Other than those things, I am very open to just experiencing the birth as it unfolds. I will have family present (at least in the house ), but I am going to be better this time about taking whatever time I need, without worrying about being a good hostess or making sure everyone gets time to hold the baby, etc. I guess I am just going to be more forceful in owning the experience this time, instead of worrying as much about others.
This is terrific! ha. I remember feeling the need to "hostess" people in my hospital room with my first baby. - no good!
Karly, I'm so excited for you and I'm glad you're going to have a home waterbirth. It's hard for us gals to remember that we have to let others take care of us sometimes! I have a feeling you're going to have a wonderful (albeit short) birth!
I'm so excited for you. I love the idea of not playing hostess...I was able to give up that role when Miles arrived and it was great.
Enjoy a nice quiet weekend!
I was never able to EP either, so N didn't get much BM. But, I nursed Mallory into toddlerhood, so it's definately possible to not be a good pumper but still be able to BF a baby from the breast.
I'm glad you have such a supportive care provider!
I guess I am just going to be more forceful in owning the experience this time, instead of worrying as much about others.
I love how you said this, and you helped put words to how I have been feeling about this upcoming birth. I worried to much about what others were wanting and their thoughts, with DD's birth, but this time, I'm owning it!
I'm so excited for you and your homebirth! What a huge relief, I'm sure, knowing you don't have to go anywhere when labor comes (as long as your at home!)
What a huge relief, I'm sure, knowing you don't have to go anywhere when labor comes (as long as your at home!)
Yikes, Kara! I hope you were knocking on wood when you typed that, LOL! That is actually one of my fears. My last day of work is July 24th...at 37w5d, the same time I went into labor with Kailey. And while I am guessing this guy will come a little closer to his EDD, I would still freak out if my water broke at work. LOL, I am not sure how I would explain to people at that point that I would be heading home and not to the hospital.
I was never able to EP either, so N didn't get much BM. But, I nursed Mallory into toddlerhood, so it's definately possible to not be a good pumper but still be able to BF a baby from the breast. I'm glad you have such a supportive care provider!
Thank you for the encouragement...It really does mean a lot to me. I know there is a big mental component to supply as well, so I am trying not to stress needlessly about it, but there is always a little bit of doubt in the back of my mind. I am so jealous of all the mamas that have such a seemingly abundant milk supply!
I bf'ed all my children, Samantha until she was around 18 mos and I can't pump for squat, I was never able to get more than 2 ounces so I gave up pumping. I hope that helps a little :).
Karly, TFS your story.
See, part of that is my concern as well...I return to work after 12 weeks. I only work 3 days a week, but will need to pump. It's hard to tell if I am a poor pumper or just never established a good supply without nursing, KWIM? Ah well, only time will tell.
Good news, bad news today...Good news is that all my bathrooms (2.5) are cleaned from top to bottom. DD took a rare early nap and I was able to do a top to bottom, hands and knees cleaning. My molding and baseboards are white (argh!), so it was great to have them wiped down. I figured being on my hands and knees was a good idea for making sure that the little guy rotates in a good position. I have an anterior placenta, so I want to make sure he doesn't decide to face it and end up posterior. Not terribly worried, but every little bit to avoid back labor should help.
Bad news...I feel like I was on my hands and knees cleaning 2.5 bathrooms! Go figure. And DH has a cold, so there is probably no extra rest in sight. Oh well.
:bigarmhug:I understand, I'm a SAHM so pumping wasn't really that important to me unless I wanted to go somewhere without a baby. I really, really hope things work out better this time. I didn't realize you were working outside the home. Sending all the ~~~positive pumping~~~ vibes possible!
Yay for clean bathrooms!!!! feels good doesn't it?
Isn't it sad to be so satisfied with a job well done and to feel all the work you've done for the rest of the day/night?!?! Glad you got things done at home!
It must be in the air, I just cleaned both my bathrooms too! I totally sympathize with your pains! lol Way to be motivated though.
Yay! Clean bathrooms!!! Whoohhooo!
Wow, you are awesome, cleaning (essentially) 3 bathrooms! I did an hour and a half on my hands and knees weeding the garden last week and it was murder on my back later on! Way to go, sounds like nesting perhaps??
Re: the BFing. I really have no clue, but is it common for babies with DS to have difficulty nursing? It is sort of expected to be a challenge in that situation, or do they normally nurse as well as any other baby? Just thinking that if the DS played a role in your BFing difficulties, then you likely won't have to worry about that with this little guy. :shrug:
Nicole ~ babies with Down Syndrome can have additional problems with nursing, but it is typically caused by low muscle tone/problems sucking. My DD didn't actually have that issue, but just didn't care to eat much period, LOL. Otherwise, many babies with DS are breastfed just fine (barring medical issues like surgeries which might get in the way). So you are right, I am less worried about the little guy latching or eating, since most babies like to eat much more than Kailey did. And I know (intellectually) that my issues with not being able to pump, may have been just that...not being able to pump. But since I do work three days a week, that is a concern (and I provide our family's medical insurance, since DH is self employed, so not working isn't a great option for us).
