YAY for MAY Mommas! YAY for Christy! I'm so excited for you! (spring break ends today and kids go back to school so I've an abundance of YAY today!)
Adam and Eirinn
Ashleigh Jun 3 2000, Mackenzie Sept 21 2001, Jayde Jul 9 2006, and Liam Jun 9 2011
OK so my oldest daughter Samantha is with my ex-husband. She was born July 21, 2004. I was induced at just over 40w. I was not really ready to be induced, but they suspected big baby. My cervix was long and closed. I had all the interventions. My water was broken, I had an internal monitor, the epidural etc. I only made it to 4cm by 15 hours of pit and they came in and asked if I wanted a c-section. At that point I gave in and said yes. She was 9lb 13oz and beautiful.
Here she is at birth:
And at Halloween:
I was divorced from her dad when she was about 9 months old so it took me a little while to come to terms with what happened. I blamed myself for a lot of it, since I allowed it. I met my husband in November 2005. We found out we were pregnant in August 2006. It was a surprise of course since we were not married. It was a rough pregnancy. I had GD and PIH and severe pelvic pain. My doctor convinced me that I had to have the baby by 38w because of my issues. Both were actually controlled well. My bp was not high at the time of birth and blood sugar was well controlled. I of course know more now than I did then and did not question my doctor at all. So Lilly was born at 38w2d via scheduled c-section. She was also 9lb13oz. Both of my girls were exactly the same size at birth.
My now husband I were married 2 weeks after Lilly was born.
I got my cycle back at around 9 months after Lilly was born and we were pg at 10 months. I thought I had no other options and that I essentially HAD to have a c-section. I kept coming up all these scenarios about how to avoid it. Like waiting until I was in transition to come in to the hospital. I contracted tons with Isaiah. So much that they put me on terbutaline, which if you have ever had is a horrid medication. It made me shake really bad. I did not have high bp nor GD with him. Everything else about the pg was normal. Looking back even the contractions were normal and my doc way over-reacted. I have the same amount if not MORE contractions with this baby and so far baby has not fallen out of my uterus yet. LOL The contractions were not dilating me. Anyway... LOL I started having regular contractions at 36w on the nose. They were about 3-5 min apart and this had went on for a number of hours. I was not term yet and was convinced by my doc that the contractions were bad, so we paged him. They had me come in and put me on the monitor. They of course were registering exactly what I was feeling. I had changed from 0cm dilated to 1cm dilated since that morning. They decided to go ahead with the delivery which mean yes a c-section. I know now that my doc doesn't even do vbacs anymore and to be honest i never even asked him about it. I just assumed that I had no other choice. So my first son was brought into the world at 36w1d November 2008. He was 7lb14oz. He did really well, but ended up back in the hospital with jaundice which was most likely from him being early.
I joined ICAN after the birth of my son. I decided to be a doula soon after that. I took the doula training in February 2010. I found out I was pg soon after that, but we miscarried the baby in May. We found actually tried to get pg the 2nd time and found out August 2010 that we were pg again. The first trimester was very hard for me. I had vaginal bleeding which scared me and I had a lot of things happen in my family. I knew right away I wanted a vbac. I had been being seen by the same ob that I had for Lilly and Isaiah. I found a high risk doc in town that would take me on as a vbac, but then he changed his tune once I found out about the GD and the high bp with this pg. I transfered care to a group of homebirth midwives in Indiana. They risked me out on Friday (yeah like 4 days ago) after they got my surgical records and my doctor noted a uterine window at my scar with my 3rd csection. She stated that she felt I was still a candidate for vbac, but that I need to be in a hospital.
So I called Dr. Vlastos in St. Louis right away. He is speaking at the ICAN conference in St. Louis this year. We had a girl from my ICAN group that went to him and had a vba3c with him. I also had some referrals on Mothering.com for him as well. So my homebirth is out. I am having the baby in the hospital. It all just happened and I am still very upset. I thought I had been cleared. I was told to buy my supplies. I was getting ready to go get everything and I had already paid my m/w. Anyway, I met with Dr. Vlastos today and he agreed to take me on as a vbac. He says that with my history that the chances are probably stacked against me, but he will support my decision. One thing he did do right away that I am so thankful of is he DOUBLED the dosage of my bp meds which I have known for AWHILE that needed to be done. The maintanence dosage of the medication I am on is 500mg 4x a day and I had just upped mine from 250mg 3x a day to 4x a day via my m/w. I knew in my heart this would not be enough and my readings have been really high. I have no other signs of pre-e though. So, now I am having the baby in St. Louis. I don't plan on having any more kids. I am 39 years old and my husband is over 40. I am going to try and convince dh to have that taken care of permanently if you know what I mean.
what a story. I'm glad you found a doc to take you, its hard enough finding one for a vba2c I can only imagine how hard it is for a vba3c!
Tiff + Bobby 8/22/04
wow, what a story! I hope everything goes well with the new doc. Good luck!
DS1: 12.8.07: 7lbs 8oz, 20.5"
DS2: 8.12.09: 7lbs 9oz, 21"
DS3: 4.26.11: 6lbs 14oz, 19.5"
8.16.12 & 12.16.12
#4: due 10.18.13
Wow! What a story! I am sorry you aren't getting things exactly how you wanted them though. I am looking forward to seeing/hearing how things unfold for you. I sure hope your VBA3C works out smoothly! So wonderful to have a doc that is willing to work with you on it. That's a huge step in the right direction!
I am super tired today. I have an expo on Saturday where I have a booth for all my businesses which are doula, Hypnobabies and my diaper/babywearing shop. I sell babywearing and cloth diapers if you didn't know that. Anyway I will be just shy of 37w. I have a friend coming to help me since I will need breaks etc. Nothing exciting going on today.
Oh and aren't my kids just toooo cute.
Your kids are adorable. I share a birthday with Samantha!
I can't wait to hear all about the VBA3C!