Joanne's (JoanneJoanne) Lodge! - postpartum

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Joanne's (JoanneJoanne) Lodge! - postpartum

Hi! Okay, so I have not been super active on this forum as I didn't find it until late in my pregnancy but I am having a natural birth (yay Hypnobabies!) and I at 38 weeks now.

Can I start my own lodge?

Smile

-Joanne

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Absolutely! You may just want to go in and edit the title of the thread to take out the question mark! Welcome to your lodge, Joanne! I know you've had some very trying times in your pregnancy...looking forward to knowing you better in the coming weeks and sharing the rest of the journey with you! Tell us a bit about yourself!

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Congrats on your lodge! Tell us everything!

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Welcome to your lodge!!! Can't wait to hear your story so far......... Smile

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"selkiemom" wrote:

Congrats on your lodge! Tell us everything!

Ditto! Wink

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Welcome to your lodge.. Please tell us more about you and your pregnancy so far.

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Welcome to your lodge!!! I hope to hear your story!

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Welcome. Tell us all about you!

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Yay! My lodge! Thanks so much to everyone for helping set it up for me and making me feel so welcome.

Let's see, about myself . . .

I am 34 years old, married to a wonderful guy and this is our first baby. We do not know the gender and are so excited for the surprise. I have no sense of what it is but if I was pushed I would guess it is a boy, mainly because in every dream I have had about it, it has been a boy. BUT my DH comes from a family of many girls (5 sisters and only 1 brother). So we'll see!

I am working with a great group of midwives at a small hospital that is run more like a birth center. We just had our hospital tour a few weeks ago and were so happy with it. Our birth plan is right in line with how they operate (low medical interventions, no nursery so automatic rooming-in, etc . . .).

My pregnancy has been very healthy for the baby but a bit difficult on me. From 6 to 14 Weeks I all day “morning” sickness. Luckily I did not throw up a lot but I had terrible headaches and a near constant car sick feeling. At the time I had just established myself (after quitting my day job and training for several months) as an instructor of a wonderful mind-body fitness technique called Nia that blends dance, martial arts and healing arts (like yoga). But I frequently had to cancel classes because I was too ill to teach. I also had a spat of spotting which was scary (my first pregnancy ended in a very early m/c so I was nervous about the spotting). We found out later it was due to a subchorionic hematoma that fortunately did not get serious and cleared up on its own by about 12 Weeks. But the spotting made me cancel more classes and I decided to take a leave from teaching and just practice Nia on my own. It is usually a wonderful way to exercise while pregnant. BUT at 16 Weeks I suddenly developed Symphisis Pubis Dysfunction and in one week went from dancing away in Nia class to barely being able to walk. I started seeing a physical therapist and although we did our best, I just could not get enough comfort back and had to really cut back my activity level. I did some gentle swimming for a several weeks but even that got too uncomfortable and eventually I wound up having to sit or lie down most days.

The good news is that I have made my peace with this and am very happy that my body decided to let me know what it needed to keep my baby healthy. We found out at our 20 Week u/s that we have a Single Umbilical Artery (one artery instead of two). SUAs can be caused by anatomical abnormalities but two very thorough checks (we had an additional u/s at 28 Weeks just to further check the SUA) have concluded that our baby’s anatomy looks fine so it is more of a coincidental thing for us. The only issue became that SUAs can sometimes cause growth retardation because of less blood getting to the baby. I think my body knew I needed to rest more in order to keep a better blood flow going and maybe the physical limitations I have been suffering have actually helped keep the baby healthier.

And in terms of the pregnancy for the baby, it has been going really well. My BP has been great the whole time. My weight gain has been right on target and in all the right places (despite the serious drop in my activity level). The baby has not shown any slowed growth (so the SUA is a non-issue now). My glucose test was perfect. And today my GBS test came back negative. Woo Hoo!

AND I am at 38 Weeks so I am nearly there! I am so looking forward to meeting this little baby and starting to feel better too.

As for our birth plans, we are doing Hypnobabies and I love it. I really think it is going to work beautifully. We also have a wonderful birth doula. And my DH is just the best ever. He has been so supportive and understanding of me as I have struggled through this pregnancy. He is going to be a great dad and is endlessly excited.

