I hope you have a good appointment today!
I'm glad you are almost at a point of agreement with your mother! I think that it's a little weird to have someone other than your partner expect to be there while you are giving birth... even your mom. I haven't gotten to that point in my pregnancy yet, but I can't imagine having people other than DH there.
How many MWs are in the practice? Mine works like that too and there are 6 of them. I have met 4 so far and get to have another one today. It doesn't really worry me as long as they are just there to catch the baby and they honor my requests. There is one that was kinda brusk and cold, but I'm hoping she was just having a bad day or something when I met her.
She was GREAT. We both really, really liked her. I've liked them all so far and of course know and love the one who runs my prenatal group best, but she was probably my next favorite. We only have one more to meet, although our appointment with her is the day after my due date, so who knows if I will make it or not. We'll see! It's funny, I have met so many women randomly around town who had their babies at the center, and I swear that every single one had this last midwife (the one I haven't met.) Every one, no exceptions, no kidding! Just a funny coincidence I guess, but a little crazy. Kristen, my friend did not like this midwife AT ALL when she met her for appointments, but during the birth she said she was great. So even the brusque one you met may be just fine, especially if, as you say, she's just there as a lifeguard.
Anyway, the appointment itself was good too--baby's heart sounded great, she's measuring two weeks behind but the mw said that's fine, she seems totally happy and healthy in there (and I think she's getting low anyway--this kinda backs that theory up some more). Still head down, yay She guessed (first guess I've gotten!) that she's somewhere around 7 lbs. Sounds good to me!
Then I went and met my mom for a pedicure and lunch, which was such a treat. I was worried that we'd spend the whole time fighting about the being-at-the-birth issue but actually we didn't talk about it at all. Then when I was getting out of the car I said "Thanks again so much, that was super relaxing" and she said "Hopefully makes up a little for the extra stress I put you through lately!" and I just said "I love you!" and that was it. I feel much better, like the crisis is now behind us--whether she's actually totally satisfied or not, maybe now at least I can get some sleep and stop obsessively thinking up defenses and arguments, since she seems to have accepted it all okay. BIG relief.
I am super exhausted today, but it was a really nice morning. Now if I can just keep my eyes open to get some work done this afternoon...
I'm glad the appointment went well and you liked the midwife you met. When I had DD, I had an appointment with the one midwife I hadn't met scheduled for after my EDD, and I didn't make it, but she wasn't on-call when she was born, so it didn't matter. The midwife I ended up seeing the most prenatally ended up being on call, so it worked out really well considering that I only saw the group for 6 weeks before I gave birth.
I'm glad you had a good, relaxing time with your mom and that things seem to be okay between you two.
Yay for the appt. going well and having a peaceful outting with your mother! I'm so glad she didn't bring up some of the things about being there and that you feel more relaxed about the whole thing.
~Joy~ DS1-8/5/05, DS2-10/18/10 (VBAC#1), DS3- 4/11/12 (VBAC#2!)
I'm glad your appointment was good. I'm glad things are better with your mom too. I'm sure that's a relief.
I'm glad your appt went so well and that LO is looking good. It is great that you and your mom seemed to have patched things up. I'm glad she realized that she was stressing you out and that she put your feelings above her own.
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Thanks, ladies! And thanks again for letting me vent and being so supportive. It really did help.
I finally got a good night's sleep last night--a huge relief!!! And just in time for a super busy day. I'm still tired but at least I feel like I'll make it...