Meghan's (flower71) Birth Lodge! - postpartum

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Meghan's (flower71) Birth Lodge! - postpartum

Well, Meghan...we missed getting this started for you in a timely fashion but hopefully you'll share with us what's left of your pregnancy journey as well as the birth of your LO! Please tell us about yourself!

Jen

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Meghan, welcome to your lodge! I look forward to hearing your story and following your journey!!!!

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Oh goody, another baby soon! I'd love to hear about you and your family.

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Yea Meghan, welcome to your lodge--can't wait to hear more.

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welcome to your lodge, hope you are doing well

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I've already adopted Meghan as my "homebirth buddy" on the homebirth board so I'll pm her and make sure she catches her lodge before she has this baby!

Welcome to your lodge Meghan!

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Hi! Thanks for the lodge--I'll try to actually get a few posts in it. Smile

I'm still working full-time (sort-of; my 8-hour days have turned into 5 and 6-hour days this week) and with the two kids and my husband also wanting attention I can't seem to find much time to catch up on others' lodges and write posts like I want to...

I decided to work up until the day I went into labor (like I did with the other pregnancies) so that I could have more time off after the baby is born, but I wish I could know what day that will be... then I'd take the last 2 or 3 days off so I could actually let myself turn the focus inward and really be present during the end of the pregnancy.

On the other hand, it's not like I'm comfortable most of the time at this point, so I suppose the distraction of work is probably a Very Good Thing!!

Have a conference call with work in 5 minutes, so no time to write a real post. Hopefully I can get back on later today and write my introduction. Biggrin

Timing my contractions again this morning... they were down to every 5 or 6 minutes for a short while, but looks like they're back up to 20+. Yuck, I hate the false labors at the end of pregnancy!!! I'm trying to ignore the contractions, but I'm still at the point of getting excited every time they start to get close together for a while. I'm sure that will wear off soon... my midwife guesses I've got one more week. We'll see if her intuition is right. Smile

Meghan

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Welcome to your lodge! You are my inspiration working for so long, I hope to be able to make it!

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Hi everyone! Looks like I have a few minutes to work on my intro post, so here we go...

"Succinct" and "concise" are apparently not in my writing vocabulary, so apologies in advance for what will probably be a long post!

I live in Minnesota, in a house with my stepson (12) and daughter (8), and husband.

My 12-year-old is very excited about the idea of having a little brother! He can't wait to teach his brother all about skateboarding and how to play video games and show him all his favorite movies. I don't think he quite realizes how long it's going to be before his new brother is ready for any of that... but he insists he'll be happy enough if he's just allowed to put Xander on the floor nearby while he sits in his beanbag and plays video games.

My 8-year-old daughter is NOT happy about the impending arrival. She's come to grudgingly tolerate hearing about the baby over the past few months (she no longer melts down and starts crying, insisting she doesn't want a new person in our family), but change is very hard for her. She also feels very strongly about patterns, and a new kid disrupts so many of the patterns of our family structure that she's having a really hard time adjusting (for instance, we have two adults and two kids, two boys and two girls. By age, we're sorted boy-girl-boy-girl, and by size. Adding a fifth person of any gender disrupts her patterns.) She'll slowly get used to it, though, it's just a good thing we've had months to ease her into the idea so she doesn't completely fall apart when he's born.

I had never planned on having another baby, so I'm trying to enjoy this whole experience to the fullest, even if it was unplanned!

When I was pregnant with my daughter, I wasn't eating well, wasn't getting enough sleep (I got up to catch my bus to work at 5:30 am for an 8-4:30 shift, but I also had to be up to pick up my husband from work at 2 am--and since he worked an opposite shift from me, we only really had waking time together one day per week). My memories of that whole time are a fog; I didn't have energy or free time to stop and focus on what was going on, how I was feeling, think about my soon-to-come baby, anything.

