Ha! Angry cat in a pillow case is a perfect description! Gus always seems to do that once I've sat down at night after a busy day. Funny babies.
I love how much personality they have even before they're born--one of the nice surprises of pregnancy!
Got my bag packed this morning, plus a post-it with reminders for the stuff I can't pack up yet. I really want to go get my car cleaned and put in the car seat, but I am feeling so nauseous and tired I just want to lie down and not do ANYthing right now. DH is finishing the patio and is so close to done he doesn't want to do anything else until it's finished (understandably! This has been an epic project!)
I got in a bit of an annoyingly unresolved fight with my mom last night about me not wanting her to be there during the birth and couldn't sleep at all because my brain was obsessively forming arguments about the whole thing (still is, even though I already know what I want to say...how do you get off a brain loop like that??. ARGH.)
I told her I will call her when we are going in so that she can hover by the phone at home and then call her again when baby's out so she can come over then, but she was INSISTING that she was coming to the center from the beginning, so I said fine, then I won't be calling you until she's born if you can't respect my wishes. But there were a ton of other people there so that was pretty much it--she came back with something and I said "Look, I'm not fighting with you about this right now." and went and got in the pool with DH. Then she was all sulky the rest of the night.
I really hate living near so much family sometimes. (I didn't choose it--they all followed us here!!!) I just want to have my baby in peace and have a little while to bond with her and DH as our new little family unit before having to share the moment; my mother hovering in the next room would completely stress me out. Seriously, it is the LAST THING I want at my birth...I might as well just go straight to the hospital because there's no way I can relax with her there. The baby would probably go UP. Getting super stressed out right now is JUST what I needed, thanks so much Mom. And you wonder why I don't want you there!!!!!!! ARGH.
Thanks for letting me vent.
I understand, really I do.
Right now I'm living with my parents Hopefully for not too much longer. They will at least be busy with my older kiddos so I don't think I'll have the problem of them being in the hospital.
But my mom was outside the door when I had DD1, and I let everyone in shortly after she was born, I really wish that I didn't, we did not get the first nursing right away or skin to skin bonding. I really regret it, but I did not know I wanted/needed those things then.
So stick to your guns, call her after the baby is born if you need to, you can always tell her it went too fast Or make your DH talk to her. I do that with my DH/mom, she listens to him better, I always cave.
I'm disappointed in your mom. I'm sure it's going to be difficult when our girls are older and don't want us involved in certain things, but it seems reasonable to want just you and your partner at the birth of your child.
So you're nauseous too? I've been feeling really sick today as well. Bleh.
I'm so sorry you mom is being like that. Lots of DH's relatives wanted to do the same type of thing when I was about to have my DS. I made DH swear that we could sneak off to the hospital without telling anyone until after, no one even argued after. That is so hard though because its your mom and she should understand and respect your wishes. If it will complicate how relaxed you are in labor though then you have to put your foot down. BTW love your pic, you look so glowing and healthy!
~Joy~ DS1-8/5/05, DS2-10/18/10 (VBAC#1), DS3- 4/11/12 (VBAC#2!)
I sympathize with your situation with your mom. I don't want anyone there other than DH during the birth and immediately after. I am due Aug 1 and told my parents they were not allowed to come before Aug 20 to visit. I'm hoping that will give me at least a week before any family shows up.
I agree with the others though that you need to stand up to your Mom. If you feel like you can't stand up to her, enlist DH's help. I hope it works out for you.
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