Welcome to your lodge!!
Welcome Karly! I look forward to hearing your story!
Welcome to your lodge Karly! You must be getting so excited!
Welcome Karly! I love all of these mama's about to have spring babies.
Welcome to your lodge! I look forward to hearing your story!
Welcome to your lodge! Can't wait to read your birth story.
Thanks for the warm welcome! It's such a great group of ladies here.
Hmm...where to begin? I am 29 and DH is 35. We have been married just over two years and were very lucky that we were able to conceive very easily. He is my best friend and I couldn't imagine anyone else I would rather share my life with or have father my children. We are expecting our first child, Kailey Alexis and are beyond excited. Everyone had thought she was a boy before our ultrasound and I have to say I was hoping for a little boy, but the second we found out we were having a girl, we have been overjoyed and have loved all the little pink stuff!
As for my delivery, I am going to a birthing center...I guess it's more of a "hospital setting" than a "home setting," but I am really comfortable, as they are super progressive and supportive of all choices made by the moms. No IVs (unless you are opting for an epi), birth balls, squat bars, jacuzzi tubs and showers, encourage you to be up and walking around etc. They are also part of a hospital with a state of the art NICU. My DH and my mom with both be supporting me through labor. My mom had two unmedicated births (although I got stuck and they had to use foreceps and break her tailbone...then the next OB for her delivery of my brother didn't think there would be a problem and she ended up with the same senario...but still no drugs! :shock: ). My mom is also an RN and has worked some in L&D...she fell in love with Ina May's Guide to Childbirth after I gave it to her to read and DH and I feel very lucky she will be there to support us both. I am not nervous about birth yet...does that set in closer to the due date? I am feeling pretty confident (probably just FTM "ignorant bliss") right now that I can do this and I hope to labor at home as long as possible.
My pregnancy has been very uneventful...which is good, because life has been a little hectic. My DH decided to go back to being self employed around Thanksgiving. This was great because he is so much happier. Unfortunately, a few weeks ago he had a recurrence of an old neck problem...not great when you are a CPA and it's the middle of tax season. We made sure he was doing all the right things...homeopathic remedies, inversion table, cold/hot treatments, stretches etc, but unfortunately this has been a bad episode and he has not been able to work for the past week (he does some of his own clients and contracts work from two other CPAs). I work full time, but we kept our insurance through his COBRA because the L&D benefits are better. We were just paying for me and had to go back today and pay for his benefits since the beginning of the year in order to see the dr today. So I have been glad that my daughter seems content to stay put for awhile and hopefully my DH is on the mend. He is a really strong, hardworking man and not being able to "take care of things" right now has been really hard on him. I have been working to make sure he isn't stressed which just makes everything worse, but I know he feels bad...I have had to shovel the drive when we got a bunch of snow and I didn't finish fast enough and he came home...I know it hurt him to see me taking care of it.
So anyway, we need end the first post on a high note...hmmm, well my daughter is head down and since I was seeing a different OB in the practice on Friday, they wanted to verify her position. He did a quick check and although my cervix is high, he was able to feel her head right away...I think she was upset about being poked, because she was a little stinker, kicking me all evening! She is quite a little spit fire already. We had seen the news stories about this being the Chinese year of the "Golden" Pig...it happens every 60 or 600 years and is supposed to be very lucky. My DH and I keep saying things will turn around when little "piglet" is born!
Thanks for reading my really long post! Hope your eyes aren't too strained.
Welcome to your lodge It's good that you aren't feeling scared about the delivery. I think the more relaxed you are going in, the better it will be. Oh, and the Golden Pig- it's every 600 years! How neat that you get to have your baby at such a special time!
Congratulations on your lodge! Sounds like your Mom and dh will be great labour support. That is nice that you have such great support.
I totally understand about not having any fear yet. Do you think it will hit all of a sudden? Hmm....I hope not!
Welcome to your lodge! Personally, from everything I've read on this board, I think the whole "fear" aspect tends to decrease exponentially with the more education a mama gives herself. Even though I ended up with a birth chock-full of interventions, I had absolutely no fear about L&D because of all the things I'd read and educated myself about.
I hope that things continue to progress positively for you and I look forward to reading your updates!
Congrats on your lodge!
I also gave birth in a place very much like the one you are going to. I would do it again in a heartbeat. They were great, I felt my decisions were respected, and I also felt safe.
We were also kind of hoping for a little boy, but I'm so thrilled with my little girl now. I totally understand!
