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    Congratulations on your lodge - the first December momma! I hope this birth goes much better for you!
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    So I couldn’t sleep very well last night and laid there thinking through different birth scenarios. One thing that I’ve been struggling with is vocalizations. I am not an overtly vocal person as is. I don’t complain about my pain and I have an overall attitude of “if there’s nothing that can be done about it why complain about it.” I like this fact about myself even though my DH and family wish that I did complain at least a bit so they could be better in tune to how I’m feeling. I realized though, last night that this aspect of my personality coupled with my embarrassment over my Dr telling me during DS’s birth to “stop yelling,” has inhibited my ability to vocalize during my contractions in labor. I thought back over my DD’s birth and remember feeling embarrassed to be moaning during the contractions prior to the epi. How do I get past this? How do I get past this previous scar to allow myself to vocalize as needed? I am a believer of Ina May’s sphincter theory and there for believe that making low throat sounds aids in the relaxation of my cervix but I can’t get past the fear of annoying someone, or embarrassing myself. I hate that!

    I e-mailed my doula friend this question this morning and her response, while cute (she said that if she could be here with me she would just start making the noises herself that way I would just be joining her, not initiating them) isn’t much help considering she won’t be present and it doesn’t help me get over my issue.

    So, ladies, suggestions? How do I get past this, how can I help myself to improve my relaxation during labor?
    Jennifer
    DH Brad ~ Married 6, together 8yrs
    Mom to Anthony ~ 7yrs old
    Hailey, 7/12/07
    Makenna, 12/9/08

    "There is only one perfect child in the world, and every mother has one" Chinese Proverbs

    'jamma party!


    In memory of Reed and support of those who love him...

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    Hi, just catching up on your lodge! thank you for sharing your story and birth stories. i am sorry for how you were treating with ds, it must be hard to think back through that. I hope you get the birth you want this time. As for your fears regarding noises during birth I would guess that being able to visualize(sp?) you using this during labor could be helpful. I also think it might help to watch some nat. births on youtube and see the reactions of those around the laboring mom, see that nobody reacts negatively to the mom making noises to aide her through ctx. Those are my only thoughts, i am sure you will get some much better suggestions.

    I too have had labor dreams, sometimes i feel the ctx. and wake up wondering if I was really having ctx, it's weird. I hope you don't have too many more 'stressful' delivery dreams!
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    Maybe you could practice making sounds while doing some relaxation practice? I did some prenatal yoga when I was pregnant and the book said to practice vocalizing while doing it.
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    My suggestion is to start practicing now with other sphincter functions like taking a bm. I am sure this would be hard unless you are alone but even just practicing to opening your mouth and relaxing may help. Also when you are in labour and you feel yourself holding back think of Ina May and give yourself permission.

    I hope that is helpful. I think it is a good thing that you are aware of it and thinking about it.
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    Quote Originally Posted by Mommas159 View Post
    I don’t exactly know why but the last two times before labor I’ve been obsessed with getting a mani/pedi and eyebrow wax before labor. The weird thing is I usually never do those things, its just not in my nature and I feel like it’s a waste of money, but I LOVE having them done for labor. Its kind of a little thing that makes me feel more womanly while in labor. Does that make any sense? Anyways I can’t afford to go have them done this time, or at least really can’t justify the expense so I’ve slowly been doing it on my own. I was quite a site doing my toes, trust me, not pretty! But, they look nice now!

    Ok off to nap.
    I love your intro...you had me in tears! I feel the same way as you....I'm not usually one to get my nails done b/c I hate spending the money but I have gone almost weekly it seems lately b/c I want to look as fresh as possible, lol. Like my baby will even notice.
    Jenn & Jus 1.13.06
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    Kara: 12.27.11


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    Yay, a December mommy!

    Great intro! I look forward to reading your birth story.

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    I'm sorry you have to deal with that, and I really wish I new what to say to help. I was a quiet person in labor for the most part, but I wonder if you could get in the shower and that way avoid much contact with the "outside world"?

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    Thanks ladies for the suggestions, I think, as goofy as I feel, I’m going to have to try Melynda suggestion and practice during a BM, especially since I think I’m developing a nice set of ‘roids. (TMI) Thank goodness I’m home with just my DD most of the day. I think my DS and DH would laugh at me moaning and vocalizing in the bathroom! LOL
    I’m feeling really good today! I’ve only had a few contractions and none of them “catching.” I was able to walk for over 2 hrs at a local flee market/yard sale today all while pushing my double stroller with my DD and my youngest niece riding along. Considering previously standing for 30 min’s made me contract like crazy and caused immense back pain I’m pretty darn proud of my body. I wonder if this is the calm before the storm? If so, I hope the calm lasts for at least a week or so.
    My birthday is Monday and my mom just said that she wants to take me out on Saturday to get my nails done. HaHaHa, serves me right for trying to do my own. LOL Oh well, I’m looking forward to it none the less. My DH has a nice family dinner planned for me for Sunday night and he is so proud of the gift that he got me. I don’t really know what it is but he said that he put more thought into this gift than pretty much any other one he’s ever given me, except my wedding ring. So I’m completely curious. I know part of it is in the garage and the other part is in the closet but I’m not the type to snoop.
    I’m off to Target to shop for a few then onto a birthday party at Peter Piper Pizza for one of my son’s best friends. Who hosts a kids birthday party on a Thursday night? Ugg!
    Jennifer
    DH Brad ~ Married 6, together 8yrs
    Mom to Anthony ~ 7yrs old
    Hailey, 7/12/07
    Makenna, 12/9/08

    "There is only one perfect child in the world, and every mother has one" Chinese Proverbs

    'jamma party!


    In memory of Reed and support of those who love him...

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    Jennifer, I had 'roids too and what really helped me was a zinc supplement! They can be caused by low zinc levels and pg women are more likely to be deficient. Just a suggestion!
    Connie
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