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Welcome to your lodge!!!!

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Christa!!!! I'm SO excited for you!!! :bighug:

Welcome to your lodge hun!

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:woohoo: Congrats!!!

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Welcome to your lodge! Biggrin

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OMG Drake, thank you so much!! I feel so bad because I only lurk here, but hopefully I will have more time in the coming days/weeks now that I am not working....

OK so... I am Christa (31), my DH is Bill (43) and we have a 3yo son Benjamin. I am expecting a second son we've decided to name Evan. He is the baby I conceived last year following a m/c in October, so I am trying to view the discomfort as a blessing! Wink

I had a pretty much natural birth with Benjamin other than Pitocin augmentation, which was used because my water had already broken and natural methods (walking, nipple stimulation) didn't work on the "timeline." I have to say though, the nurses and dr. respected my wishes for a natural birth as much as they could, so I'm returning to that hospital. I know my whole family will be taken care of there.

These days I am trying not to get TOO excited about the following:

- Pelvis feeling like it's going to split open. Evan dropped about 10 days ago, but just since Friday his head seems to be really wedged in there and it hurts to walk.
- Mucusy chunks (but no bloody show).
- "Trickles" (amniotic fluid?? It was a lot more obvious with Benjamin!)
- A combination of BH contrax and cramping... sometimes regular, sometimes not, always goes away.
- Sort of an instinctive focus on birthing, and an overwhelming desire to rest.

All of this has been happening with greater frequency since Thursday. Benjamin was an early baby so I'm kind of hoping Evan will be too... however I'm working the most on trusting him and my body to know when it's time. Wink

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Congratulations on your lodge, Christa! You're almost there Smile

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Congrats and welcome to your lodge!!

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Welcome to your lodge...can't wait to read up on everything that is happening...

Jen

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Wow Christa, I can't believe it's time for your lodge already. It sounds like your body is already gearing itself up for the big day.

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Hey everyone deserves a lodge, I couldn't be the only pregnant lodge. I hear you on the groin pressure. I hope it means labor is on its way for you.

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:woohoo: congratulations on getting your lodge!

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Hi Christa! Welcome to your lodge - it doesn't sound like your very far off from holding this baby in your arms!

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yippeee another lodge...congrads

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Hi Christa and congrats on your lodge! Look forward to following your journey towards holding little Evan in your arms!

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Today was fun... got a taste of bedrest for 2 hours. About 2 hours after I woke up, my hands and feet swelled and DH thought my face looked puffy too. I should have just laid down but I was kinda hoping I would be brought in Wink so I called. However, laying down per dr.'s orders brought the swelling down. Gotta love conservative drs. Wink

However, then I got overwhelmingly exhausted in the afternoon and HAD TO sleep. Between that and the pelvic pressure limiting my activities, I am sooo not fun for my poor bored little boy - depending on how it goes this week, I may end up having Grandma over a few times. Sigh.

Oh, and tonight I'm getting semi-regular BH contrax. More fun with almost-labor! LOL

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Sorry about the swelling,but glad it went down. Hopefully that almost labor will turn into the real thing soon.

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Glad you are doing better.

Welcome to your lodge.

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Oooh! You've got a lodge!!

Trickles for me when I was late in pregnancy with Sam were just incontinence :oops: I bought poise pads Lol

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Congrats on the lodge...sounds like all is well!!!

Jen

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I'm so excited for you. Easy labour vibes to you! :vibes: :vibes: :vibes: :vibes:

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Congrats on your lodge, Christa! It sounds like your body might be gearing up for your big day. It must be challenging to balance the demands of your son and the demands of your body. Hopefully Grandma can come over and take care of your son for a little bit so that you can get some well deserved rest!

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Congrats on your lodge! Here's to an easy labor! Hope the swelling stays away!

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Thanks everyone!! I am going to be doing a lot of walking tomorrow (shopping and then trick-or-treating with DS if I'm up for it)... I figure if that doesn't trigger labor then I'm definitely not ready. LOL

One thing that does have me a little anxious is how easy DS's birth was. Even with Pitocin, my active phase of labor was really only about 3 hours. Pit gave me a hard and fast transition and then pushing only took 20 minutes... but some of that was DS's small size. He was just 5lbs. 4oz. at 37w (and came out all at once, so I still tore).

