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Jen--

A little late, but I realized you need a lodge too!!!!

Here is to a wonderful ending of a beautiful journey. Can't wait to hear all about it!

the other Jen Lol

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Congratulations on your lodge!!

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Congratulations on your lodge! I'm looking forward to getting to know you.

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Yay!! Congrats on your lodge!!! Can't wait to learn more about you and your pregnancy. I know you've posted on the Dec board, but haven't been around as much, so glad to see you here!!

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Welcome to your lodge!

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Welcome to your lodge!

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Thanks Jen for starting my lodge! After reading the lodges of the other women here, it's quite exciting to be at the point where I can get my own lodge and share my experiences with y'all. Smile

Please excuse me if this is too long, but I wanted to have somewhere that I wrote this all down and saved it.

Hmm, where should I start? I guess I should tell you a little bit about myself. DH and I are both 27. We've known each other for 7+ years and have been married for two of those years. While I've always known that I wanted to have children, the bug didn't bite me until sometime last year. DH and I used to live by the beach and we spent many an afternoon or night walking along the beach, talking and trying to figure out when to start our family. We decided that we would start after I finished grad school, which I was scheduled to finish in May of this year. I had done some research on fertility after being on BCP (which I had been on for almost 10 years at this point) and came across Preg.org and saw this book that people were raving about (TCOYF). I ordered myself a copy through Amazon and I was amazed at what I learned from the book. I couldn't wait to try out charting and reading the other fertility signs my body provided. I broached the subject of my coming off BC last December with my DH, telling him that I wanted a few cycles to be able to tell what my body was doing before we began "officially trying". He was fine with that and so January '06 was a clean slate for me- no more BCP :woohoo:! I was amazed at how much better I felt without the hormones (and I know DH enjoyed the increased sex drive Wink ) and I quickly got the hang of reading signs like CM and CP.

Well, January, February and March went by with us not preventing but not really trying. The last week of March, I woke up and my BBT was higher than I had ever seen it. I was psyched, but I was only 10 dpo at that point so I knew that I shouldn't get my hopes up too much. That day I ended up going home early from school because I had the worst stomach/abdominal pain and a slight fever. I thought that the high temp was just a fluke due to my mysterious illness, but I decided to take a pregnancy test just for the heck of it. I couldn't believe it- there was a faint pink second line. But I convinced myself it wasn't really there and that I was just seeing things because I wanted it to be positive. Out of curiosity, I tested the next day and saw that the line was a little darker. The same happened the next day. I knew that I couldn't keep this from DH any longer. He was working a shift where he would be off two nights a week (not always on the weekends) and it was the last night he was going to be off that week. I stopped in the drugstore and picked up a digital HPT. I smuggled it into the bathroom and took it and was still a little shocked when the word "pregnant" popped up. I quickly went to the computer and made up a little greeting card for him where I shared the good news. He knew I was acting fishy when I shooed him away from what I was doing but he humored me and let me surprise him a little later with the homemade card and the pregnancy test. We count our blessings that it was so easy for us to conceive as fertility problems run in my family (although DH has kindly requested that he hopes we can "try" a little longer next time, lol).

I finished up my Master's degree in May and we told our parents the good news on Mother's Day weekend (which was also graduation weekend for me). Both sets of parents were completely shocked and excited at the same time. This baby will be the first grandchild and great-grandchild on either side of the family.

Soon after we found out about our pregnancy, we also found out about something else that would have a big effect on our lives. We found out that DH would be deployed for a year and a half, leaving in August. While we knew that there was a good possibility of this happening, it was still kind of sad when it was finalized. So I decided that I would move back home with my parents while he was away so that I would have a support system for the baby and I. DH left in the beginning of August and I packed up our apartment, hired movers to put our stuff in storage and moved back home to live with my parents, something I hadn't done since I was 19. Let's just say that it's been an adjustment for me! I miss my freedom and independence, but I know that I am lucky that they have welcomed me back into their home and are more than willing to help me out with anything that I need.

