She's beautiful. Congrats to you and your family. WTG on delivery.
Congratulations!!! Kate is beautiful! So happy for you that you got the birth you wished for!
welcome little kate!
Oh, David met her too. The in-laws have those pics, but it was soooo cute! He smiled at her and said "I touch it", so I said "gentle" and he petted her. Then he said "I have it, Mama?" He smiled real big! I said, yep, you can have her. We're taking her home. He was happy! I hope he stays that way.
That is SOOO cute!! Seriously, what a sweet little boy you've got there!
Congrats, my dear friend. I am over joyed for you!
Oh Julya! I'm gone for the weekend and LOOK what I miss!!
Congrats on your beautiful girl! She is perfect and you DID IT!!!! I'm so happy for you.
Enjoy your baby moon!
Aww, she's precious! Congratulations on your water birth! That is really so neat that everything worked out for you. Best wishes to your growing family!
Congratulations!! I am so happy, happy, happy for you!! I just KNEW it was a girl! YAY!!!
Way to go!! I absolutely can't wait to hear all about it and see tons of pics.
I wish I could hug you!! She is just beautiful!!
Awwe! Yay! Congrats!!!! Welcome baby Kate!
I am so excited for you. I can't wait to hear about the full delivery. What a wonderful, strong woman you are!
Woooo hooooo!!!!!! That is so great! I knew you'd be right about it being a girl.
Congrats!!! I can't wait to meet her.
TOTALLY awesome job!! Check in when you can.
congrats!!! I'm so excited for you! I'm glad you're doing well after all of that bleeding. And I think the water birth is awesome, I so wish I could do that here ...
Congrats on the successful waterbirth!
Julya, what wonderful news for me to see on my first day home from the hospital! I'm so pleased that you got the birth that you wanted. Kate is just beautiful, and that's one of my favorite names - I love it! I can't wait to hear how things are going at home. Congrats, my friend!
Congratulations and she is beautiful. Cannot wait to hear the birth story, way to go mamma.
What wonderful news, congratulations on your little girl!
Congratulations! I look forward to hearing more
Oh, Julya! How beautiful! Congratulations to your new family and welcome sweet baby Kate! :bigarmhug:
Um, so... were they both born during book?
How did I miss this?! YAY Julya, she's GORGEOUS and congratulations on a fabulous birth!
I am so happy you just had her, because babies on here come in cascades and that's good news for the other mamas I was getting deprived with no babies on here for a while week and a half!
Julya, how's it going? I hope Kate is a good eater and sleeper so that you are getting lots of rest.
Still thinking of you and sending love.
Congrats on a beautiful little girl and a wonderful birth!
Gotta love those sweeps babies, eh?
So glad you had the birth experience you wanted! Your daughter is beautiful!
Congrats, Mama!!!! What a great job you did. Welcome to the world, Kate!
Congratulations!! You did it! Your Kate is beautiful!:D
I just talked to Julya!
She is doing great! It's about 48 hours since the birth now. She sounds really good and happy. David is still loving having a baby around and pointing out when the baby is crying and needs something.
Julya is getting some cream for her nipples which are sore, but other than that she is breastfeeding without a shield which she had to do so long with David.
Kate is awake a lot at night and sleepy during the day, so Julya is busy and tired in the normal way.
She's had one postpartum visit from someone from the birth center (a nurse, I think, not a midwife), and her postpartum bleeding is completely under control.
Overall everything is going well. She asked me to send greetings and thanks to all of you.
YAYAYA for good progress!!!
Thanks for the update, I was worried about her bleeding. But it sounds like everything is going great.
Julya, congrats on the arrival of your beautiful little girl! I'm so proud of you!
Hi Julya. How are you and your beautiful little girl going?
Ok that so makes me sure I'm ready for another one:) You gave me tears in my eyes talking about your little boy, I'm so happy for you, and he will love her just as much as you do!
Congratulations and she is absolutely beautiful!
Thanks everyone! I finally got a chance to sit down and write out the whole story ....here ya go ...I'll be back later with some new pics too. Also, I'll give an update on us.
- Woke at 2am 5/3/08 with light contractions. They were lasting about 40 seconds every 8-12 minutes. It was enough that I couldn’t sleep, so I got up to take a bath. I noticed I was loosing my plug. In the bath, the contractions subsided a little, so I tried to lay down. It hurt worse when laying down (in my back), so I got on up at 3:30am and went to surf the computer for a while.
