I cut like 4 or 5 inches off and it feels so short now.. i wish I had her thin it out some.. I forgot how fluffy it gets when its short like this but at least it's lighter now.
I've been feeling pretty good lately. Haven't been hurting quite as much though my back still does hurt so I've been trying to take advantage of the time i have to get some sewing projects done. I made DD's Halloween costume in the last couple of weeks. I love how it came out, but still have a little to do on it. I found out that my mom is going to make it down for Oct 5th for a week or so. I'm excited about it but nervous too.. I haven't seen her in a year and half and DF's never met her. The last time she came down XH and I had just agreed to permanently separate/file for divorce.
I met DF on an online dating site. I wasn't really looking/wanting anything long term as XH and I had just split up in April and it was around this time late august that i got on the site. Well I was just wanting to meet some new people to talk to since I never really got "adult" time. I went out with a couple of people. Most were nice and still friends with one of the guys (we ended up having a mutual friend and i helped him get his ex back that he was still in love with) though we don't talk as much now with our schedules.
Anyway, I met DF there and talked to him a bit and he was nice. I was really concerned that I wouldn't find anyone that could deal with me having a kid. She's kinda high maintenance, very hyper and doesn't really listen so well. Well DF asked us both out to lunch the first time we met (i had a friend on standby just in case). It was sweet really made me feel like he understood that I didn't really have a life outside of Aria. Turned out he was living with his brother (single dad) and his bro's 4 kids so he was used to kids.
The date was fairly boring since I spent more time dragging DD back to the table than talking to him, but he was really patient with it all and just thought I wasn't interested. I had other plans during the day but called him the next day or something and he came over and we were able to hang out and talk with dd occupied in her own space.
Shortly later his brother kicked him out they were working together and living together... not a good situation and they have alot of family issues (he's adopted by his aunt and uncle and he doesn't talk to his bio parents anymore and not in 10 years) and he and his bro no longer talk at all (which sucks for the kids but better for us drama-wise). So he stayed with me for about a month or so then went to his parents for Christmas to visit.
He came back for New years (for a week) which surprised me (and when i ended up pregnant.) He had decided that he wanted to move back up north to where he spent most of his life. He was only going to go "temporarily" which i didn't believe but that was fine, we hadn't been together that long and I sure wasn't moving there. Well a few weeks after he left i realized i was pregnant. I waited a week and then told him. He was so excited. LOL I wasn't even THAT excited until I told him.
He was trying to find work up there and i still wasn't wanting to move so we talked alot on the phone and really got to know each other better and by the end of Feb I decided that I was ok with moving. He'd found a good job and was looking for a place since he was living with his younger brother, SIL and their son.
The plan was to move in April that way i'd have time to get everything together down here, give work plenty of notice, and give dd some extra time with my dad who shes close to and her one good friend here. Well April came around and DF calls and says that he'd fallen on some ice a few weeks ago (his job involved ALOT of walking) and his knee has been killing him ever since. He just kept hoping it'd go away. He still hadn't been able to find a house (rental) as the market up there is horrible right now and we weren't ready to buy since I'd never even been there much less know that I wanted to buy there.
Anyway. The night before my "last" day of work he calls and tells me that he's just going to move back down here. He's worried about his job since he couldn't do the walking anymore and still hadn't found a house and I was hitting the 2nd trimester and really didn't want to be doing it alone anymore if possible. SO I got my job back, and a week later he moved down here. We've been doing good since. Took him a while to find a job but now has one that he mostly likes.
We're living in my brothers rental house so rent's very cheap though I'd rather pay more for a place in the city not this little town 20 miles outside of it, but it's allowed us to save up some. My job ended in June with all the oil spill BS, but that's ok. We're going on having known/been together a year now on Sept 6th. I was not so thrilled with how fast everything happened because of similar occurrences with XH. But so far everything's been good. he's been really sweet with everything. For example, I have a fairly crappy car ('93 geo) with no a/c, no speedometer, etc. DF's car is an '09 mazda and his "baby". Well he's pretty much given me his car. I haven't driven my car since early July. He takes my car to work so that if i have any errands to run or just want to get out of the house I'll have a cool car to do it in, etc. Stuff like that.