Well, I think that's enough about me for the moment. Just wanted to give you ladies a little background to know where I'm coming from. If you made it to the end of this, thank you for reading it!

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Welcome to your lodge!

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Wow- I can't believe I'm at 38 weeks already!:shock: While the 1st trimester seemed to creep by, this last trimester has seemed to fly by. I spent part of this weekend hanging things up on the walls in the baby's room and my Dad and I installed the car seat bases in our cars as well. I still need to pack my bag for the hospital and wash the baby's sheets for the bassinette (sp?) and then I'll be set I think. It's funny- I read my horoscope for fun and this is what the first part of it said today, "Be prepared to pack a bag as sudden travel arrangements may occur. Life could head in a direction you hadn't anticipated. To be able to go with the flow, make sure the health and well-being program remains a priority." Hmm, maybe that's a sign that I should stop procrastinating on the bag packing?

I look forward to the birthing experience. Before I got pregnant, I thought that I might want to try to do it naturally, but I didn't put much research into it. Over the past few months I've done some reading and really feel comfortable with my decision for a natural birth. I really enjoyed Ina May's Guide to Childbirth and feel confident in letting my body do what it is built to do naturally. Similar to other ladies on this board, I have an undergraduate background in science (BS in Bio), so the scientific side of me has enjoyed learning the details of birth and development as well as making it important to me that I make informed choices about what happens to my body and my baby.

Since DH won't be here for the birth, my real-life BF will be there with me. My Mom has also asked to be there with me. Honestly, I worry a little that her (my mom's) presence there will stress me out a little but I'm trying to have faith that it's all going to work out.

Well I should go and work on some chores I need to do around here... and perhaps pack a bag! I think I might try to inflate my exercise ball, too, so that I have something comfy to sit on while at the computer. Hope you're all having a good day! Smile

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Oh, you'll LOVE sitting on the ball at your computer, assuming your keyboard can sit low enough for you to be comfortable. I think I lived on my ball for the last 4 weeks of my pregnancy!

What an interesting story about you & your DH. That's a shame that he won't be there for the birth - are you planning to document all of it for him?

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What a great horoscope! I got a fortune from a fortune cookie back in June that read: "A small lucky package is on its way to you soon." It's in Michael's baby book. Smile

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My rlbf was at my son's birth, even though DH was there too (so was my mum for that matter... homebirth you can do whatever you like) and it was very special to have her there, and she has this unique bond with Samuel. Pretty cool.

It does sound like the cosmos is suggesting you pack your bag! Thinking of you and sending lots of ++ energy...

xo Robin

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Welcome to your lodge!!

I LOVE the horoscope!! I'm going to have to start reading mine Wink

It must be a challenge to be living back at home - but I'm glad that you have the support of family and friends around you. (BTW, I have to laugh at myself; when I read that your "real-life BF" was going to be with you at the birth, my dim brain was shocked that you had a BOYfriend hanging around!! No, no, I get it now, I'm just a little slow!! LOL)

ITA about the exercise ball - I lived on mine until my black lab mistook it for a giant tennis ball.... POP. I'll have to pick up a new one before long.

How have you felt lately? Any signs of impending labor?? Take care Smile

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DH's Pregnancy Lesson #139: Babies come when they want to. Not when you want them to.

The last time I saw DH in person was October when he was home on leave. While visiting, he had several heart-to-hearts with my belly. He asked the baby to come the 21st of November so that he could be home for Thanksgiving if his superiors decide to give him emergency leave when the baby comes. Well, the 21st has come and gone and baby is still happily nestled within. I know he's a little disappointed but figured, "Hey, it's worth a try."

I have my 38 week appointment with my OB tonight and I think he is planning on doing an internal to see what's going on down there. I've been having pelvic pressure, cervical/hoo-ha twinges and erratic contractions here and there but my prediction is that I'm still closed up tight. Last week I went over my birth plan with him and he was supportive of everything I had on it with the exception of my last request. I know that this part is up to the nurses but I had included in my plan that I wished for the vitamin K injection and the antibiotic eye ointment to be delayed until after I have some bonding time with my son/daughter and have the chance to nurse. He didn't think this was possible because there are laws regarding the administration of these. I explained that I understand that there are laws regarding this and that I'm not declining these, just asking that they be delayed so the baby and I can have some time together initially when s/he is alert and her/his eyes aren't all gunked up! Is there anyone who did a hospital birth that has any experience with this? I would appreciate your opinions!