I know it will all work out fine. Kailey is perfectly happy and healthy, having only had a small amt of BM. It was much more my issue with not being able to nurse her and you are right, BFing with probably not be an issue with this guy. I just need to not worry about it too much.
Woohoo for clean bathrooms!! Now, if only it would inspire me to do the same!!! LOL
Way to go with the cleaning! I've been procrastinating with our bathrooms
Thanks for sharing your story and I'm looking forward to following along these last few weeks with you!
Hi Karly! I've always found it a bit difficult to pump too, this time around I made sure that I had the right sized breastshields and that seemed to help a ton. Not only with nipple soreness but also being able to get more milk out. The other thing that helped was putting on warm compress' on my breasts. But your right, at the end of the day it'll all work out as it should although I understand how hard it is not to worry, even when you tell yourself not to lol *hugs*
Oh another thought ~ did you ever try things like Mothers Milk tea? That helps with let down
Thanks for the encouragement Chimmy! :bigarmhug:
I will definitely try those tips. I did try the MM tea, but I honestly think a big majority of the issue was just not being able to nurse and therefore never having a great supply. That is my hope at this point.
Today was one of those days where I feel very content to be pregnant for awhile longer. I had forgotten what a big different it makes for me to have the baby descended into my pelvis. There is still pain, but it is so much better with everything evenly dispersed, rather than his head in my left pelvis, throwing everything off balance. It would be nice to have him next weekend, but only so that I don't have to work my last scheduled week before maternity leave. Otherwise, I am very content at this point.
Yea, that can have a big affect too. My twins went on a nursing strike and there was a huge difference in my supply. Either way best of luck with that hun.
I love that content feeling, it's wonderful! I'm so glad your feeling well & that things are going well.
Ah, I see. And I can see how a difficult BFing experience with your first baby could really shake your confidence for the second baby (even if you know you did everything you could to try to make it work). Anyhow, I'll send you lots of *awesome BFing and pumping* vibes, LOL!
Glad you're feeling comfortable and content! Lucky girl, not many of us can say that at 36-odd weeks!
Isn't there a saying somewhere "contented as a cow"? Ooo boy! that might not come across in a post to a very pregnant woman.... I'm refering to milk of course, lots and lots of milk. May you have an over abundance.
Contented is a good feeling.
Content is a very good feeling :bigarmhug:
I completely understand some of your bfing worries. I am sure you will do wonderfully and you do have a great attitude about how things can turn out.
I'm looking forward to the feeling of content..if it happens. I hope breastfeeding issues will be non-existent this go around. How are you doing today?
I am tired today...not bad, just in a "36.5 week pregnant" kind of way, LOL. I work Mon, Tues & Thurs. Tuesday is a little more tiring, just not having the day off in between. Of course staying home with the kiddo isn't exactly relaxing either.
One of my good friends is also my coworker. She is due 7/22 with her third child and started her leave this week. Both of her other two were born right at their EDDs and she is somehow convinced I will deliver before her. I was glad that she wasn't at work this week because people (even random ones) are all of a sudden feeling the need to tell me that I look like I could deliver any minute...Ugh! It's annoying when they ask how I am feeling and seem disappointed when I tell them I feel pretty good. I hate how some people just expect everyone to feel miserable while pregnant and are annoyed when you aren't.
When DH got home tonight, I asked him if I looked huge or miserable since I was getting all these comments. His politically correct reply what that I looked 9 months pregnant, which I am. :rolleyes:
I have a home visit tomorrow and I am feeling the need to make sure all my supplies are in order. DH needs to pick up a hose and adapter for filling the pool and I think we will inflate it this weekend. Otherwise, I just want to organize things, as I know I will be stressed if people can't find something while I am in labor. Luckily, DH is the laid back one and will help me from getting too obsessive about things!
Karly, I have been reading your lodge and I am so excited to hear all about your new lo
You know what, I got that ALL the time while pregnant with Isabelle. Emotionally I struggled w/ my anxiety but physically I felt amazingly the entire pregnancy ~ ppl would always pat me on the back w/ this "you poor thing" look on their faces, it irritated thes not out of me.
Anyhow, going off on my own rant there LOL I'm SO glad your feeling so well, really it's wonderfl to be 36wks pg and say that you feel great.
ahh home visits are fun, I hope they go well!
People do seem disappointed when they ask how I'm feeling and I say, "Fine." It gets pretty annoying. I hope the home visit goes well tomorrow!
