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    We went to see "Pursuit of Happyness" last night. These movies should come with warnings for pg women: "warning! you may bawl your eyes out and sob audibly. Please be prepared for this by bringing your own box of tissues!"
    We really enjoyed the movie and it was so good to just get out together and do nothing.

    I would just like to interrupt my post to give you a play-by-play of what is going on upstairs in my son's bedroom. I just put him down for a nap - he's very tired. But he is not sleeping. He is currently singing "rockabye baby" to his dolls, (we changed the last line to "and mommy will catch you, cradle and all" - omg! he's just so cute!

    Ok, so the weekend by my parents' was good. Spending time w/ my grandmother was not nearly as depressing as I had anticipated. It was actually pleasant most of the time. She's a very intelligent woman, which on the one hand makes it sadder that she's so out of it, but it also really makes it interesting, b/c she knows that she's confused and she really tries to understand what's going on around her.
    When she's in the moment she enjoys herself, and thats great! Also, I tried to engage her in conversations that didn't require much memory of who or where she is. It is amazing how much of her actual knowledge is still intact. So we talked about philosophy and lessons from this weeks Bible portion ( a Jewish thing) and she was mostly right on - that was so incredible. She also manages to maintain her sense of humor. She made a few jokes and laughed at things around her that were genuinely funny. And she played with Netanel, even though she couldn't quite figure out her relationship to him and she thought he was a girl! (every time I corrected her, she would say "no, that child is too pretty to be a boy!" - I took it as a compliment!)

    I'm feeling an increase of downward pressure that started this morning... Ericka, can you send me some of the vibes that kept your babies in past 37 wks!! I'm getting an increasingly strong feeling that this baby is getting ready to come out and meet us and I just need her to stay in there for two more weeks!!

    We are meeting our doula, Kim, today for the first time... I'm really excited! I'll let you know how it goes!
    ~Ayelet & Yoram
    Tani 7/6/04
    Odeliya 3/8/07
    NJ, USA to Israel 12/29/08
    Yitzchak, 22.6.09
    Asa'el, 14.10.11
    Welcome baby boy!! 26.7.13

    Rambling on at http://milkandhoneymomma.blogspot.com
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    Quote Originally Posted by tanismom
    We went to see "Pursuit of Happyness" last night. These movies should come with warnings for pg women: "warning! you may bawl your eyes out and sob audibly. Please be prepared for this by bringing your own box of tissues!"
    ITA! We saw it when it first came out and the whole thing really hit home...the sacrifices that good parents make to give their children a better life.

    Glad you enjoyed your "date" and visit with your parents and grandmother...I would totally say her comment about Tani was a complement. Everyone used to think my brother and I were twins and tell my mom what pretty little girls she had, LOL! What are ya gonna do?

    Sending you some "Keep Baking Vibes"...Hope you make it to your 37 weeks.

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    Potty training update:
    Netanel made in the potty all day today except for one pish in his pull-up! YAY TANI!! (And yay me! i want him out of diapers asap!)

    We met w/ Kim tonight, our doula - she got lost on the way here b/c I told her to make a left instead of a right... it ended up being almost a half hour delay! I feel so bad! She's really nice. I don't know that she would have been my first choice as a doula had we been interviewing pple, but she's going to be great and she knows Olivia so I think it will be good. She and Yoram had a good conversation while I set up Tani w/ a movie upstairs. They talked about each of their roles during labor - so that was good.

    I told my parents over the weekend that we had chosen a to have the baby at home. They reacted really well. My father was surprised that he wasn't freaking out about it. He didn't think it was crazy at all. My mother said she would expect it of me, that she trusts me - she said she's not sure that she's thrilled w/ our decision, but she would love to be there. So that was great as far as I'm concerned.

    My IL's are still an issue... Last thurs night we went over there for dinner. We knew we were not going to tell them that night. After dinner, Yoram took Netanel to the basement to play and MIL and I were chatting and somehow we got to the topic of waterbirth (FIL was still sitting at the table, seemingly in his own little world) She had only heard of it and wanted to know what it was, so I explained. I told of the benefits to the laboring mother and I also told her about some of the birth complications that are sometimes easier to handle in the water. As I'm talking about this and explaining why the baby won't drown, etc... I keep catching glances of FIL, his grimace is becoming increasingly horrified! MIL, in the meantime, is almost salivating at how lovely it sounds! Finally, FIL says, with extreme distaste "and Doctors do this?!?!" So I said that yes, a few do, but mostly it is MW's who understand the benefits of such a birth. He huffed and laughed cynically and walk out of the room! Uuuuh, yeah, so we're considering telling MIL separately than him and based on her reaction, asking her to decide whether or not he should be told at all or not!