I may venture out this afternoon to try to finish up DH's Christmas gifts package. Hoping I'm not crazy for venturing to the stores today. But I know I don't want to go anytime this weekend. Black Friday is not for me!

Megan- I am hoping that my best friend will help document the birth as much as she can. Also, depending on the time that the birth happens, I may try to get DH on the phone so he can be there and hear what's going on (and offer me support through his words). I would love for him to be able to hear "It's a _____" in "person", rather than hearing it through email or through a Red Cross bulletin.

Katie- I thought about it when writing BF, that maybe I should write out best friend because I know it can be used both ways. I don't think DH would appreciate it if I had a boyfriend there!

Hope you are all having a wonderful Wednesday!

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Jen-
About the vit K and eye stuff...check with your laws and make sure that these are required. I would be surprised to know that they are. Here in Idaho I had a choice as to whether or not they were administered. If I chose not to get them, I had to sign something to that effect. I don't think the law would have any say in what gets put in your baby's eyes. In the end I did choose to get them, but if I the choice not to, I would assume I could have them delayed a few hours.
Good luck, this is such an exciting time! Try to enjoy the last days of your pregnancy.

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Hey Jen --

You really need to check the law...I live in Florida, and our statue reads that all children will have eye treatment and vit K within 1 hour of being born.

I'm going to request that the nurses not give it until close to the 1 hour mark, instead of 2 minutes after being born, but there isn't much room for give in take. Just double check.

Wish your little one would have made an appearance for your DH...that would have been sweet. Let us know how your appointment goes...

Jen

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Welcome to your lodge! Smile Hope your appointment went well tonight. That sucks that dh is deployed Sad

As for the vit K, we got that, but completely refused the eyedrops. I think I just signed something that said we were refusing them. When I talked it over with my doc beforehand, she thought that was fine, and I don't remember my nurse batting an eye either... ITA to check the laws in your state, if you tell the nurse she cannot administer the drops, she cannot- this is YOUR child after all! And as you said, you aren't even refusing altogether, you are jsut waiting a bit.

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How was the appointment? I don't blame you at all for not wanting to shope this weekend, I won't be out either! As for the eye goop, I know that here we can ask for that to be delayed how long for I'm not really sure? You should at least put it in your birth plan, if they have to do it right away I'm sure they will ask if that's ok, otherwise they should honor your request. Oh, and welcome to your lodge!

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Jen's Pregnancy lesson for the day: A mother's intuition isn't always right.

So I went to my appointment yesterday, got weighed (ugh- gained 5 lbs. in 1 week...I claim it's water!), urine checked (that was fine), BP 110/70, baby's heartrate good. Then the OB does the internal. OB's first comment, "Wow, this baby is really low. It's head is right there." OB's second comment as he helps me sit up, "Wow, you're really dilated. This is your first?" So I tell him that this is my first child and ask him how dilated I am. He says, "Well, your cervix is soft, anterior and 80% effaced and you're 3 to 4 cm dilated." :shock: I was in shock! Not only does this mean that this baby is really coming, but that's 3 to 4 cm that I don't have to work through once labor really kicks in! :woohoo:I have another appointment next week and the Dr. mentioned inducing me next Thursday if I was interested. I told him I wasn't ready to make a decision about that yet. While it's so tempting to know when you're going to give birth, I don't want all the interventions an induction implies to me (whether it be breaking my water or pitocin, etc.). I have faith that my body is doing what it needs and that it will bring this baby into the world on its own time. Now if I'm still this way at 41+ weeks, then I'll reconsider my options at that point.

