Welcome to your lodge! It's great that you made it this far! Can't wait to hear how the next few weeks go for you.
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Tell us all about how your pregnancy has gone, what you plan for labor, everything!
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WOW! Thanks, ladies! This is so exciting
warning...this is long!
I'm Jenn...married for 3.5 years to my best friend and the love of my life. We met 11 years ago, working in a local coffee shop. Despite the fact that I was engaged to another guy at the time :?, I was smitten from the moment I saw him - and I still am! We became very good friends and a few years later, the timing was finally right for the two of us.
We decided to start TTC last fall and unexpectedly got pg my first cycle off the pill...unfortunately, that pg ended in a loss at 9 weeks (we found out at 11 weeks). It was the most devastating thing we've ever experienced, but I will say that the silver lining was that it brought so much more depth to our relationship. We waited a few months and then on I think our 3rd month of actively trying again, this munchkin was conceived!
The first trimester was fairly nerve-wracking after our loss...and we also had a couple other physical obstacles to deal with. I've had 2 LEEP surgeries on my cervix, and I've been told that one of them might have been botched...so cervical competence was a serious concern, and as a result I had multiple ultrasounds between 12 and 24 weeks to monitor its length - so if a cerclage were needed, they could put it in before it got to an emergency stage. To the great surprise of just about everyone, my cervix was still 4-5cm at 24 weeks, which is considered the end of the danger zone. the other issue was a low-lying placenta which resolved itself by 26.5 weeks.
Because of those two issues, we had been going to an OB practice for most of this pregnancy. There is one freestanding birth center with midwives in our area, but it's about a 40 minute drive away...our thinking was if we had to go to a hospital anyway, we'd just go to the closest one. but once the obstacles turned out not to be obstacles, we decided to take the plunge and go to the birth center. It was something we always felt like we'd want to do, but just didn't think it would be an option given my history. While our parents are less than thrilled with our decision (especially my mom...), we are more and more convinced with every visit that it is the right place for us to bring our baby into the world. We are also going to have a doula - we've made arrangements with a pair of women who work together, and whichever one is on call will attend our birth. They've both attended many births @ the birth center, and one of them has even had 2 of her children there! Both DH and I really like both women...they are so infectiously positive and confident, and that's what we feel like we need, especially being first-timers!
I have been trying to start visualizing a positive birth experience...it's a little tricky (again, first-timer), but so far I've got flashes of being at home with DH and our doula, then being at the birth center with my yoga music helping me to go internal as needed and remember that the mind follows the breath...and then welcoming our little one out to our world. I have to say that reading all your lodges has helped me so much - they are inspiring and awesome, thank you for sharing your stories!
I have loved being pregnant. I honestly can say that during the second trimester, I felt better than I ever have in my entire life. The third tri has brought more fatigue and swelling and such, but still no major complaints...but I'm definitely feeling like I'm getting close to ready to say, it's time to meet you little one!
Welcome to your lodge! Yay for your cervix getting itself together! You'll do great!
I'm looking forward to sharing this journey with you, Jenn.
warning: vent! and long!
ok, so our birth center requires all first-time parents delivering there to take some sort of childbirth class. before we transferred there, we'd been signed up to take the hospital classes, but of course dropped out of those when we switched over. We made arrangements to take a prenatal workshop for couples at a local(ish) yoga center this saturday, with an instructor who's been highly recommended by my yoga teachers and others. She had encouraged us to take a private class with her in addition to the workshop, but the earliest she could fit us in was 2/17. My due date is 2/25, so we felt like that was cutting it too close. So we planned on just the workshop.
Which I learned today has been cancelled because there was a minimum enrollment of 5 couples. AAAAAARGH!
I've left the instructor a phone message and sent her an email asking if we could schedule a private class for the same time frame (thinking since she'd already planned to do the class...). I'm really hoping and trying to think positively about it, and hopefully that will work out. But I'm still super-frustrated (so, I guess the trying to think positively isn't working very well, lol).
I called the birth center and explained the situation but was told that the requirement is a requirement, period. And was given the name & number of another woman who does private classes. Whom I've left a message for. But I don't have any idea of whether she's available or if so how much it costs...