Ten days ago I lost my mucus plug but have had no other signs of impending birth. I have not felt any BH, although I occasionally get this heavy tight feeling over parts of my uterus. I thought it was just the baby stretching but today my MW said it could be an incomplete BH as my uterus tries to figure out how to do it. Since these tight feelings tend to happen when I am very tired, hot or when I suddenly shift position, I am starting to wonder if they could indeed be incomplete BHs. Who knows? It would be neat if they were because then I at least have a sense of what to look for.

I think that pretty much covers my pregnancy so far!

I am going to be a SAHM and hopefully, at some point in the future a WAHM (teaching Nia and maybe doing something else in the creative vein).

Anyway, I so happy to have found this forum and to see how everyone else’s journeys are going. It is really so amazing.

-Joanne

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Thanks for sharing your story so far. Isn't it amazing how our bodies seem to know what we need!

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Thanks for sharing Joanne. I am interested in Nia, but have not found any classes where I am currently living. Let's hope these next couple of weeks pass quickly!

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Thanks for sharing and WELCOME to your lodge! I look forward to following your birth.

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So, I have not had any typical nesting behavior. I did get our hospital bags all organized and the baby stuff all organized. But I have not had any huge urge to clean (sadly).

What I have been doing a lot of is knitting. So maybe that is my nesting?

I just finished up a little jacket for the baby to wear when coming home from the hospital. It is the most complicated thing I have knit so far (my being a scarf knitter for the most part) but it turned out well. Awwwww, baby knitting!

The Jacket

Entire Outfit

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That is just the cutest jacket pattern! You should share it on the knitting forum! I would love to know the source and make one too! Smile

http://www.pregnancy.org/phpBB2/viewforum.php?f=237&sid=2cf7bf9b5d8071da542cdc0dd82adc8a

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I love that jacket! So far I've only started a hat for my baby, I've also planned a blanket but I can't even think about clothes! I suppose I should start with that, huh?

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Welcome to your lodge - those clothes are adorable!

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Welcome to your lodge! That little outfit is soooo cute Smile

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I love that little sweater. Green is my favorite color. So cute.

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Joanne, thank you for sharing your story. Wow, you have had a long journey during our pregnancy and it sounds like you have done all the right things to keep your body and baby in the best condition. I look forward to following your lodge.

That sweater is so darn cute!

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congrats on being so far in the pregnancy, just a few more short weeks before you meet your little girl/boy. Hope you are doing well. Thanks for sharing your story, your little sweater is adorable. Looking forward to hearing more from you

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Oh some days I just wake up crabby. I think it is because I have been sleeping so badly for weeks and weeks now. It's not insomnia (I have no trouble falling asleep). I just wake up every hour either to pee or because my entire side (whichever one I am sleepeing on) has cramped up. So I never get to deep sleep and feel just as tired when I wake up as when I went to sleep. My MWs had me start taking Calcium Magnesium Citrate to help with the cramping but so far it hasn't.

I am a little worried now about the lack of sleep and how it is affecting me but I see no other solution other than having this baby! (And then I get to start a whole OTHER kind of sleep deprivation - ha ha.)

Anyway, I know I am only coming up on 39 weeks but I wish, I wish this baby would be born. I mean, obviously, I want it to stay in as long as it has to, but right now it feels like I am never going to start the birth process. I have not had any real signs. Every once and a while my belly will get sort of tight and heavy feeling but not all over. I do not know if that is some sort of incomplete BH or the baby stretching (although it feels really different from usual stretches). It's been two weeks since I lost my mucus plug but nothing else has happened.

Since I have had no signs I feel like the baby is not ready so I sort of do not want to try any natural induction techniques. I don't think. I don't know. I mean, they will only work if the baby is ready, right?

Sigh.

Sorry, just having one of those mornings . . .

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Hang in there, Joanne! It sounds like you're having one of those end of pregnancy days--totally allowed;-) Any way you can find 2 or 3 hours to treat yourself to somethign that you really enjoy and is relacing/rejuvenating?? Maybe a secret nap or a massage or a few hours in a hammock reading a good book?? It won't be that much longer now until you are holding your LO in your arms!

Jen

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I'm sorry that you are feeling so tired... But Jen is right, can you make a little time for yourself? I'm sure it would feel a million times better if you could get your mind relaxed!