I had my weekly appt today and found out my GBS came back negative! :thewave:
I don't really feel the test means much (or that a negative now is any indication of what I would be when I deliver), but I am so glad not to have to deal with antibiotics (or refusing them) if I tested negative. One less thing to worry about.
Other than that, all the prenatals continue to be uneventful and boring...just the way we like 'em. I am measuring right on, my weight went down from last week (probably because it was a morning appt as opposed to after lunch ), my BP and her HB were great. Part of me wishes I was starting to feel a little worse...maybe that would indicate that my body is at least starting to gear up for the big event. Oh well, there is still quite a bit of time left. :roll:
I still have one more week left of work, but my coworkers surpised my and my other pregnant coworker with a little shower today...ice cream cake, yum! And they created a diaper cake for each of us with lots of cute towels, rattles and socks. It was a really nice surprise and it was actually really nice to get the diapers because we are cloth diapering, but will use disposables for a few weeks and hadn't bought any yet.
Otherwise, things are pretty status quo here...I still find it hard to believe we will meet our daughter soon. Anytime after my last day of work on the 9th would be great. And my DH is feeling better, so hopefully everything falls into place in the next week or so.
I'm glad things are going well with you! Yay for baby showers, those are so much fun!
Today was a hard one...luckily I feel better tonight, but it is amazing how exhausting simple tasks can become. I didn't sleep last night, as my BH ctx force the baby into my bladder...I was up every two hours. And since we are trying to make sure my DH's neck problem resolves, I want him to rest as much as possible...meaning no help with routine things. We had no groceries in the house, so luckily my mom met me at the store to help me...but it was still amazingly hard. Oh well, I know the end is in sight and I did come home and take a short nap, which did wonders. We installed the car seat and got some stuff around for the birth center. All you guys birthing at home, have the right idea, just from a packing standpoint, LOL!
I remember how tired the day makes you at this point. I have to say that you may never feel "bad", I was 7 days late with my second and I never even felt uncompfortable. Some babies just don't do that to ya', my first was not that way!
It is amazing how tired you get! But I really admire you for helping your dh as much as you can now. A good idea, you help him while you can before so that he can be there for you after the baby comes!
Enjoy the weekend and rest as much as you can so that you can have a great last week of work!
I am right there with you.. I don't think I made it out of bed for more than 2 hours total yesterday and that was to take some laundry to the basement and make lunch & dinner.
Glad to hear you are almost done with work. That does seem to take a lot out of you. I am planning on working until the end and I am already beginning to question the sanity of that.
Good job on getting things together for the birthing center! Sounds like you want to be prepared.
I am so glad this is my last week of work! Only 4 more days to go. I feel that if I were able to take a nap in the middle of the afternoon, I would be all set, but without one, it's hard to concentrate and get everything done (since our company's year end is 3/31 and the timing isn't great for them to have me gone).
I have been drinking RRL tea and taking EPO...during the day there seems to be not much noticeable effect, but the few times I have taken EPO in the evening, I have woken up with intense (sort of like a menstral cramp) pain in my pelvic floor...or maybe my cervix...not sure if this is a coincidence, but I hope things are progressing. And I hope the weather cooperates next week and I am able to get out and do some walking.
I also had a moment of panic last night...I think I was just overly tired and on the brink of sleeping, but I told my DH I was worried about extreme tearing... :? Feel ok about it today, but I guess that means it may be at the back of my mind...
Two more days of work! I always find the last of something sometimes is the hardest part. How are you doing? How is your energy?
Yay for work almost being done!!! I am sure the break from that will be really nice
I had a huge fear of tearing too, I found birth art, writting down my feelings & doing a fear release with my hypnobabies to really help. I hope that your able to find something too, that will allow you to let go fo the fear.
I also wanted to echo Melynda's questions, how are you feeling & doing?
Thanks for checking in! You guys are all great. I am doing better now that the end is in sight. I have been exhausted this week, trying to work extra hours to get everything done. I have actually been impressed at how well I have done...I expected my brain to be mushier by this point. I have always done ok with less sleep, but I have never had it so broken up as it is at this point, with getting up so many times to go to the bathroom at night. But I seem to be adjusting, so hopefully I will do well when my daughter is here too!
