Thanks a lot everyone--your support really does help! Moms can really make you feel crazy, jeez. I know I am guaranteed to drive my daughter nuts in some ways, but hopefully at least it'll be different ones, and maybe not quite so much!
Crystal--I know, I really feel bad for you! I would be a lunatic by now, this pregnant AND dealing with my mom 24/7!
Totally nutso nesting day part II. I don't think this house has ever been so clean and well organized. Made DH's Moby, too, except for the decoration. Feeling ready...now just waiting for baby to be ready!
My family was ALmost the same way with our first baby. Not wanting to be in the room but HOVERING right outside. In fact, my dad almost walked in while I was just getting ready to push. i know he would have FAINTED! I know it's different, your mom wanting to be IN the room with you. I wouldn't want that either and I feel for you. Nothing like tension and anxiety to add to the whole deal.
On the HAPPY note, yay for getting that Moby done, your bag, lists, etc!!!
The discussion about moms made me laugh... At my DS's birth, we already determined before-hand that it would just be me and DH in there. Right before I started pushing, they let my mom and his mom come in to say good luck or whatever, I don't know. My mom offered to stick around and take pictures, which I wouldn't have minded (our pics from the delivery ended up not great for the most part because my DH took them and of course he was frazzled and not that great with my camera anyway)... But when my mom offered that, MIL just sorta stood there, like waiting to be invited as well. So I just kicked them both out. I figured that was our original plan anyway, and I didn't want to hurt MIL's feelings, but I did NOT want her in there. ...Awkward!!
Sean Thomas - 6/30/09 @ 7:17pm 8lb 8oz, 19", 40w5d
Calvin Michael - 2/28/11 @ 7:39pm 6lb 8oz, 18", 37w5d
Nolan Matthew - 5/1/13 @ 11:54pm 6lb 4oz, 19", 38w4d
May 26, 2010 - 7w1d
I'm sorry your mom is bugging you Leigh. It's such a sticky situation.
We've been going back and forth on email all morning and I *think* we're getting to a place of at least grudging understanding. Thanks again for all of your stories and support. My whole family on that side is very codependent (except me--I rebelled against that trait entirely!) and are totally on her side egging her on and making her think I'm the weird one. Having other people understand my point of view makes me feel a lot less crazy and better able to stand up for myself on this!
I have a boxer too! And a pug...smushy faced dogs are just soo cute!
YAY Boxers!! We actually had originally wanted a terrier, but man, never go into a puppy store "just to check it out" when you're even remotely in the market... but now I can't imagine life without a boxer. They are just so silly and full of joy I do worry about his exuberance being a bit rough for the baby, but we've been working hard on training in preparation, and I think as long as we have clear boundaries from minute one, it'll be fine. He's four now and definitely mellowing a bit (finally!) too, so that will help. Our other dog is very maternal with kids, I'm not worried about her at all.
So tired, off to bed. 38 week appt in the morning--it's a one on one just basically to meet another of the midwives, since we don't know who will be on duty for the birth. I hope I like her as much as I have the others so far! This is the one I know the least about, so we'll see.