Erika's (Erika Archer) twins homebirth lodge!

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Erika's (Erika Archer) twins homebirth lodge!

Erika! It's time for your lodge. Congratulations on carrying your twin girls this far. We are all excited to share your story with you.

You might consider pasting in some of your previous posts into here so that they're all in one place.

You go, Girl!

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Welcome to your lodge Erika! Smile

Sending lots of (((((((((((stickbabiesstick))))))))))) vibes!!!!

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Wooteroo!!!

Congrats on your lodge!

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Yay! This has to be one of the most exciting lodges yet - I'm so excited about following your story.

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Yayyy Erika! I'm so excited to share the final leg of your journey with you!

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Congrats on your Lodge Erika Biggrin

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Congratulations on your lodge!!

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Thank you everybody!!! This is going to be lengthy so I'll try and catch everybody up with an outline/timeline kind of thing to get you up to present speed. First a little background.

I am 30 and my husband, Kyle is 28. I'll be 31 on the 29th of December (which also happens to be 37 weeks!) and Kyle turns 29 on Dec. 15th. So we're almost older Smile We have known each other since kindergarten.
We both grew up in the NW Chicago suburbs and our parents live about 2 minutes apart from each other. I left for The University of Iowa on an opera scholarship in and stidied music therapy and vocal perfermance and he joined me the following year and studied business. We were together all of college and then i went to Minnesota for awhile, he stayed in Iowa City. We were engaged in the fall of 99 and then married a year later in oct. of 2000. We moved to Des Moines and wanted to work and make some career arrangments and decesions before having children as we both always knew it was important for me to be able to stay home with our children. So we waited till just before our 5th anneversary to start "trying" It wasn't much of a try. We went to a cousins wedding and Kyle's uncle gave a beautiful speech about family and we decided to "throw caution to the wind" that night and that's how we concieved Olivia. Olivia was born at home in water. The birth was attended by a midwife and it was absolutely perfect. I wouldn't change a darn thing and knew I would do it again in a heartbeat. I even said so that same day - it was awesome!!!!

Fast forward to April of 2006 - we decided to throw caution to the wind once again (we need to stop doing this Smile ) and actually kind of called the festivities off that night before "finishing" (If you know what I mean Wink ) it was a work night and Kyle was tired and I was indeifferent so we decided to just get some sleep. I found out in May that we were PG and it was a shock Kyle kept saying "I don't get it?? I Don't get it" Me: "HELLO!!!!! Do I need to explain this to you honey?" He kept saying "but nothing went ANYWHERE that night." yeah....so he's not allowed to look at me after the twins come for awhile!!! lol

So the birthing plans were simple. Hire the same MW to attend a second home waterbirth. I even joked with Kyle that this pregnancy wasn't "much of a challenge" and that I was "bored" b/c there was nothing new to read. Little did I realize the challenge ahead! During Olivia's pregnancy i never had an ultrasound and we didn't know the gender. But Kyle made me promise we would find out with #2 so we had an US scheduled for 19weeks to check gender. everything was totally normal, not measuring ahead, no sickness. I wasn't really sick with Olivia - just green a few days and I didn't even have that with this pregnancy. So we walked into the US and we were blindsided!!!

Starting Timeline (inserting the detailed posts)

Week 19: Found out we were having twins through a routine sexing ultrasound - no clues or suspecions - Erika melts down BIIIIIGGG time and doesn't eat or sleep for three days. It's 2 girls and they are both breech. They appear monochorionic and monoamniotic. we won't know if they are fraternal or identical until after they are born. My MW doesn't take twins and I start making lists upon lists of MW's OB, Doulas, anything and anybody who can help me have a natural birth for the twins. Experiencing a LOT of anger and frustration. I never wanted twins and I felt like I was being stripped of my choices. I was in a very bad place. http://www.pregnancy.org/phpBB2/viewtopic.php?t=546084&highlight=twin

Week 20-24 can't find a MW in all of Iowa who takes twins - find one woman willing to "not let me go unassisted" but Kyle isn't wild about her. Everyone else turns me down. We interview some OB's and make a ton of phone calls and nothing is pannig out good- - just typical OB B.S. It's looking very down and I'm thinking I am going to have to go OB and have been interviewing OB's and I am beyond unenthused with OR and OR tale requirements let alone the testing and intervention lsits and battles.

