I had no idea I was going to write so much! EEK! Sorry!
With all the talk of baby girl coming early, my family had made arrangements to be here for a week at the end of July 2009. My EDD was July 30.
My mom had arrived two weeks prior to my EDD to be sure she wouldn't miss the delivery. She has three little ones (6, 7, & 9) so it wasn't easy for her to get away for so long. But she was here. Even my grandmother traveled out from Cali to be here.
Well, July 30 came... and it went... baby was still very much cookin'! I felt horrible because I had people waiting on me to have this baby! My little siblings and stepdad and my grandma had to go back home sooner than later. It was the Friday before their departure that very weekend that I *FINALLY* went into labor. (I say that in jest, knowing I wasn't 'late' or overdue...)
Since I was full term, DH and I spent most of Friday evening walking around a park. Up some hills and down hills. Just all over. We had been DTDing as much as we could with a full house... Friday night I decided to take one shot of Castor Oil. Couldn't hurt, right?
I woke up having to go the bathroom. I was in and out every few minutes. It took me a little bit before I realized it was very much in a pattern. My bowels were empty. But the pattern continued. I was definitely in labor! Around 3 am I woke DH up and asked him to time my contractions. I was too excited and nervous to do it on my own. Once we had an hours worth of good solid pattern, we called the hospital (which was about 40 minutes away). They told us to come in right away. By that time I was throwing up with the contractions. It wasn't pretty.
We arrived at the hospital around 6am. My mom and DH were with me. I will never forget being in the triage room and hearing the nurse say over the phone "Yeah, I've got a patient in here. I *think* she'll be staying." WHAT?! You THINK I'll be staying??? Hello! I am definitely not leaving this place without my baby in my arms this time!!!!
When they checked me I was already at 5cm and progressing very well. They wheeled me into an L&D room where we met our angel nurse, Brenda! She read through our birth plan and stood by us the whole way! She was amazing! She immediately had me up on my feet walking, no monitors, and just the IV (since I was throwing up). She took us down the the laboring tub and she got that set up. By the time I walked down there though I felt VERY pushy with every contraction. I didn't know how to not push. It was just so natural feeling. Everything within me was wanting to push. At the last check I was 6ish cm. She asked if I wanted to get in the tub or get checked again. I tried the tub for a little bit. But I was having a very hard time concentrating on anything but pushing. Thank God my mom was with us! DH was a bit in shock and we really hadn't practiced breathing techniques. We just didn't know what to expect. My mom did some 'old school' hee hee haa breathing with me and that was HEAVEN! I was able to not push with those patterns. I got out of the tub shortly after I had gotten in. Just wasn't able to get comfy in there and Brenda wanted to be sure I wasn't ready to push. Nope. Only at an 8! I was so devastated at that point. I thought for sure I had be closer to the end. Brenda brought in the birth ball at that point. While on my bed, I leaned over the ball and did the breathing pattern through every contraction. That was AMAZING! I got through those last 2 cm in that position. That also happens to be when I was most 'embarrassed.' I had no control of my bladder and other liquid coming out of me. With the contractions I would just gush fluids. It wasn't pretty since I was on all fours. Finally, one last check at 11am and I am good to push! I was so happy!!! Pushing felt WONDERFUL! I remember Brenda saying "We'll have a baby in time for lunch! This is going so well!" We did some ''practice'' pushes and we could see baby girl's dark hair! It was unreal!
The next thing I know, the OB is coming and I'm instructed to lay on my back. Being a good little patient who is in lots of pain, I do just that. Although deep down I knew I didn't want to be on my back!! I had talked about that plenty of times before labor began. Well, there I was. Pushing. Pushing. Pushing. I told Brenda at one point, "Can you tell me when I'm contracting? I can't feel them anymore." And another time I asked "Can I push anytime? I just don't know when to do it. I can't feel it." But, on my back I remained. For two hours I pushed. The doc said at some point "We have three options, and it's all up to you. 1. Vacuum. 2. Episiotomy. or 3. Keep pushing." I looked at my DH and my mom for some guidance. I got nothing from them. So I decided to keep pushing. That was really not going anywhere. My mom and I looked at ecah other and at about the same time we both said "OK, something has to change." Doc said, "OK, hand me the vacuum." Ring of fire... Burning... SOOOOO much pain... then... sweet, sweet baby girl is born!
