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Go Mary!! Yahoo I'm so excited for you!

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nak disclaimer....

yay mary! i am so excited for you....i will be stalking!

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How exciting! I can't wait to hear more! :kaos3:

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**LURKER**
Yay! I can not wait for an update!

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oooh... she hasn't been back in all day....
thinking of you!
xo Robin

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Go Mary! Thinking of you hun, and keeping my fingers crossed that you get to show up all those nasty doc's with an ideal, all natural vbac.

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Oh Mary! I'm soooo excited. I'm thinking of you, girl.

Can't wait to hear all about your successful VBAC!

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Oh WOW!!!! I am so excited for you!!!

And as for your hospital experience last night, you are a truly remarkable inspiration!!!!! You go girl!!!!!!!

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Good luck! hope all goes perfectly for you and your little one!

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***lurker***

Good Luck Mary!!! Wishing you easy VBAC vibes!!! Cant wait for an update!!

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I've been following your lodge, but haven't really had time to post.. Just wanted to say that i was thinking about you, and to give you kudos for sticking up to the doctors.. Good luck and ELV.

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Hi gals,

Just wanted to let you know that I am still pregnant. This little guy has decided to take things slow which is fine by me. I continue to lose more and more of my mucous plug but the contractions have definitely weakened over the night. I am probably going to head out shortly for a walk and see how that goes. Any other suggestions on making labour progress?

Thanks, Mary

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Find a playground and take a turn on the swings. My old ob swore by it, said it was much more effective and fun than walking and didn't tire you out as badly.

Besides, it tends to make you laugh and according to Ina May, that will help in and of itself.

Stef

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Glad to hear things are going well...you are one strong lady! Biggrin Can't wait to hear that you are holding your little one. And I love the suggestion to try swings at the park...at least it will be fun!

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Love the swing idea!

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I love that swing idea too - how much fun is that!

Thinking of you hon - the start-stop must be frustrating! Big hugs & lots of labour vibes coming your way

xo Robin

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So my walk did nothing Sad but I am going to go try the swing later today...it should be fun. I finally caught up on sleep since I am not having any pains at all. The pressure is killer and I have been losing so much of my mucous plug that I am hoping that is an indication of labor starting soon. Ok...well, I will keep you guys updated as things happen (or don't). Mary

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:kaos3: Come baby come! come baby come! :kaos3: I was bragging about you to one of my r/l friends today, telling her about how much I admire you and how proud I am of you, and how much you inspire me, now at the beginning of my first pregnancy, with your strength, conviction, and power. You're such a great mama and I'm sure that baby is going to come soon!

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I hope the swing helps things along, I agree what a great idea!! Smile

I sure hope things get moving for you hun, I can imagine that must be so frustrating.

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I had contractions like that 10-15 min part for almost 2 weeks before I had Tessa. Don't loose faith.

Funny about the swings, because of Peter we spent alot of time at the park the last few days of my prego and I love to swing.

I want you to know the feeling you have about all the girls inducing on the BB and you are fighting with all you have to stay prego, is one I can 100% understand. HUGS but watch how many end up with C-sections and you will feel great about your fight for a VBAC. HUGS to them too because next time they may not be as strong as you to fight for the VBAC. I wish I fought as hard for the first birth and I could have avoided the VBAC fight but it makes you stronger. I wish all first time mom's where as strong as us wanting VBACs.

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Oh Mary I am rooting for you!

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Yay Mary! I just got caught up after being away for the weekend. Good for you for standing your ground, I'm hoping your little guy keeps things moving and you settle into labor soon. Yay!

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Let's hope that mucous plug is a thing of the past and baby is on the way!

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How are you doing? You have a very inspireing story going here!

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Thinking of you and sending you loads of labor vibes.

Keep up the great work!