It's just frustrating, because part of me thinks, what are they going to do if we tried and couldn't get into a class? send us to the hospital?! and I plan to ask that question at our appointment tomorrow, believe me!
DH and I have done A LOT of reading (Thinking Woman's Guide, Active Birth, Ina May's Guide, Kitzinger's Pregnancy & Childbirth), and we're going to have a doula...to me, that indicates we're already in pretty good shape, preparation-wise. I know that nothing can fully prepare us, and I would LIKE to take some sort of class, hopefully it will work out for us...I just don't need this frustration right now, you know?
Argh! I feel for you...I am sure they have good intentions behind the class requirement, but I can't believe there is no exception to the rule, especially under your circumstances. How frustrating...GL with the private classes and hope they aren't expensive.
Do you have an idea of the style of birthing you'd like to try? You could look at AAHCCB (it's the Bradley website) and see if anyone in your area is giving classes.
That is very frustrating! I hope you find something soon. Do you need to bring some sort of certification w/ you that you actually took a class? maybe you could ask if there is a way for them to evaluate your prepared-ness since you weren't able to find a class.
My advice in getting what you want out of policy makers. Get info from a specific person, refer to that person by name, and appeal to her/him on a personal level. Always smile, always talk softly, (quieter voices are sometimes more lethal than angry ones!) and always EXPECT that the outcome will be in your favor. It changes the way the person relates to you and the way they respond as well. (can you tell I've had a lot of practice??
That sucks! I hope that you can get everything sorted out. Have you paid for the birth center? Because I would think if you have paid that they can't refuse you because you are a paying client. But I hope it all works out and you don't have to deal with the frustration and stress!
How are you feeling? What is it like at near the end?
thanks for letting me vent, gals
things are much better today. We've got a private class pretty much confirmed for Sunday, with one of the women recommended by the birth center. Turns out she's actually a doula and a CNM and is working part-time at the birth center right now, after having her own child there last year.
We talked on the phone for about half an hour and I got a really good vibe from her. Since we're so far along, she's comfortable with doing a class more focused on what to expect - from labor, from the birth center, from the midwives and nurses. She thinks we'll probably do about a 2-hour session, and her rates are very reasonable. So that's a huge sigh of relief!
Another positive thing: our doulas came over this morning to do our prenatal visit, and I was reminded again of how happy I am that we found them! They are both SO positive and warm and confident. We all (them, DH, and I) talked for about an hour about when to call them, logistics, what to have ready, things to do in the final weeks (like go on dates with DH!), preferences for the birth, etc.
THEN we went out to the birth center for our 37+ week appointment...I'm measuring spot-on, and they did the gonorrhea/chlamydia screen (since I haven't had one done this pregnancy and we figure once it comes out negative we'll feel 100% ok with declining the eye goop). My GBS test from last week was negative, yay! Overall a nice, uneventful apopintment.
How does it feel being at the end?
I'm definitely not feeling the "ok, let's go, get this baby out" thing. I feel like I'm getting close to ready to meet the baby, but just not quite yet. I'm feeling good physically, I just get tired a lot more easily, and maybe overwhelmed more easily. And the sausage feet - that's the physical thing I'm NOT loving! But I guess I'm feeling like there are still some things I need to get wrapped up before I'm totally ready to devote myself to bringing baby out. I mean, I know baby will come when s/he's ready, but I'm also thinking that baby can sense when mom's ready. It is pretty wild, though, to keep realizing that we're going to have a little person in our house!
Oh, and I did have a second dream about baby's sex - this is 2 boy dreams, to zero girl dreams! It was funny, I dreamt I gave birth and was almost immediately trying to get baby to latch on, and was getting some help with that...and then all of a sudden I realized no one had said whether it was a boy or girl, and I hadn't looked!
Well, we had our class on Sunday, and it was great. We definitely both clicked with Jill, the instructor. She's a CNM and a doula who is currently on call a couple days a week in a nurse capacity to attend births at our birth center - so there's a chance she could even attend ours. I'm not pinning all my hopes on it, but it would be wonderful - we REALLY liked her.
