Congratulations Kelly and family!
Oh ((((((HUGS))))) congrats Kelly! Im so excited for you and DH and kiddos! EEEEEEE!!!! I cant wait to hear how it all went and see some pics! I hope you and the baby are having a nice rest! With such a crappy day Ive had This has made it tons better! I couldnt be more happy for you!
Congrats Kelly and family! I can't wait to hear all about it
Yay Kelly! Congratulations to you and your family.
YEA!!!! I'm so glad he's here and you're both doing fine. Can't wait to finally hear what this child's name is! Who does he look like? Does this mean you're going to be kellyr3 now?! Love ya!
I'm rested and Dh and the kids are at the soccer games, so I figure now's a good time to drop in!
I'll do up a complete story with details later too, but I know some of you fellow junkies just love the play by play so I'll indulge you now LOL
Where we left off, we'd just decided to send the kids away. So after that i got back on all fours, leaning on the ball, determined to stay that way for as long as possible so he would stay in place. To be able to actually rest my muscles at all though, I needed to kind of sit/kneel, so my feet started falling asleep. I finally caved and switched to laying on my left side. I was able to sleep between contrax then. I told dh that since we were both too tired to keep track of times in our heads anymore, to start jotting the contrax down. He kept forgetting. The first one that I remembered to write down was at 10:20 pm. it was a tough one, and I knew I'd had a couple more like that before. So dh started keeping track then, and they were all over the place - every 3-5 mins and they didn't seem to be lasting more than a minute, ever. So I figured I still wasn't progressing much. Then around 11, i got up to pee and felt shaky. I knew that was a sign of transition, but thought I must just be way tired, because there was NO way I could be at transition with these short contrax. I laid back down and the next one was the hardest yet and I felt a big pop and yelled "OH! There's my water" Dh avoided getting splashed this time (unlike with Mikayla LOL) The midwife had been resting on the sofa and she came in to check on me. The water was clear, and she checked the heart and he was good. She didn't check me right away. After one more though, I was ready for the pool.
I should mention the set up. Aaric's twin mattress was on the floor on one side of the dining room with the pool on the other side. Its a pretty big room so there was plenty of space for us to walk around, too. That gave us easy access to the kitchen, bath, and laundry room. Worked great.
So anyway, she came over to check me to make sure that I was progressed enough to get in the pool. I was 7 cm! I was afraid that they were about to get much stronger pretty quickly - between being at 7, plus not having the cushion of the amniotic fluid anymore. The pool had been partially filled around 4 pm, so it was cold by then. They got buckets and dumped it and refilled it. I got in and kind of squatted/kneeled, leaning on the side. I decided that as much as I wanted the kids to share in this experience, that they would be too much of a distraction for me. I really really wanted them there - but at the time, I just felt we'd all be better off without them. they'd either be too tired to care or bouncing off the walls, so we just let them stay the whole night over at the friends' house.
I felt the contrax changing. I don't remember if its been mentioned on the lodge at all, but I've never had the urge to push. With Aaric, I felt the urge only due to logistics - "push this baby out or the doctor WILL operate soon." I had motivation, but not that physical urge. With MIkayla, I just never felt an urge. I barely pushed with each contraction. I noticed this time, that as the contraction would start, I'd feel a slight urge for a brief second, but then it went away and I just wanted to cope through the pain. The midwife could tell that I'd changed, too and wanted to check on us. Between contrax, I managed to lift out of the water for her to check the heart, and it was fine. She wanted to see if I was complete yet, but the first time she tried to check, she couldn't find any cervix but also couldn't confirm that it was because it was gone. My cervix had remained posterior throughout the labor. the plan was to get me out of the water so she could check, but the contrax were just too close and I couldn't get out. I wound up back on all 4's in the water and she checked once like that and said she was pretty sure that the cervix was gone, and to try to push. Dh told her I didn't like pushing, and that I'd never felt the urge, and she tried rationalizing with me that if I pushed, it would all be over sooner. She urged me to just psyche myself up for it and try once. So on the next one, when I felt that brief little urge, I went with it.