Week 25 I locate a MW who is at a rural hospital who will take twins and the head OB is cool with it and has Lots of breech skills and is slow with a knife. We interview her and the OB and tranfer care. http://www.pregnancy.org/phpBB2/viewtopic.php?t=578853&highlight=
http://www.pregnancy.org/phpBB2/viewtopic.php?t=579469&highlight=

Week 26 we have our first prenatal appointment with the new MW. It's a bomb of an appointment as she is clearly uncomfortable with twins and reccomending weekly US's and non stress tests (only stressing me out way more - there is a post a few pages back) Erika melts down again We have a second ultrasound. The girls weigh 2lbs 1oz and 2lbs 3oz. and all their little parts are good. They are both head down (I am thrilled). They think they may be monochorionic now. I also did the GD 1 hour test. They had me all wound up b/c "with twin you have 2 babies and the placentas won't work as well...and blah blah blah all negative crap" So they expected me to hit the danger zone of 140-180 and I scored a 76 and did a very happy dance
This was also when I was lurking on Mothering.com and saw the name of a Flying Mw reference in somebody else's post. i wrote it down and sent as email out to the woman. http://www.pregnancy.org/phpBB2/viewtopic.php?t=582607&highlight=

Week 27-29 I fish out all the details about the traveling MW. She is currently in Texas but moving to Belize in December. She has amazing skills and credentials! She has assisted in almost 2000 births and done 10 twin homebirths. She is a CPM who was a direct entry for years before the certification existed. She began the first birth center in Texas, served three terms as president on the Texas midwifery board and has an awesome spirit and hands off philosophy. She has traveled all over the states, canada, mexico, and Istanbul to do births (mostly higher risk) and has studdied waterbirth with the Russian Waterbirth Project. One catch..... I HAVE to find a second MW and a third MW or assistant to back her up. So I have a primary Mw - but I still don't have a team to pull this off. Erika goes into overdrive yet again! My original Mw can not be the 2nd person for liscene and local politic issues. I hunt down a direct entry 2 hours from me that has done 2 twin homebirths and is willing to second - so I drive and meet her and it's all awesome. I had my third person in my pocket a homebirth is officially planned. If I go preterm I am opting for a "no Doc" which means I walk in and get whoever is on call and totally ruin their day on the topic of informed consent http://www.pregnancy.org/phpBB2/viewtopic.php?t=584153&highlight=

Week 30 Ultrasound #2 I have more than 7lbs of baby in me at 30 weeks and they couldn't be healthier! My blood pressure remains real low 97/70, no swelling, and feeling very peaceful about the birth. My friend birthed twins at the hospital this week and I realize it would have been sooooooo traumatic for me! At 30 weeks and 6 days I book the plane ticket and we are officially planning a homebirth.
http://www.pregnancy.org/phpBB2/viewtopic.php?t=606168&highlight=

Week 31 Jennie starts my Lodge Wink and we'll take it from here.

What a ride so far. Thank you to anyone who has made it thus far. I am going to appoligize up front for spelling and gramatical errors. i don't proof read and my mind goes faster than my fingers a lot of the time.

You are all sisters to me and I am so grateful to have you all in my life!

Erika

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Yea Erika - congratulations on your lodge! I feel like we have a celebrity lodge. Lol After all the hard work you've gone through to get things in place for your birth, you know every single one of us on this board are going to be routinely stalking your lodge for updates.

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Cindy, you are a total hoot, but you're right, this does feel like a celebrity lodge.

Erika, you are remarkably strong! Keep it up!

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hi Erika, congratulations on your lodge. i have followed your story, starting over on the bfing board. i'm only a lurker on this board. i am an epidural chick. i needed it for all 3 births. i refuse some intervention, but not pain relief. but i wanted to wish you all the luck in the world. i was on pins and needles for you when you were having trouble finding a mw. and when you interviewed with an ob, i knew you would never be happy , even with the most lienient(sp?) ob. so good luck and i can't wait to follow your journey. it has been so exciting already. colleen

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Welcome to your lodge!!!

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Welcome to your lodge! This is going to be exciting!!

