Welcome to your lodge!
Look forward to reading the rest of your story.
Little similarity - DH and I are the same ages as you two and we also have a toddler, although slightly older I think, but still made me smile.
I will be crossing my fingers for your natural labor this time.
I was given morphine first to help with the pain. WHAT A MISTAKE!!! (I wish I would have been better informed) All that did was make me feel completely out if it and tired but didn't help at all with the pain. I was throwing up and feeling awful. They eventually gave me an epidural which of course took away all the pain.
I pushed for just over an hour and DS was born at 7:13pm. The cord was wrapped around his neck twice and he wasn't responding so the was quickly whisked away to the nursery. BTW - NO ONE told me what was going on. I had no idea about the cord and was lying there in shock. DH went with DS to the nursery with the pedeatrician and nurses. Thank goodness my mom was there as well. It felt like forever but they finally did return and I was able to start nursing.
DS's blood sugar was low so we had to stay in the hospital for a few days. He was kept in the nursery and brought to me when it was time to nurse. One of the nurses made me feel awful about his blood sugar results and told me that he needed formula because I wasn't able to feed him! I explained that I didn't want him to have formula so she sent me back to my room with a tiny cup and told me to express colostrum (if I could) so he could be fed. I have never felt so worthless in my life. I was pretty much forced to give him formula (I know better now) but kept BF and continued successfully until he was 18 months. I have to thank the LC's at the hospital who stood up for me in the end and helped me with nursing.
I don't think that anything about my birth story is what I had envisioned or wanted. Things seemed to have quickly spiraled out of control and I lost myself. It's not a story I tell a lot of people because I'm not proud of it but the end result was my beautiful little boy who means more than words can say.
This time I am far more prepared and have 3 great midwives!
My midwife and student came by for my first home visit. It was nice and relaxing even though DS fought for my attention the entire time.
They left a home birth kit with us "just in case" and I enjoyed looking through it all. We also discussed my birth plan.
Everything is still looking good but I had some news that I wasn't too happy with. I'm on medication that could have an affect on the baby so we have to stay in the hospital for at least 48 hours after birth. I was really hoping to give birth and come home. I knew that a ped. would have to be there for the birth to check baby's breathing but I thought as long as that went well that we could go home. I'm pretty disappointed and felt like crying after they left......love the hormones!
I still can't believe I'm due in 3 weeks. This pregnancy has flown by so quickly and I really need to get on top of things before it's too late.
Thankfully I picked up a co-sleeper last week so the baby at least has someplace to sleep besides our bed.
Sounds like your ready for this little one! It's always so crazy to actually be at the end, and start setting up stuff for the babe I'm sorry to hear about your extended hospital stay, that's a drag. Is there a reason they think the baby needs to be watched for such a long time? It seems like it'll be obvious in the first 24 hours if there is a problem with breathing?!
Welcome to your lodge! I enjoyed reading your intro. I am sorry your first birthing experience wasn't what you wanted, but I am glad that you are more prepared now and have some great midwives this time around. I hope you get the natural birth and experience that you want.
I'm on antidepressants and my midwife said that withdrawl can happen anytime from birth up until 48 hours so they want to be able to watch for signs in the baby. The medications isn't something that I could stop taking while pregnant. DS didn't have any problems last time but I think they just want to be safe. I know my midwife had mine and my child's best interest in mind so it's not the end of the world, just not my ideal situation.
I forgot to add before that the whole pushing of formula that I mentioned happened after I gave birth to DS got me to thinking and be pro-active this time around. When DS weaned 9 months ago I pumped and froze some breastmilk. I plan on taking it with us to the hospital just in case they try to throw the "you're not producing enough" comment at me again. I know it's not true but I want a backup that they can do nothing about.
I'm not bitter at all......LOL
I really hate how often formula is pushed on mom's, especially new ones. They tried that with my twins and even threatened me saying they would have to keep them at the hospital if I didn't give them forula b/c they were too small. I told them I was NOT going to use formula, they were just fine & sure enough we left the next day lol I'm sorry that happened but WTG for nursing till 18 mo that's fantastic!
I hope this upcoming birth is all that you need & hope it to be
Welcome to your lodge!
I enjoyed your background story and greatly hope that things go better for you this time. I'm sure they will, as you seem to be in good hands.