I cut like 4 or 5 inches off and it feels so short now.. i wish I had her thin it out some.. I forgot how fluffy it gets when its short like this but at least it's lighter now.
I've been feeling pretty good lately. Haven't been hurting quite as much though my back still does hurt so I've been trying to take advantage of the time i have to get some sewing projects done. I made DD's Halloween costume in the last couple of weeks. I love how it came out, but still have a little to do on it. I found out that my mom is going to make it down for Oct 5th for a week or so. I'm excited about it but nervous too.. I haven't seen her in a year and half and DF's never met her. The last time she came down XH and I had just agreed to permanently separate/file for divorce.
I met DF on an online dating site. I wasn't really looking/wanting anything long term as XH and I had just split up in April and it was around this time late august that i got on the site. Well I was just wanting to meet some new people to talk to since I never really got "adult" time. I went out with a couple of people. Most were nice and still friends with one of the guys (we ended up having a mutual friend and i helped him get his ex back that he was still in love with) though we don't talk as much now with our schedules.
Anyway, I met DF there and talked to him a bit and he was nice. I was really concerned that I wouldn't find anyone that could deal with me having a kid. She's kinda high maintenance, very hyper and doesn't really listen so well. Well DF asked us both out to lunch the first time we met (i had a friend on standby just in case). It was sweet really made me feel like he understood that I didn't really have a life outside of Aria. Turned out he was living with his brother (single dad) and his bro's 4 kids so he was used to kids.
The date was fairly boring since I spent more time dragging DD back to the table than talking to him, but he was really patient with it all and just thought I wasn't interested. I had other plans during the day but called him the next day or something and he came over and we were able to hang out and talk with dd occupied in her own space.
Shortly later his brother kicked him out they were working together and living together... not a good situation and they have alot of family issues (he's adopted by his aunt and uncle and he doesn't talk to his bio parents anymore and not in 10 years) and he and his bro no longer talk at all (which sucks for the kids but better for us drama-wise). So he stayed with me for about a month or so then went to his parents for Christmas to visit.
He came back for New years (for a week) which surprised me (and when i ended up pregnant.) He had decided that he wanted to move back up north to where he spent most of his life. He was only going to go "temporarily" which i didn't believe but that was fine, we hadn't been together that long and I sure wasn't moving there. Well a few weeks after he left i realized i was pregnant. I waited a week and then told him. He was so excited. LOL I wasn't even THAT excited until I told him.
He was trying to find work up there and i still wasn't wanting to move so we talked alot on the phone and really got to know each other better and by the end of Feb I decided that I was ok with moving. He'd found a good job and was looking for a place since he was living with his younger brother, SIL and their son.
The plan was to move in April that way i'd have time to get everything together down here, give work plenty of notice, and give dd some extra time with my dad who shes close to and her one good friend here. Well April came around and DF calls and says that he'd fallen on some ice a few weeks ago (his job involved ALOT of walking) and his knee has been killing him ever since. He just kept hoping it'd go away. He still hadn't been able to find a house (rental) as the market up there is horrible right now and we weren't ready to buy since I'd never even been there much less know that I wanted to buy there.
Anyway. The night before my "last" day of work he calls and tells me that he's just going to move back down here. He's worried about his job since he couldn't do the walking anymore and still hadn't found a house and I was hitting the 2nd trimester and really didn't want to be doing it alone anymore if possible. SO I got my job back, and a week later he moved down here. We've been doing good since. Took him a while to find a job but now has one that he mostly likes.
We're living in my brothers rental house so rent's very cheap though I'd rather pay more for a place in the city not this little town 20 miles outside of it, but it's allowed us to save up some. My job ended in June with all the oil spill BS, but that's ok. We're going on having known/been together a year now on Sept 6th. I was not so thrilled with how fast everything happened because of similar occurrences with XH. But so far everything's been good. he's been really sweet with everything. For example, I have a fairly crappy car ('93 geo) with no a/c, no speedometer, etc. DF's car is an '09 mazda and his "baby". Well he's pretty much given me his car. I haven't driven my car since early July. He takes my car to work so that if i have any errands to run or just want to get out of the house I'll have a cool car to do it in, etc. Stuff like that.
He's been great with DD helps with discipline without over reacting or losing control (he's never spanked her etc) and will always look to me to make sure that I approve of his discipline. She's much better behaved now than she ever was before. She's taken to him really well also. She gets excited when he gets home asks where he is when he's gone. We've come together more as a family than I would have ever expected to esp in the time we've had.
He's been really supportive of everything I want to do. He didn't flinch when I told him I'd nursed DD til she was 3 or that i coslept with aria and would like to again since it was so much easier with nursing at night and getting sleep or that I wanted to use cloth diapers or that I wanted a homebirth and later a UC since a midwife wasn't really available (only one here and too expensive).
Didn't quite mean for this to be so long but there ya go. Thanks for reading if you made it so far. He's wanting to get married but not pushing it. I was married to XH for 6 years most of which were spent apart but I'm still hesitant to get married again even so. I did agree to go ahead with it soon if he ends up joining the Air Force; he's mentioned it several times and I think it would be great if he can. Esp in the economy we're in now, but he won't know if he can or not for a few months yet. And if he doesn't he's mentioned wanting to move near his parents in North Carolina, which I'm fine with. They offered to put us up until he can find a place and a job. I've never met them but they seem really nice so far. We'll probably go visit for Christmas. His mom's offered to come stay with us to help out once the baby comes but I declined so that we can bond as a new family first and then his family can visit later if they wish. He's close to his parents but is leaving baby/parenting decisions up to me as he really doesn't know what hes doing and as he says "i've done it before, i'll know what i need at the time".