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Thanks! I did in fact decide that what I needed to do was get out of the house. It's hard for me to get around with my SPD and it always improves when I just sit all day, but sometimes I think I have to move, even if I am uncomfortable. So I grabbed my mom (who is staying with us right now) and went to sit in the sunshine by the water (we live in Seattle) and knit. It was so helpful and I just took it really slow.

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Glad you had a good day. I am north of Seattle. We gotta use the sunny days for all we can while we have 'em! Tomorrow, comes the rain.

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It really does sound to me like you're describing the BH contractions I was having before--I was so irritated, I could never figure out if it was a contraction or just the baby stretching!!! I mean, it seems like it should be such a simple thing, shouldn't it??

About a week ago I started occasionally getting stronger contractions, where I was finally sure that's what it was. And once I started getting those, I could compare them to the feeling of Xander stretching, and that's when I could finally decide that those other tight feelings I'd been getting really were BH and not stretching. So anyway, I would bet that's also what you're getting.

This might not have anything at all to do with it for you, but related to the waking up really crabby and grouchy in the morning... I had a funny experience a few months ago.

A little background first: My son has Type 1 diabetes (that means he has an autoimmune condition that destroyed the cells in his pancreas that make insulin), and there's a new type of medical device that was approved by the FDA for the first time just last year. It's called a "CGMS" (continuous glucose monitoring system) and what it means, is that it's like a pager that gets a wireless signal from a little transmitter you stick in your skin (sort of like having a wireless iv, except no medicine is going in, just signals coming out). The one we bought updates the blood sugar reading on an LED screen once every 5 minutes.

Anyway, one thing we've always done is not make Josh do anything we're not willing to do. So a few months ago, I stuck one of the transmitters in me and wore it for three days so I would know exactly what it's like for him.

Mostly, what I found is that I have nice, stable blood sugar (except when I ate that Cinnamon Toast Crunch--WOW did that spike me!!) BUT, I discovered that I am having a problem with low blood sugars. I have no idea if that's always there, or if it's only because of the pregnancy... but on two of the three nights, my blood sugar dropped quite low and stayed that way for hours--pretty much until I got up for the day, in fact.

I didn't even know it was possible for a person's body to stay that low normally; usually you hit a threshold at 68 mg/dl where cells in your pancreas start giving off a hormone that triggers the liver to dump sugar into your blood and bring the blood sugar back up. But I was staying in the 40s and 50s for hours. I've seen Josh pass out at 40--that's -really- low!

Anyway, the other thing I learned is that those nights coincided with nights where I had a -very- hard time crawling out of bed in the morning and I was irritated at the world. Had nothing to do, really, with how much sleep I'd had... I also learned that when I'm up at 2 in the morning drinking chocolate soy milk or having a few spoonfuls of ice cream for my heartburn, that helps fend off the nighttime lows, and I wake up feeling ok in the morning.

I don't know if this is a common problem for pregnant women--very likely no one knows, because it's not like many of us go around wearing cgms devices to see if we're having hidden lows at night!--but I thought I'd offer it as an idea that might help you.

If you decide to try a nighttime snack, don't go with anything that's straight sugar or starch--those will just make the low worse later on. You need something with either protein or fat, to help slow down the carb absorption so it can hold your blood sugar steady--cheese and crackers, an apple with peanut butter, soy milk (beans are very slow carbs), ice cream, even pizza. Milk and yogurt aren't great choices, especially yogurt--they hit the blood sugar faster than I used to think.

Ok, so there's my odd post... hope it helps someone else out there. I can't even begin to describe how nice it feels to just wake up in the morning and NOT be crabby. It's been so much easier for me to get out of bed since I started making sure I had a nighttime snack whenever I'm up with heartburn.

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Meghan, thanks for the insight into your BH and the low blood sugar thing. I actually have always thought I have some sort of blood sugar issue but it has never shown up in any test. I tend to feel yucky very quickly after eating stuff with sugar in it unless it is after dinner (when I tend to eat the most protein). This has made me make sure to get at least a little protein with each meal (once eating an apple would make me feel nauseous but now if I eat cheese with it I am fine). But I never thought about it overnight. That could very well be a problem! I will have to experiment a little and see. Smile

-Joanne

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Had a bit of a bummer happen today.

The diamond fell out of my engagement ring and I did not notice it at the time. I am pretty sure it happened at home but it could have gone down the sink (I had washed my hands about 30 minutes before I realized it was gone). We have scoured the house and cannot find it. Sad

Luckily we had it insured. It was a very simple ring (little band with a sweet little stone) and the one my DH proposed with so I am feeling bummed.