So that was my excitement for the night. Going to the Dr. thinking nothing's going on and finding out the opposite! Since the internal, I've been having some bloody show, which I know is normal but it brings me back to my nervousness at the beginning of my pregnancy when I was spotting. I'm determined to keep this baby in at least for another day- I want my yummy Thanksgiving dinner! So no sitting on the exercise ball for me today. Smile

Can't wait to share the news with DH when I (hopefully) chat with him later! To those that celebrate, I wish you a Happy Thanksgiving. To those who don't- Happy Thursday!

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Such great news about your progress! Biggrin Glad everything is going well. Sounds as if you're being very positive. Maybe we'll have another baby by this weekend!! :woohoo:

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Oh Jen, how exciting! What did your DH have to say?

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You lucky duck!! That's great that your body is already gearing up. I can't wait to hear what your DH has to say.

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Great news!

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Great news on the progress - clearly your body does know what to do, LOL! It sounds like you're not going to have to face the induction decision anyway. Yay! Smile

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Great progress!!!!

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Well I haven't updated here in awhile because nothing has been going on with my body since my appointment last Wednesday. I don't know why things have stalled, but I really haven't had any contractions or any of the pains I was having last week. It's kind of frustrating me that I was blissfully ignorant about my progress before my internal last week and then once I knew what was going on, things have come to a screeching halt.

Telling DH the news about my dilation went well, I guess. I only get to talk to him through email or MSN messenger, and it's hard to gauge anyone's reaction or emotions through words on a screen. It probably didn't help that he was sleep deprived when I talked to him too. I think he was excited and I know that him and his superiors are on the look-out for a Red Cross notification for him.

I told the in-laws about my progress when I called to wish them a Happy Turkey Day :animalrooster:. They are excited and ready to come down here as soon as the baby is born. Then later in the weekend, I got a call from a friend who lives in the same town as the in-laws and apparently someone bumped into one of DH's parents and then saw her and to make a long story short, my friend was under the distinct impression that I am in labor already! Wow- it started and I didn't even know it! So I'm not sure where the miscommunication happened on that one. :shrug: Hopefully my IL's are not sitting by the phone, wondering why I haven't called them yet!

I finished more of the baby's room this weekend by hanging up some framed posters and placing a carpet I had ordered. It's definitely coming together and I can't wait for the crib- it's coming tomorrow!

So, that's where I stand. :Whistle: Just waiting and seeing what my body is doing.

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(((HUGS))) Jen, sorry your body isn't doing what you hoped it would by now. I know the feeling - right down to the waiting ILs! I hope you are able to relax and accept though, to find peace - it will ultimately help you conserve energy. Smile Take care hon!

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I have a question for BTDT mommas- how did you feel emotionally before you went into labor? The reason I ask is that lately I've felt pretty raw emotionally. Generally I am an emotional person, but feel like this pregnancy has sort of "leveled" me. I've been able to deal with things much better than I would before I was pregnant. However, I can tell a difference these past few days. I feel myself slipping into sort of a funk and getting upset over things. I wonder if this means my hormones are shifting once again and I'm preparing for labor?

I think DH knew that I've been having a hard time lately. He sent me some flowers today, just because. :giveflower: Even several thousand miles away, the man knows how to make me smile. Smile

I had a check-up yesterday with my OB. He was with me for not even 5 minutes. Makes me feel like I'm not worth the time, KWIM? Didn't gain any weight (surprising since I enjoyed Thanksgiving), BP fine, baby's heartrate good, I'm 80-90 % effaced, baby at -1/0 station and I'm a full 4 cm dilated. So not much change since my last appointment, which I expected. He offered to induce me tomorrow (Friday) and I turned it down since I'm not at full term yet and there's still time for my body to do it on its own. When I got home and told my Mom about my appointment, she asked why the Dr. wanted to induce me. I said "Convenience", since he didn't give me any reasons why and she was like "It wasn't anything medical?" I said that I didn't think he would let me turn down the induction if there truly was a medical need for it. She's like "I hope not". So now she has me doubting myself and my choice a little bit. *sigh* Oh well.

On a happier note-
The crib is now set up in the baby's room and it's amazing what a difference it makes in making the room seem finished. I just need to put on the bedding and it will be all set!