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HI guys,

Nothing new going on Sad . I am hoping that something starts happening soon especiallly since I don't want to go past 42 weeks. I did get on the swings esterday and even thoguh it was fun....nothing happened. I went to my chiro this morning and then headed to the mall to walk. I still have a lot of yucky stuff coming out from down below (sorry tmi). Hopefully things will get moving very soon. I am trying to not get discouraged or impatient but it is so hard not to. I just want this baby to come sooner than later so that I don't have to deal with the docs office. Do you guys think it is better that I don't deal with them and if for whatever reason something doesn't feel right I should just go to the hospital instead of calling the docs office and seeing them? I will keep you guys updated. Mary

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Hugs Mary! I think it's time for your DH to do some coaxing on his part, IYKIM Wink

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Mary,
I've been following your lodge, and it's been very interesting. With only my first appt. behind me, I can already see the same type of ignoramus thinking and I'm looking for another Dr. now. I guess some Drs/nurses just don't like critical thinkers, they want you to do things because that's the way that it's done!

I would not deal with that Drs. office again. If it were me I'd be heading straight to the hospital when the time comes. If they are that uninformed and/or deceptive you really don't need them.

It has been inspiring to see the way you handle each hurdle-- with information and your voice!

Your in my prayers~

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Just stopped by to check on you, Mary. Keep the faith!

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So yesterday we went ahead and scheduled the "true" c/s for next wed. at 42 weeks. I must say that when my due date came and went, I wasn't upset or down but must admit that yesterday and today I am definitely feeling down for the first time this pregnancy. I have kept so positive throughout all the craziness with the baby turning breech at 32 weeks and then turning back to head down at almost 38 weeks. I have stayed strong and always had faith in the baby and GOD but now I just don't know if it is going to happen.Sorry to sound like such a downer today but it's just that I worked so hard for this and too see it slipping away is killing me. I am going to my accupuncturist today (my last resort) and from then on it is up to my baby, my body, and GOD to make this happen before next Wed. Well, if anything new happens, I will let you guys know. Mary

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*hugs* Don't feel bad for being discouraged. You have been so strong and vocal and informed. You still have one week for baby to decide to greet the world, and if s/he doesn't in that time, you at least know that you made sure you didn't get a frivolous procedure for no better reason than a doctor's complacency.

You have been so amazingly patient with this pregnancy. I was so sick of being pregnant that I wanted my baby out at 34 weeks.

You've been a role-model in your self-advocacy, truly. Look at all the people who have said that you've inspired them.

However that little baby makes their way into the world, I am whole-heartedly convinced that s/he is one of the truly, truly lucky ones for having a mother who will fight, with knowledge and strength of will for what is best for them.

Hang tight, Mary. You are amazing!

Stef

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Hi Mary!

I am glad you were able to delay the c-sec until 42 weeks and I am sorry you are feeling discouraged but I agree with Stef you are giving this baby every chance to come out on his own... I certainly understand as that is exactly what I will be doing, scheduling the c-sec for 42 wks and praying the little bean comes out before then.

Try to relax and keep faith--I am praying that little boy makes his arrival with a successful VBAC in the next week. "Come on little guy!"

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Mary,

You've got 6 full days! That sounds like plenty of time for labor to get moving. Hopefully your little one will decide it's time. Don't give up. You are an incredible and strong woman.

Lots of hugs.

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Aw hon I totally understand... just scheduling it has to feel like a defeat. BUT that's a whole week yet, and you're really unlikely to still be pregnant at that point. Hang in there hon. Sending lots of hugs and encouragement, and (easy for me to say) just try to forget about it for now - don't let that baby think it's scarey out here!
xo Robin

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Sending lots of labor vibes!!!

I second what others have said: I know it can feel like a defeat at this point but you have done everything you could possibly do.

I think your accupuncturist will work and along what Robin said, maybe try talking to the baby and "listening" for anything going on in you that might be keeping the little one from coming.

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I may be a little out of the loop here, but I know that both my brother and I were born 2 weeks or more late without complications. I know with VBAC there are potential complications (albeit not as much as docs would generally like you to think). So why is there such pressure to birth exactly on time if baby inside is still healthy and mom’s doing fine (though tired of being pregnant)? I why should it be a c-section and not an induction if it has to be forced?

Just being curious.

Mary. I wish you the best and hope that baby decides to come out when he is ready! Don’t get discouraged, you still have lots of time. Tell him that you are ready, and it’s up to him to make his presence felt!