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Welcome to your lodge, Erika! I didn't realize your twins would be your birthday present this year. Smile Congrats, sticky :vibes:, and I can't wait to see where this journey takes you!

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Thank you everybody!!! I hope the twins don't come for my Birthday. All I want for my birthday is to be very preggo and have my midwife in this country sitting here beside me.

Tomorrow morning we are driving the 2 hour trip to go see the second MW. Kyle has never met her and I hope he likes her - I think he will. My records have been screwed up yet again and I still don't have the perinatology report from a week ago. grrrr. Oh...and guess who FINALLY called me???

The MW from the hospital we tried going with (that sucked big time) I last saw her Oct. 14 and she was just now checking in on me. I called twice and left messages to tell her we were leaving care and never ehard. i figured I write a letter at my convience for my own closure - but hadn't gotten around to it. So I told her we were havign the twins at home and she scurried off the phone. Whatever - at least that's officially over!

The woman who is our third attendant came over for a play date yesterday. her little guy is two months older than Olivia. and she is exepecting mid December. We had tea and watched the Psalm and Goya video of unassisted twins. It was a lot of fun.

And..... I had a long heart to heart with my original MW (the woman who attend Olivia's birth) She can't won't jepordize her liscense and practice b/c of issues with state reg.s and the OB's int his community - but I invited ehr to the birth as my "photographer" or "official blanket warmer" and she is very excited. She has decided to come. She also told me that if anything happens preterm she'll walk in the door with me and do anything she can Mw, doula or otherwise so I'm never truely alone with the "no Doc" thing. That made me feel real good!

Ok, I'm off to eat more protein and get to bed early - I HATE having to wake Olivia to get on the road - she is so owly when I wake her up.......oh, more later.

hugs to you all!

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GO GIRL GO!!! I'm so excited to continue following your journey. Biggrin

Now babes... you just stay put for a while longer though! Don't you go getting any ideas that just because your momma got an early lodge that that means you gotta come out early! Wink

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Welcome to your lodge.

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Welcome to your lodge sweetie!!!!

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congrats on your lodge.. you make all of this look so easy. You are one strong woman. I for one will definately be lurking here Biggrin not much time left at all for you..

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Welcome to our lodge Erica!!!

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Sounds like your MW situation is pretty much resolved! I'm glad your original will be able to be there - what a special treat for her. Smile I so admire your ability to make this the positive birth it deserves to be!!

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Congratulations on your lodge, Erika! It sounds like all the pieces are falling into place for the gentle birth you are seeking. (Especially with the purchase of the plane ticket for your flying MW). I look forward to reading your entries and following your lodge. Thank you for sharing your journey with us.

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We drove the 2 hours to our prenatal visit with our second MW and Kyle met her for the first time. She's so cool - I love her and Kyle was very comfortable with her. My urine was good and BP still real low (102/68 today). The lower baby is head down and the other one is my monkey. She flips and bounces every which way, but always moves clockwise. We talked about how in some cases it's better they NOT both be head down. That way they don't jockey for position or fight about who is coming first. The MW said births with one baby head down baby and one higher up often go much faster b/c of the elimination of "who's first" game. See ladies, it does all start in utero! lol :cheers: to years of arguments!! The heart rates were both in the 140's and she is completely pleased with my nutrition efforts, weight, and mindset. We talked about envisioning a labor senario. Since with Olivia I was basically unattended until she was crowning and how I want that to be handled since now I have 4+ midwives plus my attendant for olivia in the house. So I have that think about - I'll add it to my "to do" list Smile

Also,
Our MW often partners with another midwife. Whom I had contacted months ago - b/c I heard she did twins. She declined me at the time. Saying she wasn't taking any births and going back to school, and it was too far ect ect.......Well, now that she heard that her partner is being my second she has decided she'd really like to attend this birth for the experience - so she is offering her services and attendance for no cost. Plus it will give me two and half sets of complete rescucitation equipment/O2. So I guess I now have 4 midwives (one there technically as a "photographer" *wink wink*) and our birth assistant who is a L&D RN/Doula/certified in neonatal rescusitation. I should be so prepared that I won't need any of them. I am basically asking them for a very hands off "attended" vs assisted style birth. Unless of course there are issues with one of the babies ect.