Our son was 3 at the time and he was VERY VERY energetic. And very demanding of attention at all times. To give a short example... besides not ever being still, he had incredible ability to keep going on something. He'd ask the same question over and over if he didn't like the answer. One day, I was sitting exhausted on the couch and he asked if he could have some milk. I said "no" (he has Type 1 diabetes and with the insulins he had at that time, he couldn't just have carbs anytime he wanted.) So he asked again. I said "no" again. He asked again... and again... and again. I was curious how long he would keep it up, so I started counting. I counted 542 times that he asked before I couldn't stand it anymore and sent him to his room so I could have a break before I lost it.

Anyway--he's now on Concerta (similar to Ritalin) and that transformed his life tremendously. Both kids have been in school for most of the pregnancy, so if I took a day off to rest, I actually got a quiet day at home. And best of all--I'm working a job with very flexible hours, and where my bosses actually have been encouraging me to telecommute as much as I want to! (They're trusting me to be responsible about when I should be present in person for meetings, etc.)

I'm working as a software consultant--basically, a computer programmer who doesn't sign on with one particular corporation, but I work for a small company and I sign on with various companies to help them with software projects. Usually I go in on a three-month contract, that turns into 1-3 years.

My consulting company is really just 6 of us independent contractors who got together and agreed to tithe some of our pay to one person to manage the taxes, benefits, etc. for us so we don't all have to do the paperwork. So there's no HR department, no paid vacation or maternity leave or anything like that. But we have a great health plan (the six of us made a decision together on which plan to pick), and because there's almost no overhead, my take-home pay is quite a bit higher than it would be if I worked for a big company.

The idea is, you take that extra pay and stick it in a bank account, and that becomes your own personal PTO bucket--you take as much time off as you want, you can pay yourself out of that bank account (until it runs out, of course). Fortunately, we've had no financial setbacks so I've been able to keep plugging money into that bucket for years, and that's going to allow me to take a full month off after Xander is born.

I'm very excited--with my first baby, I went back to work basically right away (long story that I won't get into, but I was 16, gave that baby up for adoption, and pretty much put it all behind me and pretended it never happened). With my second baby--my daughter--even though my husband and I were both working full-time, we were barely making enough money to scrape by, and all I could afford to take off was 5 business days. She was born on a Friday, and a week from the next Monday, I was back at work full-time. My husband's job provided family leave benefits, so he was able to stay at home for three weeks paid. (My job would have allowed me to stay home unpaid, but not paid... and we couldn't afford to lose the money.)

So... a whole month!!! People at my current job keep expressing shock or even disbelief that I'm not taking more time off than that, but a month seems like a dream to me. And now that my husband is a stay-at-home dad (ever since I managed to get into computer programming and make enough to support the family), I'm the sole income. I just don't feel comfortable staying out of work longer than a month...

Well, guess I'll stop my introduction there for now. Biggrin It's noon and Xander's kicking incessantly to remind me to eat something, plus the heartburn is getting awful. Definitely time to take a break and take care of myself!!

I'll post more when I can... if I'm boring you, this is probably a good point to stop reading my posts!! LOL

Meghan

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Back again - 3 in the morning here. Blum 3

Fortunately, I napped from 6-8 pm because I put in a very full 8-hour day at work (even if I am just dialed in from home, working on a laptop!) I kept intending to take a break, but then I'd decide to get just one more thing done... and before I knew it, 8 hours had gone by and I'd barely stopped to gulp down food at lunchtime.

The pattern the past few days was to get contractions that slowly would get stronger and closer together until they hit ~10 minutes apart, stay there for an hour or so, then jump to 30 minutes apart... then gone. They were getting to the 10 minutes apart point around 10 pm, so by midnight I could go to bed.

Well, tonight I was barely having anything at 10, so I thought maybe I'd actually get to sleep! Except I couldn't go to bed with my husband at 11, because Xander was WIDE awake and kicking up a storm--I tried to lie down, and the heartburn forced me right back up.

Ok, well no biggie--I've been getting to bed around midnight and I hoped Xander would be asleep by then. Read a book until around 1 am, when Xander finally quieted down and I figured I could attempt to lie down again.

