We had a hard time deciding when/if we were even going to try for a baby. DH was never 100% sure he wanted kids, I always knew that I wanted them though. I was pretty sure he did too - just couldn't get past the fear part. After LOTS of discussion, debate and tears we finally decided I would go off BCP in June of 2008 and I would chart my cycles for a few months to see what happened - if we wound up pregnant it would be fine, but otherwise we would officially start trying on our vacation that year in September. We had a great trip planned - 2 weeks in Malta (DH's family is Maltese and he still has a ton of family there) and technically, we never went on a "real" honeymoon, so we were going to use that as our honeymoon.
Charting my cycles told me pretty quickly that I had some luteal phase issues - I barely made it 8 DPO and often started spotting earlier - I figured it would just take a little bit of time for my body to regulate after BCP though - so I added some extra B6 to my vitamins and went about my day. Nothing happened before we went away, so TTC started on our honeymoon. I O'd a few days after getting there and hoped for the best. I was so disappointed when I got my period on our layover in Munich on the way back - I cried, then had a big beer.
A couple more months of this and I started getting really discouraged, especially because my LP wasn't really getting much better and my temps always tanked right in the middle of the 2WW. I started looking into acupuncture and made an appointment with an RE for December. After all the testing we found out DH also had some sperm issues. The RE we saw was horrible though and would not listen to my concerns about my cycles and basically told us our only hope was IVF with ICSI - which we couldn't afford and our insurance didn't cover. She also wouldn't let us try anything else - e.g. progesterone supplements for me and an IUI. SHe basically said it was hopeless. SInce we couldn't afford IVF I was convinced we were never going to have a baby. I had DH start taking tons of vitamins/supplements and going for acupuncture. I wanted to give him 3 months to get rested to see if it looked better. His second SA came back much better, but the RE still wouldn't let us try something less than IVF. I got incredibly depressed and basically just stopped going and we just tried the JLIH for a few months with no success. Finally DH dragged me out of the pit I was in and we switched to a new doctor. We spent a lot of time discussing things with him and he thought we should do a few cycles of Clomid and Progesterone for me, along with a trigger shot & timed intercourse. That sounded so much better to me - we started the next cycle and in October 2009 it worked - unfortunately that pregnancy ended almost the same time it began. As miserable and sad as I was, there was a small glimmer of hope because it showed that we could get pregnant with something less than IVF. We decided that we would try an IUI to hopefully speed things up. On Dec. 4th 2009 we went in for the IUI and on Dec. 18 we got our BFP! I was so excited, but nervous. Obviously this pregnancy stuck and here we are almost ready to have our first baby!
This pregnancy has been pretty easy on me - much easier than TTC was. I had some morning sickness first trimester but not horrible. The only thing that was a problem was the marginal previa that was found at my 20 week u/s. That doesn't seem to be a problem any more (FINALLY!!) and I have a final ultrasound on the 19th toiler me for the BC - right now the back-up OB gave me tentative clearance, but it seems to be a minor technicality.
That's my story in 2 posts!
Thanks for sharing your TTC story. I had a lot of trouble getting pregnant with my first and got preg on my first month off of BC with Malia. I hope you have a similar experience if you decide to try for a second.
I have a m/w appointment this afternoon - I'm getting my GBS test. Fingers crossed that I am GBS- because I have a history of severe allergies to antibiotics. I haven't taken penicillin, but several people in my family (my mom, aunt and sis definitely and possible someone else that I can't remember now) are allergic to that.
Welcome to your lodge! I love your stories of meeting your DH and your TTC journey.
Sean Thomas - 6/30/09 @ 7:17pm 8lb 8oz, 19", 40w5d
Calvin Michael - 2/28/11 @ 7:39pm 6lb 8oz, 18", 37w5d
Nolan Matthew - 5/1/13 @ 11:54pm 6lb 4oz, 19", 38w4d
May 26, 2010 - 7w1d
I had the longest day yesterday! Both kids I work with had really off days - massive tantrums and just generally difficult. Blah!
My m/w appointment was good though! It was with one of my favorites (I see a group of 5 and rotate through them all) and she is one that I really love. She doesn't think there is going to be any major problem with total clearance for the birth center after my final u/s on the 19th. I have given the baby strict instructions not to show up until after the u/s. She doesn't seem to have any intentions of moving anytime soon. I also did the GBS swab - I hope it's negative.
I am also trying to get her into a better position - Right now she is (and has been for quite a while) ROP - I know I have time, but she is pretty comfy that way.
I hope your GBS results come back neg, and I know I have said it before, but I'm so happy that it looks like you will be able to go to the BC.
GBS negative vibes! And I'm so glad to hear your placenta is far enough away that you will probably be cleared for the birth center!
I am trying to get a birth plan written for multiple scenarios and it is so annoying. I still only have tentative clearance for the birth center at the moment due to my placenta, so I need something for L&D if I don't get full clearance at my next u/s. I'm also wondering if I should write up something for a c-section? I don't need one automatically now, but after months of thinking about the possibility of one, I still haven't gotten over it and it's now like this nagging fear.
I think a fear clearing is going to be on the list of things to do today.