First off congrats on your son! Second, that was so similar to my unplanned unassisted homebirth. From the sitting on the toilet with the hot flash, to moving to your knees on the floor of the bathroom. It was parallel to my second delivery and such a great birth story to read. I'm so happy things worked out so well for you and way to go mama!
Luke had his (almost) three week midwife appt today. He weighs 10lbs, up from 8lbs 11oz at birth, and is doing great. It was my first time taking the two boys out by myself; everything went well, much to my relief!
You'd think I'd have gotten over the whole "wow, everything is so different this time than it was last time!" thing by now, but no, I'm still amused by how different Luke is from Jacob. The pregnancies, the labours, the deliveries, and now their habits (nursing, sleeping, etc), very little has been the same. They are definitely beautifully unique children!
My in-laws left on Monday. My MIL was here for three weeks, my FIL for just under two weeks, and my two SILs for one week. They helped us move to our new place (happy new year!), which was hugely appreciated. It was fun to have them around for the holidays. MIL was amazing, such an incredible help as far as housework, meals, and entertaining Jacob. I am really glad she was there. I felt like I had a real babymoon with Luke, holed up in our bedroom nursing and napping together while Jacob did fun things like going to the pool and decorating cookies with his Oma.
It was, admittingly, a bit hard to sit by and let MIL do all my housework - she wouldn't let me so much as wash a spoon - while my perfectionist side longed to vacuum my floors or scrub down the bathroom. I also just have a hard time letting other people serve me in that way; it makes me feel guilty. Having her here was a good lesson in letting go and in allowing others to take care of me.
The whole season was so overwhelming for Jacob. Too many people, too many changes, too many houses (they had rented a cottage a few blocks away, so we were hopping between our old house, our new house, and the in-laws' cottage), too much holiday excitement, not near enough sleep. He was not himself at all by the new year. He developed a bad stutter the last couple of days they were here. It took a couple more days after they left, but he seems to be back to his old self again, thankfully.
He's doing really well with Luke, no acting out or signs of jealousy. He loves to kiss him and snuggle with him and talk to him. It's really cute to watch. (Although before our midwife appt today, he did ask if we were leaving Luke with the midwife - so maybe he's not as enamoured with his new brother as he seems! )
It sounds like you guys are doing well. I'm glad you got to have time with your new baby while your MIL took care of things. The pic in your siggy of Jacob holding Luke is really cute. That is funny about him asking if you were leaving Luke with the midwife--I think it is common for older siblings to not understand that the new baby is here to STAY. In the picture book, "Julius, the Baby of the Word" by Kevin Henkes, the older sister Lily keeps asking things like, "After Julius goes away, can I talk like a normal person again?" It is a cute book.