Made myself lie in bed for 20 minutes... but the contractions were getting stronger and after I gagged and just about threw up (sorry TMI) at 1:20, I decided it was useless.

Been standing at the kitchen table working on a puzzle ever since. I can't even sit down for long--the contractions just make the heartburn too bad to stay that way. Plus, they're strong enough to be pretty uncomfortable; being able to "dance" in place and hula my hips around seems to help. I've been doing my best to block them out while working on the puzzle, but tracking the timing because when they hit their peak, I'll realize that I'm swaying strongly in place, whispering "ouch,ouch,ouch" to myself. LOL. They're staying 11-13 minutes apart, and have been for two hours now...

I don't know whether to hope this actually turns into something so I can finally say goodbye to the horrible heartburn, or hope that they fade away so I can get some real sleep before I actually do go into labor!!! Smile

I'm very glad now that I made a special trip to Target to buy a puzzle; it's certainly helping distract me. And that I asked my mom and sisters to lend me some of their favorite books; when my eyes won't focus on the puzzle anymore, at least I know I can dig into one of the grocery bags and pull out a new book. (I thought they'd each give me one or two books... instead, every one of them showed up at the baby shower with a bag of 7-10 books!!! And since I have 5 sisters, that's a lot of books!)

Meghan

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Contractions still going (hitting the 2-hour mark now) at 10-12 minutes apart. Wow, am I having cramps in my lower legs and feet... the nighttime ones had gone away a few weeks ago, but it's like tonight they've decided to make up for lost time. I keep trying to sit down on the stool at the kitchen table to get off my feet (they're starting to ache from standing here), but every time I try to sit down, both my feet curl up from cramps and I end up bouncing on my toes for 5 minutes, soothing the cramps away!!

Guess maybe I should go drink some of that Calcium-Magnesium stuff from my midwife... maybe it'll help...

These contractions are very annoying. I wish they'd either get closer together and do something, or go away so I could finally get some sleep! It's 4 in the morning here now... good thing tomorrow's a Saturday and we don't have anything urgent planned!

Poor DH... with all the being up half the night I've been doing lately, during the day when we could spend time together I'm either napping, or I'm being crabby and don't want to do anything because I'm too tired. Blum 3 Looks like tomorrow isn't going to be any better.

Meghan

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Well, we're now getting close to 5 hours and the contractions are still regular. I STILL can't figure out when they start and stop; seems kind of pathetic!! I finally resorted to going by back pain. When they're coming and when they're fading, my back doesn't hurt--I just feel the pressure in front. But when they're peaking, I can feel it in my back (guess Xander must be facing the right way or I think I'd be feeling it constantly).

So... going by peaks of back pain, the contractions are down to about 3 minutes apart! It's 5:45 am... I'm trying to wait until 6 am to wake up DH and call the midwife. I did wander into the bedroom and say "good morning" to DH a few minutes ago... he mumbled "good morning" back and immediately slipped back into fast-asleep breathing. So I'll let him get a little more sleep--he certainly won't be getting much today--it's hard to imagine the contractions are just going to disappear at this point!

I'm starting to get really shaky. Some of it's probably tiredness, and from standing for almost 5 hours straight now (I drank some Calcium-Magnesium stuff and it helped the foot/leg cramps a bit, I think, but I still can't lie down or sit for long). But I suppose some is probably from needing food/carbs. So I'll go wander around the kitchen and see what I can find... I'm really starting to tremble!

I'll post an update once I get a chance... if this is really it, I suppose that might not be for a while... If you don't hear back from me, that's a good sign that the contractions really did turn into something!!! Biggrin

Meghan

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YAY, Meghan! Sounds like things are picking up!! I've enjoyed reading your posts so far (and no worries about length here....I'm "thorough" as well;-). Definitely try to get some calories in your body...you'll need the energy! This is so exciting...make sure to KUP on your progress! Sending ELVs your way---

Jen

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Can't wait to hear how everything went, hoping this is it for you!

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The contractions stalled...

