Since I'm pretty new to the board, I guess I'll start with the basics
I'm Shannon. I'm 31 and expecting my second child, a little boy due June 17. My DH is Will and he's 34. We both grew up in the same little town (suburb of St. Louis) but didn't meet until after high school. We now live in St. Louis city and we love being in the center of things. We have a little girl named Audrey Jane (AJ) who just turned 3 in March. We also have 2 cats - Lucius and Lydia. They are huge pains in the butt but they're pretty cute.
Right now I'm a SAHM and I love it so much! Technically I'm an attorney, but I've never really practiced. I graduated from law school and passed the bar a little over a year ago but I've done very little actual work since then I wish I could stay home forever but I do think I'll probably go to work by the end of the year. Financially it's just too hard on us and I suppose I don't want to let all that hard work go to waste.
I became interested in natural childbirth while I was pregnant with Audrey. I did a little reading and research, but honestly I didn't do much preparation. At 38 weeks my doctor told me he was concerned about my increasingly elevated blood pressure and asked me to consider being induced. We agreed to give it one more week, but I didn't go into labor on my own. At this point I totally lost my focus on going natural. Luckily I had a smooth induction and a very healthy little girl, but it was not the experience I truely wanted.
I started lurking on this board a few months before we started TTC #2 in the spring of '08. I loved reading all the birth stories and lodges and got really inspired. Unfortunately my road here was a bit longer than expected, but here I am with my very own lodge!
Welcome to your lodge! I know you will get the birth you want this time. TFS a little about you!
~Joy~ DS1-8/5/05, DS2-10/18/10 (VBAC#1), DS3- 4/11/12 (VBAC#2!)
So Will and I met in the summer of 1999 (boy do I feel old). I was home from school for the summer and he had just graduated and moved back home to find a job. Like I said, we grew up near each other and went to the same high school but he's 3 years older than me so we hadn't met before that. I mean, I knew he existed because he was friends with a friend of mine and I knew his little sister, but we had never interacted. So anyway, that summer we both ended up hanging out with our mutual friend. By the end of the night I knew he liked me and I thought he was pretty cute. Technically I was seeing someone at school but it wasn't serious so I decided to ask my friend about him. He set us up and the rest is history.
We clicked right away and got serious pretty fast. Unfortunately for the next few years our relationship was pretty volitile. We broke up a number of times (mostly him leaving me) and fought like crazy. We wanted to be together, but we weren't really making it work. When I graduated from school, I moved home and in with him. That's when things got really bad. After a few months, I moved out, broke up with him and even moved to Philadelphia to try to forget him. He pursued me the whole time and eventually wore me down. I agreed to come back to St. Louis on two conditions. First, I told him we needed to get our problems straightened out, and second, I wanted to get married. He agreed and I came home in October. He proposed on New Year's Eve.
It wasn't really a suprise, but it was pretty much just what I wanted. Even though it was freezing, he took me to the same bench where we sat on our first date eating ice cream (and where we first kissed ). I can't say it was the most romantic proposal ever, but he was really sweet. He told me that as hard as it was to be together sometimes, it was much harder to be apart. And once he asked me to marry him, fireworks started going off right over his head! It was really cool.
From that point on our relationship got easier and easier. We planned a long engagement both to get our relationship right and to save up money. We got married on May 14, 2005.
(In this picture you can see our friend who introduced us - he also married us!)
Like I said, our relationship really improved during our engagement and by the time we got married we really had our act together. It's been 5 years now and it has been so easy to be married to him. It's hard to believe things used to be so crazy. I'm so glad we didn't give up because I can't imagine not being married to him.
I'm sorry I'm writing my intro in pieces. It seems easier that way because I keep getting interrupted Here's the rest of the story - how we became parents.
A few months after we were married, I started law school. We also moved into the house we live in now. It needed a ton of work and we started remodeling right away. Things were pretty crazy and busy and we weren't thinking much about kids. We had always talked about having lots of kids, but we figured we'd wait a little while longer (I was only 26 and not feeling too much pressure). But once we finished up the house, and I got through my first year of law school, the baby bug hit us both hard.
We thought we would start trying in the fall of 2006 hoping for a late May or early June baby. That way I could be home during the summer and not miss any school. I knew it might not work out that way but I figured we would give it a try and if it didn't work we'd wait a year. But we stopped being real careful about protection once we decided to try and I found out I was pregnant about a month later (in July '06). I was due at the end of March. I was totally thrilled but a bit worried about how it would work out. It ended up being the best thing. I decided to take a semester off and it worked out great. I had the whole third trimester off and then got to stay home with Audrey for 5 months. Graduating a little late did not end up being a big deal at all. Looking back I wouldn't have done it any differently.
I had a pretty normal healthy pregnancy. I had bad m/s until about 16 weeks, but it wasn't really awful. I did have some spotting at 13 weeks and completely freaked out. I ended up going to the ER and the whole works. Fortunately nothing was wrong and things went well after that. We found out she was a girl at 20 weeks and I was so thrilled. I had a few minor problems like swelling and I remember being so tired. But overall I loved being pregnant.
Unfortunately things started going down hill at 36 weeks. First of all I was so impatient to have her at that point. I don't know why exactly but I remember being so anxious. Then at my 36 week appointment, my blood pressure was elevated. My doc didn't say much about it until it was even higher at my next appointment. But he still didn't seem to think it was a really big deal at that point. The next week it was even higher and that's when he suggested induction. Even though I knew I shouldn't want to be induced at that point, I did. So we scheduled it for the next week.
I'll have to come back tomorrow and write up Audrey's birth story. I wrote it all out at the time, but my old laptop died before I saved it anywhere permanent. Will has promised to take the hard drive in at some point to try to recover it, but it's not really a priority right now. So I'll have to try to remember the best I can. But I'm way too tired tonight.
Your wedding picture are beautiful!
Mommy to three gorgeous girls
at 6 weeks 22/10/09