6 lb 14 oz, 19 in
Aug 1 2009
Four generations of women... my grandma, Grace, me, and my mom
I did tear, but they couldn't say to what degree I guess... I think I tore toward the front, not the back? That's somewhat a guess since no one really said. I just remember them stitching and Brenda asking the doc about it but not being able to get a solid answer. ?? I healed very well from it though. I occasionally have some scar tissue soreness but I would expect that with the way my body tends to heal... I scar fairly easily.
Wow Michelle, what a story! I can't believe that doctor told you that you were miscarrying! I miscarried my 5th at 13 weeks and my doctor did a very thorough ultrasound to make sure there was NO heartbeat before he even mentioned anything about miscarriage. It's not right that they put you through all of that stress and grief for nothing. Glad that it turned out good for you though and you got a healthy baby. Can't wait for the rest of the story!
We don't use hormonal birth control and get lots of flack for it too. Loved reading your story and can't wait to hear about this baby!
gee somehow I went backwards through your intro, lol. Started with the birth and then ended in your meeting DH. When I started I thought it was a strange way to start your intro to your lodge with the birth story, lol. Great intro, forward or backward.
Tiff + Bobby 8/22/04
Yeah that ER doc *should* have said "With all things considered you are AT RISK for miscarrying." But nope. He told us straight up that was what was happening. I have wanted to walk my baby girl into that ER so many times and show him the results of that "miscarriage." But that hospital is far from us now.
When I told my peri that later he was shocked! He said when there's a heartbeat at 6 weeks, that's always good! You have to consider that it was *just* getting going and developing. If the HB is low then do a follow up U/S - don't tell the patient you *are* miscarrying!!
Let's just say it's taken me awhile to get over that. Just a rough beginning. But the ending is worth it!
Glad y'all enjoyed reading it. LOL! I must have been in the zone 'cause I had no intention of writing *that* much last night! LOL! But it's good for my own records and such anyway. I do love writing though.
So, I will catch ya up on this baby now. Hee hee!
After Grace was born, DH and I were so in love. We were just thrilled that we had a surprise baby and decided to just keep growing the family sooner than later. We hoped to wait until Grace was a year old then we would consider TTC.
This last summer was a bit of a whirlwind for us. So, two weeks before we got married, DH actually lost his full time job. When we came home from our honeymoon we had no jobs lined up for either of us. DH went to work at the restaurant he worked at in college, hoping to be there just a few months. That quickly turned into 2 years! I got a teaching job and was able to work full time the first year and part time the second year (once Grace was born). Don't know how we always made it, but we did.
So Spring 2010, DH finally gets an interview for a job he sees potential in AND he knows someone that works there already. After a few weeks of waiting, he finally gets the call "The job is yours!" Oh man! What a relief that was!! So this last summer we spent it packing, moving, and adjusting. And then just a few days after Grace's birthday...
It was a little sooner than we had thought it would happen. And really, we hadn't talked about TTC recently. But, we made it to our goal of 1 year and we were really excited! Since we were moving, I had to find a new doc. There's only one hospital in our new town, so that was that.
Oh, and with Grace's pg, the peri determined that I don't have a heart-shaped uterus but rather I have a septate uterus. Essentially I have a wall of tissue that comes down the center of my uterus. It doesn't go all the way down, it's only partial. And with my history, I'm thinking it's not very big, but big enough to notice and cause some concern.
This pregnancy has been very much the same and very much different, all at once.
