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Yay! I can't believe I'm 36 weeks today!
So I guess I start with how I met DH, right? His name is Ben. We met in college where we were both working in the computer lab.
I thought he was a little goofy and he teased me all the time. A mutual friend of ours suggested we get together so I decided to give it a try. That was my sophomore year. 2 years later my mother passed away right before I was headed to Rome for a semester. I decided to go anyway because I felt like my mom would be so mad at me for canceling the trip. So I went. Ben was the only thing that got me through my mom's death and being so far away from everyone I knew. After that I knew we were meant to be together. We were married in 2004.
We spent the next 3-4 years buying a home and traveling and just being married. When I turned 30 we decided it might be time to start a family.
Ethan - June 21, 2009
Olivia - December 5, 2010
5w3d - October/November 2012
My Ovulation Chart
So need to sidetrack for a second! One of my closest friends had her baby on the 17th and I'm so excited for them! She had her first using Bradley, but tried Hypnobabies this time and I can't wait to hear details of how her birth went. All I know so far is that she said that Caleb's birth was much easier than Aidan's so I'm guessing hypnobabies worked well for her!! I'm so excited to be an "auntie" again!
We were able to get pregnant very quickly (month 2) which was suprising and wonderful but scary at the same time IYKWIM! My first pregnancy went smoothly, m/s in first 18 weeks or so, normal aches and pains but really no issues. So when I went into labor 10 days before my due date it was suprising!
Here is Ethan's birth story as I originally wrote it.
Ethan Benjamin O______
born June 21, 2009 at 38weeks, 4 days
19 1/2 inches long
Went to dinner with friends on Saturday June 20th, but called it an early night and went to bed around 10:00ish. At 11:30 I woke up when my water broke. At first it was just a trickle, but by the time I got to the bathroom it was small gushes. Then the contractions started. Ben helped me set-up the Hypnobabies CDs and I started listening to them in the living room. Much to my surprise, I hated being on the birth ball, and I quickly discovered either hands and knees, or leaning against the wall felt best. I was feeling the contractions pretty strongly, and mostly in my back, as the baby was sunny-side up. Ben started to get the birth bag ready to go to the hospital. I was feeling the contractions stronger and stronger, so we started timing them. We both questioned whether we were timing correctly when we discovered they were a minute long coming every one to two minutes apart. This went on for over an hour. Then we called the midwives and checked in with them. At this point, I decided that we needed to go to the hospital to get checked out at least. The ride to the hospital was very uncomfortable and felt like it took forever. We arrived to the hospital around 2:30am on Sunday, June 21, 2009. When we got to the hospital we went into triage. They checked my blood pressure and pulse and I answered general questions. Then we had to wait for a space in triage to get an internal check. At this point, Ben thought we’d probably be going home and wouldn’t be admitted still. I think he felt this way because I was doing so well with the contractions just breathing through them. After a little bit a space opened up and I got checked by Lucie, one of the midwives. Much to everyone’s surprise I was 8cm dilated and our baby was coming that day – a Father’s Day gift for Ben! Also the first day of summer! We were taken up to the Alternative Birth Center room where we got settled. At that point, I probably should have told Ben to get the birth bag from the car, but I really needed him by my side and didn’t want him to leave. The contractions kept coming and I found the best position was leaning face first against the wall. Ben was rubbing my back most of the time and I just kept trying to breathe through what was now pain, not just strong pressure. This went on for awhile. Eventually I tried the ‘birthing tub’. This felt good on my back, but I couldn’t stay in for very long as I was feeling restless and just couldn’t. Around this time I just felt like I couldn’t handle things anymore and Ben had to coax me through the contractions. After some time, around 4:00am, I felt like it was time to push. Lucie checked me and I was almost fully dilated with only the rim of the cervix present. At that point, I was told I could push so that’s what I started to do. I know some women say the pushing feels good because you are finally doing something with the pain and pressure, but to me it felt awful. My back was killing me and the pressure just felt enormous. I was having a really hard time pushing and it felt like the baby wasn’t coming out. Lucie, the nurse and Ben kept telling me I was making progress and to keep going, but after awhile I felt like they were lying to me! I was getting very tired at this point. Lucie and our nurse both commented to Ben that I must have been an athlete as my legs were so strong. ha ha! After what felt like forever, we could finally touch our baby’s head and he really was getting closer. Unfortunately, he just wasn’t coming out – he’d come out a bit, then go back in. For a while, we just kept doing this as his heart rate was extremely stable. I could tell the nurse and Lucie were a little surprised he was handling the contractions and the pushing so well. Eventually, this wasn’t the case. The baby’s heart rate started to drop and was at 80bpm and Lucie and I decided that an episiotomy was necessary to get him out of the birth canal. So the episiotomy was cut and I kept pushing. Finally, at 6:48am, after 2 ½ hours of pushing, our baby was born! I turns out that he had his hand up next to his head, so I had been trying to push both his head and hand through at the same time! Not to mention he was sunny-side up.
Our baby was born with a full head of black hair, blue eyes, Ben’s nose, and a mixture of other features we haven’t figured out yet! I held him on my chest for a little while, but he wasn’t interested in breastfeeding. At that point, my placenta detached and I started gushing blood, in fact a little too much blood. So I was given a shot of pitocin to stop the bleeding. It didn’t stop for a bit, so Lucie asked the nurse to start putting an IV together as I might need one. Thank goodness, it stopped right after she had the IV ready! Ben was holding his son at this point. Then the nurse took the baby and weighed him at 7lb, 7oz. and gave him a bath in our room with daddy watching. I was cleaned up and stitched.
Then finally, we were left as a family of three to get to know each other. We marveled over our son’s features and mulled over a name for him, finally deciding on Ethan Benjamin O______. Life was good! We spent over four hours in the ABC room. The nurse was so surprised that I went to the bathroom so many times during those hours. I felt a little dizzy from the blood loss, but otherwise good. After this time, I got into a wheel chair and we were wheeled up to our postpartum room. We kept Ethan with us the whole time and I just didn’t want to let him out of our sight!
Overall, the birth went fairly well. I was very glad to have done the Hypnobabies classes as they really helped with the pain tolerance. I have a really low pain threshold and I think I would have been a mess without Hypnobabies. I was very pleased to get the natural birth I wanted without any drugs. The only interventions I had were the episiotomy and the pitocin shot after Ethan was born. Both seemed necessary at the time, and afterwards as well. I think we made the right decisions throughout our birthing time. Most of all, I was thrilled that our son was healthy and happy and that we had created our own little miracle! I’m still amazed at how much happiness and joy he brings into my life.
Looking back now (17 months later) I'm a little less pleased about the episiotomy but do still feel it was necessary. Otherwise it really was a pretty good birth for my first baby!
So here are more pictures of Ethan:
August - relaxing outside
Ethan's First Christmas
June 21, 2010 - First Birthday!
October 2010 - pictures in signature!
Awww so cute, thanks for sharing.