- At 8am they were still coming ..no more, no less. Bob got up and we called his parents to come up and watch David.
- His parents got here around 10am. Contractions basically stopped …bummer!
- At 11:30am, I asked Bob to go walking with me in the rain to try to get them going again. We walked around the neighborhood and I had six contractions. We decided to ask the in-laws to take David to their house for the night, just in case, that way I could relax and concentrate. I didn’t really want David to go because I didn’t think labor was really starting. Bob said that if nothing happened we could get David in the morning …no harm …and at least David would have a change of scenery and get to spend time with his grandparents.
- At 12:30ish, the in-laws left with David. Bob and I planned to go out to eat/go to a movie since my labor had stopped. It only really happened when I walked, so I thought it was over.
- Well, the second David was out of the driveway, I got a STONG contraction. So strong, that I couldn’t walk or talk through it. 10 minutes later …another one …then another one. I was hungry, so Bob and I decided to order in, take a shower, and call the midwife. My midwife later told me that sometimes, women will actually stop their own labors in the presence of older children. Women, subconsciencly, don’t want their children to see them in pain. Talk about mind/body connection! She was not surprised at all that my labor stopped, then picked up once David left. I thought that was pretty cool!
- We ate Japanese (I had rice, veggies/shrimp/water to drink), then I got in the shower. I told Bob to call the midwife as I was taking a shower. This was about 3pm. I started loosing track of time in here …when I was in the shower, contractions got tough and I had to moan through them.
- The midwife went to the birth center and started the water tub …we got there shortly after. My times are all messed up in here, but I’ll tell what I remember was told about times.
- We got to the center. We rang in and it was so peaceful! Bob, the midwife and myself were the only ones in the entire building! The nurse showed up about 20 minutes later, but it was so quiet and peaceful! I loved it! It was raining and there were roses outside the window beside the birth tub. Just a perfect day to give birth!
- Okay, we got there and she asked to check me. I thought I was 1-2 centimeters ….nope …I was 5! Cool! I also remember it was painful to be on my back. So painful, I screamed and had to slowly bring myself back to control. I need to stand or be in the tub.
- We went to our birthing room and I got in the tub. It felt heavenly!! I loved having the jets wash over my tummy. My midwife, Julia, showed Bob how to put counter pressure on my back to help relieve the pain. I was having lots of pressure in my tailbone. Baby was low!
- I hung out on the side of the tub and drank some water …let the jets wash over me. Bob was AMAZING y’all! Bob sat in front of me, outside of the water, on a birth ball. He held my hand the whole time. When a contraction would peak, he would remind me to “low moan” and he would do it with me. He also turned on my hypnobabies CDs. I didn’t actually end up using them, but Bob said the music and the ladies voice is so soothing that even if I didn’t use them as tool, it was nice to listen to in the background. I actually wound up leaning on the Lord and Bob for my support ..and it worked perfectly for me. In Christianity, we believe Jesus lives within us, so I was drawing strength from Him.
- I was handling things well …I figured I was still at a 5 or 6, just waiting for transition to start. My midwife asked if I needed to pee, and I realized I did. So, they helped me out of the tub and Bob and the midwife helped me to the toilet. Oh, leaving the water was painful! I don’t think I’d want to labor without the water!
- My midwife asked to check me, and I agreed. I was pretty sure I hadn’t advanced though and wasn’t expecting much. I wasn’t keeping good track of time, but I knew it hadn’t been long (about 30 minutes or so) ….well …I was 9 cm!!!! Wow! She told me she could still feel a bulging bag of waters and gave me the option of breaking it. I declined as I felt labor was going fast anyway.
- I got back in the tub, feeling very optimistic. I couldn’t believe I was 9cm!
- Well, at this point …the contractions got much stronger and I started to loose it. Between 10cm and the pushing stage was the hardest for me. I remember looking Bob in the eyes and telling him “I’m scared.” It was just overwhelming and coming too fast. I concentrated on his eyes through some contractions and it helped so much. He breathed/moaned with me.
- Bob asked the midwife how we would know it’s time to push. My midwife was so cool …she goes “Julya will tell us.”
- A little later, I was starting to loose control again. My midwife came to my level and breathed through the contraction with me. After that one ended, she asked if I felt the need to push. I said I think so …it felt like I needed to poop! LOL!