Just like with Grace, I bled throughout the whole first trimester. I had a trip to the ER this time too because the bleeding was fairly significant. This time, the doc said, "As of right now, from what we can see, everything is healthy and fine. You *could* miscarry since there is so much unexplained bleeding. But right now, you're doing just fine." I took that MUCH better than last time and understood completely. My OB saw me anytime I wanted. He was wonderful about that. He also referred me to the perinatologist.
All of the U/Ss showed a very healthy, very active little BOY!
I wish I had pics online of both, but I don't... But with each of the babies we have U/S pics of them with their faces up in my septum in my uterus. Grace's nose was pressed against it. Charlie was almost snuggling up to it. LOL!
Other than the bleeding and early scares, this pregnancy is rather different.
He is WAY more active than Grace (at least, I can feel it more - both anterior placentas but perhaps hers was more?).
The new peri has had multiple concerns about different things at different points.
First, around Thanksgiving, she found a 'crinkle in the amniotic sac' or something along those lines. It seemed to be a mystery sac of some sort. Her concern is that my irregular uterus would cause the placenta to detach and then amniotic fluid could build up and cause such a thing. But she really wasn't sure what it was. At the very next weeks appointment, it was completely gone.
Then, when I thought we were really, really done with the peri appointments, she informs me that my son seems to have 'enlarged brain ventricles.' She didn't think they were getting bigger but she needed to monitor his growth to be sure. To this day, I have very little understanding of what that would mean long term. I ran to Dr. Google once and then dropped it. Not worth the extra stress. Again, a few more scans showed that ventricles were NOT getting bigger. But they do seem to be on the big side of normal. But still normal.
I am SO glad I don't have to go to peri appts every week to every other week and my regular OB was every 2 weeks as well. With a 1 1/2 year old... it's just too much. Heck, for just me, it's way too much! I'm already weighing my options for our next baby. Will I be monitored as closely or not? I love that we can see the babies and get amazing photos of them. But honestly... it's exhausting hearing, "Your baby isn't completely 100% in the middle of normal!" Yeah... I know he isn't. But that's what the rest of our lives are for... to discover those things. Bah... I digress...
So here we are... 36+ weeks and NO signs of labor. At all. Which is wonderful! But somewhere in my twisted mind I feel "behind" since I'm not walking around at 3cm.
So, our birth plan is staying pretty much the same. Want to go natural, no interventions. I want to be able to push baby out without two things: 1. Being flat on my back and 2. Without the vacuum.
I've talked to my OB about all of it already and he is VERY supportive and VERY excited for us. He thinks it's awesome and wishes he could do more natural deliveries. He said it just gets less and less common and he feels it boils down the support system around the woman.
When I told him about delivering in a different position he was almost taken back that I would even ask/bring it up. "You're the one going through it. It's your delivery. I'm just there to catch the baby and make sure all is well. You do what you need and want to do."
Let's just say, I was so on cloud9 after that convo!
DH and I did take a relaxation techniques course. It's already been SO helpful for us. We practice the breathing patterns, talk about the different stages of labor, and have really tried to define better what he can do. We are hoping/planning that my mom will be here again. So little boy needs to stay put until 39 weeks. Then my mom should be here and it's really Go Time!
This new hospital has much newer facilities. They have an entire room that is dedicated to their Hydrotherapy Tub. It's MUCH bigger than the one at the other hospital, it has jets, and all sorts of stuff. We can be in there for 2 hours at a time. Just knowing that is there makes me want to go to the hospital earlier. Plus, I love showers but we have very limited hot water at our house. LOL! We'll see how quickly we go. Last labor was only 10 hours... for a FTM that's not bad.
My biggest concern is my DD. We're still not totally sure where she will be or who will watch her. I really, really, REALLY don't want to be away from her for 2 days. The thought just kills me. Trying to figure that out. I'm going to ask my OB if he will discharge me early if we are doing OK. Might bring it up at my appt tomorrow.
Can I have your OB? He sounds heavenly. I'm glad you have such a good support system in him.
charlie is adorable btw
Tiff + Bobby 8/22/04