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    MaxiMamma
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    I like how SaucyVidel put it, and all these ladies are right. But I think you already know all this...You just have to go through the grief before you can sit down and describe the birth comfortably. You need time, and we are patient. In the interim, expressing the process of getting from where you are now to writing your story is also going to help. And we love to hear it all, the good, the bad, and the ugly! So let it out. Hugs to you...and more pics of the baby, please!!!

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    Awwww.... PP really have said it well. Yes, it is of course wonderful that you have a gorgeous and healthy new baby and that you are recovering well.... but there is nothing wrong with having wanted a certain birth experience. I know after Wiley was born it took me a little bit to process what had happened since it ended far from ideal for me. When I watched House of Babies once after that and saw someone doing a water birth in the exact room that I had always envisioned doing it (and had labored in for SO many hours), well, I broke down and had the longest, hardest cry I've ever had. It is hard, but good to face and deal with - when you are ready to.

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    I dont have time right now to reply but I read your update
    I also want to say to take the time to grieve your birthing experience, that is okay! We all know that in the end you are thankful for your healthy baby girl, but its still ok to grieve how she came around!

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    I think it's perfectly normal to mourn the birthing experience you wanted but didn't have. I'm really interested to hear how your experience went because it could likely be the same experience I end up having. You were such an inspiration during your overdue days - I just know that the story of your birth will be just as enlightening as we see your strength despite the interventions. Take time to recover and know that we're here for support whenever you're ready.

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    I am sorry that it did not turn out like you wanted. I agree that it is normal to morn your experience when it is not what you had wanted and planned for. Take the time to recover and enjoy your new baby.

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    Of course you are mourning the loss of the birth experience you wanted. I think it's kind of a catch-22 on this board. We're all fairly educated about childbirth and interventions, we've sought out practicioners and facilities to help us meet our birthing goals, but with high expectations can come great disappointments if our birth plan derails a bit. Remember this is a process over which, despite our best efforts, we really have no conscious control.

    Take your time, try to jot down some notes in a Word file so you don't lose any tidbits, and just rest and enjoy your sweet new baby girl.

    (but don't be away too long b/c we really miss you! )

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    Quote Originally Posted by ~*runnergirl*~ View Post


    Of course you are mourning the loss of the birth experience you wanted. I think it's kind of a catch-22 on this board. We're all fairly educated about childbirth and interventions, we've sought out practicioners and facilities to help us meet our birthing goals, but with high expectations can come great disappointments if our birth plan derails a bit. Remember this is a process over which, despite our best efforts, we really have no conscious control.

    Take your time, try to jot down some notes in a Word file so you don't lose any tidbits, and just rest and enjoy your sweet new baby girl.

    (but don't be away too long b/c we really miss you! )

    Well said, Laura (particularly about the part where we miss her!). I love the devotion and unyielding support to NCB, but despair over the role it plays in how some women see themselves and form their identities, particularly when it doesn't go according to plan. A part of me wants to scream, "Your life is defined by so much more than a single birth experience." But I also know how intimate and revealing these birth experiences can be for some as well.


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    I know exactly how you feel. I still cry over all the interventions I had to get this LO out at 43 weeks and 2 days. My body just didn't get the hint either. You have two healthy, beautiful girls, but you are still allowed to mourn the loss of your birthing experience (and don't let anyone else tell you otherwise). I'm cuddling my LO right now, but still wish it had been different. I definitely know the reluctance that comes with writing a birth story. It took me a few weeks to process it.

    Your little girl is so beautiful.
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    Everyone put it so well, hon! Take the time you need- grieve what you had planned and hoped for. Mourning the loss of the birth you wanted does not subtract from the love and happiness you have for Adeline at all! Share when you are ready, we will be ready to listen.

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    nayaudo
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    Oh Helina I think we all can relate on some level. I hope you find peace. You're in my thoughts hun.

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