I felt that head MOVE. I don't know how high he'd been but within seconds, like 2-3, he was crowning. I reached down with my hand to confirm that he was coming out. The midwife and DH were both a few steps away from the pool at that point, so I yelled, "He's coming!" and they both rushed over. I'd stopped pushing once I felt him crown because I didn't want him coming too fast, especially with no one there to catch. But since I'd pushed some, the urge was still there. Man, it hurt to push. I do not understand the whole idea of pushing being a relief LOL. As I pushed his head on out, I felt some sharp pain and knew I was going to tear and tried to stop. I got his head all the way out, and then, he kept moving! He had wiggled throughout the labor, and it hurt and felt SO weird for him to be moving while half in, half out. Thats when I really started screaming. I've never been a loud laborer. This time, I was. His shoulders are what I think was the worst. To ME, it felt good to scream. She'd mentioned me needing to stop it, once, but then she got really firm and told me I HAD to stop screaming and hold my breath and PUSH. It seemed to take forever, but I finally got him out. She told me later that he was getting a little blue, that's why I needed to not scream. He needed the oxygen that I was wasting.
After a minute for me to rest, they helped me out of the water and onto the bed. It took forever to get the placenta out. I think she was starting to get concerned. I just coudln't push. Those muscles seemed to have atrophied. We finally got it out, probably well over 30 minutes later, with me standing and leaning over her shoulders, and her crouched under me pulling on the cord a bit.
Other than not being quite pink enough, he was perfect. and he didn't take too long to pink up. We never did find out what his apgars were, I'll have to ask. Dh asked but she coudlnt' remember right then, she just said she knew that they were all good other than color.
Don't think I mentioned earlier - she'd forgotten to bring the scale. So, we have no exact birth weight. We don't even own a regular scale.
He was born at 1:22. Head - 13 cm, 20.25 inches long. The other two kids were 21 and 21.25 so he's the runt. Of course he's also the earliest.
We got to bed around 3 and Dh went around 8 to pick up the kids. At 10 he left to take the midwife back, and took the kids with him. She didn't want me left alone, so we called a friend to come over and stay with me, and then when dh got back, she took the kids. We were SO exhausted still. So we napped for a while.
He was great all day. He slept, and he nursed some, and he just laid there looking at us content, some.
For the past 12 hours, he's been latched on more often that not. If he's not latched, he's not thrilled. he nursed all night, and has only slept a little bit today without being latched on. its tiring! Hope this milk comes in fast! But he IS a naturally good nurser. His latch is great. Its weird for me - the last time I nursed, it was a 3 yr old. I barely even participated - she could lift my shirt and get latched all on her own. Now I'm having to remember to help him find it and get latched on. I'd forgotten how much work it can be to nurse a newborn!
OH - we borrowed a scale. Its not digital, so its an estimation... but we've both tried weighing ourselves and then weighing while holding him, and he's right around 8 lbs. Maybe give or take a couple oz, but we're just calling it an even 8 pounds. It kinda bugs me to not know... but I mean, really, how important is it to know the exact weight at the time of birth?
And, I know everyone is wondering.
No middle name yet. But we've decided that he's Alexander and we'll be calling him Xander.
I'll work on the pics in a minute here.
Thanks for the update Kelly!! LOVE the name, that is a family name of ours!!
Glad you are all doing well!!
Welcome to the world Xander
Wow! Thanks for posting that. I love the name Alexander, it's Joey's middle name. We had originally planned on naming him Alexander Joseph and callling him Xander, but changed our mind at the last minute.
I can't wait to see pictures.
And congratulations on a wonderful labor and a beatufiul baby boy!
Kelly! I have goosebumps from reading your birth story! Congrats on a wonderful birth and a healthy baby. Best wishes.
Welcome Alexander!!! What a wonderful birth story .
Congratulations Kelly and welcome to the world Xander.
Kelly, I am so inspired by you!
What a perfect birth. I absolutely can't wait to see pics!!
Great name!! My sister's name is Kelly, and her son is named Xander too! How weird is that!
Congrats Kelly!! Welcome Xander Cant wait to see pics!!
Congrats! What a wonderful story. Rest up!