Oh and get this... you'll all love this. Kyle my computer geek husband started brainstorming today. He was contemplating setting up a video camera on a tripod to do a direct feed to a downstairs TV so my homebirthing passionate girlfriend, who is watching Olivia and one of the Mw's baby, can see even if the kiddos are all awake and she can't come up. So then he started elaborating and joking that he should set up a private web link and have a password system so you all could watch too! I'm not sure about the whole camera thing..... Did any of you video your birth?? I didn't want to with Olivia b/c i was afraid it would change my perception of the birth and how I handled things and then there is the "live" thing that's kinda weird - don't you think? I don't know - my brain is too tired to think about that right now.....

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Wow- the video thing, that's a toughie. I know Jennie videoed her birth so I'm sure she'll have lots of input for you. I didn't but am now kind-of-sort-of wishing I did. But still not sure. The live feed - wow that would surely be a first for our board! You would certainly be a braver woman that I. But women do it all the time on the "baby story" type shows. You know we're going to be cheering you on and how cool if we could all be right there with you. But as I said, you'd be a braver woman that I...

I just think it's so freaking cool that after all the hard work you did to find MWs to attend your birth you are now going to have so many! You just know this is all meant to go just the way it is working out. I just LOVE that!

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I don't have an opinion on the video aspect, that is totally up to you and your comfort level. I just wanted to tell you how excited I am for you that things are going so well Biggrin

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I'm not sure where I saw/read this, but I remember learning somewhere that some women get disturbed when they watch the video of the birth because they seem to be in so much pain, and it affects the memory of their birth experience. Instead of remembering things through an endorphin haze, they remember the raw images captured on a video.

I don't really have any advice, but I'm sure you'll do your own research and decide what's best for you. Obviously, you're a champ at researching and all that stuff already!

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Omigosh, a live feed... I will take off the day from work for that! That's a thrilling possibility!

Ok, seriously now... (wait, that was serious). Here is my thing about the video. You can always destroy it afterwards, but you can never go back and redo it. The moment passes and that is it.

I used a tripod, but it wasn't 100% effective because I moved at the last minute (remember the fall?). I would highly recommend that one of those extra hands shoots the video. I have a friend who has a 3 hour birth video of her husband's back because he set it up and stood in front of it. (What a goof!)

Here is a very personal reason why it was helpful to me. After I fell, I asked for brief help in getting upright. I didn't realize later that I'd said that, and seeing it on the video made me feel a lot better about the birth.

If you don't want to share it with anyone, you don't have to. But if this birth goes the way we all expect it will, then you have a powerful resource that you could choose to share. And a wonderful memory of when you first meet your daughters.

So think about it, but I would strongly encourage it.

Glad to hear you liked the 2nd midwife. And that is interesting about the two head-downs and jockeying for position. It makes total sense.

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We video taped, but only a little. I didn't want to see what I looked like pushing and such. ITA with Jennie on "you can always destroy it but you can never go back and redo it". Good thought.
Sounds like you will have lots of support (if you need it), but I'm doubting you'll need them!

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I agree with Jennie & Collette - if you hate, hate, hate watching it - simply trash it. Otherwise, you've got an amazing keepsake. Plus (assuming you're comfortable with it), your midwive(s) could certainly use it for training & education purposes in the future. Just a thought!

Glad to hear all is going well, all my fingers & toes are crossed that those babies stay put 'til it's time!

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LOL I'm all over a live feed! Smile Only half kidding...

We didn't video. I just didn't want to know what I looked like, and it sort of struck me as invasive, kwim? But if you're comfortable with the idea of having the camera there, then I'd go for it. For me it was a problem with the camera more than a problem with the tape. (We almost didn't tape our wedding, for the same reason - I'm very happy that we did end up taping it!)

xo

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We videotaped our homebirth, and I'm so glad! I love to share it with anybody who wants to see it, just to spread the word that homebirth is aboslutely amazing. I don't really like the sound, because I sound like I'm in a lot of pain and I really don't think I was! But I love having it, I would definitely regret it if I would have decided not to video.

About the live feed, I think that would be incredible - just make sure it's SUPER secure and that you trust the people who you give the password to!

