Welcome to your lodge! Congrats!
Here is to a wonderful journey!
Here's a little about me. DH and I are both 33, we are a month apart. We met on Match.com about 2 1/2 yrs ago. We got married this past January, and had been living together for over a year beforehand. He's the most amazing person I've ever met, and couldn't be happier to be having a child with him.
I own a pet sitting business. I go to people's houses and take care of their pets while they are on vacation. I also provide daily dog walks for people that request it. I'm so glad I found a career that has meaning to me. I had previously worked in office environments and absolutely hated it!! I'm not into the whole big office career thing. Starting my own business has been so fun and challenging, and I love being my own boss.
When I first got pg, I was pretty clueless about childbirth. I thought I definitely wanted an epidural to avoid the pain. As the months went on, I did a lot of reading. The Womanly Art of Breastfeeding book taught me a few things and I started to read up on modern medicine in childbirth and how it's not always the best. I then read many of the natural childbirth books, and decided that I wanted to do it that way because it was healthier for me and the baby. I still think it's the best way...
However, here I am with a nephrostomy tube coming out of my kidney, collecting urine into a bag attached to my leg. I've had a fever since thurs. night and found out yesterday I have a kidney infection on top of everything else. The past month has been pretty horrible for me healthwise. My body is beat up, and although I definitely think natural birth is the best choice, I don't know if it's my best option at this point.
I've decided that I need to be open minded about labor because I have to do what's best for my body, kidney and baby at that point. So I'll have to just wait and see how things are going before I decide how to proceed.
I know in my heart that if I was healthy, I would be ready to go natural.
Thanks for listening!!
Wow, I guess I didn't realize how much you had going on. I'm on the same birth board as you and I don't recall your story. I don't hang out there all the time, so I miss things. I hope we are able to be of a support here no matter what the outcome!
Welcome to your lodge! I totally KWYM about starting your own business - I've been a freelance writer for 5 years. Same deal, I hated office politics and love working for myself. I also love that I can stay home with DS and be flexible - I think your job might even be a little more flexible than mine though! LOL
We will support you in whatever you decide is best. One thing I have learned from lurking this board is that *gentle* birth is possible no matter what form it takes - research as you've been doing, have informed consent, but you CAN still have gentle options IMO. We are here for you!
DH Bill ~ 10/9/1999
DS Benjamin Joseph ~ 7/17/2003 "All of my sunshine..."
DS Evan William ~ 11/20/2006 "...and all of my joy"
Oh Lexi, it sounds like you've been having a rough time lately. Hopefully the meds you got will help your kidney infection go away and that you can rest and get better before your little girl makes an appearance. I can understand how you may want a natural birth but are unsure about it because of what's been going on with your body. The best thing you can do is go in with an open mind and do what's best for you and the baby, and from your entry it seems like you are going into this with the right mindset.
Are you still working? I hope your clients are taking it easy on you. Will you be taking a maternity leave of sorts when the baby comes? Or will you simply bring her along with you? I think I would have thought it was the coolest thing in the world if my mom was a pet-sitter and when I was growing up. (I was the kind of kid that always wanted a million pets but made do with the 1 or 2 we had at the time.)
Hope you are feeling better!
Congratulations on your lodge, and if you don't think your body is up to natural birth, then don't do it. You can't help what your body needs. Your baby just needs whats best for it and best for you, and if natural childbirth would hurt you then it is not an option.
Good luck and KUP!
Hi Lexi and congratulations on your lodge. I have been following your story and understand your concerns. I agree with the other ladies and their thoughts on needing to adjust "natural" based on YOUR situation at the time. I also think that a huge piece of choosing to have a natural experience in todays birthing culture is the concept of informed consent. I think one thing that most naturally minded momma learn along the way is to stop nodding our heads blindly at everything a doctor or any health practitioner might tell us and looking at where the source of information is coming from. With your kidney situation you may need medications (BTW the Ina May's Guide to childbirth does a real nice job of going through pro's con's and side effects of all the different drugs), and you may need certain interventions. But what you have learned is where you feel good about compromise and where you don't want to go until it's last resort for some other reason. I think naturally minded mommas learn real fast about REAL informed consent and that will be a HUGE asset for you. Regardless of what happens you be able to handle the outcome b/c you will have done everything you can for that given circumstance.....KWIM?
and welcome to your lodge!!!
Homebirthing, breastfeeding, sling wearing, cloth diapering momma to 3 girls ages 7 and 6 year old twins and peanut #4 due sometime in late September
Welcome to your lodge!
I totally agree with the other ladies on the epidural. In my mind, sometimes getting an epidural (or other forms of pain relief/ medical interventions) is the BEST decision for mom and baby.
Welcome to you lodge!
And as pp have said, going into birth educated about your options, and open to being flexible becasue of your circumstances are the best things that you can do!
Also I 2nd Erica's reccomendation for Ina Mae's book with the drug info chapter, that was very informative, pros and cons for everything.
Hope you are feeling okay, and that your body stays as healthy as possible until your little one is ready to join us out in the world!