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Tell us more about yourself and your pregnancy!
Woohoo!!!!! Thanks! I've been watching and waiting! I'll have to wait until I have a bit of time to give my story.... Tuesday probably
Congrats Connie! Look forward to hearing your story!
I'm looking forward to getting to know you better Connie. Congrats on your lodge.
Connie, I can't wait to read about you! Congrats on your lodge!
Connie, congrats on your lodge!! Can't wait to read your story
Looking forward to hearing your story! Congrats on your lodge!
I started typing up everything in Microsoft Word I wanted to include in an "intro," and it's grown VERY long!!! So I will break it down into multiple "first" posts The first two are ready so they are coming....
Okay, here goes!
I’m Connie and I’m 32. My DH Jesse is 30. We’ve been married for 10 wonderful years! We met at a city bus stop right off the college campus where we both lived. I don’t remember who started the conversation but we soon found out we were both in the process of changing to the same major. Our conversation continued on the bus for the mile till the bus got to my stop. He asked for my phone number to “go out for coffee sometime.” I almost said no, but then I changed my mind and gave it to him. I figured going out for coffee was non-threatening, kind of a getting-to-know-each-other type of meeting. At that time I was heartbroken over losing the only guy I had ever really loved after a few years of off and on dating and had sworn off dating for a while. I do remember telling a friend that day though that I had met someone who I had a feeling was going to be a really good friend
Jesse called me the next night and we talked ALL night! Six hours straight! That first week he was such a great friend to me. He would let me cry on his shoulder about my lost love, my family, whatever, and he would just listen and encourage me. And he did all this knowing from the beginning that I didn’t want to be in a relationship anytime soon!
We met on October 6th, we started dating on the 13th, and he proposed on the 31st! So much for avoiding relationships for a while LOL We got married October the next year.
We both ended up temporarily leaving college for a while soon after getting together. I did a correspondence course in day care and worked at a day care for a while. Jesse went back to college a semester here and there. Eventually we both ended up back in college.
Through all this time, we both wanted kids, but planned to hold off until we both graduated and he had a stable job. Our hope was always that I would be able to be a SAHM. I graduated first (2002) and got a job as a full-time tutor at a low-income (Title I) elementary school working with kindergarteners.
The summer of 2004 my nephew was born. I remember us going to the hospital that night to see him and at that point I knew I was ready for one of my own! I didn’t say anything to Jesse yet though, because he was only a couple months from graduating and we had agreed to wait. I soon found out that seeing my nephew had brought about the same feelings in him as it had in me, and we decided to stop preventing anything from happening. He graduated, got a job, and soon after we started TTC. I didn’t chart or take my temps, but I did a lot of reading and my best friend gave me all her NFP books.
Fast forward to fall 2005 – I was frustrated with not being pregnant yet. I was ready to quit my job. Just the sight of a pregnant woman or a baby would send me into tears. I started wondering if we were able to conceive at all. You see, Jesse was born with multiple severe birth defects. He spent most of his early years in the hospital having corrective surgeries. The only problems we know of that he still has today have to do with his vision – he sees 20/300 in his good eye, is almost completely blind in the other, and has no peripheral or night vision. But he had never had a sperm count or any other reproductive tests done. Add to that my somewhat irregular cycles. After so long of trying, I was really starting to doubt... At the time I was taking dong quai to help regulate my hormones, but I could only take them for the first couple weeks of my cycle – I knew if I took them while pregnant before I knew it, I could end up with a miscarriage. I stuck out that school year, but only worked half-days.
Fast forward to summer 2006 – I started having problems that seemed to be thyroid-related. My mom has hypothyroidism and a lot of my symptoms mimicked hers. I did a lot of research online and everything seemed to point to my thyroid. But I never felt at peace about getting tested. My mom’s thyroid always tested normal, but a low dose of Synthroid makes a big difference with her. The doctor had put her on it despite her tests all coming back fine, figuring that she was hypo- and it just wasn’t showing up.