-Joanne

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Aww, sorry about the diamond. I've lost two emeralds in the past in two different rings and have only had one replaced (my mom fixed my daughter's pride ring as a christmas gift, the other ring wasn't worth enough to be worth replacing the stone in). I've almost lost the emerald again since then but noticed the little claw was opening and bent it shut again. They really should make them better!

In my experience, natural induction methods haven't worked and I believe they will only help things along if you're body is already ready. I have been walking like crazy, dtd, nipple stimulation etc. for a few weeks now. If anything, it keeps us busy but we really have no control over this event (unless we choose interventions) and it's probably when we give up our need for control and let things just happen on their own that they will.

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Hi Joanne! I am just checking in to your lodge now. I think it's amazing that your body knew what to do and had to stay resting to keep your little one safe. Your knitting is very cute! So far I've only done a soaker and a half (and I have to redo the one because it is huge!) Here's wishing you good luck! Now I gotta go look up Nia - I've never heard of it! Smile

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hope your weekend is going well and you are finding things to keep your mind busy. your little one will be here before you know it!

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Hope you are feeling well and got some well deserved rest this weekend!

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There may be a little forward progress. I have been losing a little more mucus since this afternoon. Very small amounts and very pale. But I figure it is something. It means things are moving in the right direction, even if it is v-e-r-y- s-l-o-w-l-y. Lol

My DH and I did some birth rehearsals this evening (recommended by the Hypnobabies program) and it was very helpful.

I have had a few more of those "maybe BHs". I think they are some sort of incomplete BH as they do feel quite different from a general baby stretch. But we will see. I figure I will know for sure once I have experienced a full BH or ctx.

-Joanne

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Joanne, I am sorry to hear about your diamond but so glad to hear things so like they are moving along. Hang in there.

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Hi Joanne,

How's your body today? Sorry about the stone - that's a pity. The blood sugar thing is really interesting. I remember interviewing a diabetic once, and her saying that a peanut butter sandwich would always help her get through the night. It's always good to remember the incredible stress our bodies are under especially in these last weeks!

My knitting has tailed off so much - I really should get going again to help pass the s-l-o-w time until the LO wants out. I've decided to make fruit hats for my friends who are also expecting. Not Carmen Miranda fruit hats, but simple tomato or grape or strawberry cloches.

Have a great week, and sending vibes your way for a labor that's sooner!

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Joanne-
So sorry to hear about the diamond...I know that there' sentimentality attached to it even if it was insured! Maybe DH can come up with somethign creative to make a new memory if you decide to replace it;-)

Hang in there with the sleep...it's not long now and you'll get *most* of your body back;-)

Jen

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Awww, thanks for the good thoughts!

I started out today feeling kinda crabby and like I would be pregnant forever. But I had a midwife visit this afternoon and everything is going well. Great BP on me and good heartbeat on baby.

I decided to go ahead and have my cervix checked (since my fav midwife was the one working today) just to see if there was any sort of progress going on. I know it doesn't predict anything but I thought I'd like to know if I was still tightly closed at this point or whatever.

Well, I've got a little dilation going on (1 cm) and the baby is at -1 so not engaged yet but not super high either. Overall, I am feeling optimistic. I am only just past 39 weeks and I know going late is normal with first time moms so I likely have another week anyway. The midwife also went over all the things they would try to get me going after 41 weeks BEFORE pitocin is even considered. That made me feel better too.

Also, my DH reminded me I could try my Hypnobabies for the cervix check and so I did while he assisted with some birth partner cues. AND it totally helped (pelvics are always really uncomfortable for me). DH did such a great job. I am feeling good about my Hypnobabies for the birth.

Whew!

-Joanne

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Hiya! Just catching up on your lodge now... Smile

Isn't hypnosis amazing? I'm totally sold on it, I think it's a totally underused tool that we just COME with and nobody knows.

So sorry about the PSD... I relate!!! My chiro kept me walking in my last trimester, I'm sure I wouldn't have been. Unfortunately for me, at 13 months PP mine is still not completely normal and I'm at the point that I wonder if it ever will be the same again. Don't let me scare you - it's NOTHING like the constant pain you're experiencing, but it did take a while to start feeling at all stable and now if I carry something heavy I still feel the 2 sides "wag" with my steps. Anyway I feel your pain!!!