At my 32w u/s the tech estimated Evan's size at 5lbs. 4oz.! Now I know third trimester u/s can be notoriously "off" for size/weight estimates, but I'm still a little nervous about how long this might take after all. Can anyone share any similar experiences?

One other thing that's been on my mind... my quad screen result returned 1/61 odds of Down Syndrome. The u/s's turned up no markers, but I know they only find about 60% of cases. I'm a little nervous that something will be wrong after all... a Down's-related defect or something, KWIM?

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Just jumping in here...are you wondering about size and tearing??? My first was 6lbs. 13oz.~I had a second degree tear. My second was 8 lbs. and I had exactly the same second degree tear. My first labor was 20 1/2 long hours....second was 5 hours.
I don't think that you have anything to worry about as far as length of labor. MOST of the time, unless some major complication were to happen, second labors are shorter.
What were the reasons that your quad screen came up so high if they saw nothing on the u/s? Did they give you the specifics? Really, try not to worry about that too much...those tests are notorious for false positives.

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Actually I don't care as much about tearing - I recovered from that OK. It was more about the length of labor, extended pushing time, etc. Just an irrational fear, really - like DS's birth was TOO easy! KWIM?

My quad screen was high because of the chemicals found in my blood. AFP was on the low side, HCG high, UE3 normal, Inhibin-A very high. Those ratios indicate not just Down's, but also pre-e. (Interestingly, and quite anecdotally, my cousin got a screen positive for Down's and then had to deliver her DS at 30w due to severe pre-e.) So those numbers led the drs. to recommend a Level II u/s, which turned up no markers.

I wouldn't say I am "worried" about it... just trying to prepare for the possibility, KWIM? (But thank you!)

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Totally understandable...thanks for the info on the quad screen. I never had one so I'm really not familiar with how they work.
I think that you were blessed with a short labor...and should be ready for a second short labor. Good for the Level II being great!

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Congrats on your lodge!

I hear you on the concerns/fears/worries - they never stop, do they? Smile Try not to stress though (I know, easier said than done) you need to focus on positive things in the days to come so you're prepared for (a very short) labor and delivery! Biggrin

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Welcome to your lodge! Smile

I agree that a longer labor is unlikely, but prob not a bad idea to be prepared. I hope that all the walking does something for you tonight if Evan is ready to come meet the world! Smile

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I think I'd be nervous about the Downs as well. Chances are strong that he will be healthy, but pregnant women are notorious for worrying! Wink

A short labor again would be great. Your body did it once before, so it should probably do the same again...

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Well, it's time for me to relax about an early baby. LOL Seriously... for some reason I had in my head (going back months ago, even before I was pg) that I would have an October baby, but I find it highly doubtful he'll arrive in the next hour and a half! Wink I'm just going to TRY to enjoy this time - despite the bruised rib... and the allover backache... and the pelvic soreness... and the inability to move... LOL

Tomorrow is my 37w appt. My aunt is coming with me and I think I'll try to let my DS hear his brother's h/b. He's been kind of freaked out by the movement so hopefully the sound at least will interest him!

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Had a great 37w appt.! BP was 120/82 - the highest it's been. It's been consistently in the 110/60 range so I would not be surprised if labor started in the next week or so (had the same creeping BP with my DS). Better yet, my GBS test came back negative! No IV in labor! Wink

DS loved hearing his brother's h/b so I'm glad I did that with him. I can't wait for them to meet. Smile

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Yay for a good appointment and being GBS negative. That is interesting about your BP since mine has also been slightly higher at my last appointments. Hope you are feeling better. I am sure your baby will be just perfect. My mom was so worried about Down's with me even though she had a negative amnio, she said that was the first thing she asked. So I understand that fear, but I am sure all will be fine.

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Awesome appt! Smile Hmmm, I'll have to pay more attn to my bp next time around, and see if that goes for me too, it would be interesting to know. Aand WOOHOOO on a neg gbs! That is great!

And as for jsut trying to enjoy the rest of your pg with all of the other things going on in your body: Just remember that this is the end of the time when it is jsut you and your little one sharing your body, and the last of the time when s/he will rely solely on you for everything- so special, I half envy all of my pg friends, because your body is doing such a wonderful thing... Smile

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Just wanted to drop in and say congrats on your lodge. I'm glad all is going well for you, and hope your near the end of your journey. I don't have any experience yet with length of second labors, but I'm sure you'll do great no matter what!

