OK so I guess that I will write a little more...
We decided to try for number 2 while on holiday in the UK last year and were extremely fortunate to fall pregnant immediately again. After being so lucky the first time, I certainly didn't expect the same result on the second go....I guess we'll have to be careful after this one arrives?? On the plane back to NZ, I had that "feeling" that I was pregnant and the airline food definitely wasn't looking appetising so I tested a couple of days after we got back (very restrained of me) and had a BFP - we found out a week or so before DD's first birthday!
Almost as soon as I found out I was pregnant I rang and booked my MW - a different one from last time but who I had seen a couple of times over my first pregnancy and I felt really comfortable with. She is very pro-homebirth and I was keen to plan this next labour at home. My pregnancy ran very smoothly for the first half with the exception of low BP and a few fainting episodes.....I guess I have issues with low BP and an epidural would definitely be a bad move this time....
Anyway, a chance remark by my MW at about 20 weeks who said something along the lines of "what would happen if we had to have this baby at hospital?". This freaked me out completely and I started having flashbacks of last time and was unable to sleep - very classic signs of PTSD. I had NO idea that I felt this way about my previous labour, I guess I had just blanked it out? My MW referred me to a counsellor and I started to gain confidence in the fact that this time it would be different...
I posted on this board a couple of months ago to see if anyone else had experience of this and was recommended Hypnobabies. So I ordered the Home Study kit (as there are obviously no courses here) and I am now on the maintenance programme. For me it has been wonderful, I am not sure how it will work during labour but I am keeping an open mind. But if just to start with positive affirmations and rethinking about how this time will be a positive experience...I think it has totally made the difference and the flashbacks, insomnia etc have all stopped and I am actually looking forward to meeting my baby now rather than terrified about the process!
DD3 & DD4 03/11
I'm glad to hear that the hypnobabies has helped you with your PTSD symptoms and given you more confidence. I am planning on using hypnobabies with my next birth and if I ever get around to getting certified to teach childbirth classes, I think I would like to teach hypnobabies, as it seems to me to have the most to offer.
Love reading your story, Jules-- thanks for sharing. I'm excited to share in this journey, too!
DD is just beautiful-- and I KWYM about her entrance being part of your story. And I love that you up and moved to a new country-- how cool is that?
So glad you are here!!!
DD 8.03, DD 6.05, DS 3.07, DD 5.09, and DS arrived 6.17.12
wow your story is very interesting just as it has been a little scary. I'm really looking forward to following you the rest of the way.
Tiff + Bobby 8/22/04
DD3 & DD4 03/11
Moving overseas is always a great talking point! I have lost track of the number to times people have said to us that they wish they had tried it or that they had the opportunity in the past but didn't take it. There is always a reason not to do something like emigrating and you never know unless you try....we're though of as the "mad" ones in our families, which I think is pretty cool
DD3 & DD4 03/11