One more day of work...and not even a whole day, since I have my weekly appt in the afternoon. I am guessing they won't check me, because they know her head is down and they don't check until 38 weeks and I am not there yet. I know it doesn't mean anything, but I think I am still high and closed...I would like to know that I have at least made a little pre-labor progress (although my mom had no progress at her appt during the day and had me in 5 hours, so I know it is possible). It's supposed to get up into the low 40s this weekend, so I am hoping to get some good walking done (rather than a cardio machine) to maybe move things along...right after I take a nap!
BTW, Chimmy, don't you wish Seamus was still that little? He is so precious in all his pictures you have had in your siggy, but that birthday ticker is so sweet. The year goes by so fast...one of my friend has a little guy that is 7 months and I swear she just had him last week!
Yay for just about being done work! It'll be so nice for you not to have to worry about that. The walking sounds like a great idea. Hopefully you are having good weather wherever you are. I think spring is on the way for us, but there is still so much ice and snow to make it slippery!
I am so glad to be done with work...it was supposed to be permanent (so I could be a SAHM), but due to my DH's neck issues and him being self-employed (which he has done in the past, but has recently gone back to), I will return to work PT. I am really lucky, because even though I had some grieving to do about not being a FT SAHM, I have a good job and can work 24 hrs a week, with my 3 days being flexible and get full benefits. I make good money and am lucky my company is willing to work out me working full time. Also, my mom works 3 days a week and will watch my daughter the other two days and then my DH will get to spend a day with her...I know the bonding time for DH and Kailey will be irreplaceable and he is really excited about it.
I also had a good appt on Friday. Well, all my appts are boring, but that is good. I saw the last OB in the practice that I hadn't yet met. My whole group is really good, so I am comfortable with whoever is on call when I deliver. My past few appts everyone has felt comfortable that my daughter's head was down, but because I am at the point where they would do a ECV if she weren't head down, the OB wanted to be really sure. She felt at my pelvis for a long time, pressing really hard, but couldn't feel the head (and they don't do internal checks before 38 weeks unless you are having problems). So she asked if she could to a quick ultrasound to be sure. She promised it would be really fast and it was...only a few minutes, but we got to see her heart beating and that it is indeed her little butt wedged up by my ribs. Her head is apparently really low in my pelvis. However, after I got home, I started to wonder about this...I mean I knew that I could feel some body part (and I guess it is her head) just inside. (That is all the further I can feel...I think it is great that some of you ladies can actually check your own cervix, but I am glad I can shave my legs, LOL!) I have had a lot of pressure...but I wonder how things progress, if she is clearly not back by my cervix? Hmmm, I am sure she will move and things will get moving. I will be interested to see how my first check goes at my appt next Wednesday.
Well I am off to continue to enjoy the start of my 12 week maternity leave! The weather was perfect here in MI on Friday after my appt and I was able to go on a nice long walk in the sunshine. Felt like spring might actually be on it's way in.
Just wanted to thank you for all your support! You are such a great group of ladies!
I had a great natural birth...there was no time for any interventions even if I had wanted them. My water broke at 3 am and contractions started 15 minutes later. My beautiful daughter was born after an hour of pushing at 7:11 am. I will post the full story later with some pics. We just got home and we are having some nursing issues, as she was a little early and would rather sleep than latch. Talk to you all soon.
Congratulations!!! Can't wait to hear more detail.
Congratulations and can't wait to hear your story and see pics! Mary
Congrats!! Good luck with the nursing.
Congratulations! Enjoy the time with your new daughter, and keep us posted when you can!
Congratulations Karly!!! welcome to mommyhood, it's awesome here!! can't wait tp hear the whole story!
My LO is sleeping, so thought I would do a quick recap of her birth story.
I felt great up until the end...no signs of impending labor (no mucus plug loss, etc). I was tired on Saturday (3/10) and told my DH that I was ready for her to be out. He laughed and told her that she had over stayed her welcome and should come and say hello. I guess she listened to her daddy. I had strong BH contractions for my whole pregnancy (since about 16 weeks). Toward the end was the only time they became uncomfortable, as they pushed her into my bladder. My last few weeks were filled with night time trips to the bathroom. So at 3 am on Sunday, March 11th, I felt a slightly stronger twinge and a small gush. I knew I had just been up to the bathroom not too long ago, so I should get up and check it out. When I moved, I got a much bigger gush, LOL! I dribbled my way to the bathroom and called to my DH that my water had broke. He sat up in bed and said "is it time to go?!" I laughed at him and told him that I hadn't even had contractions yet, so we had some time. I had just started maternity leave on Friday, and planned on having at least the next week to get things in order, so I had to pack clothes for the hospital, etc. We called my mom and told her my water had broke and she said I should lay down and try and get some rest. Instead, I packed some things and started to fold a load of laundry. However, my contractions started about 15 minutes later. They got painful pretty quickly and I decided I should try to take a shower...which didn't help! They had told us that the guideline for a FTM, was 5 minutes apart, lasting for more than a minute. Mine were 3 minutes apart, lasting for 30 seconds, but they seemed strong, no peaks/valleys. We decided to call the OB. I had actually met the last OB in the group at my appt on Friday and she was the one on call. She asked me how much I was dilated at my appt. I told her she didn't check since I wasn't 38 weeks yet, but that she said her head was super low. She could tell I was starting to freak out and said we could come in whenever I was ready. We called my mom and we were on the way.