Didn't get back to post for a while because I was catching up on some much-needed sleep. Biggrin

Here's what happened:

Woke up DH, who went off to take a shower while I called the midwife. I delayed calling the midwife for another 20 minutes because I was tired and crabby and really didn't want this to be real... plus, once I acknowledged to myself that this seemed like something, I think the adrenaline rush put a damper on things and my contractions went back to 8 minutes apart instead of 3, and they didn't feel as strong.

Anyway, finally decided to wake up Ali (my midwife) at around 6:30; told her what was going on, and she promised to head right over once she woke up and got moving. I knew I should get the birthing area ready but I couldn't quite make myself do it, I didn't want to enter the "public" phase of this labor (I know it isn't really public, just me and DH and Ali, but after 6 hours of peaceful, solitary nighttime labor it was really hard to adjust to daytime and dealing with people).

Fortunately, DH finally stepped in and helped me by getting started on laying out the fitted sheet, etc. See, our house only has 5 rooms: 2 bedrooms, bathroom, kitchen, and living room. We have one boy, one girl, and ourselves... so we've coped by taking one bedroom for ourselves, and making the kids switch off every week between sleeping in the living room vs. sleeping in the remaining bedroom.

Our bedroom is small and crowded, and I don't really want to labor in there, so the plan is to cover the futon mattress in the living room with vinyl sheet and old ugly cloth sheets, to use as the labor/delivery area. Then, after Xander is born and I'm cleaned up and ready to move a little, I can move into my bedroom and clean bed with the baby (and hopefully DH) and rest there. That also lets the midwives, DH, etc. clean up the living room area without disturbing me since I'll be in another room entirely.

So in order to get the birthing area ready, we had to wake up my 8-year-old and coax her into moving into our bedroom to sleep for a little longer. (Poor thing, I went to check on her later and she was laying in my bed with tears rolling down her face--because she overheard me say that the baby was coming, and she still REALLY does not want a new baby brother.)

Anyway, we finished setting things up and then sat around not knowing what to do for 10 minutes until Ali arrived. My son woke up and came out to turn on video games--the sound drove me batty until I made him turn it off. In fact, by about 7 am ALL sounds were driving me batty. My son kept sneezing, my husband was coughing, the fishtank's water filter was trickling loudly, cars kept driving by outside... LOL Welcome to sleep deprivation!! (And they start resealing the road outside our house on Monday. Wonderful.)

Ali showed up, checked my pulse (three times, it was very fast--she finally gave up). Checked my blood pressure; 128/60 or something like that; about what it usually is. I had no idea how close together my contractions were anymore at that point, with all the adrenaline and talking to people and trying to think about what I should be doing, I'd completely lost track.

My daughter had crept out of bed and had a bowl of cereal, then silently carried the phone over and set it in my lap--her way of asking me to call grandma to come pick her up so she wouldn't have to be around for the birth. So, around 7 am I called grandma and woke her up, to ask if she would please come and pick up the kids just in case this was for real. She was groggy and not sounding too thrilled, but she agreed to head over once she woke up all the way. (The plan was actually to have one of my teenage brothers take care of them, but 7 am is no time to try to wake up a teenage boy. I told her she could go wake one of them up instead but she decided it would be less trouble to just drive over herself.)

By the time grandma had arrived, we'd concluded that even if this was real labor, the contractions had stalled and nothing was going to happen very soon. Ali packed up her stuff and headed back home to nap/do errands/whatever (she only lives 10 minutes' drive away), grandma picked up the kids anyway to give me a few hours' quiet to sleep, and soon the house was empty except for me and DH.

I didn't think I'd be able to lie down yet because I was still having major foot/leg cramp problems plus the heartburn with each contraction. Ali had to take my pulse while I was standing up because I couldn't sit long enough for her to get a pulse AND a blood pressure AND check baby's position!