The nice thing about the meeting with her is she was able to discuss the things we wanted to know about labor and its stages and comfort measures, etc., very specifically in the context of the birth center. She answered all my paranoid questions that I'd been trying to push out of my mind yet couldn't quite (specifically about cord prolapse and meconium aspiration), and so now I feel even better - there's nothing I'm having to not let myself think about...if that makes any sense
Nothing seems to be happening here, which is fine; we're not in a huge hurry (although the grandmas are!). I've been continuing to take the evening primrose oil orally & vaginally. Still haven't told baby it's time to come yet...although last night I did say that if s/he needed to come, was ready, then that's ok. But if not, it's totally fine to hang out for a little while longer.
Over the weekend, DH cleaned out the whirlpool tub in our bathroom. We've lived here for almost 2 years and I'd never used it! When we first moved in I filled the tub up partway to clean out the jets some and felt SOOOO guilty about how much water it took, especially since our area was in a drought of historical proportions (so I of course scooped all the water out bucket by bucket and used it for the plants in the yard). But Saturday night, DH and I filled 'er up, lit some candles, and relaxed and snuggled together until the water got chilly. It was HEAVEN.
now I'm off to find a little something for DH for valentine's day...
I am glad that you had a great class. I am glad that she was able to calm some of your fears.
Your whirlpool tub sounds heavenly! That must have been romantic. How nice!
I am glad that you are still feeling well, it gives me hope!
Welcome to your lodge Jenn! I am so glad you were able to get the class requirement sorted out and that everything is falling into place with your doulas and the birth center.
The bath sounds absolutely delightful. You're allowed to treat yourself a little bit You've come a long way!
That is too funny about forgetting to check to see if the baby was a boy or a girl in your dream I guess in the end, it doesn't really matter
I'm so glad that you got a class in-- and that you enjoyed it. Our "classes" were worthless-- I could have very well skipped them with my first...and didn't take anymore after that (they were hosp classes and SO very biased!)
Sound so relaxing to be in the tub with dh....ahhhh! Enjoy these last few weeks of "freedom"--sounds like you have a great attitude about when baby will arrive!
Wow, I don't know how I missed your lodge. Sorry I'm getting here a bit late!
I'm glad you got your class requirement sorted out - sounds like you're in a very good place, mentally, and enjoying these last few weeks with your DH.
Keep those feet up and relax!
well, I'm getting a little nervous this afternoon.
see, during our class on sunday, Jill was talking about water breaking and I asked how one would determine the difference between a slow leak of fluid and the other various things we full-term pregnant mamas leak from our hoo-has she said many women describe it as smelling a little like bleach, or like semen.
this afternoon, after yet another baby shower (it was sooo sweet, thrown by DH's coworkers), I went to the restroom and my pantiliner has that same distinctive smell (DH and I have not DTD recently enough for it to actually be semen). No gushing, no squirting or anything, nothing I noticed so it must be just the usual dribbling...and everything's clear as can be in color. eek!
I've felt normal today, aside from a couple odd bits of nausea - but lasting maybe 5 seconds. kiddo's still moving around plenty...
I've emailed Jill to see if she thinks we should call the birth center. Our next appointment is Friday at 11:30. I'm drinking LOTS of water - AF does regenerate, right? And if there's a tiny leak, it's not as big a deal as if my water really fully broke, right? :shock:
Hi Jenn, I'm afraid I can't answer your questions about the AF but hopefully some of the other more experienced ladies on here can. Keep drinking the water - it's great for you!
I'm pretty sure amniotic fluid will regenerate, and if you're not noticing any significant dampness or dribbling, I'm sure it's either a very slow leak (if there's a leak at all).
You're getting close now!
try sitting or lying down for a while and then get up... if your water did break and lets say baby's head is blocking most of it from gushing out, reclining will give baby a chance to move a bit and then when you stand you may want to have towels around just in case!
also, gatorade would be a good drink to help replenish fluid...
hoping it's just paranoia affecting your sense of smell!!
Hi Jenn-- I found my AF to be a bit slippery...and kind of sweet smelling. Not so much like semen--but sweet (less salty than semen :wink:)
IKJWYM about weird stuff from our hoo ha's during pg (esp this late in the game.) I have plenty of CM and it varies from creamy to clear....so it may just be CM.