    We are going to have to tell them, b/c they are expecting to be the ones to come w/ us to the hospital b/c they are retired and available. So every time they tell us that soon they will need directions to the hospital and whatnot, I just keep feeling like I'm lying and I hate that! So we were thinking that maybe we would just email them directions to the "birth" and let them figure out that it will be at our house... I'm not sure that's the smartest thing - but it would be mad funny! (and passive aggressive, but whatever... )
    ~Ayelet & Yoram
    Tani 7/6/04
    Odeliya 3/8/07
    NJ, USA to Israel 12/29/08
    Yitzchak, 22.6.09
    Asa'el, 14.10.11
    Welcome baby boy!! 26.7.13

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    So we were thinking that maybe we would just email them directions to the "birth" and let them figure out that it will be at our house... I'm not sure that's the smartest thing - but it would be mad funny! (and passive aggressive, but whatever... Wink )
    OMG that made me laugh out loud, I am the queen of passive aggressive so that sounds like a really good idea to me lol.

    Glad your family was so supportive (mine would probably have me committed and forcebly make me deliver in a hospital if I chose homebirth).

    I would tell MIL and let her tell FIL, you don't need his negativity in your mind right now.
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    Good morning!

    Ok, so the heading for this story is "POSITIVE VISUALIZATION DOES WORK!!!"

    I didn't want the tension on my head anymore of how the IL's were going to react. Yo was feeling the same way...

    So last night we decided to take the plunge and just call them and get it over with. I was voted to make the call, but Yoram was gonna be on speaker w/ me. (I am already the crazy-hippie DIL, so we figured we might as well just perpetuate the notion)
    So before I called (and you should know just remembering it is bringing back the anxiety that I had last night!!) I said a little prayer and said out loud to Yoram, "I am visualizing your mother's positive response. I even said out loud what I "expected" her to say. Took a deep breath, and dialed.
    Here's the conversation, verbatim to the best of my memory:

    Me: Hi Imma (hebrew for mom, what we call her) so there was something we wanted to tell you, but we wanted to wait until Netanel was asleep.

    MIL: Ok, what is it.

    Me: I'm sure that after our conversation Thurs night you might be expecting this, so we just wanted to let you know that Yoram and I have decided that the best place for us to have this baby is at home.

    MIL: Wow! Oh my! (exactly what I had visualized!) When did you decide this? (she obviously is smiling, but my instinct tells me its a nervous smile)

    Me: we had pretty much decided Thursday morning that we were going to switch to one of the MW's that we had interviewed for this purpose. We are really happy with her.

    Ok, let me summarize a bit for you now: She basically said - quite a few times - that it is our decision and our baby and hopefully everything will turn out well. She then grilled us a little about Olivia, and went into a nervous diatribe about how if she were us, she would find out who else has used Olivia as a MW and speak to them, that we should check her credentials from first hand accounts, that we are inviting a stranger into our home and of course she's not going to tell us any horror stories.... she went on for quite a while. To me - and Yoram agreed - this was her way of letting us know that there is still a way out for us. That if we find some info abt her that makes us uncomfortable, we can back out with dignity. Basically, she's nervous and she needs to express her concern, but I was happy that she didn't do in such a way that made us feel that she was completely against our decision and felt that we were making a mistake.
    I told her that we had decided, after FIL's reaction to the waterbirth convo, that she should be the one to tell him and she laughed and said, "Thanks a lot! Great, now I'm going to have a really interesting night!" At least its not our problem!!

    Yoram and I hung up contented. He knows that his father will find an excuse to call him for something else and then bring up his distaste with our decision, but he's prepared for it, and now we can really just feel settled. Everyone who needs to know knows, and now we can start making plans and setting up the birth space!! YAY!!!

    So the moral of the story is "positive visualization"!!! I'm definitely doing that for the way I want the birth to go. And having money to pay everybody!! (Although insurance will reimburse us, but it won't be for a while)
    ~Ayelet & Yoram
    Tani 7/6/04
    Odeliya 3/8/07
    NJ, USA to Israel 12/29/08
    Yitzchak, 22.6.09
    Asa'el, 14.10.11
    Welcome baby boy!! 26.7.13

    Rambling on at http://milkandhoneymomma.blogspot.com
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    Yea! I am glad you were able to get telling your ILs off your list of things to do...and glad that your MIL will deal with telling your FIL...although I thought the idea of giving them directions to your house would have been great!

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    Oh hon that's fantastic - yay for your MIL, she's awesome!!!

    My mum was really uncomfortable with the homebirth idea at first (she was an l&d nurse so had some of the trust scared out of her) but now "sells" it to everybody she knows. We CAN convert the world! LOL

    xo Robin

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    That is wonderful news! I am so glad that you are getting the homebirth that you wanted with both set of parents (mostly) on board. That must be a huge relief!
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    Wow, that is awesome! I bet you feel like a burden has been lifted, LOL! BTW, I love reading your lodge, you are an inspiration to me!

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    i'm going to be the photographer

    stay baby stay!!!!!
    Shana, mom to Gavriel, Ilan and Nadav, and wife to Ari.
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