Fortunately (depending on how you look at it), by the time everyone was gone, the contractions had faded so much that once I drank some Maalox and climbed into bed, I was able to sleep for almost 4 hours with minimal heartburn/cramping problems. (DH also got me a multivitamin in case there was some mineral I needed besides Cal-Mag for the cramps; who knows if it helped or was just coincidence.) When my legs cramped, I worked out how to stretch my legs over to the wall more-or-less in my sleep and work the cramps out against the wall, without moving in ways that made the heartburn unbearable... lol, I guess I'm learning!

Woke up around noon; DH and I picked up some lunch at Chipotle (I was -starving- by then) and then went and picked up the kids. DH is napping now, and the kids are out back helping with some digging.

Oh, yeah--we're crazy people. I refused to stay in this tiny house with yet another kid, so we put it on the market from January->April. Bad timing, unfortunately... as we watched the real estate market in the area crash and had absolutely no buyers show interest in our house, we decided to give up (I didn't want to try to pack and move in May or June).

Instead, we came up with a new plan--our basement ceiling was only 6' high, so it was not legal living space by the building code. We'd talked over the years about lifting the roof and adding a second story on top of the building, but two years ago we tore off the roof and built a brand-new one, so that idea didn't seem like a good one anymore (lifting an 80-year-old roof is one thing... taking the risk with a 2-year-old roof is something else!!!) At the time, we decided not to spend the money adding a second story because we didn't expect to be in the house that long--and we didn't want to add an extra year or two onto house remodeling.

Anyway, this time we came up with the idea of lifting the whole -house- and making the basement taller. I started doing some researching on the internet and decided it wasn't as insane as it sounded; the cost is about $25000 for the lifting/building up the foundation/setting down process for our 800 sq/ft house (it would have been less, but we have a three-season back porch with its own roof tied into the house roof, and a beautiful front deck/porch with its own roof, and lifting those two things in combination with the house raised the price).

Making the basement into space that we could finish into living quarters will take our house from 800 to 1600 square feet--that's a pretty good boost!!! The construction crews took three weeks all totaled to get the house set on its new, higher foundation (the basement ceiling joists are now 9' high!! But the real ceiling with be 2' lower to cover up all the pipes and vent system.)

We're doing all the rest of the work ourselves--installing new (BIG) basement windows (they have to meet the egress window code or we can't have bedrooms down there); landscaping most of the area around the house to fix water drainage problems (and give us a nice view out the new windows--we don't want ugly metal window wells); building all the interior walls for the two new bedrooms, bathroom, laundry room, utility closet, and family room that we're adding... plus the natural gas piping, water plumbing, and electrical...

Eventually it will all come together, but right at the moment what we have is a house where the basement stairs come to an end 4' below the level of the kitchen floor (it's kind of funny, you turn around the corner to where the stairs should be and it's like hitting the end of the world or something--just a big dropoff), a basement with massive holes in the walls on all four sides (where the windows will go), and a backdoor that's 4' off the ground--so you can almost walk into the basement without opening it! (The door lifted up with the house.)

DH is trying hard to get the window areas dug out so we can safely install the windows and get the basement at least mostly closed off (you wouldn't believe the population of moths we're getting in the house--they fly in the basement windows at night and then follow the light up past the end of the basement stairs into the kitchen). We have to get enough dirt dug away (the bottom of some of the windows is 3' below ground level) so that the next rainstorm won't collapse the edges of our excavation and smash the new windows when we install them. We'll eventually get retaining walls built to hold back all the dirt, but that's probably going to take the rest of the summer, and we don't want to go the entire summer with our house open to the elements like this!

So... craziness. My 12-year-old is NOT appreciating our requests to have him help with the work, but DH isn't letting him out of it. Actually, he's doing much better today--DH did many wheelbarrow-loads this morning while the kids were at grandma's, so he's napping, and my son is working much better without DH there. They're starting to hit that too-common dad/son teenager dynamic--the two of them can almost instantly set each other off, and you can just feel the testosterone rising.