I had been going to a local natural health store for a couple years. Because of them, I hadn’t been on antibiotics for quite a while (even with sinus infections!), and I was feeling much better than I had in a very long time! So I went there to see if they had anything natural to stimulate my thyroid, figuring I would try that before having to risk going on Synthroid for the rest of my life. As always, they wouldn’t recommend a supplement without going through my list of symptoms etc first. When I told them everything, they recommended I do a hair analysis. They said that some mineral deficiencies could cause or mimic hormone dysfunction. So I agreed to the hair analysis.
When I got the results back a couple weeks later, it showed I was very anemic! I was surprised, since I didn’t have a lot of the typical anemia symptoms. They started me on an iron regimen and in less than a week, all my “low thyroid” symptoms disappeared! I felt COMPLETELY different! I found out that if you’re anemic, it messes with a lot of your hormones. So my thyroid was likely not functioning properly, but only as a result of not having enough iron. I still can’t help but wonder what would’ve happened if I had gone straight to the doctor!
Thanksgiving week I had been on the iron for about 3 weeks. I was feeling bad, and my period was a few days late. Those things usually go together – feeling bad from the PMS, and an irregular cycle! Almost without fail, my period comes within 2 days of me doing a pregnancy test. So I did what I usually do – I took a test to make it come sooner, or at least seem that way I stood in the bathroom and watched the stick do its thing. Lalalalalalalalala, watch and wait, lalalalalalalalala. I looked down. Surely those weren’t TWO lines I saw?! I looked away. I looked back. Still saw two lines!
So what did I do? I ran in the bedroom where Jesse was and asked him to turn on the light where he was sitting. I handed him the stick and asked how many lines he saw. He said one. I told him to look at it under the light. He looked again and said two and he gave me this look… Before he could say anything, I blurted out “that’s what I thought” and took the stick back and headed to the living room. My mom was living with us at the time and she was asleep on the futon in there. I woke her up and told her I needed her help with something. She said okay… I said “here, you need your glasses and a flashlight” and handed them to her. At this point she was probably wondering what the heck was going on! LOL So I handed her the stick and asked how many lines SHE saw. Because, I still wasn’t believing at this point that there really were 2 lines! As soon as she looked and said two, her whole face lit up!
Jesse tells me that he always wondered how he would find out I was pregnant. “How many lines do you see?!” was NOT even close to any of the possibilities in his head! LOL But we were THRILLED!!! After all that time, it had been a problem with MY body, not his, that had kept us from conceiving! It turns out that I had gotten pregnant my first cycle after starting the iron – almost exactly 2 weeks from my last period.
What a neat conception story! I am really glad you got your thyroid under control on your own -- I hate endocrinologists!
(The rest of the story is coming later, maybe today, maybe tomorrow.... I think I gave y'all enough to read for now )
Awesome Connie! That is so exciting I am glad you got things figured out. Our bodies really are complex and trying to figure them out baffling sometimes! I am looking forward to the next 'installment'!
Hope you are feeling well! I've enjoyed reading your lodge so far, I hope I can stay caught up!
Okay, so I still owe y'all the next installment, but I haven't had a chance to get to it quite yet! Maybe after the weekend....
For the past 2 days I've been having what I guess are some more intense BH. Whenever I'm standing up, my stomach feels tight, and when I touch it, it's definitely hard! Then when I sit down, it gets better. I don't know if it's BH or just him running out of room in there! So far it's a little annoying, but not painful or anything.
The heartburn is another thing altogether! I woke up with it during the night last night (again) even after taking a Pepcid. It seems like anything I eat or drink the past couple days is giving me heartburn. Coinciding with these more intense BH or whatever it is. I wonder if this baby is just growing again and he's reached the point where he's really pushed my stomach into my lower throat LOL Jesse and I both think my stomach looks bigger than it did at the beginning of the week too....
Hey Connie - I think we had a growth spurth as well. I am definitely poking out there! And I can totally sympathize about the heartburn - I had to get the Tums out the other day even!
Connie - I look forward to reading more about your pregnancy - your stories are great
I have been having the baby pressing on my stomach lately too - not acid/heartburn yet - but reflux and burping.... It's so annoying! i hope that you get some sleep and no heartburn tonight!
Oh, I hate the heartburn! I hope he moves down a bit for you soon! Looking forward to the next installment!
