AYELET'S BIRTHING LODGE!!! (Tanismom) - Page 3
+ Reply to Thread
Page 3 of 24 FirstFirst 123456713 ... LastLast
Results 21 to 30 of 232

Thread: AYELET'S BIRTHING LODGE!!! (Tanismom)

  1. #21
    Robinna
    Guest

    Default

    OK that's really good news that you insurance will cover her - what a relief! And I'm so glad you got good support from your previous MW.

    What did Linda say about hospital backup? You know, if you did have a real emergency, you do just go to the nearest hospital whether your MW has priviledges there or not, they'll have an OB. Of course it's a better scenario where your MW has priviledges, but for OB's you'd just get whoever's on call anyway, so I never felt that mattered so much. As long as they'd let her stay with you anyway? My MW essentially becomes a doula in that situation (M was born at a different hospital than my MW works in). So she couldn't do anything "medical" for me, that had to be the nurses and OBs, but she was still there to advocate ( ) and hold my hand.

    eh I lost my train of thought.

    Yay Yoram!!! This was what happened with Stephen, too. As soon as all obstacles were dealt with, he was fine, he was confident, he was lecturing others on the great choice that is homebirth. gotta love it!

    I"m sorry to hear about your grandpa. I lost mine at 34 weeks with Samuel, so he never got to meet his first great-grandchild. mind you, this way, he did get to be there for the birth, which he couldn't've been had he still been tied to his body. That helps a little. But I really understand about the conflict. It's very hard to stay concerned with the world when you have a baby coming really soon!!!

  2. #22
    Prolific Poster tanismom's Avatar
    Join Date
    Nov 2006
    Location
    Israel
    Posts
    1,557

    Default

    yeah, it seems the consensus on husbands getting on board is to have him meet the MW, so that was good.

    Linda also said that if we choose her, she would want to come to my home next week to get familiar w/ the space, help us plan, so forth. So when I told her our concern w/ telling our families, she said to invite them to be there that night so that they can meet her and ask any questions and see that she's a real, qualified person and not some crazy hippie-lady or something... So that was also good.

    About back-up, thanks, now I have s/t to clarify with her. She said that she is backed by a doctor at Overlook Hospital which is about 20 min from us, the only closer one that I would consider going to is not much closer, but that could make a difference. She said that in a real emergency we would just go to the closest hospital. And I DID ask whether she would come with me, to which she answered, (and I like this answer which is why I'm quoting it verbatim) "Yes, of course. I can't guarantee you a homebirth, but I can guarantee you midwifery care. But I will want to clarify with her what her role would be at the hospital, if she would be able to continue as my primary care provider.

    With my Sabi (hebrew for grandpa - what I've always called him) I am going to visit him today, as soon as I finish eating. He is so lucky, b/c he has been involved in the lives of quite a few of his great-grandchildren. At my son's Bris (circumcision, I know it's a hot topic but we do it for religious reasons and that is different that electively deciding that your son should be circed) he was honored as the one to hold the baby during the ceremony (called the Sandak) which he has been able to do for at least 5 of his great-grandsons. So I know he has lived a very fulfilled life. It still doesn't make it easy to see him like this. And then there's my Savta (hebrew for Grandma) who has dementia, so she's just getting increasingly less aware of what's going on and that is sparing in one way, but sad in another.

    I'm gonna go finish eating and psych myself up for going out there. I'm sure there will be more on this later. And in happier news, I will also be able to post about tonight's interview with the other MW.
    ~Ayelet & Yoram
    Tani 7/6/04
    Odeliya 3/8/07
    NJ, USA to Israel 12/29/08
    Yitzchak, 22.6.09
    Asa'el, 14.10.11
    Welcome baby boy!! 26.7.13

    Rambling on at http://milkandhoneymomma.blogspot.com
    facebook and twitterID: ayeletschwell

  3. #23
    Mega Poster Singfourever's Avatar
    Join Date
    Aug 2006
    Location
    small town, ID
    Posts
    3,585

