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Tell us more about yourself and your pregnancy!
Woohoo!!!!! Thanks! I've been watching and waiting! I'll have to wait until I have a bit of time to give my story.... Tuesday probably
Congrats Connie! Look forward to hearing your story!
Connie, I can't wait to read about you! Congrats on your lodge!
Ericka~Mommy to David, Paul and Adam
I started typing up everything in Microsoft Word I wanted to include in an "intro," and it's grown VERY long!!! So I will break it down into multiple "first" posts :P The first two are ready so they are coming....
Okay, here goes!
I’m Connie and I’m 32. My DH Jesse is 30. We’ve been married for 10 wonderful years! We met at a city bus stop right off the college campus where we both lived. I don’t remember who started the conversation but we soon found out we were both in the process of changing to the same major. Our conversation continued on the bus for the mile till the bus got to my stop. He asked for my phone number to “go out for coffee sometime.” I almost said no, but then I changed my mind and gave it to him. I figured going out for coffee was non-threatening, kind of a getting-to-know-each-other type of meeting. At that time I was heartbroken over losing the only guy I had ever really loved after a few years of off and on dating and had sworn off dating for a while. I do remember telling a friend that day though that I had met someone who I had a feeling was going to be a really good friend
Jesse called me the next night and we talked ALL night! Six hours straight! That first week he was such a great friend to me. He would let me cry on his shoulder about my lost love, my family, whatever, and he would just listen and encourage me. And he did all this knowing from the beginning that I didn’t want to be in a relationship anytime soon!
We met on October 6th, we started dating on the 13th, and he proposed on the 31st! So much for avoiding relationships for a while LOL We got married October the next year.
We both ended up temporarily leaving college for a while soon after getting together. I did a correspondence course in day care and worked at a day care for a while. Jesse went back to college a semester here and there. Eventually we both ended up back in college.
Through all this time, we both wanted kids, but planned to hold off until we both graduated and he had a stable job. Our hope was always that I would be able to be a SAHM. I graduated first (2002) and got a job as a full-time tutor at a low-income (Title I) elementary school working with kindergarteners.
The summer of 2004 my nephew was born. I remember us going to the hospital that night to see him and at that point I knew I was ready for one of my own! I didn’t say anything to Jesse yet though, because he was only a couple months from graduating and we had agreed to wait. I soon found out that seeing my nephew had brought about the same feelings in him as it had in me, and we decided to stop preventing anything from happening. He graduated, got a job, and soon after we started TTC. I didn’t chart or take my temps, but I did a lot of reading and my best friend gave me all her NFP books.
Fast forward to fall 2005 – I was frustrated with not being pregnant yet. I was ready to quit my job. Just the sight of a pregnant woman or a baby would send me into tears. I started wondering if we were able to conceive at all. You see, Jesse was born with multiple severe birth defects. He spent most of his early years in the hospital having corrective surgeries. The only problems we know of that he still has today have to do with his vision – he sees 20/300 in his good eye, is almost completely blind in the other, and has no peripheral or night vision. But he had never had a sperm count or any other reproductive tests done. Add to that my somewhat irregular cycles. After so long of trying, I was really starting to doubt... At the time I was taking dong quai to help regulate my hormones, but I could only take them for the first couple weeks of my cycle – I knew if I took them while pregnant before I knew it, I could end up with a miscarriage. I stuck out that school year, but only worked half-days.
Fast forward to summer 2006 – I started having problems that seemed to be thyroid-related. My mom has hypothyroidism and a lot of my symptoms mimicked hers. I did a lot of research online and everything seemed to point to my thyroid. But I never felt at peace about getting tested. My mom’s thyroid always tested normal, but a low dose of Synthroid makes a big difference with her. The doctor had put her on it despite her tests all coming back fine, figuring that she was hypo- and it just wasn’t showing up.
I had been going to a local natural health store for a couple years. Because of them, I hadn’t been on antibiotics for quite a while (even with sinus infections!), and I was feeling much better than I had in a very long time! So I went there to see if they had anything natural to stimulate my thyroid, figuring I would try that before having to risk going on Synthroid for the rest of my life. As always, they wouldn’t recommend a supplement without going through my list of symptoms etc first. When I told them everything, they recommended I do a hair analysis. They said that some mineral deficiencies could cause or mimic hormone dysfunction. So I agreed to the hair analysis.
When I got the results back a couple weeks later, it showed I was very anemic! I was surprised, since I didn’t have a lot of the typical anemia symptoms. They started me on an iron regimen and in less than a week, all my “low thyroid” symptoms disappeared! I felt COMPLETELY different! I found out that if you’re anemic, it messes with a lot of your hormones. So my thyroid was likely not functioning properly, but only as a result of not having enough iron. I still can’t help but wonder what would’ve happened if I had gone straight to the doctor!
Thanksgiving week I had been on the iron for about 3 weeks. I was feeling bad, and my period was a few days late. Those things usually go together – feeling bad from the PMS, and an irregular cycle! Almost without fail, my period comes within 2 days of me doing a pregnancy test. So I did what I usually do – I took a test to make it come sooner, or at least seem that way I stood in the bathroom and watched the stick do its thing. Lalalalalalalalala, watch and wait, lalalalalalalalala. I looked down. Surely those weren’t TWO lines I saw?! I looked away. I looked back. Still saw two lines!
So what did I do? I ran in the bedroom where Jesse was and asked him to turn on the light where he was sitting. I handed him the stick and asked how many lines he saw. He said one. I told him to look at it under the light. He looked again and said two and he gave me this look… Before he could say anything, I blurted out “that’s what I thought” and took the stick back and headed to the living room. My mom was living with us at the time and she was asleep on the futon in there. I woke her up and told her I needed her help with something. She said okay… I said “here, you need your glasses and a flashlight” and handed them to her. At this point she was probably wondering what the heck was going on! LOL So I handed her the stick and asked how many lines SHE saw. Because, I still wasn’t believing at this point that there really were 2 lines! As soon as she looked and said two, her whole face lit up!
Jesse tells me that he always wondered how he would find out I was pregnant. “How many lines do you see?!” was NOT even close to any of the possibilities in his head! LOL But we were THRILLED!!! After all that time, it had been a problem with MY body, not his, that had kept us from conceiving! It turns out that I had gotten pregnant my first cycle after starting the iron – almost exactly 2 weeks from my last period.