the ones that you end up liking best. Also, it can be expensive up front, but if you check craigslist and used baby stores you can often find them used and way cheaper. I know it seems gross to reuse someone elses diapers, but I got a lot used (hand me downs from friends, mostly) and they aren't stained or anything and I just washed all of them a couple times.
Yeah, the whole story with the orange bowl. . . my brother and 5 of his friends were all going. He was a junior in high school at the time and 2 of the people -one being his girlfriend- were sophomores, five high school kids total. My parents were the only chaperons going and the two girls going were staying with her. If she did not go, the girls could not go. Anyway, we called Christmas Eve night and she apparently did not understand how serious it was. We did not make that clear to them as we were just thankful to have walked (limped) away. Of course when we called, we were still in shock and the pain had not fully set in. Anyway, Mike's mom volunteered to come down and take care of us (Molly,mostly, whom neither of us could carry for about 3 weeks. . .) and I honestly do not know how we would have made it if we did not have her help. She stayed the first two weeks. My mom came after that, pretty much the day after she got back from Florida and stayed for almost 3 weeks. And she gave us her Tahoe. She was pretty upset when she realized how badly we were injured and how badly we needed help. So she is not horrible or truly showing favoritism, I just think she sometimes . . . overlooks (?) what we need because we rarely aske and we don't live in town. Both of my siblings live within 10 minutes of them so maybe it is just natural to be closer to them and their needs/desires. My family and us are really close just not in proximity and I was pretty upset earlier. . .
How is it that despite being able to rationalize that I am being unfair or crazy or completely lost in self-pity (as was the case today) I still can't completely snap out of it? Well I couldn't at the time. I am better now, but I was really upset for like 4 hours. FOUR HOURS!!! I now understand when we ask my four year old to put her tears away and she says she is trying but they just keep coming. That is exactly how I felt!!!
Glad you're feeling a little better now. That makes sense with the whole orange bowl thing. I'm less scandalized. And I know my mom sometimes feels like she doesn't support us enough partly because we're so far away and she has no idea what we need or what's going on with us sometimes, and we don't tend to ask for help if we need it. So you're right that the distance thing definitely plays a role. That's cute that it helped you understand your daughter a bit more when she gets upset. Sometimes it is so hard to get your mind out of that irrational space, no matter how hard you try. In any case, I still hope they realize it is important to you for them to come earlier and they come sooner rather than later.
My mom and I talked and she wasn't upset with me yesterday, she was just overwhelmed by all they need to do. They are the caretakers of both of my grandmothers. My mom's mom is very close to our family and is still lonely after my grandpa's passing 2 years ago. They are used to seeing each other everyday or at least talking. My dad's mom is a bit of a hermit and is schizophrenic so she doesn't get out much. It is mostly getting her groceries and meds and visiting her occasionally. That is on top of taking care of bills and cars and everything else they need to do. So my parents are planning to come down on the 25th after church. That is a good compromise I guess. It is five days before my EDD. I just wish I didn't feel like the baby was going to come sooner.
But I feel a LOT better today! I just received some of the fabric I ordered to make cloth diapering accessories and I am thrilled. It is in the washer now for the second wash and then I will get to start sewing. I am planning to make some insert for gDiapers and other doublers/liners for pockets. I finished making about 3 dozen cloth wipes so now I feel more confident. I just inherited my grandmas serger when she moved into a smaller apartment. It needed some love (lots of adjustments) but now it works great. I just made about a half dozen receiving blankets big enough to swaddle a few months. THis is getting all of my attention, since I can't do the nursery yet. (We are enclosing our porch to be a guest room/playroom but it will not be done for a while- a couple more months. Then we will convert the guest room to the nursery.) So maybe this is my "nesting" obsession!
Hey Beth, just checking in on you!!! You are the only person I know IRL who was due in January and is NOT being induced.... Yay you! I hope your parents get here before Baby Boy arrives! You can always take my mom's advice and just keep your legs crossed LOL!
mommy to the most beautiful princess
Just checking in on you, I'd love to see your cloth diaper stash if you feel like shareing!