My dd is helping today too; I couldn't find a good job for her, so she's keeping her brother company. Our mulberries are just starting to get ripe, and I picked up a couple of bags of cherries on the way home from grandma's, so they worked out a plan. Every half-wheelbarrow, they each get to eat a cherry. Every time they go to dump a wheelbarrow load (next to the mulberry tree) they each get to eat a mulberry. DD has been placed in charge of "cherry-handing-out" and "mulberry-picking". They both sound pretty content out there. Smile

So... back to irregular, once every half-hour or so contractions. They'll probably pick up again tonight (it would be the fourth night in a row that they got stronger after dinner).

Haven't decided what I'll do if they get down to 3 minutes again. Ali said one of her clients last month--who was on her fourth baby--ended up calling her almost every day for three weeks because she was having such tricky false labors (i.e. couldn't figure out if it was real or not). Some days she went out to check, some days they just talked on the phone for a while.

After three weeks, I guess the mom thought she was bugging Ali too much so she didn't bother calling when the contractions started up again. Until about 2 am; she woke up with one "very strong" contraction and immediately woke up her husband and called Ali. The baby was born 30 minutes later!! Since Ali lives 45 minutes away... the husband ended up delivering the baby on his own. LOL.

That idea doesn't bother me too much... except the whole reason I really want a midwife is so we have someone experienced who can tell if I'm hemorrhaging dangerously, or know what to do if Xander isn't breathing or something. So maybe I'll listen to Ali and keep calling her whenever things seem to be getting rolling, even if there's a good chance it's just another false alarm...

Meghan

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Welcome to your lodge Meghan, sounds like your body is preparing! I think most midwives expect to be called a lot twoards the end, even the most experienced of us often question ourselves & our bodies at the end lol

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Wow, sounds exciting Meghan! Just getting caught up on your lodge and I see I got here just in time Smile Good for you keeping the kids busy today. I'm sure the last thing you needed to be doing was trying to entertain them. I hope your contractions become steady and don't stop on you! Keep your midwife in the loop, I'm sure she doesn't mind Smile

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Wow, what a big job you have taken on with your house! I've heard of raising up a house that has sunk a little or is uneven but not of lifting the whole house as you guys have. I hope all goes smoothly, how nice to double the size of your living space.

Good luck with all of this starting and stopping. I hope it turns into the real thing asap for you. I'll be watching!

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wow you sound like you have so much going on between new baby coming, home remodel, DD being unsure, busy busy. I hope you are finding time to rest during all of this and the heartburn will let up enough so you can get some sleep before baby arrives. Enjoy the rest of your sunday and KUP on as it sounds like you body is def getting ready for labor

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Sounds like we're in the same boat Meghan Smile I'm also wishing these contractions would make up their mind and either get closer together and stay that way or go away so I could get some good sleep.........

It can't last forever though, right? I'm sure we'll have these baby's soon!

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Well, the contractions finally faded around 10 pm last night and I actually got a full night's sleep!! It was sooo nice... Had maybe 5 contractions all day, until now--I've had two in the last half-hour, but I think it may just be dehydration--it was up in the 90s today for the first time this year. We went to storage and pulled out the room fans, but it was still a long day. Blum 3

My ankles swelled up like crazy today, too--must also be the heat? There wasn't any swelling at all, even yesterday, but today if I put on my shoes, the swollen flesh poofs out around the edges. It looks awful; fortunately, they feel just fine. And my face and hands aren't getting swollen, so I guess there's small chance of it being due to preeclampsia. Good thing I was barely on my feet today; I don't want to imagine what they would look like if I'd actually been up running errands the whole day or something!!

So right now, it feels like nothing's going to happen anytime soon. Hopefully I can get another decent night of sleep in, because tomorrow's going to be a long day, trying to focus on work for 8 hours from a 90-degree home. Blum 3 I'm sure I'll be wishing I could go into the office instead!!!

Smile

Meghan

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You sound in good spirits! I know that it's hard with the heat. Hope you can get some sleep tonight!

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Thanks for the good-sleep hopes, but it looks like they're not to be... at least not yet...