He's been great with DD helps with discipline without over reacting or losing control (he's never spanked her etc) and will always look to me to make sure that I approve of his discipline. She's much better behaved now than she ever was before. She's taken to him really well also. She gets excited when he gets home asks where he is when he's gone. We've come together more as a family than I would have ever expected to esp in the time we've had.
He's been really supportive of everything I want to do. He didn't flinch when I told him I'd nursed DD til she was 3 or that i coslept with aria and would like to again since it was so much easier with nursing at night and getting sleep or that I wanted to use cloth diapers or that I wanted a homebirth and later a UC since a midwife wasn't really available (only one here and too expensive).
Didn't quite mean for this to be so long but there ya go. Thanks for reading if you made it so far. He's wanting to get married but not pushing it. I was married to XH for 6 years most of which were spent apart but I'm still hesitant to get married again even so. I did agree to go ahead with it soon if he ends up joining the Air Force; he's mentioned it several times and I think it would be great if he can. Esp in the economy we're in now, but he won't know if he can or not for a few months yet. And if he doesn't he's mentioned wanting to move near his parents in North Carolina, which I'm fine with. They offered to put us up until he can find a place and a job. I've never met them but they seem really nice so far. We'll probably go visit for Christmas. His mom's offered to come stay with us to help out once the baby comes but I declined so that we can bond as a new family first and then his family can visit later if they wish. He's close to his parents but is leaving baby/parenting decisions up to me as he really doesn't know what hes doing and as he says "i've done it before, i'll know what i need at the time".
Welcome to your lodge and I loved your intro!
Mommy to three gorgeous girls
at 6 weeks 22/10/09
I can't find my original birth story for DD but I found this one that I wrote about 6 months later to an old friend back home.. I'm just glad I have something from it..
The day after my due date I called my friend in to come down. She was going to coach myself and Kent through the birth. She came down that night with her husband and her daughter. The next day we went for a walk. I don't know exactly how far we walked, but it was somewhere around 7-10 miles. We went down to the beach and played in the sand for a few hours, and just walked around town, got lunch. Eventually we got so tired we took the bus home. The next day we walked some more. This time it was pouring down rain so we went to the local mall to walk around inside. The last thing I wanted was to go into labor with a cold. We spent about 3 hours walking and then got lunch. The entire day I was having mild contractions. They were not painful and were nothing that I couldn't walk or talk through. Still I decided to go to the hospital; it had been a few weeks since I'd gotten checked to see where I was at so I wanted to find out: 2 cm. After all the walking and almost two weeks I'd only dilated 1 cm. I was so annoyed. We went home and ended the day with sex.
The next day, Monday, I went in for a doctor's appointment. I did all the tests and everything was looking fine. She stripped the membranes and told me that I was now at 3 cm. ok good progress, I was happy, but then she started talking about inducing again. They were worried about my history and that she would be stillborn also if I went too far over my due date. She wanted to talk to an OB about it and would call me back. I was scared. Of course I could refuse it, but I couldn't imagine if anything did go wrong because of it. I wanted a natural birth yes, but I didn't want to risk her health or even my own. I went home with the intention to do more walking and have a lot more sex since those are the two things that are really supposed to get labor started. We had lunch and went for a short walk. We were waiting for Kent to get home from school. Just after he got home, I told him what was going on and he wasn't thrilled about it. Then she called back. They wanted me to go in sometime this week to be induced. They said that they'd break my waters first and see if that made any progress and if that didn't work it would mean the chemical inductions and meds. With all this, she was still sure that I'd go on my own first. We set something up for Tuesday at 7:30 am. It didn't seem to make sense to wait a few days. We packed our bags for the hospital stay and took it easy that night, no more walking. Kent and I had sex one last time since we both knew it'd be 6 weeks before we could again and then went to sleep.