- Oh Lordy! The pushing was the most aweful feeling I’ve ever had in my life! I’ve heard people say they like pushing, but for me …owe. Transition was nothing for me, but pushing …goodness …that’s where I lost it. I felt like a freight train was moving through my body. My tailbone hurt, my perineum felt like it was going to break in two pieced AND I felt like throwing up on top of it all. During pushing, I didn’t want to be touched/talked to/helped ….nothing ….I just had to do my own thing. This is the point that I said “I can’t do this!” My midwife said “you ARE doing this.” And …yeah …I was …Kate was crowing.
- When I came into the birth center, I was praying during a contraction. This is the cool part for me …when I lost control with pushing, my midwife said “you were praying earlier and it seemed to help you. Is that something you want to do now?” I said “Yes!” She said “do you want Bob to pray?” I said “yes!” Bob prayed for the Lord to give me strength ….and He did! It was a neat experience. Bob, me, Julia (my midwife) and Pam (the nurse) all praying for strength during my hardest moment.
- My midwife said “a few more pushes and you’ll meet your baby”, but it was too overwhelming for me. It was happening too fast for me to stay on top of the pain. So, I had to slow down. I slowly let Kate stretch me, and the ring of fire HURT!! Sitting there waiting for a contraction was painful. Finally, the contraction came and I pushed with all my might. I screamed at the top of my lungs (I know you are supposed to low moan, but I just couldn’t at that point …I lost control). I sat up on my legs like a baseball catcher (this is how Bob described it) and I pushed my baby girl out!!! Wow!!
- 4:46pm - The midwife caught, Bob was behind me, and the nurse was to my side putting cool water on me with a washcloth (that felt good). Kate was right to my chest, and it was instant relief! She was beautiful!!! She wasn’t crying, which concerned me at first, but she was okay. Just a gentle birth, so she didn’t cry! I snuggled her, checked her legs, and I announced “it’s a girl!” LOL! It was amazing!
- We snuggled in the tub for a few minutes. The midwife waiting for the “gush” that showed my placenta had detached. Then, Bob cut the cord (after it stopped pulsating) and we all moved to the bed to push out the placenta. I pushed the whole thing out …she didn’t pull at all. It was a perfect birth experience.
- Kate/myself/Daddy snuggled in bed for over and hour …breastfed …everything before her weight/height and all was taken. They assessed her right on my tummy, and she slept right in the bed beside me. I LOVE the birth center! It was everything I ever wanted and I didn’t have to fight for anything. It was perfect!
- After Kate was assessed, I did start to hemorrhage, but the midwives got it stopped quickly. That was a little scary, but they are good at what they do.
- Both sets of grandparents and David came to visit in the birth center. David loves Kate! He asked “Baby, can I have it, Mommy?” So sweet!
- We were released to go home at 11pm. We slept in our own bed the night before labor, and we slept in our own bed the night Kate was born!! I love that!
So, all in all, the midwife said my active labor started at 2pm. I had 2 hours 46 minutes of active labor. I went from 5cm dilated to 10cm in 45 minutes. The pushing stage took 45 minutes because I wanted to take it slow. The midwives let me have total control and trust in my body, and that was amazing.
While the pushing stage was hard …I’ll even say horrible …I 100% preferred this way of delivering my baby over the epi/hospital. It was just so nice. The birth center midwives respected my body and let nature take it’s course. It’s just so peaceful. I’m really happy.
Oh – and I did tear – but only along my old episiotomy scare from when I had David. It could use two stitches, but she gave me the option of stitching it or not. I chose not to because she said it will heal without the stitching too. I think that if I didn’t have that weak spot, I wouldn’t have torn at all.
Kate is so cute!! It’s fun being the Mommy of two!! I feel very very blessed!
Another cool note – after we got home, Bob said “you’re stronger than I thought you were! You did it!” He had a huge grin on his face! He said, “I couldn’t tell you this before you delivered, but I was worried about how you would handle the pain.” I think all men worry about that, ya know? He is so proud of me though! That felt really neat. He’s just beaming. He doesn’t think he could do that ..lol ..which is cool! He’s keeps saying I’m tough ..ha! That’s totally not why I did it. I did it for the reasons I mentioned above – I wanted to let things happen naturally without hospital restrictions, but it’s really neat to have him say that.
Pics and an update
Kate has/had her days and nights mixed up. I did some things to help her, and last night went MUCH better.
We also had some breastfeeding issues, but those are getting better now too. I gotta run take a shower real quick, but I'll update more later.
Here are some new pics:
First bath at home today ...2 days old ...