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HI Mary,
was just check ing on you. Hang in there. I hope the boy comes in naturally. There is still time and you could still go into labor naturally. Can you ask for an induction instead of a c/s? The doctors tend tp rush you towards the end but I know some people have gone as far as 44 weeks. The only problem is the kid gets bigger with time so it might be challenging to deliver naturally but still possible. Goldie Hawn was at 44 week with her first son Oliver so it feasible.

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Thinking of you, hon.
xo Robin

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Well, last night starting at 10pm I started having contractions and by like 4am they were 5 mins apart and I even had them for 3 mins apart but that only lasted 30mins. The rest of today they have ranged from 15 mins. apart to 5 mins. apart (for an hour and a half) but now we are back to none Sad . I really was hoping that this was it. I kept on thinking ...wow the acupuncture worked but I didn't allow myself to get overly excited. I didn't wake anyone up last night and when I told dh this morning when his alarm went off I told him not to worry that I didn't think it was it either. I guess I was kind of protecting myself emotionally since I was so upset after this happened on Sat. I guess on a better note I get to go in to my docs office tomorrow and see how I have progressed...even thoguh it wouldn't surprise me one bit if they said I hadn't (which I don't believe). My doula told me there is a full moon for Mon. so I am holding out hope for this weekend. I am going to go walk again this evening and see if that helps any and I also go back to the acupuncturist tomorrow morning for another treatment (keeping my fingers crossed). I will let you guys know how it goes. Mary

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Keep your head up, Mary!

My body did that a few days before the real deal with each baby--- so I suspect your time is soon!

I'll continue to think of you!

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Mary, I am new to this board and just read through your story. I am a ftm and I want to thank you for sharing such raw emotions and also for you being so willing to fight for your rights as a mother/woman and for your little baby. I wanted you to know that you and your family will be in my prayers and I hope that your boy decides he is ready soon. I am a firm believer that the birth process is natural for a reason and we should do what we can to keep it that way. Again thank you for sharing and I hope over the next few days we hear baby news!
Sincerely
Kristen

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Mary, you have five more days! Don't give up hope yet. Have you tried reflexology yet? Have your DH rub the trigger spots.

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It sounds like the acupuncture may be having some effect hon... of course, your body is also getting ready on it's own, but I know that when I had acu or moxi I always had lots of activity after that. Keep the faith hon. Big hugs.
xo Robin

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Mary--thinking of you and glad you have had some contractions--it is going to happen, I just know it!

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Mary, i just caught up on your lodge (i'm a bad momma!)
You are an absolutely incredible woman! I know you are going to have your VBAC. You did not come all this way to have that taken away from you. don't give in to the doubt that is creeping into your posts. your baby is doing great, your body sound like its working. Remember, this is essentially your first labor, so your body is figuring it out.

you are doing great!!

a story my MW told me abt getting labor going:

When she worked at a birth clinic on the Mexican border, she had a very young couple w/their first baby. She was overdue and it was the day before the 42 wk deadline and they would have to go to the hospital and not birth w/ the MWs. So she told the husband, very matter-of-factly, "go home. she has to have 10 orgasms and the baby will come right out." Sure enough 2:30am they come barrelling into the clinic and she is ready to push! Olivia calls the husband over and says, "so, how many was it?" he answered, apologetically, "only 3, senora"

give it a try girl, thats what put the baby there to begin with! plus, it'll oxygenate all the tissue down there and help prevent tearing too.

GL!!

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Ayelet--I love it, great story and good advice!

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Hang in there Mary. Your body is doing work even though it may not feel like it. Lots of hugs!

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Just wanted to offer hugs, and a huge cheer for your strength!! Your doing awesome!!

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Still sending labor vibes your way, Mary! KUP

Stef

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Mary, I'm right there with you! It's so frustrating going overdue and trust me, it sounds like you're MUCH less of a nutcase about it than me Smile I have to say my midwife's suggestion of a cohosh scheme plus nipple stimulation from an electric breast pump has done WONDERS for getting me contracting well tonight. If you're still not in labor in a few days at least a pump could definitely be looked into.

Can't wait for BOTH of us to have our babies Smile

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