Hope everyone is having a good week. It's Thursday :woohoo:, which means I can get my fix of Grey's Anatomy!

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(((HUGS))) Jen! It would not surprise me if your body was gearing up. Here is what happened to me emotionally with both my babies:

DS1 - The week before labor started, I woke up one morning and felt eerily calm. I simply didn't care whether I finished my outstanding deadlines - figured if I did, great, if not, no big deal. Other loose ends I very much wanted to tie up (emails, etc.) That lasted the whole week and went in conjunction with my physical symptoms (loose stools, desire to rest, etc.)

DS2 - You know from my lodge how anxious both the pre-labor and the early labor made me! I just didn't know what was going on with my body and it did take a lot out of me. I do think hormones made that harder to handle. By Friday afternoon I had accepted that this was the way I would labor and was at peace with it - though DH's opposite attitude still had me stressed out. Sunday was a very peaceful day and I do think it was my body's way of shifting gear once again.

Don't think about your mother - they come from an era when childbirth was still more medicalized than it is now! I know, easier said than done - just don't forget these are your *instincts* we're talking about, not some random decision you made! I also was offered induction (in the form of breaking water) and even though I was frustrated, I still didn't like the idea and wouldn't have gone with it. I think you made the right decision! (((HUGS)))

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I was induced the first time around, and would never choose that again. I shouldn't say never, but certainly not ever just for convenience reasons. I'm sure your little one will be with you very soon, don't dout your self you know what's best for you.

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Thank you for the hugs and advice, Christa and Vanessa. I needed that. I think my funk from the past few days is gone and I am feeling much better about my decision.

I did some Christmas shopping today (I figured that walking around the mall couldn't hurt) and I think I made some store clerks nervous! While checking out at one store, the clerk asked me when I was due. When I replied, "Tomorrow," his eyes bulged out of his head :shock: and he had this look on his face that said, "Please don't let her have this baby here in the store!"

I've been having some contractions over the past two days, but they peter out before really establishing a rhythm. All good practice, I guess. From looking at my calendar, I see that tomorrow night is a :bluemoon:. Well, actually a full moon ;). Wonder if that will have any effect on my body and start something?

Anyone have a bubble I can borrow? It needs to be big enough to fit a tall woman, but I can scrunch down a little bit to make myself smaller. I promise to give it back when I'm done. I just know I'm going to need a bubble over these next few days as the calls have already started rolling in, "Have you had the baby yet?" While I know all these people are just excited about the baby and are anxious for her/his arrival, I'm feeling the urge to isolate myself and let my body do its thing. I promise people, I will let you know when the baby comes!

Hope everyone had a good weekend and that your week starts off on a good note!

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Glad you are feeling better. Sorry I haven't been following your lodge as much as I would like to. Hang in there! And don't be afraid to change your voicemail to "still waiting..." and not answer the phone. Lol Seriously!

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Jen --

Hey. I'd give you my bubble...but I need it myself. I think I'm just an inch shorter than you.

I'm in the same boat as you...hoping this full moon tonight will do the trick...(for both of us!)

Just thinking of you and hoping it all goes well...

Jen

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I'm a great believer in the influence that the full moon can have on a person - Hopefully it will nudge your contractions into a steady progression! Happy Due Date to you!

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*Pokes head out of bubble* Is it safe to come out? :spooked:

Well I'm still here and I am still pregnant. The calls and emails keep coming in from friends and family, with some worrying that I will forget to let them know that the baby has come. There should be some sort of public service announcement that a pregnant woman can make to let people know that most babies do not come on their due dates and that if you haven't been contacted, then chances are pretty good that the baby hasn't come yet!