What an amazing, incredible, empowering birth experience! I am so thrilled that God was invited in the experience and He gave you strength when you needed it the most! TFS Julya. And Miss Kate is absolutely beautiful.
Wow Julya. I have tears in my eyes. What a wonderful and amazing birth story. I'm SO thrilled for you that you had the birth that you wanted and I can tell you are just SO pleased.
Kate is GORGEOUS!!!!! I'm happy that everything is going so well.
Love the bath pictures!:D
That was a great birth story! I want that.
She is beautiful, I'm happy to hear that everything is going so well.
Great story! And great photos! I'm so pleased that you got just the birth you wanted. I knew those scriptures would help you!
Julya I am in tears. Thank you so much for sharing this~ I have been reminded where my strength comes from, and where my confidence comes from too. Kate is beautiful- lol she looks so giant! Like a nice big healthy baby!
What a great birth experience! I'm so happy for you and Kate. David's comments are too cute, too.
what a beautiful birth story!She is gorgeous Juyla!
aww! she is so beautiful! congrats I'm so happy for you! She looks so little - I can't believe it's only been 6 1/2 months since I had an itty bitty baby
What a beautiful, beautiful birth story. It sounds amazing and I'm so happy for you! I also love her first diaper! Your dh sounds amazing too!
AWESOME!! I have been stalking like mad waiting to read that. Somehow I just missed it last night :doh:
That was fantastic to read, Julya. I am so happy for you. I love how you honestly say how terrible it was, but how WONDERFUL it still was. To me, that epitomizes the reasons behind birthing naturally. I had wonderful birth experiences with epis, but in many ways they were terrible because of all the intervention and because I didn't FEEL it.
Way to go. I honestly look forward to the day my DH can be proud of me for dealing with the pain like that. I'll bet that feels really good, too.
Your daughter is beautiful, and I am so, so, so happy for you.
Thank you so much for sharing your birth story, I love how you leaned on your faith it is very moving. What a beautiful babe!
Kate is almost 5 days old now!! We are settling in.
The first two days, she had her days/nights mixed up. We worked it out though. I do a form of flexible scheduling, so to fix her days/nights ....I just woke her to feed her every 2.5 hours during the daytime. She was wanting to sleep all day long. It worked, and last night she woke up at 11pm, 3am, and 6am ...not bad at all!
My bottom is WAY sore, but I can tell it is starting to get better. My nipples are KILLING me though. I need to talk to an LC again. I'm not sure if this is normal pain or not. I know she is latching correctly now, but at the beginning she wasn't. She tore me up a bit, and I have some cuts ...but I'm wondering how long they will take to heal now that her latch is fixed? It's been 3 days since her latch was fixed, but I'm still in serious pain. I hope my nipples heal soon!!
David is doing great at being a big brother. He loves to just look at her. When she cries, he gets concerned. He'll ask "why baby sister crying?" Yesterday, I asked him why he thought she was crying and he said "she want chocolate milky!" LOL! (she doesn't cry often, just usually when she wakes when I'm trying to get her properly latched to the breast ...it takes me a few minutes)
So, overall, we're doing well. Anyone have advice on the breastfeeding stuff? I nursed David with a nipple shield for a full year due to latching issues at birth, so I'm a newbie to the bare breast stuff.
Sounds like little Kate is adjusting well. Sorry to hear you nipples are so sore. You can try leaving or expressing a bit of milk onto the nipple after Kate has nursed and then let it air dry - the antibodies in the breastmilk will help heal the nipples. You can also get Lansolin cream - although I have never used it so I am not sure how it works.
Great update! I bet your bottom is sore. People don't talk about that, but it's pretty normal. Remember the saying '5 days in bed, 5 days on the bed, 5 days around the bed.' That time is for you too, not just baby. You will heal up. I know you know that.
I had nipple pain for quite a while. Even with a good latch, it's hard to recover while breastfeeding around the clock because your nipples are still getting, well, sucked on. But it does get better. I think it can't hurt to have the LC come back and make sure about the latch. Make sure to get as much of your aereola in Kate's mouth as possible. If she is only getting the nipple, you are going to be in serious pain. Even if she's doing better with the latch, she might be able to improve and that will help you.
I deal with nipple pain starting about 5 days PP until about 14 days PP or so. I think it is just your nipples getting adjusted to being sucked on all the time. It HURT LIKE HELL for a wekk to ten days IIRC, then it slowly gets better.