    Default

    Can't wait to hear about the next intrview Ayelet! Things seem to be going great for you and your homebirth, how exciting!
    Sorry to hear about your grandparents. I know how hard that is. I lost both my dad's parents within six weeks a couple summers ago. My grandmother had alzheimer's and went downhill very quickly. My grandfather died soon after, I think, just because he didn't have anyone to worry about and take care of anymore.
    Sarah
    Owen Michael 4/05 Grey Neil 5/07 Alice Katherine 4/6/11

  4. #24
    Prolific Poster tanismom's Avatar
    Join Date
    Nov 2006
    Location
    Israel
    Posts
    1,557

    Default

    Quote Originally Posted by Singfourever
    My grandmother had alzheimer's and went downhill very quickly. My grandfather died soon after, I think, just because he didn't have anyone to worry about and take care of anymore.
    Alzheimer's runs in my grandmother's family. Her siblings who have already died, died of alzheimer's. Apparently, nicotine wards off alzheimer's, so Savta's years and years of smoking spared her that disease. Thank God she hasn't developed any cancer, but she has COPD, emphysema, and dementia... Sorry, that was pretty depressing...

    Here's the good news. I just got back from visiting my Sabi, and I'm so glad I went! He still can't use his voice, b/c he has a thrach in, but he is able to move his lips and we "chatted"! I told him about the baby, he wished me "Mazel Tov" which means good luck, or congratulations. He asked me about Netanel, he was so happy to hear that we are going to the library today b/c Netanel loves books! Medically, he is breathing almost completely on his own and his CO2 levels have gotten really low. That was one of the reasons he wasn't so lucid, so this is really great. And there's hope that he could come home, which is amazing!

    I'm going to get my little bookworm and satiate his reading hunger! See you all after Olivia!!!
    ~Ayelet & Yoram
    Tani 7/6/04
    Odeliya 3/8/07
    NJ, USA to Israel 12/29/08
    Yitzchak, 22.6.09
    Asa'el, 14.10.11
    Welcome baby boy!! 26.7.13

    Rambling on at http://milkandhoneymomma.blogspot.com
    facebook and twitterID: ayeletschwell

  5. #25
    Mega Poster Singfourever's Avatar
    Join Date
    Aug 2006
    Location
    small town, ID
    Posts
    3,585

    Default

    that's great that you had such a good visit! How wonderful that he's still able to enjoy his grand- and great-grandchildren.
    Sarah
    Owen Michael 4/05 Grey Neil 5/07 Alice Katherine 4/6/11

  6. #26
    Posting Addict
    Join Date
    Oct 2006
    Posts
    9,859

    Default

    I am glad to hear you had such a great visit with your Sabi...it's nice to have some good moment/memories with him. And I am so happy that you and Yoram are a team in the homebirth...he sounds like such a sweet, thoughtful man. GL with your next MW visit tonight and with getting your insurance on board.

  7. #27
    Prolific Poster tanismom's Avatar
    Join Date
    Nov 2006
    Location
    Israel
    Posts
    1,557

    Default

    Thank you guys for your support about my Sabi. I am feeling a lot better about that and I know we just have to take it one day at a time, but that visit was really strengthening for me.

    OK. DECISION TIME!

    So here are the details about all three MW choices we have, I think we've settled on which one we want, but I would love to get your feedback. Especially those of you who have a homebirths or even midwife attended births before.

    Choice 1: Lonnie -
    She would be willing to attend my home birth, but not as the primary MW, she has a HBMW (hehe!) whom she has worked with before and who can bill for a home birth so we can go through insurance.
    - she has provided my prenatal care until now.
    - she has the most experience of all three MWs. 30 yrs (28 out-of-hospital in her free standing birth center)
    - she is the only "nurse" mw of the three. The others are CPM, LM, but did not go through nursing training. (this is neither good nor bad, IMO, just a fact.)
    - has children of her own.
    However:
    - she is more comfortable in a birth center/hospital setting.
    - is getting older and prefers not to do waterbirth b/c it is hard for her to reach.
    - My doula, who's 2nd birth Lonnie attended at the birth center - and whom she has "doula-ed" with several times, said that she has a tendency to get impatient with the placenta (that I would have to be firm with her to insist that she allow a gentle afterbirth)
    - she's a bit chatty and nonchalant. Some pple love this, they feel it puts them at ease. I personally want to be paid attention to at my birth, not told stories.
    - backed up at the hospital 45 mins away. When I told her having closer backup would be part of our decision, she said, "why? wouldn't you rather go someplace where they know you?" (yes, but not so far away!)

