I'm sure everything is going to go wonderfully for you! Yay for the doctor who didn't want to push medical interventions needlessly!!! I LOVE hearing that sort of stuff!!!
Danielle! Welcome! You are so lucky to have such a beautiful family, and to be building it biologically! I wish you much luck w/ getting Reese to be a f/t member!
oh, and a bit of encouragement for delivering a big baby... my MW just told me that the reason she was exhausted at my last appt was b/c she had called into the hospital to deliver a homebirth transfer and she delivered an 11lb baby over an in-tact perineum!! no tearing even! So don't you worry, you can deliver your 8 or 9 lbs of beautiful baby boy!
Just do lots of squatting and perineal (sp) massage and you'll be fine!
GL!! Looking forward to hearing more!
I've been having a rough few days.. And one thing keeps coming up that just irritates me..
I loooove my mom. So much. Well, at my OB appt last tuesday, the dr did an internal exam. my mom always comes with me to watch alycia, and keep her occupied, they hide behind the little curtain in the room, which alycia LOVES. It was a normal internal exam, when the dr reached my cervix (which was still fairly high) she said "oh! it's softening nicely i'm going to go a little further" (the touching of the cervix was uncomfortable, at most, no big deal) But when she checked for dialation, she stuck her finger IN the finger-tip sized dialated hole, which HURT, hurt enough to make me screech out loud. When I sat up, i nearly passed out, seriously. So, several times this week my mom has said "if that hurt you THAT much, you're going to be screaming for an epidural at the first contraction" which has been really irritating me Unless my perception of how birth goes is wrong, i dont think the dr will have her finger in my girl parts during the entire labor!!! I've told mom how she needs to stop saying that, b/c it's starting to psyche me out a little bit, and she knows i'm doing a natural birth. She's apologized, but i heard her tell someone else about it (my dad, of all people lol) seriously... it just irks me..
also i'm having a "i'm tired of being pregnant" day... i've been having BH contractions since Wed night along with some cramping/achiness. They're irregular and not painful, the cramps are nothing i cant deal with, i just find myself wishing and hoping for them to become real contractions. I'm glad my body is prepping for the big day, but i'm just getting frustrated at it all, like "cant you make up your mind? are you coming or not?" lol I just need some patience vibes today...
Sending you all sorts of patience vibes!!! Or "come on baby!!" vibes, either way, they're "happier mommy" vibes!!
I'm sorry abt the negative energy from your mom. don't take it to heart. she just doesn't want to see/hear you in pain. Just remember that although you may experience pain in labor and birth but it will be the kind of worthwhile pain that you get when you are exerting yourself for a purpose.
AND your cervix was made to dilate and push OUT a baby - not the other way around!
Danielle, I'm hoping you are having that baby or have had him. I haven't heard from or seen you online for a couple of days. So, I'm hoping all is well.
DD: Raven 1/25/04
I had my baby Feb 1. My full birth story is here http://www.pregnancy.org/phpBB2/viewtopic.php?t=619904
I'm still trying to find my place. I'm not sure what or how to feel about my birth, being as it wasn't what i wanted or even prepared myself for. I had thought about the possibility of the c/s. I could've been mentally ready for that, but as for what happened during the c/s, that i dont think i could've prepared myself for. You'll understand more after you read it. I'm no longer sure of how i fit around this board or just in general.
Oh honey, I am so sorry for your experience. I know you didn't give a full blown account of e/t leading up to the c/s, but it sounds like you were kept informed, that you tried to maintain the birth you wanted at incredible odds. The u/s that estimate baby's size can be right on or totally off and there's really no way to know.
I presented the exact same way your Mikey did, I was a proud little baby with my face against my mom's cervix and they did a c/s for the same reason. (I was also her first). I am sorry for what you had to see on your baby, but you should know that babies can scratch themselves up pretty bad with those sharp little nails of theirs and they have incredible healing abilities. Mikey will be fine, you had a traumatic experience, and you are entitled to grieve over it. And grieve here, b/c we understand.
To give you some encouragement going forward, my mom went on the have 4 more healthy VBAC babies, naturally.
You can only prepare and plan so much, the important part is that you informed yourself on your birth choices and chose what you felt was best for you and your baby. That is what this board is about.
Be strong, sweetie, we are here for you. And enjoy your beautiful baby - and post some pics!! Congratulations on having a champion BFer!! That is quite a feat after a c/s!!
thank you so much ayelet. It is really encouraging hearing other peoples stories who have been through the same thing. I definitely feel like i have to process and grieve, i just dont know how or why b/c there are sooo many people who are like "well yalla re both happy and healthy thats what matters" but anyway..here's some pics. None of these are on his actual birth day but they are all while we were in the hospital. You cant see any of the stuff i'm talking about on his head b/c i didnt want to share those. i have pics of em for me, i dunno why i wanted them but i did. anway here we go
One tired little man
Mommy & Mikey
Daddy & Mikey
Mawmaw & Mikey
Alycia (big sister) Pawpaw & Mikey
Another of my little man
Congratulations on such a cute little man...I am so sorry his birth was traumatic and I hope you are able to process everything and come to some peace with it.