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    I think you're worrying is completely normal!
    We have similar spacing with our kids (I have 12/07 and 8/09 and am due 5/11). I have to say, at the beginning of the pregnancy I kind of wanted twins because it sounds cool and I know a couple twin moms who handle it really well. But now... I would be completely freaking out if I had twins.
    GL with the bowling ball feeling. I've never really had it, either. Sounds unpleasant.
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    I am glad you are getting rest and yay for baby dropping.
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    Where to begin! I wish I could just give you a great big hug, from one twin mama to another. What your feeling is so completley normal & nothing to feel guilty about. You have a lot on your plate! My oldest & twins are 18 months apart, at the time I was still nursing my oldest & my husband worked two jobs with no break to help me after the babies were born - I remember feeling & worrying about the same things as you. My boys are ID and I really did fear that I would mix them up, I also worried about how nursing 3 babies was going to work & how in the world does one take care of so many little ones on their own, straight out of the hospital no less.

    I can say that yes we had our hard days, but over all worrying about it was the worst part. I sometimes think the anticpation & worry that sometimes follows is scarier than actually doing it - once your IN it you just do it and it somehow works - somedays I think it's nothing short of a miracle lol

    I'm so glad that you were able to feel better once you wrote all of that out, there's something to be said about allowing yourself a good emotional cleanse & release. Sounds like your babies felt it too!! Their getting into position lol

    Your doing good Mama!! All will work out

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    Quote Originally Posted by Chimmy View Post
    Where to begin! I wish I could just give you a great big hug, from one twin mama to another. What your feeling is so completley normal & nothing to feel guilty about. You have a lot on your plate! My oldest & twins are 18 months apart, at the time I was still nursing my oldest & my husband worked two jobs with no break to help me after the babies were born - I remember feeling & worrying about the same things as you. My boys are ID and I really did fear that I would mix them up, I also worried about how nursing 3 babies was going to work & how in the world does one take care of so many little ones on their own, straight out of the hospital no less.

    I can say that yes we had our hard days, but over all worrying about it was the worst part. I sometimes think the anticpation & worry that sometimes follows is scarier than actually doing it - once your IN it you just do it and it somehow works - somedays I think it's nothing short of a miracle lol

    I'm so glad that you were able to feel better once you wrote all of that out, there's something to be said about allowing yourself a good emotional cleanse & release. Sounds like your babies felt it too!! Their getting into position lol

    Your doing good Mama!! All will work out

    Thanks for that, it makes me feel a lot better. I don't know anyone IRL who has singletons followed by twins who has actually admitted that these concerns are "normal", the few I know have just glazed over it, or perhaps they were in such as daze at the time they can't remember . But I do feel massively better for just acknowledging my feelings, and today, they just seem really minor!

    I'm ready for the challenge again - thank you again!
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    As I predicted, overnight Baby A has come back out of my pelvis and is floating around nearby again! Makes it a while lot more comfortable again for me. But at least one of them knows where the exit route is right?

    Having a good day so far, slept well....it's the weekend so DH is around to play with the girls and hopefully do the groceries for us. We'll be in the house this morning as there is a tsunami alert at the moment (we live up a hill right on the coast) from the Japan earthquake and probably head down to the town in a few hours when we've got the all clear.

    Oh I will try to take another belly shot this weekend! I'm down to single digits until 40 weeks! Woohoo...
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    I think you're going to rock being a mommy of four. You seem like the kind of person who could definitely handle it. I'm not saying it'll be easy, but definitely doable. I know it's a completely different kind of thing, but I felt incredibly unprepared and inept when my son was diagnosed with autism. I thought he deserved a mommy who could do it much better than I ever could. But I grew into my new role and gained confidence over time. I mean, what other choice did I have.