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Thanks, girls. Kasey - I know you're right and I've been trying to keep your words in mind this week - my back is sooooo sore! My ribs are still bruised from coughing and I know it's harder for the muscles to heal because I'm so big. It would be sooo tempting to "evict" Evan for my own convenience, but ultimately I know it's not best for either of us (also trying to remind myself that DS was hypoglycemic when he was born at 37w). So I'm trying to hang in there.

As for shorter labor - I honestly don't know what kind of laborer I am, but I suspect I would've gone a lot slower had it not been for the Pit augmentation. After my water broke my contrax went nowhere for a number of hours - I got to the hospital still solidly in first-stage labor, way too early. That's why I'm thankful that I'm GBS- this time, because it will give me a longer time to establish my own pattern!

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OK. Someone please tell me that I will have renewed energy during labor and I will be able to do this. I am SO freaking worn out from all this muscle pain! I actually pulled an abdominal muscle last night just trying to turn over in bed. How stupid is that??

I feel like it's all my fault because I let my workout routine slide during this pregnancy... didn't even walk much (not that DS would let me; he hates riding in his stroller). Now I feel like an old lady every time I get up to move. My whole stomach is crampy and tense and it's so hard to separate that from contrax (yes, even the BH ones).

Sorry, just having a whiny day. Sad I just need some encouragement, ladies.

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You will totally have energy when the big time comes! I broke a rib 3 days before my due date. You WILL find a way!

:bighugs:

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I hear you on the low energy, but I am sure when the time comes that adreniline will kick in. It is amazing what our bodies are capable of when they have to be.

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Thanks so much, girls. That's all I needed to hear. Smile Erika, I remembered that you said you'd broken a rib coughing, just didn't realize it was so close to when you gave birth!

I popped a couple Tylenol and had a long nap this afternoon. That helped soooo much! Must remember to take it easy and REST!

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I took some Tylenol with Coedine b/c I hadn't slept in three nights. i do know that if the reg. tylenol isn't helping enough you can take Tylenol PM at the end safely.

I'm glad you were able to get some rest - our bodies are amazing int he final hour! you WILL find your strength.

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Hope you are feeling a little better today. Other than the pulled stomach muscle, it sounds like you are healthy. Sounds like you are impatient for this to be over - totally understand that feeling.

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How are you feeling? I was just thinking to my self today that if I feel like this when I go into labor I don't think I'll be able to do it natural. I sure hope your finding that renewed strength. Let us know how you are when you have a chance, and rest up when ever you can.

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I DO feel a lot better, thanks for asking. Mainly because I slept on our couch last night! It has very comfortable foam cushions that supported me so my back didn't have to do so much work. Also, when I had to roll over, I was able to pull on the back for leverage rather than use those muscles. The result - much less back pain and noticeably reduced rib pain. And - more energy for me today!

The one thing that bummed me out was how much I missed cosleeping with my DS. I missed waking up to his little face and feeling him snuggle with me (which is rare). However, I know the arrangement is temporary - we'll be cosleeping with the baby too (in his crib) and also this way he'll be used to my non-presence when I'm overnight in the hospital. It probably is best, but it's like any other "independence" milestone (weaning esp.) - bittersweet, KWIM?

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I can totally relate! the couch has been much more support for me as well lately and we have been going through weaning and it has definately been harder on me than DD. You'll have a baby soon to snuggle and dynamics will change - but your son will always be there in different roles!
Glad to hear you got some rest!

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Thanks Erika! The last two mornings I have gotten up before him and have been able to go upstairs and sit with him as he wakes up. Smile It's not the same and I can tell he misses me, but it's a better start to the day than him freaking out that I'm not there! He has enough change coming in his life!

So can anyone shed some light on this... lately no matter what I do (stand up, walk, bend over) it triggers a strong BH contraction. Stops as soon as I rest. I haven't timed to see how long it lasts - mostly because after two weeks of BH contrax, I'm cynical LOL - but should I? Or is it just another "sign" that likely means not much other than that I'm getting closer?

ETA another question... this baby is so low that (TMI?) I can feel how bowed outward my perineum is whenever I wipe! Does that mean anything for labor and delivery (speed in particular)?

Sorry if these are really naive questions! It is just all so different from when I had my DS - he dropped around 34w but he wasn't this low, and also I pretty much jumped right into labor with him - lost my plug, water broke, and ctx started all at the same time. None of this 2 weeks of BH! Blum 3 Thanks for any insights!