Oh, and i did tear a bit. One skid mark - that's the one that I felt when it happened, and then another one that I believe is probably the old episiotomy scar from when Aaric was born. She said it looked like it just popped open. She didn't stitch it, just said to keep my knees together for a few days and it should heal right back up, due to its location. I"m surpised that I'm not sore at all. At least not in my perineum. Some of those round ligaments are still healing and I"ve got afterpains that are insane. And the thing I always forget about - I'm short of breath from that whole deal where the lungs suddenly have more room LOL.
I'm having a hard time eating as much as I need to be, so I'm working on that. But it seems everytime I get hungry and start to eat, I get a bad afterpain cramp and lose my appetite. I"ve had a couple that were so bad I got queasy and cold and got the shakes again. They've gotten less frequent, so hopefully they'll be over soon.
Oh, for the record, let me just say that at least twice during that labor, I told dh that he better FORCE me to do Hypno next time.
Congratulation and Welcome Xander!
Kelly, thanks so much for sharing your great story and Welcome Xander!! Your birth sounded similar to mine in many ways (I let the kids sleep when I had originally planned to have them there) and I tore along my old scar a little too. Plus I threatened my DH about really making me practice my Hypno if there is a next time (I could not even find my I-Pod with the hypno on it during labor - DOH)
Do you have any "Afterease" (herbal) available? I swear that stuff was totally wonderful for me in dealing with the afterpains.
Kelly, Congrats on the birth of Xander. You are my hero.
Congrats Kelly! Welcome Xander! What a great birth, so happy for you!
I was dying to read this! lol Congrats again hun, LOVE the name - very very nice!!! WONDERFUL birth story too - congrats congrats!
Kelly, what a great birth story! You cracked me up about the nursing thing, too. What a difference it must be between a 3-year-old and a newborn.
OH I'm so happy to finally be able to read your bith story. Makes me want to have another baby. lol I love the name. Congrats again!
what a beautiful story!! congrats and thanks so much for sharing what a beautiful name
Thank you for sharing what a lovely birth story. I really enjoyed the "play by play"! Wishing your family well.
Kelly I haven't caught up & read your birthstory yet, will bbl today to read it.
I used oral homeopathic Arnica for afterpains it really really helped.
Just caught up on your birth story - thank you for sharing the blow by blow indeed for us junkies LOL! I loved reading it.
Oooooooooooooooooooooh. I'm so happy to read this. And to FINALLY hear his name. I love it.
I cannot wait to see pictures.
Congrats, Kelly!! I love his name too!
Congratulations to you, what a wonderful birth story.
MILK is here!! I am just so relieved by that!! The other two times, it took a full 5 days, and I was dreading that, because this little baby has been latched on non stop and I knew it was going to get old, fast. I still don't "feel" it - no engorgement or anything at all, but he spit up and it was obviously not just colostrum and I expressed a little and its definitely the real deal. After that, I noticed I could feel letdown a little.
Afterpains are still going, but not so bad anymore. I'd looked for arnica last time I was at the Vitamin Shoppe, and they were out. I've got the cream though, so i'm going to try it and see if it seeps in and helps any. It can't hurt.
And I knew I had to have lost body mass during this pregnancy. Only gained 21 lbs... and the morning after (so, like 8 hrs later) I had already lost about 25 lbs. I actually need to get some of that back, so I'll be packing on the calories from here on out. I really don't want to dip back down to the underweight category again.
We'd planned to not go in to get him checked at all for around a week, but we're going to try to get him seen tomorrow. 1 - it would be nice to have a definite baseline weight to determine if he's gaining or not. It may not be a "birth weight" but to have a definite weight to compare to next week would be good. 2 - the whites of his eyes are a bit yellow, so I want to get that checked. 3 - He's got some red in the whites of his eyes, too. I have no clue what that is. I'll be talking to the midwife later today so I'll ask her. I don't know if it was there at birth and we just didn't notice because he didn't open his eyes wide enough or if it just showed up. I noticed it last night though.
Pics are on the way - i started uploading them before I started typing and its STILL not done... so I'll get them up in a minute. I'll put them on their own thread.
YEAH for milk!!!
I hope your pains go away soon and Xander has a great doctor appointment!
Congratulations Kelly! Thanks for a great story and welcome to Xander!
Went in for the weight check! As of today, he's 7 lbs 7 oz, so I think calling it an even 8 for birth weight is close enough. He wouldn't have fully gained back to birth weight most likely, so it'll do!