    Choice #2: Linda
    - Attends HB almost exclusively.
    - Has 16 years experience. Over 400 babies
    - Has children of her own, youngest at home, older ones in hospital b4 she became a MW.
    - lives closer to us than Lonnie
    - is backed at a hospital within 20 min of us
    Main drawbacks:
    - we felt comfortable with her, but walked out with a lot of facts, but not a feeling of how she might be at our birth.
    - seems to be somewhat methodic in her approach to birth

    Choice #3: Olivia
    - Attends HB exclusively
    - lives the closest to us
    - Backed at the same hospital as Linda
    - has a very "go with the flow" attitude about birth and labor.
    - is a much younger, newer MW - has been attending births for 3 years. (This can be either a pro or a con. On the one hand she doesn't have as much experience as the other two, on the other, she is young and raw and she is so enthusiastic about the beauty and spontaneity of birth - I liked that a lot)
    - BIGGIE! She has caught several - and believes strongly in - vaginal breech birth! (in terms of myself, she actually palpated the baby last night and baby is engaged, head down and ROA, so it shouldn't apply to me. But the philosophy is very important to me!)
    - Our energies melded immediately. She made both Yoram and I feel very comfortable about herself, her capability, her attitudes toward birth...

    My only, only concern with Olivia is that she is less experienced in comparison with the other two. She also (b/c she's young) does not yet have children of her own. But after meeting her, I really don't feel that that will make a difference in her ability to relate to me as a laboring mother. She's very in-tuned w/ women and we both really liked her right away.

    What do you think? Go with my gut - even though she has much less experience? Or go with one of the ones with more exp, but wonder how our energies will synergize during labor?
    ~Ayelet & Yoram
    Tani 7/6/04
    Odeliya 3/8/07
    NJ, USA to Israel 12/29/08
    Yitzchak, 22.6.09
    Asa'el, 14.10.11
    Welcome baby boy!! 26.7.13

    Rambling on at http://milkandhoneymomma.blogspot.com
    facebook and twitterID: ayeletschwell

  8. #28
    Mega Poster Singfourever's Avatar
    Join Date
    Aug 2006
    Location
    small town, ID
    Posts
    3,585

    Default

    That's a tough one Ayelet. My first thought is to go with Olivia too, but I'll be curious as to what the other ladies have to say about this one. So great that you have three choices though, I can only hope to be that lucky.
    Sarah
    Owen Michael 4/05 Grey Neil 5/07 Alice Katherine 4/6/11

  9. #29
    Posting Addict Melychang's Avatar
    Join Date
    May 2006
    Location
    Calgary, Alberta Canada
    Posts
    5,074

    Default

    I would go with your gut and the person you are most comfortable with. I personally think that the comfort factor is equally important as experience. But I also value a mw who has actually given birth, I feel like they really know what I will be going through. Good luck with your decision, you have three decent options!
    Melynda
    Mommy to three gorgeous girls
    Ally 22/03/07
    Zoe 01/12/08
    Georgia 04/10/10
    at 6 weeks 22/10/09

  10. #30
    Prolific Poster tanismom's Avatar
    Join Date
    Nov 2006
    Location
    Israel
    Posts
    1,557

    Default

    Quote Originally Posted by Singfourever
    So great that you have three choices though, I can only hope to be that lucky.
    I'm sending you lots of HB option vibes, Sarah!!
    ~Ayelet & Yoram
    Tani 7/6/04
    Odeliya 3/8/07
    NJ, USA to Israel 12/29/08
    Yitzchak, 22.6.09
    Asa'el, 14.10.11
    Welcome baby boy!! 26.7.13

    Rambling on at http://milkandhoneymomma.blogspot.com
    facebook and twitterID: ayeletschwell

+ Reply to Thread
Page 3 of 24 FirstFirst 123456713 ... LastLast

Bookmarks

Posting Permissions

  • You may not post new threads
  • You may not post replies
  • You may not post attachments
  • You may not edit your posts
v -->

About Us | Contact Us | Privacy Policy | Sitemap | Terms & Conditions