I wouldn't like somebody just as pregnant as me working with me because people would be constantly comparing like a race to the finish line. I get the "you look miserable" comment often and sometimes I agree and sometimes I tell them I'm feeling pretty great depending on the day. I'm sure getting things in order will make you feel ready for the big day. I know that I had a huge list that I'm working through before the LO arrives. Enjoy the day off tomorrow~!
Methinks your adoring public is due for some pics of that lovely belly???
Thinking of you and I am so excited for your impending birth. Now get organized so that you can relax for your last few days as a Mama of just one!
LOL, Melissa! Not sure it is "lovely" exactly. I am not as lucky as you are to be without stretch marks. This time a have a few small ones, creeping on the sides of my belly. They really are not very noticeable, but since I didn't have any last time it is giving my imagination a run for it's money...thinking about the larger baby growing in there.
Here is a nice covered shot. 36 weeks...
You're adorable! And I love the belly.
You look so cute! It is getting so close!
Karly, you are too cute! What a great belly!!
You look great!!:D
Great MW appt today. My MW ended up having to attend a birth, so one of her assistants came instead. I really love her too. She's is actually almost a MW and has tons of experience. She was an EMT and then became an RN, now will be a CPM. She has three kids and a great sense of humor. The baby is still really low in my pelvis (she said about the same as last week, so -1 to 0 station), but was turned this week and is LOT instead of ROT. He is still rotating around and never stays posterior, so I am not concerned. My BP was 104/70 and the little guy's HR was in the 140s...she also noted that it was nice and variable (rather than flat).
I love how my MWs just sit and chat with you. It's nice to have the open dialog and not feel rushed. She was telling me that they had a birth a few days ago where the mama delivered an 11 pound baby. I guess the mom is tall, around 6'3", and the baby was born posterior with no indication or issues. She was delivering on her hands and knees and they unexpectedly saw the back of his head, LOL. Neat birth and fun to hear her tell the story.
I love great appointments, and that is my favorite thing, too, with my midwifes. They will just sit and chit chat, and make sure I don't have any other questions, or will just see how things are with me and the family. I love all the stories they have too, and the sense of pride they have for the new mama. Gives me that extra boost of confidence. It's great you like her assistant too!
I love my MW appts for the same reason! So relaxed and home-like.
Thanks for the pic! You look just wonderful.
I came back because I forgot to post that my GBS swab was also negative, which is great news on the rare chance I would have to transfer for hospital care.
I really love the extra personal attention you get from a MW...sure it's great to have a nice chat, but I also think it helps for them to get to know their patients. That relationship can only help enhance their understanding of my birth experience, if that makes sense. Anyway, I also loved the comment she made on the way out from my appointment, about how she was so excited for my birth...she was so genuine and giddy that I just had to smile. Even with having attended many births, I am not just another number and she loves what she does (and is good at it)...who could ask for more?!
You look great You look happy, and smiley.
Glad to hear the midwives visit went well. I'm sorry if you already said, but how much did Kailey weigh? I bet the little guy will be bigger
LOL Lea, you are right, I am definitely betting he will be bigger...just wondering how much bigger! Kailey was 6 pds 5 oz, which is pretty much perfect for her gestational age (37w5d)...if she had decided to stay put until her EDD, she would have been approx a pound bigger.
I talked to the MW asst. today about his size actually. I have faith that I can birth whatever size baby I happen to grow, but I did "push" for a little over an hour with DD. I mentioned that I wasn't sure I ever really had an urge to push though, just lots of pressure. She said this was one of the reasons that, unless there is an issue, they don't really do VEs on their mamas...she said that often times the VE will show that the mama is complete, so they tell her to push. If you just wait a bit and let your body guide you, often you can avoid the exhaustion that can come from pushing so early. That is my plan this time. There were actually many periods of time with Kailey where they were trying to tell me to push and I just ignored them. Your body does a pretty good job at getting the baby out on it's own, so I am just going to follow the cues from my body this time.
You look great!
Looking good Karly, and YAY on the great appointment. I had so much fun last pregnancy with my home visit, it was great (I miss that midwife :(). Were you GBS negative with Kailey as well, btw?
The midwives being amenable to a low intevention policy with exams is such good news, who needs the stress? It sounds like they are really amenable to just leaving you alone and helping when needed, which will be so wonderful in your homebirth. I'm rooting for you!
Thanks Taryl! I am glad to be able to have a home birth with MW, but I honestly had a great hospital birth with Kailey, so I am hoping you have a wonderful VBAC experience this time with your great new OB.
I was GBS negative with Kailey too...I delivered to quickly for antibiotics, but they would have pressured me to have them administered to her after the birth if I had been positive...around here it seems that is one thing that OBs are not understanding about and you would probably be risking CPS or at least a lot of hassle if the antibiotics were declined. So it's a relief!