Sorry to hear about the diamond. My breath just caught in my throat when I read that, this is a worry of mine. Hugs hon.

Thinking of you and sending 'timely" labour vibes. Smile

xo Robin

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Things are happening!

Major bloody show last night and this morning (and continuing to pass mucus everytime I go to the bathroom).

Irregular pressure waves (ctx) occurring since 3 am. Right now they are close together but very short.

Keep your fingers crossed that this is it!

Smile

-Joanne

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Fingers crossed!!! I seem to be going in reverse since Saturday; a few strong pressure waves each day, but otherwise almost nothing--just very, very swollen ankles, and that's a sign of a heavy/big uterus at the end of pregnancy, not a sign of labor getting close... Not even a tiny bit of show.

I hope to hear good news from you soon!

Smile Meghan

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All my fingers are crossed for you!! I hope that this is it for you!

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Thinking of you Joanne and hoping this is it!

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Quick update!

Went into active labor around 11:00 am on Tuesday June 12th.
Arrived at the hospital at 1:20ish pm.
I had a baby boy at 1:54 pm!

He's perfect and beautiful.

Labor was way faster than anyone expected and wicked intense. Will update with more details in a few days.

Good vibes for everyone still waiting and for everyone home with their babes.

-Joanne

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FAST? I think so!!!
Take it easy and enjoy the new member of the family. We can wait (a little while) for pictures and stories.

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Wow, congratulations!!! Can't wait to hear your story and see pics!

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Congratulations!! That is a really fast delivery! Can't wait to hear your story, when you are up to it!

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Congrats! Can't wait to hear a the story.

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Congrats on the baby boy, Joanne!! So excited to see pics and hear about your super fast delivery! I wonder if all you ladies having quick labors is reducing the odds of me having a quick one?!?!?! Enjoy your babymoon, mama!!

Jen

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I am so glad that you had a quick and wonderful delivery! I can't wait to see pics and hear the whole story!

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Joanne-
Hope all is going well. Thinking of you...

Jen

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Hi!

Oh I have been wanting to update and also catch up on everyone's lodges but things have been a little crazy.

We named our little boy Declan and he is wonderful, perfect, beautiful.

However, he had trouble latching from the start and after days of trying, calling in a lactation consultant and too much weight loss, we finally were advised to start bottle feeding him my breastmilk. So I have been pumping every 2-3 hours day and night. Totally not fun but I wouldn't have it any other way. And amazingly, despite not getting him to nurse, my milk supply is stellar.

Then we discovered that he has short frenulum (the little web of skin attaching his tongue to the bottom of his mouth). This is also called being tongue tied. His was not severe but it was short enough that he could not get his tongue far enough under my nipple to nurse and he also could not open his mouth wide enough.

We were very fortunate to find a doctor in our area who will clip short frenulums (most doctors won't and will just recommend you switch to formula - No Way!). She is also just an amazing person, down-to-earth and such an advocate of breastfeeding.

So Declan's frenulum was clipped on Wednesday and we are working on the nursing. Obviously, he is now suffering from some nipple confustion with the bottle (but at the time it was our best option to get his weight back up - he was shutting down to conserve energy). But our lactation consultant is confident we will get him on the breast. It may take some weeks, though, as he needs to figure out his tongue and also he has a somewhat reccessed lower jaw which will take a month or two to come forward.

Today we met with her and tried to get him to latch on. He screamed and screamed (his normal reaction to my breast from all his early frustration) but then settled down and we got a weak latch and then he fell asleep peacefully still somewhat attached. It was a good first step.

We will be stopping the bottle this weekend and moving to an SNS system at the breast (little tube taped to my breast will funnel pumped breastmilk to him and hopefully give him a positive breast experience and stimulate him to latch on). We will also be using a nipple shield as his tongue still cannot get under my nipple far enough (he needs to build up the underused muscles). But as he gets older and his mouth grows he should be able to get there.

It's a long road and I am utterly exhausted with all the worry and feeding and pumping.

But he is doing well and that is all that matters.

I will try to catch up on everyone's lodges in the coming days. I am so excited to read other birth stories AND get mine up as well.

Declan with me

Declan with his stuffed pig (it is the Year of the Pig by the Chinese zodiac and as I am half Chinese, I had to get him a pig)

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