I had my weekly appointment with OB on Wednesday. Now I'm 4.5-5 cm dilated, still 80-90% effaced, baby at 0 station. He brought up an induction once more, stating that as a baby gets past his/her due date they (obviously) continue to grow and get larger and that shoulder dystocia can become a worry. He left the ball in my court about the induction and I left the office not knowing what to do. Was he concerned about the size of my baby? Does he think that the shoulder dystocia will happen to us if we wait awhile to see if I will deliver naturally? (And as for the shoulder dystocia, I've been good and not googled it for fear of torturing myself, but from what little I know it means that the head passes through the pelvic opening but then the shoulders get stuck. And I know from reading Ina May's book that getting on one's hands and knees is a good position to open up the pelvic cavity more to try to "unstick" the shoulders. But even with the little knowledge I do have about it, it was kind of unnerving that he chose to bring it up.) After a lot of soul searching and talking with family and friends (and wishing there was some way I could get in contact with DH to talk it over with him), I decided to not go for the induction since I was only 2 days overdue at this point. When I called the Dr. back the next day to tell him my final decision, I asked him if he thought the size of my baby might be an issue if I don't deliver before my next weekly appointment. He said he just typically likes to induce women who are induceable because of the size issue. And he said that he wasn't concerned about the size of my baby since I am tall and have a large enough pelvis. So all that worry and anxiety on my part for nothing, I guess. So now I am just waiting to see what happens between now and my next appointment. I obviously know that if I don't deliver before then that my Dr. will once again offer the induction and I don't know what my choice will be at that point. I am hoping that this baby takes the decision out of my hands by deciding to come into this world before then!

I woke up this morning with some pain and cramping and for some reason thought, "This is it." However, the contractions petered out and I was able to fall back asleep. I do feel a little different today. I've been having some more cramps and painless contractions than usual, so maybe something is happening. Maybe not. I know that only time can tell. It frustrates me a bit as a first-time mom to not know what labor is like. I find myself second-guessing things going on in my body thinking, "Is this cramping something I should be paying attention to? Is something starting and I don't realize it?" I had a dream the other night that I went to use the bathroom and ended up having my baby on the toilet because I didn't realize that I was in labor. I partially blame the preggo hormones for the vividness of the dream!

On a happy note, I escaped the house for a few hours yesterday to meet up with DH's aunt in the city. She was here on business and it was so nice to just get out of the house and get my mind off of baby things for awhile. It was like a mini-vacation and reminded me that I should try to do that some more over the next few days.

Hope everyone is having a good Friday! I'm going back to my bubble before anyone notices I've escaped!

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Sounds like your getting very close! I think you made a fine decision not to induce yet. You will know what is best for you and your baby by your next appointment granted you make it there. Don't worry about what other say, it in something only you can decide. I hope your feeling well, and every contraction is only getting you closer. It sounds like you are going to have a very quick labor:)

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Hmmmm, it's been a while?? How are you? Any news? I guess I should go looking for an update on you!

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Jen -- just stopped by...thinking of you.

Jen

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Hmmm, where are you darlin?

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Hi Jen!!! It's been awhile since you've checked in, I hope all is well with you Smile

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Apologies for not having the time to come here and update, but I'm a Mommy!! Biggrin While I logically knew that newborns take up a lot of time, I never could have imagined how busy my little one would keep me! Between the arrival, visitors and the holidays I haven't had any time to myself to come online. Now that things have calmed down a little bit, I hope to be able to be around a little more.

My little one made her (yep- my surprise turned out to be a little girl!) way into the world on December 11th, just a few days after I turned down the last induction offer of my doctor (and I am *so* glad I did because I wouldn't want her birth to happen any other way than it did). I woke up that Sunday morning at 8:30 with a contraction. It definitely felt different than the ones I'd had before but I didn't want to get my hopes up so I didn't say anything to anyone and my parents proceeded to leave for church at 9. I decided I should eat breakfast in case it really was the real thing because I would need some fuel to get through it. During breakfast and my shower, the contractions were coming consistently 9-10 minutes apart. After an hour of this (around 10 am), I decided I should call my best friend to let her know what was happening because she had a 2 hour drive to meet me at the hospital. While on the phone with her, my contractions quickly progressed to being 5 minutes apart. She decided she had better get on the road so that she could get here in time. My parents came home from church and I told them I hoped they didn't mind if they needed to cancel their dinner reservations for that night because I was pretty sure I was having a baby. They were excited and my mom wanted to try to help me during the contractions but I didn't want to be touched. I was coping with the contractions by leaning over my birthing ball that was on top of my bed. By doing this and breathing was the best way I found to make it through each contraction. In between contractions, I tried to finish packing my toiletries for my bag for the hospital and my parents kept on trying to bring the bags out to the car before I was finished with them! (I think they were a little excited.) I paged my Dr. around 10:45 to tell him that my contractions were coming 4 to 5 minutes apart for almost an hour and when he called back at 11 he told me to head to the hospital.