Let us know what they say.
well, an update: nothing more out of the ordinary. I did the lying down then standing trick, no gushes! and I've felt TOTALLY normal. and I had also read that AF will regenerate, so I've been keeping the fluid intake super-high. so I will mention it when we have our midwife appointment tomorrow and maybe she'll do the litmus strip test just to check on things. it would make me feel better - I didn't use my vaginal EPO last night just in case.
I'm having some back pain, but I think it's from my desk at work - and it's high up back pain, sort of just below the shoulder blades. so 38 weeks plus and all's well here
DH was soooo sweet for valentine's day - he knows I've been bummed about my feet swelling so much...so he got me some aveda foot lotion, these booties with microwaveable lavender inserts, and a gift certificate for a peppermint sea salt pedicure! I'm so excited! I may go ahead and schedule that for next week, letting them know that I might have to cancel if I'm in labor...but if I'm not, maybe it will get things moving if the munchkin's ready at all let me reiterate, I'm not in a huge hurry to evict him/her, but I'm not opposed to him/her coming a little on the early side as opposed to on the late side
ok, time to head home and kick back with those booties and some RRL tea! thanks for all your comments and advice, ladies!!
The person who does your pedicure might just be able to poke around a little on your pressure points. As soon as I was 37 weeks, I went ahead and had my pedicure and told her to poke away!
How sweet of your DH . . . could he give mine some lessons?
yeah, and if you want to know what and where those points are - for when the time comes... no rush... I posted them on Sharon's lodge...
GL and enjoy the pedicure!!
Anyone heard anything from Jenn lately??
Hope you're doing well, sweetie!
thanks for checking in on me!
All's well, it's just been a fairly lazy few days for me. Friday we had our weekly appointment where we were declared "ready for labor and delivery" :shock: by the midwife, who also said everything was looking perfect and that they might do an internal at my next appointment (tomorrow).
After the appointment we went to a breastfeeding class the birth center offers for free, which went well. I felt pretty horribly queasy during the class, though. Which I later determined was not due to imminent labor but to having drunk 3 large glasses of sweet tea at lunch in rapid succession :roll: I hardly ever drink anything other than water or milk, and wanted something a little different. and I was thirsty, so I ended up downing waaay too much sugar. I felt fairly nauseous and generally just kind of off the whole evening, and was really pretty nervous that this was it. So I went and laid down and listened to a cd recorded by my yoga guru, and managed to get relaxed enough to believe that everything was as it should be. and if that meant that baby was coming now, that was ok.
obviously, false alarm Saturday was great, DH and I hung out, did some shopping, and relaxed. Saturday night I woke up with some moderate cramping, but nothing came of it - and this time around, I was much more at peace with the possibility that it could be something starting. Aside from maybe seeing a tiny bit of mucus plug, nothing else has been happening so far. which is ok
Sunday was another nice day of relaxing and doing little things around the house. We finally hung a couple things in the nursery, so I think it's officially finished!
Today is supposed to be my work at home on the dissertation day, and I do hope to get some progress made on that front, but more importantly :lol:, I'm going to get my valentine's day pedicure at noon!
I hope to also catch up some on posts and lodges today...but first, must go get some milk to counteract the reflux from my a.m. OJ...sigh.
Glad to hear you are still doing well! Enjoy your pedicure today.
I've been gone since I had my baby, but I wanted to stop in and wish you a wonderfull birth. I hope to be around to see how all goes for you!
I am glad that everything is going well! Good luck with working on your dissertation. I really admire you for doing that right now!
Glad to hear your still around... feel good and KUP!!
Sounds good! Glad you are relaxing and taking it easy. Try not to work *too* hard
well, the pedicure. was. awesome.
I sort of chickened out - I didn't ask her to poke around any But it was soooo wonderful! she slathered on this blue peppermint goo and then wrapped my feet in hot towels, so it was all hot but cool tingly sensations on my feet - fabulous. and the swelling actually went down a good bit for a few hours!
the only downside was that I think leaning back in the massage chair (which I pretty much couldn't help) convinced baby to roll around posterior for a bit. So when I got home I spent some time on all fours...and then I fell sleep for 2 hours :shock: So much for progress on the dissertation! Anyway, I went to prenatal yoga where we spent most of the class doing forward-leaning stuff, and then spent most of the evening leaning forward on my yoga ball.