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"Elly123" wrote:

I'm not sure where I saw/read this, but I remember learning somewhere that some women get disturbed when they watch the video of the birth because they seem to be in so much pain, and it affects the memory of their birth experience. Instead of remembering things through an endorphin haze, they remember the raw images captured on a video.

I read this too, in Birthing from Within... ITA that it's a personal decision. I know some women who treasure their birth videos, and some who really really didn't like seeing theirs. I personally think it would be an amazing thing to be able to see MY mother give birth to me (especially right now, as I am getting ready), so you might think about saving it for your babies...
That said, I'm only having stills done. Partially because I am very camera shy, and partially because I don't want DH or my doula busy with the camera when I need them. I feel most comfortable with as private a birth as possible, but I know that is just my own preference. Besides, we don't even own a video camera! (I bet we get one soon, though...)

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Oh my gosh! I'd be all over a live video feed! Seriously, I'd be at home with Jennie watching. That's amazing!!! If you are comfortable with that, you gotta let me know! And I completely agree - you don't have to watch it if you don't want to, you can even destroy it. But you can't go back and tape it afterwards.

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Well, I think we will definately tape it - I'm not to sure on the "live feed" idea of Kyle's. It's a lot of peer pressure. I've got time to think on that one Smile I knew you guys would gte a kick out of that though. i know if one of you did it - I'd be WAY glued to my computer. I jsut don;t know if I could do it. Of course if we taped it and I liked the tape and all I could share it with all of you. not the same as live - but still neat.

Ok, off to have dinner. I tried a new recipe and kinda fibbed to Kyle about what it really is. It's a curried chicken dish (which I got from a friend and have never made) But if I say the word "curry" to him he wouldn't touch it. He came home and said it "didn't smell bad"

MEN!

he should be thrilled to come home to a homeade meal every night!

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Erika --

First...congrats on the lodge (a little behind on that one...woops...)

Secondly, I have to agree with the ladies about taping and then trashing if you hate it. If you don't like it later, no bid deal, but you don't get the moment back. That said...since I'm going to the hospital...taping isn't an option during the birth.

I don't think I'd be willing to do a live feed...something about that just doesn't sit right with me, but that just my own opinion and issues. I think if you have additional family that want to witness the birth, but can't be in the room with you, sending to the TV is a great idea.

Just my 2 cents...
Jen

BTW -- what types of protien are you eating? I'm finding it difficult to get enough (& I'm just pregnant with one)...all I seem to want is carbs lately.

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Ahh yes protein. I don't think I will ever look at a chicken the same again! It would definately be easier if it were warma nd sunny here. Luckily I don't crave carbs. That would suck! I jsut don't want to eat anything so i force myself. I know I have to eat a minimum of 120 and I have seen some research for twins saying 170 grams per day :shock: So my personal goal is no less than 130 and my goal is 150. Here's a typical day.

8:00am Protein Shake with milk for breakfast (42 grams) I have been using the Melaleuca protein shakes and theya re very yummy! I find if I don't start the day with the shake I can't get anywhere near 150.

10:00 2 eggs scrambled with cheese (18) or chicken chunks (12) but at least 12 grams of protein.

12:00 Salad with grilled chicken (4-5oz), cheese, avocada, fruit of some kind (like apple or madarin orange), and nuts and I vary the dressing and toppings to coordinate. (so lunch is at last 30 grams of protein) For variety I make a sandwhich on a high protein/whole grain bread. Lunch is the hardest I have to plan ahead and have Kyle grill some meats for me ahead of time. Otherwise it's really hard to eat 30 grams of protein and still ahve it be quality at noon.

2:00 my splurge Smile a cup of chai tea or low sugar hot cocoa (3grams) and a protein based fruit/nut kind of cookie (6grams)

4:00 sometimes a protein bar, sometimes some cheese, I tend to nibble - but I take another 5-9 grams here.

6:30 dinner meat of some variety (chicken, beef, lamb, fish) 4-5oz, (35-40 grams) a vegtable and sometimes a little bit of potatoe or rice - but I usually have to force myself to eat the meat and then I'm kinda "done"

8:00 something - I get creative based on how many more grams I need. Sometimes I just treat myself to a second cup of chai. Sometimes I come up short and have to have asecond protein shake or half of one. It just depends.

