After the birth of our first dd we really weren't too worried about birth control. We figured that we were not going to give up any potential opportunities to get pregnant again and since I was exclusively breastfeeding we figured it would probably be awhile. SURPRISE! I found out I was pregnant again when my first dd was 6 months old. Unfortunately, I started spotting around 6 weeks. I had an ultrasound at 7 weeks that showed that the baby was measuring small and the heartrate was on the low side. At nine weeks I had another ultrasound and the baby's heart was no longer beating. I miscarried naturally at 11.5 weeks. After the miscarriage, I really wanted to get pregnant again right away, and it seemed that we didn't really have an infertility problem like we had innitially thought. Well, it was a long road, but after 11 cycles we found out we were pregnant again. Our next LO was due on Christmas day of 2006. This pregnancy went well. I only had very mild morning sickness in the beginning and really no tiredness at all this time. I toyed around with the idea of trying for a natural birth, but that was really all that ever became of it. I never did any research or read any books. In fact, I went in for my 38.5 week appointment and my doctor discovered that I was 4 centimeters dialated and 70% effacecd. He said that if I didn't go into labor on my own over the weekend he would be willing to induce me on Monday morning (at 39 weeks... exactly one week before Christmas). I liked this idea because I knew I had family coming to visit just before Christmas and they would only be staying for a day. I figured this way I would have my LO and be home for a couple days prior to company arriving. Looking back on it now... HOW SAD AND PATHETIC!! Oh well...
Birth Story #2
Anyway, I came in early Monday morning (the 18th of dec 2006) to be induced. When I arrived they monitored baby for an hour. Then shortly after that they started me on some pitocin (around 7:30). Luckily my hospital had no problems with my desire to labor out of bed. I was free to do whatever I pleased and only had intermittent monitoring. I walked the halls for an hour and did not feel a single contraction. At 8:40 my doctor came in and broke my water. Within two minutes of that I felt the most horrendous contration!! They started coming every 2-3 minutes or so, I really don't know for sure. I decided to get in the tub, but the combo of having my waters ruptured prematurely and the pitocin was too much for me. Yet again I opted for the epidural. At 10:30 I had the urge to push. I really didn't have to though. The baby was right there. After maybe one or two pushes the baby was crowning. This is where I got to experience the impatience of my first doctor. The baby crowned for 19 of the 20 minutes that I pushed with this pregnancy. However, this time my doctor just let me gently stretch while he massaged. Finally the head broke free. I only had a slight tear. I was VERY swollen down there, but I healed so much better then the first time with the episiotomy. After my second dd was born they laid her on my belly and wiped her gently with a towel. They let her stay on my belly for the next 3 hours before they moved her to do anything!! It was wonderful. After about 5 minutes she figured out how to latch on and then she nursed for the next 3 hours straight!!! When they finally took her to get her weight and measurements she was 8 pounds 4 ounces and 20.5 inches.
I found out I was pregnant again when my second dd was 7 months old. This time it was not as much of a surprise. We knew at the time we DTD that I was ovulating, but figured that since it did take about a year each time for both of our dd's it wouldn't happen RIGHT away. Well, it happened right away!! We were a little shocked, but excited. Again, so far it has been an uncomplicated pregnancy. I did some research early on and decided to go with a midwife this time instead of an OB. I have been very happy so far with my switch. My midwife works out of the same hospital as my previous doctor, but I am okay with this because I actually do really like the hospital I gave birth in. I consider them to be MUCH more naturally birthing friendly then the majority of hospitals I have heard about, and with the support of a midwife I really feel that I have a decent chance at acheiving a natural birth.
This time, I have finally decided to educate myself on birth. I have read Ina May's guide to childbirth as well as Dr. Sears the Birth Book. I definetely feel in my heart that natural birth is truely the best option for myself and my unborn baby. I also fully believe my body is capable of having a natural birth since my previous deliveries were so quick even WITH the epidural! I must say that I am struggling a little bit with one thing though... I actually LOVED my previous birth experiences. I felt very empowered and had an edreniline rush for quite awhile afterward. My babies had no problems nursing and I had no complications from the epidural. HOWEVER, I know that with every intervention there is always a risk. Just because I previously dodged the bullet and didn't have complications doesn't mean that it will happen that way every time. Also, after reading so many natural childbirth stories, I still feel that I have missed out on something... that there may still be more euphoria that I can feel at the moment of birth and an even tighter bonding then what I experienced previously. I still wonder though, if when the pain really sets in, if I will bail out???
SO, I have decided that I will automatically decline have an IV line put in when I enter the hospital (standard procedure). Basically they draw blood when you enter the hospital and then leave the thingy in so they can hook you up to an IV later if needed. They have to give fluids before an epidural. So, if I don't have the hook up it will be much harder for me to feel that I can just opt for that spur of the moment. I have also educated myself on several different positions to labor in. If the pain gets really bad I plan to try the next couple contractions in a different position and just keep on doing that until I find something that works. That should buy me some time!
Okay, just one more thing to mention. I have been taking EPO, 2 caspules orally twice a day and one internally each day. My question is this. I started doing this at 36 weeks, and to my surprise I discovered that I was already effaced and starting to dialate (about 2-3 centimeters). I have been rubbing the oil directly onto my cervix, but I am wondering if I shouldn't do this since I am already dialating??? I don't actually stick my finger IN, just kinda rub around the outside of the cervix with a freshly cleaned finger. However, I definetely don't want to get an infection. Do you think this is okay???
Okay, I think that's all for now! Congratulations if you have made it through my novel!!!
I loved reading your story too. And the pic with your youngest one kissing your belly is my fav!!
What great birth stories. Glad you were able to conceive despite the "professionals" opinion!!!
OK, I'm all caught up. I loved reading about how you & DH met and got together, your wonderful against-the-odds conception stories, and your birth stories. All the pics are fantastic too--what a beautiful family! Those belly pics w/your daughters are so precious.
I can really relate to what you said about your previous births. I also had more interventions than I wanted/planned, but I still feel very satisfied with my first birthing experience, despite the induction, epidural, etc. My DD also nursed like a champ from minute one, and I didn't have any negative aftereffects from my medicalized birth--if I had, I probably would still be dealing with negative or unresolved feelings. But I'm looking forward to it being different and better this time.
How's nursing going?
The only downside to nursing right now is that I am starting to get a bit of nipple pain now. I haven't really had much at all this whole pregnancy, but over the last week or so my nips have definetely become tender!