It must have worked, since at our appointment this morning, the midwife said that while s/he's off to the side a bit, s/he's NOT posterior. HUGE relief. Hopefully the little monkey will stay that way!
The appointment was pretty uneventful, my next one is next tuesday if we don't go before then. She said at that point we'd do an internal to see if anything was going on and to get a baseline.
Personally, I'm thinking this weekend would be good. I'm still not in a huge hurry, but I'm feeling more and more ready. I mean, not tonight is ok, since there's a new episode of LOST on :lol:, but thursday-friday-saturday...anywhere in there I think I'd be cool with. hear that, monkey?
LOL, I don't blame you for not wanting to interrupt Lost! Glad your little one seems to be staying in a good position.
So what's the focus of your doctoral work?? I finished my dissertation in 2003 (bought a house, got married, and completed and defended my dissertation all in one year---I DON'T recommend it;-). I know what it's like to try to fit in working on the dissertation while consumed with many other things (and an impending baby is even BIGGER than what I had going on). It was so hard to keep it on "the front burner" so to speak. Anyway...just curious what your studying!
Glad to see all is still going well for you. I bet it felt great to get off you feet and be pampered for a bit! Hope your little one is on the same time line as you, mine never were:)
Jen, I can't imagine - I wrote & defended my master's thesis while planning a wedding and that was crazy enough! I'm a doctoral student in sociology. I defended my proposal in August, so I'm officially "ABD" (All But Dissertation for the non-academic folks out there ). My areas of specialization are medical and family sociology, and my dissertation is looking at differences in physical and mental health between married persons, cohabitors, and singles. I've got my data (not my own!), but am still at the preliminary analysis stage. I've got data for 2 points in time, so I'd really like to be able to see what happens in terms of health for those folks who transition from one relationship status to another. Anyway, I hope to be ready to defend by the summer...we'll see!
things are still quiet on the baby front...well, baby's kickin' up a storm as usual but nothing much is happening that I can tell, aside from more frequent BH.
Sounds like a very interesting study Jenn... and awesome that you are still looking forward to it!
Here's hoping baby stays not posterior!
How are you doing? It looks like you must be busy. Hope all is going well.
Your dissertation sounds very interesting.
I am envious of your pedicure, it sounded so nice!
You are getting so close! I am very excited for you and I can't wait to read more.
Your dissertation sounds quite interesting. I'm in education...using data for educational improvement. I do a lot of work on school reform, teacher preparation and professional development and the like. Our fields are so interconnected. I find it difficult to talk about any of the challenges or assets in the education realm without talking about society at large and the dynamics within our broader culture!
When I was doing my dissertation the hardest part was preparing the proposal. It was so conceptual at that stage and hard to nail down--I could go weeks without getting a single thing "accomplished" (as in, written down), but I was working hard during that time thinking and re-thinking the issues. Anyway...that time was terribly hard for me. Once I got my data in hand...it was a lot easier to know what I needed to do...I just had to set aside the time to do it. What an exciting time in your life baby and finishing up your doctoral work!!
I'm a bit of a nerd so if you'd like to share any drafts of your dissertation work...I'd love to read/react!!
well, 1 day before the early due date and nothing's happening we went our for thai food last night and I went ahead and got my evil jungle noodles (yes, an actual dish - SO good!) two star spicy :twisted: but nothing to report so far. which is fine. I did experience some serious mood swings thursday-friday, but I seem to be back to even keel today. (Mood swings are one of the things our doulas ask to keep them posted about)
of course, here I am yesterday, thinking, "ok, little one, you can come on out when you're ready! this weekend would be ok!"...and then I FINALLY get a return phone call regarding this job I applied for almost a month ago asking me to do a phone interview monday at noon. :roll:
see, my research assistantship contract runs out june 30, and I had been thinking I would start full-time work at that point...and have had horrific visions of trying to go on the job market and look professional in interviews while sleep deprived and leaking milk anyway, I stumbled across this opportunity recently and thought I'd go ahead and give it a go and hope I could interview, etc. before the baby comes. It's not easy to find jobs that fit what I do around here, and staying put is definitely what we want to do for the forseeable future. so I feel like I really need to explore this possibility.
