*~*~ Jules' (kiwi_babe) Birth Lodge~*~*

**kiwi_babe** · 02-22-2011, 07:32 PM

Oh and I forgot to post this - the only image we got of the two of them! Despite trying...

Aren't they cute?

Babies are classified as di/di as they each have their own sac and placenta.

**pico83** · 02-23-2011, 09:42 AM

What a story! I can't wait to follow the rest of it.

**Mom2ThreeKiddos** · 02-23-2011, 10:14 AM

Originally Posted by kiwi_babe

Thanks Christy!

I hope I don't scare people too much with what happened, I was just VERY unlucky with my BP and it is an important part of Chloe and my "story" (if that makes sense?).

I guess it's just a confirmation of why people actually need to research the side effects of interventions, especially "routine" ones such as epi's! Someone has to have the complications and we were fortunate not to have any serious long term effects...

Onto more positive times....DD2's birth!

No you didn't scare me and I totally agree. The epidural can have serious side effects. I just wish people realized that.

**Mom2ThreeKiddos** · 02-23-2011, 10:41 AM

Wow your 2nd birth was much better and I can't imagine going in and finding 2 babies in there. LOL

**Allie01979** · 02-23-2011, 11:05 AM

I hated my epi, I hope I can avoid it this time, i mean it was great after I had it, but the effects after the birth took months to wear off, numb knees and weak knee is scary when carrying your newborn, and that's nothing compared to what happened to you.

Your twins are adorable

**heatherliz2002** · 02-23-2011, 11:34 AM

Welcome to your lodge- your story is amazing! Can't wait to hear more about this pregnancy

**kiwi_babe** · 02-23-2011, 03:51 PM

Originally Posted by Mom2ThreeKiddos

Wow your 2nd birth was much better and I can't imagine going in and finding 2 babies in there. LOL

You know what? I STILL can't imagine having a scan and finding two in there...

It's taken me quite a while to come to terms with having two this time. I felt weird that I would miss having that one-on-one time with my newborn IYKWIM? Where there is just you and your baby and you have that total infatuation? And wondering how I will cope with four little ones. I NEVER thought that I would have twins, I have no risk factors for multiples....no family history, no fertility meds, nothing....I guess things are just meant to be?

There's actually a post on the March BB at the start of our pregnancies (you know, where everyone is wondering whether they are carrying twins?) where I commented that I did not want two at a time! Someone, somewhere has a sense of humour

**kiwi_babe** · 02-23-2011, 04:24 PM

This pregnancy I am still primarily under my midwife but have to have a OBS for dual care as I am "high risk". I REALLY wanted another home birth but just couldn't find a MW who would take on the risk...so it is a hospital birth this time. I have come to terms with that now and feel that this is probably the best for me and the babies.

The Obstetrician and myself have an "understanding" - i.e. we are both compromising on certain issues. The one we DO disagree on is epidurals. First time we met (around 23 weeks) I was told that I *had* to have an epidural "just in case" as this is apparently protocol with twin deliveries - this is still an issue between us but I have done everything he asked, met with the anaesthetist, and still do not want one! I have explained that I am aware of the pros and cons and realise that if I need an emergency c-sec that I will need a GA. I am OK with this and it will not be the worst thing in the world if my babies are safe....I have explained repeatedly that I do not want an epidural "just in case" I have the complications from DD1's birth

. It's still an issue but my MW is supportive and agrees with my decision and will be my advocate if the issue is raised during labour when I am busy concentrating on other things.

But the OBS is happy for a vaginal delivery, agrees that I do not have to deliver in theatre and, providing that things are going well, will allow the MW to be in charge while he waits in the maternity unit ("just in case"

). I have agreed to have a lure (heplock?) in place, and have active management of the third stage as I know that my risk of PPH is higher as there are two placental sites. I am happy to compromise on these issues...and of course I will consent to other medical interventions if there is a clinical need and my babies are at risk!

**Mom2ThreeKiddos** · 02-23-2011, 04:57 PM

Oh I would soooo not consent to an epidural after what happened to you. I really hope your ob can be on board with you.

**pico83** · 02-23-2011, 04:59 PM

Sounds like you have a great plan in place! Yay for potentially having your MW there while the OB waits elsewhere.

A friend of mine had twins and the epi compromise offered to her was that they would place it but not give any medicine unless they were going in for a c/s. She eventually opted to get the medication, but I thought that was an interesting option.