At this point, I was starting to panic. I had no reference point for how "strong" the contractions were, but I was barely able to deal with them. The car ride was the longest of my life. I sat in the back seat and DH had the radio on and I was trying to sing through the contractions to relax and take my mind off the pain, but it wasn't working. DH said it was funny and he wishes he could remember what I was singing. We made it to the birth center around 5:45 am and my mom was waiting for us. Thankfully, they had just taken another woman up to the 3rd floor and the tech was coming back with a wheel chair, because I couldn't walk through the contractions. We went up to get checked in and there was a lady in front of me being admitted. Her labor looked like she had a slight headache and I wasn't very nice, cursing her in my head! Things finally got in order and I was checked in (which was good because there were about 10 people in the waiting room and I felt like I was the nightly entertainment). They put me into a room and I kept demanding to be checked. My mom and DH had to strip me and get me into a gown, as I kept saying that if I was only a "2" then I needed an epidural. Well they checked me and were shocked to find that I was fully dilated and ready to push...Hello, I was telling you!
They got me to a room right away and the OB came in. She was great and everyone was super supportive when my mom told them I wanted a natural birth (no time for the birth plan, so good thing mom and DH were prepared). I refused to lay down on the bed and they put the monitors on me while I was standing. They got me a squat bar and I was helped into position. The OB helped me feel how I was supposed to be pushing. This was about 6 am and she told me I would have a baby in about an hour. I can't say that I really felt any urge to push, but the contractions were really painful and there was a ton of pressure. I was glad that people were helping to coach me in pushing, but I stopped and started whenever I felt like it. I wasn't comfortable holding my breath for the 10 count and just did what felt right. They also tried to suggest other positions (in a supportive way), but I stood my ground and kept with the bar (as opposed to laying back on the bed). I kept thinking I wasn't pushing well and everyone was laughing because I kept saying that I didn't know why on earth women have more than one child. An hour seemed like forever, so I have so much respect for those women who push for several hours. I was getting discouraged, so the OB said to reach down and feel her head, as she was so close to being out. I felt and said "Are you sure that is her head? I can't feel any hair." It felt like a squished beach ball...they were laughing at me again. They asked DH if he wanted to feel the head and I was feeling evil, so I said he should feel it (he is squeamish). They asked if he needed a glove and my mom felt sorry for him and said he did need a glove. He felt the head and agreed that it felt like a squashed beach ball, LOL.
The OB was really great and did a lot of massage. When she was coming out, I felt most of the pain up higher and worried that I was tearing in the front, but by that point I needed her out at any cost. My mom was standing down at the end of the bed with DH just behind her. Kailey was facing toward the right and you should have seen mom my jump as she was sprayed with amniotic fluid! Good thing she didn't care, DH might have been done! She slid right out after crowning and they put her up on my stomach. DH hadn't been sure about cutting the cord, but they didn't give him a choice and he did great. So she was born at 7:11 am, weighing 6 pds, 5 oz and 19 inches long. Only a little over 4 hours of labor!
Anyway, my daughter is beautiful and is the best baby. She eats, sleeps and poops like a champ. We did, however, get some very unexpected news and were told that she has Downs Syndrome. We are very blessed that she has no heart or digestive problems (as this is the first concern for Downs babies). She has great muscle tone, kicking around, making expressive faces and has a good suck reflex. So although, the diagnosis is never one any parent wants to hear, we can never feel bad for long, as all we have to do is look at her and be reminded of what a gift she is and how much we love her.
Thanks for sharing our story and journey.
Oh, Karly, she is absolutely beautiful! You sound like you did wonderfully through your labor.
In my faith we are taught that each new soul is shown the entire span of it's life and is given the choice whether or not to be born. Kailey chose this life and I know you will be able to support her in all her needs. And to benefit from the love and blessings she will bring into your life.