Another ETA - I hope no one thinks I'm trying to rush things! I'm impatient in terms of meeting this boy and moving forward with "life," but my dr. were to offer induction at Friday's appt., I'd turn it down. I do think my body "knows" what it's doing in terms of all this prep and would not want to push it before it's ready - for instance if this is a big baby, maybe he's so low to help my pelvis get ready to birth him. As I found with my older boy, labor will happen when it happens. Unfortunately I am also an Type A information junkie and trying to "plan." LOL

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As for timing the BH - I wouldn't... I am an information junkie as well, but timing seems like a big waste of time and someting to dwell on. My MW always told me - "If youa re walking aorund wondering if you are in labor...then keep walking around, you're not there!" I like to think I control many things in life - but for me birt is not something I even consider controlling. It's always been a very "let go" kind of thing for me. In all honesty it doesn't matter how long the BH are lasting.

The pelvic bowign thing - it's probably b/c it's a subsequent pregnancy and you are feeling it more b/c your muscles have BTDT and are stretching more readily. Hopefully it will make for a fast labor for you!!

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Thanks again Erika, for being the voice of reason. Smile I love what your MW said. I guess part of me is a little (irrationally) worried that I'll ignore "real" ctx because I'm so used to BH ones by now. We live an hour away from our hospital, so if this is to be fast, I really hope to avoid a car delivery... LOL!

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Yep I agree with Erika on the timing. My mw is also not a believer in timing. I was worried about the same thing with all the BH's and crampiness, but then I had a real contraction and was like Okay, I'll know. As to the lowness hopefully that is a good sign, I thought with secound pregnancies they drop much closer to delivery than firsts. Good luck.

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LOL - he started dropping at 34w, each week he has been more solidly engaged in my pelvis (at least he seems visually to be dropping lower and lower). I guess it is yet another "depends on the woman/pregnancy" thing!

I was thinking more about my impatience and I realized it has much more to do with anxiety than anything else. My DS was born at 37w at 5lbs. 4oz. Came out all in one push after 25min. of pushing - I am sure that had as much to do with Pitocin as it did with his small size and lack of shoulders! I am anxious that this will be a big baby (my father was on the big side, and late) and I will have a much harder labor/delivery with him - even as much as I know and as prepared as I am!

Guess I just lack faith - when I was having DS I was too focused on what I was doing to speak up for myself (I'm a terrible multitasker) and DH isn't really that great at speaking up either. Well, I have my 38w appt. tomorrow, so I will get more info then after my internal, etc.

I guess because this is more than likely my last baby, I want the experience to be as wonderful as it was with my older DS. I would hate for it to become a traumatic birth or c/s situation somehow - that has been a fear throughout. KWIM?

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I can understand about he car ride thing. before we figured out a homebirth for the twins I had a lot of anxiety o not wanting to go to early - but not wanting to be stuck in the car either (we are 30 min. from the hospital) With Olivia I wasn't convinced I was actually having the baby until I was pushing lol and by the time the MW arrived she was only there about an hour and a half before Olivia made her debut. Thinking back if I had been planning a hospital birth - there was a point where I was so uncomfortable that I slept upright on the couch it was about 11 pm. I slept from 11 till about 5:15- 5:30 before becoming so uncomfortable I wanted to get up and get in the tub and was pushy by 6:00am. If I had needed to go to the hospital I probably should have gone around midnight/1:00.

There is info (and it may be a little late for this) on learning how to check yourself or teaching DH to help you do it. Just a thought

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Well, I did NOT have an internal! I was kind of surprised (she offered but I didn't take it, which she was perfectly fine with). I just didn't want to get my hopes up. She did say that with my long ride to the hospital, she doesn't want me to wait *too* long. Totally going to have to play that by ear. I had a good pattern with DS which completely went away at the hospital 3 hours after it started. So we'll see. She did say there's no particular timetable at this hospital, even once water has broken (unless you are GBS+). Even I am surprised by the minimal intervention I am facing. LOL

I asked her (out of curiousity) how long she'd be willing to let me go past my EDD. She goes by ACOG guidelines!! Is fine with me waiting as long as I want "as long as I'm OK with it" up to 42w... then I guess we'd start talking. But she really doesn't think I'm likely to go that long. I HOPE NOT. LOL

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