oh well, I guess we'll just have to wait and see what happens! I'm not going to worry too much about things either way. But I think I WILL draft an email to send to these folks just in case I go into labor before the phone call
Maybe the interview scheduled for Monday can help occupy your thoughts between now and then;-) Good luck with the phone interview...I know what you mean about having limited opps for job if you want to stay put. In my field it is the same way....need to be willing to move for tenure track positions, etc.
wow, an interesting couple days!
first off, Sunday was awesome - laid back and lovely. took another nice warm soaking bath with DH - with him in the tub with me, I can lay forward (continuing to work on that optimal fetal positioning!) and rest my head and chest on him...laying there together, talking about names and what our parents will want to be called by the little one, was utter bliss. Watched the oscars sunday night and had my phone interview yesterday afternoon. Which went well - apparently quite well because I got an email this morning asking me to come in for a face-to-face interview which would include a 15-20 minute presentation. yikes! and then I got a phone call a little while later asking if I could do it FRIDAY. well, I had to spill the beans. I emailed them back and told them I'm due any day now and basically if their search continues over the next couple months, I hope they can still consider me a candidate, but that I'll be consumed by the labor/birth/newborn thing for the next month or so. it sort of feels good to at least have that sort of wrapped up for now...
so I can focus on having this baby!!! We had our weekly appointment this morning and I got my first internal exam: 1cm and 60% effaced. I think DH was a little more excited than I was about this, since I've read so many stories of women being about that for weeks on end but maybe now that I feel like this job thing is wrapped up, I can start focusing my mental energy on the baby. I have dropped some, although I'm not fully engaged yet. I told DH that with the expected cervix issues, I spent MONTHS, even pre-pregnancy, visualizing a long, strong, closed cervix, but I haven't spent any time yet visualizing an opening, softening one. It's about time, I'd say.
I haven't actually touched anything dissertation-related since my last post...or 3. Maybe today...or maybe not So far, my most preliminary findings seem to indicate that it's not marital status that makes much of a difference in health; it's things like social support. But again, these are the barest, most preliminary findings so no citing me yet!
Oh, and Jen: it's very cool to have someone here who's been through the "big D" process, and I appreciate your interest and offers to dork out with me!
Sounds like you are enjoying your last few weeks of pregnancy.
Congrats on the phone interview success.....and on spilling the beans.
KUP on the progress. Hey I'd consider anything progress as I've never been more than a bit soft on my due dates
well, I think the process is underway.
yesterday I went into work for a couple hours, until about noon. my mom picked me up and we hung out for a while, did some shopping, etc. I napped from probably 2:30 or 3 until 6. DH and I had dinner fairly late and then I vegged on the couch leaning over my yoga ball for a while. I noticed I was starting to get sporadic crampy feelings in my lower abdomen, but more frequent than any I've had before (previously I'd have maybe 2 or 3 episodes in a night)...and then they started spreading to my back. I was having some BH as well, but nothing in sync with the back or belly cramps.
called the doula, she told me to go to bed since it was nearly midnight and try to get some sleep, but to call her if things got more intense or regular. Lying on either side in bed just made the sensations more intense and pretty much nonstop. sitting up was better, but I couldn't find a way to get comfy in bed sitting up.
DH drew me a nice warm bath and I hung out there for a good hour...seemed to ease things up a little bit, and while I wasn't sleeping, I was pretty close! I got out, and was able to go lie down and nod off here and there through the night. By about an hour ago, I was back to the scenario where if I'm lying down, I have near-constant back & belly cramping, but it doesn't seem like my belly's actually contracting or getting hard like with a BH. But if I'm up, the cramping's less intense but my belly's almost constantly hard.
so I think I'm going to chill for a little while longer, let DH sleep, and call our doula and the midwives in a bit.
Exciting!! I can't wait to hear how everything goes! Try to rest as much as you can to have energy for the end.
Sounds awesome Jenn! Picture that cervix opening wide! Thinking of you
well, back to nighting happening here! :roll:
so earlier sitting upright felt better than lying down, and standing felt better than sitting...around 8, DH and I went for a walk around the block and it felt great - it basically took away ALL the crampiness. :? so we came home, had some breakfast, and I've been napping since.
the doula said that this sort of thing is perfectly normal - that it can even go on for a couple days! I'd prefer if it didn't though - I thought we were getting this show on the road!