Congratulations, Momma! You did a great job!
She is so gorgeous! Congratulations on a beautiful baby!
If you are interested in learning more about living with downs, let me know and I can share our story. My sister has downs and I work with many adults with disabilities. I also may be able to put you in contact with other families or resources. I am so glad that Kailey has found loving parents and a wonderful home to go to.
Your daughter is beautiful. Congratulations on such a lovely little girl. Sounds like she has begun to enrich your lives already.
That's a great story, and she's beautiful.
What a wonderful birthing story! She's beautiful! Congrats again
You did an amazing job! WOW-- showing up complete (I'm jealous!)
She is beautiful and so sweet and pink. I love it.
I love your attitude about the Down's. I really believe that she is a gift to you and to us. How very special (and can I say again...adorable!)
Congrats-- enjoy your new baby!
She is so beautiful! Congratulations, and she is so very lucky to have parents with your wonderfully accepting attitude about Down's Syndrome.
Congratulations mama! You did a great job and your daughter is beautiful. Enjoy your babymoon!
Congratulations, she is beautiful, what a great delivery also....
What a great birth story, thanks for sharing it. She's a very lucky little girl to have such wonderful parents!
Thank you so much for all your kind words.
Ayelet - your sentiment was beautiful. I certainly hope she chose us as parents and we will do our best to prove she made the correct choice. It is amazing how much you can love one little person and how much more in love you fall with your husband, watching him in love with his daughter.
Boy, it is exhausting having a new little one. My mom has been great to help out. My DH is self employed and this is his busy time, so he needs to be able to concentrate on supporting us (although he helps whenever he can). Things are a little more challenging for us because my milk has never really come in. They have been worried about her weight gain, so I pump every three hours and feed her whatever I get, along with organic formula (which has been a blessing because I cried so hard when I had to give her the Similac...it smells awful and she didn't like it...the organic smells like regular milk and she enjoys it). Anyway, they want to put me on Reglan, but the pediatrician recommended trying Fenugreek first, so I started that last night...here's to hoping...I would love to have an engorgement problem.
I hope the fenugreek helps bring your milk in. But it is nice that you have your mom to support you.
I am sorry about your breastfeeding troubles. I had the same with my twins, I tried fenugreek (although I don't think I was taking enough) and tons of oatmeal (I can't eat the stuff now). I tried Reglan, but it totally knocked me out, you might want to do some research on domperidone, you have to order it over the internet because it isn't available in the US anymore (I am not exactly sure why) but a lot of people think it works better than Reglan without the side effects. Anyway, research both meds if you think you need them.
Supply problems are so frustrating.
Thanks for the advice. I did research both the Reglan and Domperidone...I would definitely try the Domperidone before the Reglan if it were available in the US, but I am leery about ordering anything over the internet...it's frustrating. I am concerned about taking it because of the side effect of depression (not to mention how "safe" it really is for my daughter).
It is ironic that we are dealing with the Downs diagnosis and any worries about that fall away when we look at our little blessing, but the depression is over the fact that I can't breast feed...something which is more important now that ever. I know she is getting good stuff from the little I can pump, but it is so frustrating.
How is Kailey at sucking? Children with downs tend to have low muscle tone and that can make bfing difficult. I am not an expert about bfing but would that effect your supply?
I understand the irony about depression. I think it makes you an even better mom! Karly, you are awesome! Downs is not as bad as it used to be. Of course there are more challenges, but as far as having a meaningful life, they can do what ever they want now. Currently my sister is attending university and has been fully included all of her life.
Melynda - Thank you so much for your encouragement. I love hearing that your sister is doing so well and I would love to hear more about her some time when things settle down for both of us.
As for her suck, it is really good. She actually has really great muscle tone. The nurses/LCs at the hospital thought she might have a problem, but I think she was just a sleepy baby. I didn't pump as much as I should have the first few days, due to the situation. But she takes a bottle great and latches with a nipple shield...we are both just frustrated because there is nothing there for her. I am really hoping something helps. Thank you so much for the encouragement. It means the world to me.
Congratulations on a beautiful little girl! She is very lucky to have you as parents.
I hope the Fenugreek brings your supply up. Milk supply issues can be so frustrating! My friend had ordered the Domperidone when he was having supply issues with her twins. It got opened at customs and confiscated! She blew $120 on the order. She ended up doing the Reglan in the end and it worked well.