That's the protein part. i snack on bits of fruit as I cut stuff for Olivia and dried papaya to help with heartburn. and I drink three pitchers of liquids per day as well. I don't worry about carbs and i do get the animal cracker, pretzel, and occasional half a fig newton from Olivia. If I eat all the protein - there isn't much room for anything else.

It's a challenge some days - but now I'm kind of in a routine and when I see that the twins are in the 70th percentile each as a singleton of the same gestational age it pays for itself.

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:udawoman:

Your diet sounds fabulous! I usually eat fairly healthy, but you've got me beat by far. (Well, okay, I've been slacking lately, but I figure since I'm 39 odd weeks pregnant I can afford cookies here and there. Biggrin )

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Erika --
Wow -- I'm really impressed with your meal plan...wish I was more disciplined.

I was just curious...I've kind of had an aversion to chicken/protein for most of the pregnancy. I was actually thinking of adding protein shakes back into my diet these last few weeks. Egg whites & nuts & yogurt have been my saving grace for most of this pregnancy...I can't each chicken, but I could easily down a few hard-boiled eggs for a snack.

Jen

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I know I'm a little late here, but CONGRATS Erika!! :D:D

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Erika, you GO on the protein! Wow, I can barely get food down during pregnancy, so I'm in awe of you.

One last thing on the video. If you do take it, I'd recommend that you don't watch it right away. Like for at least a month. Give yourself time for your own memory of the experience to settle in first. And if you hate it, I'd recommend that you don't trash it but archive it. How many of us would like to have seen our mothers giving birth? Probably a lot of us to see what it was like and that great joy of mom welcoming baby. In a way I think it would be good to make decisions on photos and videos during birth based on what we want available for our children when they're grown. Well, just a thought. I'm probably nuts.

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Well, first off you should see the food log I have BEFORE I found out about twins (Oh wait a minute...there is no food log Smile ) I had quite the slushie adiction for the first trimester and lived on my homeade soup for 2 weeks b/c it was "all i was in the mood for" When i found out about the twins i think i stopped eating for 2 days (shouldn't have done that in retrospect) But since becoming very motivated to get these buggers to term and avoid preterm labor I have had to become more determined on the topic. Truthfully by the time I have the protien shake...I could be done for the day. I am really pushing myslef to eat all the protein. I figure that not everything in life can have a "have your cake and eat it too" kind of perspective. I can't have big healthy babies, full term, and avoid preterm complications......and eat crap and not get enough sleep. i really want a homebirth so eating poorly with what i KNOW is right is kind of setting myself up for failure. Also i have a lot of time, energy, and money invested in getting to term and having the chance to do this - so i owe it to the babies, myslef, and my husband to do it right. "Anything you do is worth doing right" kind of a thing.

Jen: You could add in a protein shake. Find one that's high quality. I believe unprocessed food sources are best absorbed by the body. Some people don't put a lot of merrit into supplements. There is no way I can eat another 10oz+ of meat or eggs per day. I have been meaning to hardboil some eggs and have them in the fridge - they are 6-9 grams a piece (depending on their size) So it's a great source! I figure the protein shakes are better than eating ice cream, or yogurt (which is filling but on a big protein scale doesn;t pack much of a punch.

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Erika- holy cow on the protein girl! YAY for you for doing so well for the babies and yourself! Smile

As for taping- live feed would be amazing- but that is so personal, and an intimate thing, so it is really what you are comfortable with. I didn't tape any of our births, I am too susceptible to be "acting" for the camera, I think. I know at the end there is no act, but I still think it would affect my focus on labor and delivery- that is my weirdness there though! I would love to have it after the fact though, and I bet my kids would think it was neat.

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Erika you're amazing - totally kwym about after one shake feeling just done with food for the day - I'm so impressed with you! But totally agree and understand your motivation - if that would've done it for me, I'd've been there too.

Ugh I had something else to tell you and have completley forgotten. More caffeine for me! Wink

xo robin

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Erika ~ I really admire how gracefully you've gone about this, it makes me really wish that I'd had it together when I was pregnant with the twins ~ thankfully they arrived full term but I think that was luck and genes not my doing lol

That is soo fantastic that you have that many m/w's ~ how absolutley wonderful!!