Riding in the car was the most unpleasant experience because I could not get comfy or find a way to deal with the contractions other than breathing through them. While in the car, my contractions got closer together and I started having the chills. I thought to myself, "I can't be in transition. This is going way too quickly!" When I got to L&D it was about 11:20 am (my Dad had to wheel me in the wheelchair because there was no way I could walk there at this point) they made me answer questions I had answered before on a previous L&D visit (which was totally infuriating because I was not in the right state of mind to be dealing with their questions at that point!). They checked me in their intake room and told me that I was 8 to 9 cm dilated, fully effaced :shock: The baby was definitely coming. At this point the contractions were coming right on top of one another and I was starting to feel out of control because I couldn't find a way to deal with the contractions. I was so uncomfortable laying down in the bed but couldn't really get up to move.

They moved me to a delivery room and my Dr. arrived and checked me (12 pm) and told me that I was at 10 cm. While he was checking me, my bag of waters broke (I never imagined how warm the water would feel!). They told me I could start pushing with the next contraction. At this point my best friend still hadn't arrived yet, but her mother (who is a midwife) was there along with my mother. They coached me through the pushing and it seemed like the second push I did at each contraction was the most productive. Around 12:20 my best friend arrived breathless (I found out later that my Dad had told her that the baby was already here and she was panicked that she had missed the whole thing!). At 12:41 pm I made my last push and my baby arrived in this world (into the loving hands of my BF's mother) and she began crying as soon as her whole body was out and she was on my abdomen. I couldn't believe how warm she felt straight from the womb. She was screaming, a little blue-purple, slippery from the vernix and the waters, but she was the most beautiful thing I had ever seen! I couldn't believe (and still can't believe) that my husband and I made this wonderfully perfect being.

I'm still sort of processing the whole birth. I'm still shocked that it all happened in a little over 4 hours from when the contractions started. It was as if it went so fast that I never really had a chance to wrap my mind around what was happening. But I made it through without any drugs and I must say while it was one of the hardest things I've ever done, it was also the most rewarding.

I was able to spend time with MJ before they took her up to the nursery and we had a great nursing session (boy do they have some suction with those little mouths even when they're just born!). She was 7 lbs 2 oz and 20.5 inches long. She discharged at 7 lbs 0 oz and was at 7 lbs 4 oz at her Ped appointment 3 days later.

She is doing well and I am slowly recovering from the sleep deprivation. We were able to get a message to DH to let him know that I was in labor and later DH was able to call while I was recovering in the delivery room. He had already found out from his family that we'd had a little girl (which I was a little bummed that I didn't get to be the one to share that information with him) and it was nice to be able to talk to him and share our new parent status with one another.

My best Christmas present this year (besides MJ) arrived 12/13. There was a knock at my bedroom door and I thought it was my mom telling me that dinner was ready. Boy was I shocked when I opened the door and saw my DH standing there in his uniform! All I could do was hug him and cry. What a wonderful surprise! Earlier that day I was sad thinking that I wished I could share this wonderful little one with him in person and my wish came true. His two weeks with us went way too fast and it was so wonderful seeing him in the father role. I can't wait for him to be back so that he can spend more time with her.

Well if you made it this far, thanks for reading! Also, thank you to the ladies who wondered where I had disappeared to. It's nice to be part of a community that cares.

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Congratulations! What a great story! MJ made a speedy entrance, and I'm glad that you are so pleased with the experience.

Enjoy your little one!

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What a beautiful story!!! Thanks so much for sharing, I really enjoyed reading it Smile