Congrats on your lodge and best wishes for your successful VBAC!
Congrats on your lodge! All the best with your VBAC journey. I cannot wait to hear all about it.
Wow 36wks already I can't hardly believe it. I have to say I never thought I would be on a pregnancy board again and I really never thought I would be on a birthing naturally board. What a crazy road this has been.
A little bit about me, I am Carla 30yrs old and have been Married for almost 8yrs to Kevin (29). We met in college and have been inseperable ever since. I worked as a Zookeeper for five years until about 20wks into my twin pregnancy now I am a SAHM and Kevin has been working Construction since I met him and he currently works for my family's commercial construction company as a Superintendent. Kevin and I also have a side business, we set up and maintain saltwater aquariums, I do most of the maintenance stuff and Kevin does the setups, he is an AMAZING carpenter and does a lot of custom cabinetry on the side.
We have two amazing kids, Ainsley and Brayden my 4 year old boy/girl twins. We found out we were pregnant 3yrs into our marriage, they were a bit of a suprise but we had been discussing when to start our family around that time so it was a happy suprise. My pregnancy was very very rough with the twins, I was sick from before my missed period until at least 16wks. I had horrible trouble with my siatic nerve for most of the pregnancy also. At 20wks I had my first PTL scare and had to quit my job and "take it easy" I had an irritable uterus and it took very little to set it off. I spent most of my time on the couch. I made it to 32wks without too much trouble (a couple stays in the hospital to get meds to stop contractions). At 32wks my bloodpressure started rising, luckily it stayed down as long as I layed down, so now I was on strict bedrest until my twins were delivered. I made it to my scheduled c-section at 38wks without much trouble (they were both breech so there was really no other option than c-section) At the time a natural birth with twins was the farthest thought from my mind, in fact I was sort of relieved that I didn't have to make a choice and could plan for the c-section.
The c-section went well, but the twins probably could have spend another week in the womb, they were on the small side 5lb 3oz and 5lb 13oz. and had trouble maintaining temps. We had to supplement with formula in the hospital due to size and the fact my milk took 6days to come in (blame it on the c-section) This set up a cycle of trouble for breastfeeding which was horribly dissapointing to me, as I come from a large family, 5 siblings , and we were all breastfed. I only breastfed for about three months and that was with supplementing. My recovery from my c-section was not bad, but long, I would say 6 months until I felt 100%.
I will be back with the story of this pregnancy later.
Ainsley and Brayden 3-26-03
I can't wait to share this journey with you! It must be such a relief having a singleton after going through a twin pregnancy and birth?!
Yayyyyy for your lodge!!! I can't wait to share your VBAC journey! It was a hard emotional journey for me so if you have any questions or need some specific btdt VBAC support I am always here for you! Just say the word!
Sarah (mum to Max & Billy)
Wow Carla!!! I can't believe you're 36 weeks already!!!!! Woohoo!!!! Do you have an OB or a MW??? Are you planning a hospital birth or home?
on to this pregnancy saga
DH and went back and forth for several years after the twins were born about having more kids, he was pretty adamant that he was happy with our family the size it is and the pregnancy was so difficult on me he didn't want me to go through that again. Also since I had spontaneous fraternal twins my first pregnancy then my chances of having a repeat set was VERY high, like 1 in 12 chance compared to a 1 in 100 chance for a normal person. Scary odds to me lol. The biggest kicker to our problem was birth control, Due to health problems on every single form of hormonal birth control I couldn't do it anymore. I also have a sensitivity to diaphrams and too much condom use (give me yeast infections TMI) So we had to use NFP with some condom use during the "iffy times". We are still not sure how this baby was concieved honestly, we don't recall a condom breaking and there was a full 7 days between unprotected sex and when I ovulated.
So it was right before Christmas and I decided to go ahead and sell my cribs and baby furniture for some Christmas money and of course we were done having kids We sold one crib and I had a lady coming to look at the other crib and changing table, but I had a strange dream that night, a pregnancy dream lol, the only time I EVER have erotic dreams is when I am pregnant, so one a whim I took a test (I was about 12dpo) and holy cow it was postive. I was freaking out! I called DH and told him "WE HAVE A PROBLEM, I took a pregnancy test and it is positive" then I hung up on him before he could even speak because my little sister had come over to babysit for me. AHHHHH. I called DH right back and he was so reasuring and told me we make beautiful babies and we would talk later. I was a mess the rest of the day. DH was my rock during the first trimester because I get pretty bad morning sickeness and he would reasure me every night that things would be okay, after 12wks I started feeling good and my outlook really started changing (especially when I found out it wasn't twins again lol). I started to be excited about it. It is still hard sometimes because of the business we are trying to run and how it all falls on DH, but we will get through it, we always do.
Ainsley and Brayden 3-26-03
How I wound up wanting to birth naturally:
When I found out I was pregnant I think I knew from the beginning I wanted to VBAC, and when I want to do something I research the heck out of it, so in all my research on VBAC and birth the evidence is pretty clear that the safest way to birth a baby and not wind up with a c-section is to have a midwife and try to do it as natural as possible. I did go to my OB from my twins for my first appt (to check for twins again), but did not get good VBAC vibes from her at all. So on to searching for a midwife. I found one that I really wanted to use, she was a CNM, but did homebirths and had hospital privledges. When I called and talked to her I really thought it would work out, but right before our first meeting she called me and said her backup OB's were giving her trouble about VBAC patients and she didn't want me to get up to delivery and not get my VBAC. So I talked to a local Doula group and got some recommendations, I really do like my current midwife, she works in a OB group and delivers at a hospital only, but does everything she can to leave birth alone as long as things are going well. She has agreed with all of my requests so far so I really feel I have a pretty good deal, my hospital is VERY natural birth friendly and baby friendly. Homebirths attended my midwives are a felony in my state (you have to go unassisted if you want a homebirth) and there are no birthing centers because of the law also. So my choices are very limited.
I have a doula who is wonderful she has been a doula for many years and came with great references from previous clients. She is also a massage therapist and that has been nice too! The pregnancy has been great, absolutely nothing wrong. Baby is head down (although facing sideways right now) low in my pelvis and I am having a lot of BH contractions.
Ainsley and Brayden 3-26-03