Love the live feed idea for your babysitter, that's really neat! Don't think I could do the live feed but I wish I had thought of taping my births, I think it'd be a lot of fun to go back and watch them Smile

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Joined: 09/06/04
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A little Holiday vent!

OK, note to self, stay Faaaar away from the scale Smile

so I weigh myself on Thrusday mornings and now I know why I feel like crapola and I'm getting stretch marks all of a sudden. i gained 4.2lbs this week!! Holy cow!! I have been gaining a steady 1.5 to 2 every week. It's gotten to the point where I don't dread getting on the scale b/c I have just adjusted my expectation. NOW I see 4lbs???? We ate out the day before at lunch and I am wondering if some of it is water retention from the saltier foods. But I haven't had any swelling, just more body dicomfort. I guess I worry b/c I started this PG'cy off high. With Olivia I gained 65 lbs and I only was able to loose about half before becoming PG again. To date I have gained 32lbs. I know that's good for with twins and I can (and I'm not and neither will I) cut calories/protein down for a number on the scale. I am more concerned with negatively effecting the birth or starting a swelling cycle, or some weird crap with amniotic fluid.

OK, I'm starting to get too antsy for me - I need to refocus and find my "calm momma calm baby" modo again and take a deep breath *in and out* hehehehehe

My inlaws and BIL are here for the weekend. It's kind fo NOT helping my stress levels. I'm feeling really uncomfortable today - the girls were up playing and rearranging all last night and DH reverts to a teenager when his brother is here (drives me nutty) He wanted to stay up playing games all night at 1am I finally told him not to come to bed to sleep and to hit the couch b/c his not coming to bed is keeping me up knowing he's going to wake me again. grrrrrrr i don't need this *painting on a happy face, fake smile*

MIL keeps takign about how the babies will be early. "it won;t be much longer" "oh, your huge, you have much long to go" "twins are always early" blah blah....... Kyle want's to tell them about the homebirth tomorrow - I'm really nervous about doing this. I already told my mom and I was very careful to keep reinforcing that we can go to the hospital at any time and played the homebirth off as a big "maybe" and approached it as an "opportunity...IF everything is perfect" rather than my big plan and my determination and me putting all my eggs in one big happy basket of midwives :). I didn't explain how we'd be walking in "no doc" That would freak them out. I just told them about the perinatologist doing our testing (not that this peri doesn't catch babies any more) Kind of a need to know kind of thing - they don't need to worry about that too. I'm afraid Kyle is going to botch how they get told and it will create pannick and fear and more problems.

I'm feeling sooo tired today - but antsy and not feelign "nappy" either. 2 more days Wink

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Keep hanging in there, Sweetpea, you're doing great! Outlaws (oops, I mean in-laws) are no fun when they have different opinions.

Don't stress on the weight. You know that. Thought I'd say it anyway.

And good luck on the homebirth announcement. Let us know how that goes.

PS Have you visited the Turkish dentist recently?

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Joined: 09/06/04
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Jennie: Page two has our last visit on last Saturday. I have another prenatal next Saturday (2nd) and then an US the following Friday (9th). But we're not doing anything "hands on" South of the border Wink

I thought I'd post a couple pics I took last week at 31 weeks and the last one is from yesterday. I am getting so many stretch marks with this pregnancy - I barely had any with Olivia. (beginers luck!)

http://i55.photobucket.com/albums/g146/ErikaArcher/IMG_3284small.jpg

http://i55.photobucket.com/albums/g146/ErikaArcher/IMG_3294small.jpg

http://i55.photobucket.com/albums/g146/ErikaArcher/IMG_3303small.jpg?t=1164416072

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It seems to me I gained about 4lbs. around this time and then started to lose it again. I think you're doing great! I too gained less with this pregnancy (40 overall) than with my first (60). You do sound on track for twins!

How did the homebirth announcement go? I too hear you on the ILs - wish they knew when to keep their opinions to themselves!

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The news break to the in-laws will happen tomorrow sometime - probably evening.......

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Your belly pics look great!

I think most MIL's should be forbidden from making comments to their pregnants DIL's. I am hoping your IL's are open to the homebirth news. Hopefully your DH will be inspired during the telling and they will be as excited for your homebirth as we all are.

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You look fabulous Erika!

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