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    Quote Originally Posted by heatherliz2002 View Post
    I'd be more concerned about a mom getting ready to have twins who WASN'T having those fears! I get totally overwhelmed thinking about having ONE baby! I think it's completely normal, and as someone else said, it shows that your a good mom that you're concerned about it! I think there are a lot of situations in life that we look at (before we've gone through them) and wonder how we could possibly get through it, but when we're faced with it, we find that we have the resources to make it work, and even to find and appreciate the joys in the midst of the hardships (and to me at least, the sleep deprivation that comes with the newborn stage is definitely a hardship! Lol!) I have no doubt that you will figure out ways of making everything work, and although it might be a little hectic at times, you will come through it with flying colors! I don't think there's anything wrong with being honest and realistic about how we feel.
    This exactly. I don't think I'd be handling it quite so well as you, and I've got 2 kids of similar age to your oldest... that was my biggest fear this time, was that someone was going to tell me there were 2 in there. You're a super hero in my books momma, no matter what you might feel about yourself!!
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    Hi, Jules. I'm glad you shared your fears.

    One of my dearest IRL friends had twins. When she found out she cried. Literally. She did not want twins-- never imagined herself as the mum of 3 (she had a 2 yo at the time)-- and then when they were ID twin girls--OMG-- she was overwhelmed, not particularly happy and scared.

    After the birth, I won't lie, she says that she barely remembers that first year (for better or worse?) but she was so so so busy and tired from nursing two babies and not sleeping and keeping up with her son....oy.

    But now? They are beautiful five year olds and they can't imagine life any differently.

    You are going to be amazing and I am thrilled for you. Just wish I was closer.....I'll fly over you in a few weeks....wish I could stop by
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    Quote Originally Posted by Amber_daisy View Post
    I think you're going to rock being a mommy of four. You seem like the kind of person who could definitely handle it. I'm not saying it'll be easy, but definitely doable. I know it's a completely different kind of thing, but I felt incredibly unprepared and inept when my son was diagnosed with autism. I thought he deserved a mommy who could do it much better than I ever could. But I grew into my new role and gained confidence over time. I mean, what other choice did I have.

    You'll find your way.
    Thanks Amber.

    I do completely get what you mean about Jesse's diagnosis and your changing expectations as a parent. I love the "Welcome to Holland" story and loved to read it again his/your journal. While I don't often work with children with autism (I'm a children's physiotherapist with particular interest in developmental work), except occasionally toe-walkers as with Jesse, I spend a lot of time with parents who have recently received diagnoses or who are coming to terms with developmental delays. Believe me, having read your journal, I would love it if the parents I work(ed) with put 50% of the effort and preparation that you have made to give Jesse everything he could need. You are an inspiration!

    I hope that I can adjust as well to my changing expectations of "motherhood" as you appear to have
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    Quote Originally Posted by boilermaker View Post
    One of my dearest IRL friends had twins. When she found out she cried. Literally. She did not want twins-- never imagined herself as the mum of 3 (she had a 2 yo at the time)-- and then when they were ID twin girls--OMG-- she was overwhelmed, not particularly happy and scared.

    After the birth, I won't lie, she says that she barely remembers that first year (for better or worse?) but she was so so so busy and tired from nursing two babies and not sleeping and keeping up with her son....oy.

    But now? They are beautiful five year olds and they can't imagine life any differently.

    You are going to be amazing and I am thrilled for you. Just wish I was closer.....I'll fly over you in a few weeks....wish I could stop by
    Honestly, I cried too. Not the day I found out there were twins, that was "hysterical laughter day" - shock I guess?! However, the day after the scan though, I cancelled work and cried a lot. It took several months to start to look forward to our new arrivals - I am now though. And I am getting a little impatient.

    Jimmy and myself have decided that our plan is simply to survive 2011 (as bad as that sounds), we are going to simply exist and keep smiling as much as possible. No other plans (other than a nightmare trip to the UK which we can't really get out of in August!) have been made and no expectations about anything else other than to come out the other side intact....

    Don't know about amazing, I am hoping for being "good enough" - and TBH, I am really most looking forward to the chaos when they all start really interacting and we can return to activities such as camping and trips out as a family again. That's what I think I am most looking forward to - although I do REALLY want to meet these babies now!

    Seriously, stopping by would be fantastic and you would be welcome anytime - maybe I'll do the same one day on a trip from Auckland to London?
    Jules

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