Bad recipe for this weekend - everything with the pediatrician dropping us + not nearly enough sleep! Friday night we went to my best friend's house and I ended up staying up all night. I mean, the sun was up when we left! Then when we got home it was at least another hour before I went to bed because DH and I were in a deep discussion. I did get some sleep though.
Friday night I had what I guess were some intense BH while we were gone. They didn't really have a stop or start, although they did get better and worse. I was so wishing I had my birthing ball with me to sit on for a while! They were bad enough that I had to consciously breathe through them sometimes. And some of them radiated down into my pelvis for the first time. Maybe they were starting me dilating/effacing??? Once I went to sleep, they went away. Yesterday they started up again, at about the same time of day as Friday and the days before that.
Last night was pretty rough. I woke up every hour to hour and a half to go to the bathroom, and each time I got up I was hurting! I couldn't stand up straight. Then I'd get to the bathroom and go a bit, but I still hurt a bit afterwards. That was a first! Usually once I empty the bladder I feel MUCH better. I woke up hot off and on, couldn't stay comfortable, and when I woke up today I still have the BH! This is the first time I've woken up with them. I'm hoping they'll get better if I can get a good (or at least decent ) night's sleep tonight!
Okay, enough whining! LOL Off to church!
Sorry that you are so uncomfy Connie, but perhaps things are moving in the right direction for you?? I'm hoping your body is progressing!
Today turned out to be more interesting than I thought it would be!
I had my 37-wk appointment this morning. It was supposed to be one of those 10-minute ones -- blood pressure, urine sample, weigh-in, measure, listen to the heartbeat, do I have any questions, go home. I didn't sleep good AGAIN last night (acid reflux this time), so I was planning on going home after my appointment and going straight back to bed. I didn't eat breakfast because I wanted to be able to go back to sleep w/o acid waking me up again.
I got there, weighed in (lost a few pounds from last week ), and they took my blood pressure. It was high. The nurse checked my urine for protein (there was none) and put me in an exam room and had me lay down and told me she'd be back in a while to recheck it. Before she made it back in, my doctor came in and did my measurements and the heartbeat, both of which were good He left and I waited a while longer for the nurse. When she got there, she was totally apologetic and said she had forgotten to come back! She's always so nice and I felt bad for her because she felt so bad about forgetting. So she checked my BP and it was still high. She got another nurse to come check it. Still high. The second nurse wanted to move me to the NST room since there was a comfortable recliner in there instead of "this hard table that you can't relax on" (her words). By this time I had baby-on-bladder syndrome so she told me to take care of that first and then they'd move me. When I walked out of the bathroom, she met me in the hall and told me to go back to the room I had been in because my Dr. wanted to do an internal check. Uh oh. This was NOT looking good!
He did a bit more thorough check than last week and said I was not dilated or effaced at all yet -- still high and tight and closed. He was worried about the high BP even though I had lost weight and had no protein in my urine. He started talking to me about the possibility I had toxemia and I started getting scared! He said he had done the internal check to see if I did have it what the possibilities would be of inducing me. Which of course he said he wouldn't do because it wouldn't work since my body was nowhere near ready. He started talking about possibly sending me to a high-risk doctor for the next week or so to make sure I was well-monitored while he'll be out (he's having shoulder surgery tomorrow!). He said worst-case-scenario would be that my BP would go up too high and he'd have to do a c-section which he said he doesn't like to do in ANY woman. He said up until that point he would let me decide whether to risk the high BP and try to still deliver naturally. Then he left the room for me to get dressed.
At this point I was in tears! What happened to my 10-minute routine appointment? I don't know who was more surprised about the turn of events -- my doctor or me! He was totally NOT expecting me to have any problems since I hadn't thus far.
So I got dressed and the nurses told me to wait in there because he needed to talk to me again. He came back in and said he had taken another look at my numbers and was a little less concerned. When he checked my chart from the beginning of my pregnancy, he noticed my initial BP had been a bit high. It had come down a lot since then though, and just come back up this week. I had already told him I hadn't slept good the past few nights too.
He sent me across the street to L&D for them to monitor me for a few hours and do bloodwork. I was so upset and scared.... He assured me that things looked better than he initially thought, and that he would be over in a few hours to check on me. I've never seen him look worried about me before but he definitely was then! And on the way out of the room he gave me a little hug....