I woke up with contractions at 1:00, just an hour or so after we'd gone to bed. After about 45 minutes of contractions, we went to the hospital. I was dilated to 5 cm now. I was admitted. After being checked and on the monitors for a while I checked into my room and laid down for awhile. After the nurses were done checking everything I was able to get into the hot tub. It helped a little with the contractions. I started feeling like I needed to push so I got out, and was checked again 9 cm. After a few more contractions the urge to push just sort of hit and I couldn't hold it back anymore. I was checked again. Just a "lip" left. She gave me the go ahead to push while she held the lip of the cervix out of the way. That did the trick and I was ready to go. Baby still hadn't dropped and was pretty far back in the birth canal so the pushing stage took a while. If I had to I'd guess about an hour, maybe more maybe less, no one was really watching the clock. After her head crowned twice, she finally came out and was placed on my stomach. I tore a little and needed stitches which hurt. She was completely covered in vernix. She was born on May 23, 2006 just as dawn was breaking at 5:45 am. She weighed 7 pounds 8 ounces and a length of 20 inches long 13" head. She's currently almost 6 months, 15-16 lbs and 24-25" Ariana Morrigan Castles.
I wanted to add a pic of DD at birth.
Last edited by Illiana; 08-31-2010 at 06:41 PM.
Rereading my birth story, I can't believe I let them use all the scare tactics to try to induce me and I"m sooooo incredibly grateful that I didn't end up having to go that route. And this was a group of MWs who delivered at a birth center. I think one of the main reasons I was allowing it was because a. I was sick of being pregnant and b the idea of another stillbirth scared the crap out of me. I knew then and know now that it was unlikely considering how well she was doing. I was just impatient as i was 5 days "overdue" and my friends visiting were kinda ready to get home to their other kids (they left two at home and just brought the baby). and Thinking back I don't think I was actually overdue at all.. I remember at my 20 u/s with the OB before i switched to the MWs she changed my due date by like a week or more it was a lot i remember but i can't remember the actual date that my original EDD was.
As you all probably know or at least most of you know, I'm planning a UC this time and I'm so excited about it. I've been feeling pretty good.. I wish the weather was nicer so I could go outside to walk around... Walking in stores with DD is next to impossible.
I have backup care with an OB in town. I did my GBS test last week so I should get the results tomorrow.. I was a bit surprised when he actually put the swab in my bum.. i thought they just rubbed the vaginal opening.
Love your intro and DD's birth story! Welcome to your lodge!
I'm curious to see if anyone else offers up a good reason for testing your bum for GBS, it's not like the baby's coming out there
Well I've heard that some docs will swab the rectum too because of the close proximity or something like that, but i've never heard of them actually putting it IN there.
Projects so far, granted not much considering the time I've had on my hands but the heat just kills me. I go in the dining room to set up my machine and by the time i'm there for 30 minutes i'm dripping sweat. ugh so gross.. but I made DD's Halloween costume. Nope not making munchkin one though I'd love to find DD that i made for her first halloween. she was a little barbarian girl..lol.. fake fur tunic and some little pants to cover the legs so cute.. lol
She's been obsessed with princess Jasmine since she was about 2 and i could never find a costume under 40 so I finally planned it early enough this year to make her costume. Still needs a little something IMO but not sure what (besides shoes)
First layer i guess..
and i've made some cloth wipes also. I have more to make but I'm not sure if I like how they're coming out.. They seem really thick to me, but its just two layers of flannel like the instructions said... hmm.. i dunno... I keep thinking about cloth diapers but just can't bring myself to make any yet.
So far I have 8 of the circles, 3 of the baseballs, and 3 (0f 6) of the blue/white squares. I have a blue with elephants and red flakes to make some also. probably 8 of each. or 10 if i cut the size down which i'm thinking about.. you can see my hand on one for size. I was told bigger better since they get messy, but i think having some small ones also would be good.. They're about 8x8 or 8x9 for most of these. my cutting in a straight line skills are not up to par.
Last edited by Illiana; 08-31-2010 at 06:48 PM.
Thanks for sharing your intro! That's so wonderful that DF is so supportive about the parenting choices, that's so important.
You have a lot of great sewing projects going on!