Lumpy and I googled last night and we decided that the red in his eye was probably just from the birth, and the nurse agreed. She got the doc to come in and check the yellowing of his eyes and he said it was mild enough to not be a concern at all. His skin is still perfect, so his bilirubin can't be too bad. And I'd read what Dr Sears had to say and had pretty much figured that out already.
The doctor did notice that he's tongue tied! He didn't even mention clipping it, just said, "Oh, you're tongue tied just like my little girl was!" So I came home and read up on that. So far, I'm not sore from nursing and we'll see how he's gaining, but for now, it doesn't seem that there would be any reason to clip it. We also had to go to the lab and get the PKU done, and he actually calmed right down afterward.
I feel much better today. A bit tired after going out this morning, and my tear is starting to itch some, so I guess its healing.
But I wore my regular clothes!
Awesome news Kelly!!
Yah for you back in regular clothes! Glad to hear your little one is doing well.
Seamus had blood in his eyes too - I thought it was b/c of how fast he came out lol but maybe it's just one of those things that happens
Yay for your milk coming in & for a healthy little guy - congrats again hun!
I totally missed this, Congrats Kelly! going to read you birth story now
All such great news, Kelly! I'm glad you and Xander are doing well. Can't wait to see more pictures!
My rlf's ds had bloodshot eyes too. Nothing like getting your head squeezed LOL! Sounds like normal nb jaundice to me M & S both were a bit yellow for their first week or so. It was considered completley normal by my MW.
Normal clothes!!! WHOOO HOOO you GO mama!
So, last night we had some latch issues, and I'd already noticed a little lump that was obviously a duct that was getting clogged before bed. And you know, the middle of the night is just not the best time to work on proper latch! I just want to sleep!
So today, I looked down and saw that the area around that duct looks sunburned. I HATE using the football hold. I guess because I never really learned it well, as Aaric was too big to do it easily at birth. But I just nursed him for a while in that position and the redness is gone and the swelling is mostly gone too. My nipples are a bit more sore today too, after the rough night. If we can't get the latch worked out within a couple days, I'll be looking into getting his tongue clipped.
And he's in cloth today! We've been using disposables because Dh has been running himself so ragged, I didn't want to add "extra laundry" to his list of things to do. I've got the energy and strength that I don't have to be waited on hand and foot anymore, so I put him in cloth this morning.
My mom is coming up on Thursday, and then I think dh goes back to work Monday.
Oh, talked to the mw - she said the tear is definitely my episiotomy scar, and the eye blood is definitely due to the pressure from birth.
We got lots of questions while out and about. The strangest: is he a good baby? i mean, really, what parent is going to say anything other than "yes" about their 3 day old?? Mikayla looked at people like they were insane when they asked her if she helps feed the baby. And several people asked. I hated having him around all those people, though. At the dr's office, it was fine. But at the place we had to go to for the pku, it was crowded. Dh took him outside to walk around while we waited.
He IS a really good baby though. He fusses when he's hungry, he cries when he's working on a diaper or needs to burp, and is spending good bits of time just lying there looking around. He spends a LOT of time with his head leaned way back. Like if you were sitting upright, looking at the ceiling. I'm gonna take a wild guess that he spent a lot of time like that while inside of me. Also - he sometimes drifts off to sleep without nursing. Sometimes... even an inch or two away from me! Unlike little Miss Mikayla who required perma-latching and didn't sleep well unless she was touching me.
Kelly, you are amazing! So glad everything is going well.
So, the other two held onto their cords for 3 weeks. His fell off Tuesday evening! 4 days! SO weird. We did the typical alcohol treatment with Aaric, nothing with Mikayla and nothing with Xander.
My milk has also come in MUCH stronger now. I"m lucky that I still don't leak other than leaking on the left while nursing on the right.
I knew he'd been sleeping better but hadn't been watching the clock at night at all. I was curious though so I checked it last night. We were up late, so I was still up when he nursed around 12:45. He then slept until 4:45! Four hours! After that he woke up about hourly. Not bad!
Him and Seamus sound so similar - he had the blood in his eyes, he looks up like your guy does too! He still does it even now lol And slept really good at night when he was super little -
I hope your healing is quick! It sounds like your doing well well