Jesse doesn't have a direct line at work I can use to get him, so I texted him and left him a voice mail on his cell phone to call me. I ended up not getting in touch with him until after I was at the hospital and they had me hooked up to the monitors. His work let him leave immediately but with him being legally blind, he can't drive. So he ended up calling my best friend's DH who took an early lunch to get Jesse to the hospital! I felt so much better just knowing he was on his way....
They had me stay on my side hooked to the EFM and with the machine taking BP readings every 15 minutes. I have marks on my arm from all the BP readings, and a bruise on the same arm from the bloodwork! I stayed hooked up to everything for about 2 hours. My BP came down fairly quickly so that was good Ethan's heart rate stayed nice and steady, and he was fairly active for most of the time I was there.
My doctor came and said my bloodwork all came back normal, and since my BP had come down fairly quickly I could go home. I'm not on bedrest, but he wants me laying down a lot and not doing anything strenuous. I also have to do a kick count twice a day. I'll go next Wednesday for the appointment I already had scheduled where they're doing a growth u/s. He gave me a list of things that if any of them happen I'm to go straight to L&D, but he said as long as I'm taking it easy he doesn't see me having any urgent problems.
What a day!!!
Wow Connie, you've had quite a day! Take it easy and get lots of rest.
I've really enjoyed getting caught up on your story. Thanks for sharing! I can't wait to follow the rest of your journey.
Wow, what a day! I'm so glad everything worked out well, and glad you've got a doctor who is so concerned for you!
I would have been surprised at that appt too! Glad that all your numbers looked good by the end. It sounds like your dr has a great balance between supporting you and being proactive about any possible signs of trouble.
Glad to hear that you are home and everything is looking good Connie. It's a good time to work on visualization!
I FINALLY was able to get some good rest last night and today!!! I'm hoping the high BP was more a result of lack of sleep than anything else. When I asked my doctor yesterday if the fact that I hadn't been able to sleep could be influencing my BP, he said that when HE doesn't sleep good it influences HIS! And that's coming from a healthy, obviously non-pregnant Wink person.
I am trying to take it real easy. As soon as I woke up this afternoon Ethan started moving around like crazy Smile My doctor wants me feeling 10 kicks in 1 hour (twice a day) when he's active -- the longest I've had to wait so far has been about 15 minutes to get those 10 kicks!
I still don't feel normal, but I think that's mainly from so many days without good sleep. Still feeling kinda yucky is a good reminder though that I have to take it easy!
My mom is coming tonight and staying for a few days. When she moved she kept one of her doctors that's here and she has an appointment Thursday. She can't cook or anything, but it will be nice to have her visit I wish the timing was a bit better though! We like to go window shopping together and get out and do other things, but that's obviously out of the question now. She's already requested 2 restaurants she wants to go to while she's here so at least we can do that! And it takes care of supper for 2 of the days since it's really hard for Jesse to cook and he doesn't want me on my feet long enough to cook!
In the excitement of everything else yesterday, I almost forgot I got the results back of my GBS and I'm negative!!!!! Now I'm REALLY going to labor at home as long as possible
on being GBS-!!!! That is awesome!
Have a good time with your mom and enjoy the eating out - it seems like such a treat right about now... the thought of not having to cook...
Glad to hear that baby is doing well
It sounds like your dr has a great balance between supporting you and being proactive about any possible signs of trouble.
Exactly! In some ways he's more like a MW than an OB. He really wants me to be able to deliver naturally and that makes me very confident in the decisions he makes regarding my care. Like I know that when I'm in labor, if he says I need to do a c-section, it's because I really and truly need one, not for his convenience.
That confidence in your caregiver is awesome! Good for you finding someone so supportive and right. Going out for a couple suppers sounds lovely as well... enjoy being waited on!
That's awesome about your OB. I feel the same way about my MWs. They're also very proactive and I trust their decisions regaring our prenatal care. It so important to have that kind of relationship with your care provider!
HI! finally getting on here to check in.. Congrats on your lodge. Call me when you are feeling up to company or if you need anything.
Glad everything is going well and hope you're feeling good.
More excitement.... Like I needed it at this point! :?
We've been trying to make sure my car stays at or above 1/4 tank of gas. Last night I noticed it was getting low so Jesse said he'd pump it for me tonight on the way home. Mom had her doctor's appointment today and we ended up running around town a good bit. Of course the AC in the car was on the whole time, which runs down my gas. By the time we got to the gas station tonight I was down to 1/8 tank.
So Jesse gets out to pump it for me, and I reached down and found out I could barely reach the gas door release (which is the only way to open the gas tank). I pop it and he tells me to pop it again because the first time it didn't open. I was kinda joking around about it, no big deal. Still didn't open. Tried again. STILL didn't open. I've never had a problem with it before... I got out of the car and walked to the back and found....
SOMEONE HIT MY CAR, just the gas door, and it is jammed shut!!! :shock:
I don't know when it happened, and I hadn't noticed it before today. I was NOT a happy camper to say the least! Luckily we only live 1 mile from the gas station where I was. So I came in, called my insurance, and they started my claim. Tomorrow the local rep will call me and I should be able to get it to the body shop and get the repairs started. In the meantime, I have rental coverage on my insurance so at least I'll have something to drive!
BUT what I'm really concerned about, is what if I go into labor before my car is back? It wouldn't be a big deal if Jesse could drive, but he can't. So I may end up with my car fixed at the shop with no way to get it, and a rental sitting in our parking lot that we're having to pay out of pocket for because the insurance won't pay for it after mine's fixed! When the claims adjuster calls tomorrow, I'm going to find out if I can authorize my FIL to get my car and bring back the rental if I go into labor before I get it back.
I spent a while tonight (in the stifling heat) teaching my legally blind hubby how to install the car seat since I have to take it out of the car, just in case he has to be the one to re-install it. He's pretty confident he can do it, more confident than me I think!
All this is just what my blood pressure needed, huh?! At least tomorrow all I have to worry about is getting the car to the body shop, and then my mom to the bus station tomorrow night!
Hoi... gotta love dealing with those sorts of things I'm sure your claims adjuster will be sympathetic to your situation and allow your FIL to help. If you authorize him, it shouldn't be a problem. Not a lot you can do when you are in labor
It's been one heck of a week....
I finally was able to get my car to the body shop today, as they were closing. The rental company had a lot of trouble finding a branch that had a car available for me so I spent the day back and forth with them. I was able to authorize my FIL to pick up my car if need be so that's definitely good! And if we need to add him as a driver on the rental, he can do it at any location and I don't have to be with him. The rental company gave me a small extended cab truck, and is only charging me for a full size car since they had so much trouble finding something for me. The price of the truck would've been above what my insurance will cover, but this way I won't have to pay anything extra for it
Since I didn't get the car there till so late, it will be Monday before the adjuster can look at it. They'll call me with the estimate and we'll go from there. Hopefully it's just the door of the gas tank that's damaged and it will be a quick fix! I don't think the car was hit hard enough to damage the tank itself but we won't be able to tell for sure till they pry the door open.
On a sadder note, we lost one of our pet birds today She had broken her leg about a month ago and just hadn't been the same since.... She was really special to me because she's the only budgie we've ever had that picked me out. I'm not real surprised we lost her, just real sad :cry: Especially since we have another sick one right now that we don't know will pull through....
The way this week has gone, I'm really glad it all happened now, and not when I'm dealing with a newborn on top of everything!
Glad to hear you've got something to drive for now. Let's hope baby comes this weekend, or waits until the car is back!
Sorry about the birdies.
Good to hear that the vehicle situation worked out! What a gong show though trying to find one. Arggg.... nice that you don't have to pay extra for the upgrade though. That'll sure be nice.
Sorry about the birds. :bighug:
That sucks about your car! Good thinking having FIL on the contract. I hope the repairs go quickly!
I am happy to report that this weekend was NORMAL! LOL Nothing bad happened! Yay!!! Maybe it all hit at once last week. I can hope
My OB goes back to the office Tuesday from his surgery. My mom comes back probably Saturday. She went back to my brother's for my nephew's birthday this week. Hopefully Ethan will wait till after they're both back to make his entrance!
38w1d belly pic.... Not the best quality -- I took it with my cell phone!
Just a quick update on my car...
The body shop popped open the gas door and was able to bend the spring back into place that had jammed it. The tank itself is fine and everything else is just minor cosmetic damage
So the bottom line is that they fixed the gas door, I had a rental while they did it, I have my own car back now, the carseat gets re-installed tonight, and I didn't have to pay a penny for any of it!!! Woohoo!!!
Great news on the car! Glad to hear you won't have to worry about that any more.
Whoo hoo! That's awesome that it turned out to be nothing too major. Getting vehicles fixed is such a pain.
I'm getting a bit apprehensive....
I found out last week when my mom was here that there was something with the shape of her pelvic bones that played a big part in her not being able to deliver me vaginally. I knew she never dilated with me (despite contractions that lasted 1-2 minutes and were 2-3 minutes apart :shock: ) but I never knew there were other issues.
What kinda scares me is that at a recent appointment my doctor expressed concern that something about my pelvic bones combined with Ethan's size may be keeping him from dropping. That's why I'm scheduled for the ultrasound Wednesday. He assured me that he's going to let me labor for as long as possible no matter what the ultrasound shows; he just wants to know what the likelihood is of there being problems with me delivering vaginally. He said worst case scenario is he'll let me labor and give me as long as possible for my body do its thing, and then do a c-section as an absolute last resort. He really hates to do c-sections at all, especially on someone like me who's determined to go natural!
Hopefully after Wednesday I'll have some reassurance! I guess now that it's getting closer I'm just getting more nervous about it....
Oh, hang in there Connie. Try not to worry about it right now, because if there is a problem, there is nothing you can do about it. Your doctor has a great attitude. Worst case scenario is you'll get to labor for as long as possible before a c-section. Baby will benefit from even that! Best case - you get to deliver vaginally
I agree with Wendy.
On one level I find it odd that your Mom only shared this information with you at this stage of your pregnancy. But then again, my Mom was not great about sharing what she considered private and personal information at times too.
In any case, no matter HOW baby arrives, he will be in your arms soon! Your doctor sounds like he is truly on your page.
Connie, that is some scary news to hear at this point, but keep telling your body that it can do it. I'm a firm believer in positive thinking!
Sounds like you've got a pretty good doctor on your hands! Yay for you!
Sorry that you are worried about the birth and your pelvis.... but I'm REALLY glad you have such a supportive doctor!
and yay for your car getting fixed quickly! (when I hit a deer a few months ago - the soonest I could get my car fixed was 3 1/2 weeks later!)
So sorry about this scary news right now! But it's great that you have prepared yourself so well for a ncb that if it does't happen you will know for certain that it simply couldn't happen.
I think it's kinda ironic that "pelvis size" and "fetal size" are used as generic terms for "I wanna c-section!" and yet one of us might actually NEED a c-section because of it!
Wendy, yeah, I know Ethan (and I!) will benefit from labor even if I end up with a c-section! That's definitely a positive!
Gardenbug, I really think my mom didn't tell me because she didn't want me to worry about the possibility. I already knew she never dilated, and for all we know, if she hadn't had the dilation problem, she still could've had me vaginally! So her pelvis may or may not have been an issue to begin with. But once I mentioned my doctor being concerned about it, she let me know so I could tell him.
Elizabeth, Jesse and I have talked at length about what you mentioned! That we know if I have to have the c-section, we have done everything we could to avoid it, and it's really one of those cases where it's necessary.
At this point we just have to trust my doctor. I wish y'all could've seen the look on his face last week when he thought I had toxemia and he thought he would have to take Ethan immediately and he checked me and knew there was no possibility of induction and the ONLY option was a c-section.... He sat on a chair and literally put his head in his hands and said he really didn't want to have to do it. He even discussed trying to manage the toxemia if it wasn't real bad yet and letting my body get better prepared for Ethan coming before he did anything to help it along, and I was over 37 weeks at that point!
All of that just reinforced to me how strong his views are on NCB and avoiding interventions as much as possible....
What a great doctor! I love my midwife (and our decision to move to her has been the best maternity decision we've made so far) but was at an OB before switching our care to her practice. I probably wouldn't have switch if our OB had been as pro-NCB as yours. What a great feeling to be able to trust your OB so much!