Tried to go to bed with DH at 10:30, but Xander had different ideas. He can't really flip around anymore, but he was very squirmy and eventually the heartburn got bad enough from my stomach getting kicked that I had to get up and stay vertical for a while. Came out to the kitchen to work on my puzzle, and he finally stopped kicking but then he got the hiccups, which is almost as bad!!

Now he's stopped hiccuping, and the every-10-minute contractions have kicked in. They're not real strong ones, just enough that I know they're there. I'm starting to wonder if it's just being at this kitchen table that really kicks them off... it's a countertop kind of table where we have backless stools around it, so I'm either standing or I'm perched on one of the stools.

LOL, it actually makes me a little torn... if standing here at the table can get things going, then maybe it's worth it... but if all it would do is give me regular contractions for hours that don't accomplish anything, I guess I'm better off retiring to the rocking chair until the heartburn fades enough for me to sleep... Wink

Anyway, so far tonight is like living in Groundhog Day--an almost exact repeat of Friday night. Guess I'll go sit in the rocking chair for a while and see if I can break the pattern. Biggrin

Meghan

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I hope you get some more progress or at least some more sleep!

My little one has been really squirmy this evening too. I cannot imagine what is so exciting it there.

-Joanne

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Hey Meghan--it sounds like you body is gearing up. My ankles/feet have been swelling too from the heat and when I am up and about doing too much. I don't have high bp but am experiencing the same things.

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Man, I hate the heartburn. It gives me a headache, almost like brain freeze.

I hope you got to bed eventually!

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Yep, got to bed... when I went in the bedroom to settle into the rocking chair, I stopped and lay down next to DH for a few minutes, just to snuggle because I was soooo tired and I just wanted to be able to be close to him and sleep. And it actually worked! Xander didn't hiccup, or kick, and the contractions faded away.

Started getting more at 2 am--every 45 minutes, I'd get one so strong it would wake me out of a sound sleep. Blum 3 No fun. After the first three they faded a little and weren't quite so painful, though. At the 5:30 one I just gave up and got up for the day--I figure the more hours I can get put in at work before it gets hot, the better off I'll be. Then I can take a nap during the really hot part of the day (hopefully) and still get an 8-hour day in...

Meghan

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I hope you enjoy your afternoon siesta!

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You know you're mentally ready to go into labor when...

You blow your nose, then automatically check the mucousy tissue to see if there's any bloody show yet!!

My midwife says Xander's head-down, but posterior, and that may be holding up going into labor... since his head doesn't fit as snugly into the pelvis, it won't be stimulating the floor muscles and triggering labor as easily. So now I'm having fun doing the hands-and-knees, working backwards on a chair, etc. things.

Meghan

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Hopw that little guy moves down and sending you major labor vibes!!!

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Here's hoping Xander flips around for you! Hang in there Meghan, and I hope sleep isn't too elusive Smile

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Waaaaaah--everyone else is getting to have their babies, I want Xander to come out!! Wink

Ok, my little meltdown is over. Seriously, though: Michelle, Kathy, Fawn, Joanne... I thought I was in sync with all of you but I'm still stuck here in BH-land... Biggrin

Been very moody/emotional the last two days. Yesterday I had a few points where I was very close to just bursting into tears for absolutely no reason at all, I was just suddenly emotional. (I don't generally cry--normally I go emotionLESS on the outside, not emotional.) I've also been completely exhausted--definitely not the restless, wanting-to-clean nesting state that I'm watching for...

Every evening it seems like around this time I start to get (fairly mild) contractions that get down to 8-10 minutes apart, stay there regularly until 2-3 am, then disappear again.

Xander still seems to be facing with his legs and arms forward, or at the very least just to the side of forward. Right now I can feel his hand or knee or foot or something rubbing back and forth across my belly button. That's definitely not the right way to be facing!!!

I've been spending most of my sitting time backwards in a chair; makes my back stiff though, since I'm trying to lean forward and let my belly hang but at the same time not let my back dip. The muscles wear out pretty fast. When I feel Xander moving around a lot I try to go on hands and knees and do pelvic tilts but I have the same problem with my back wearing out there; I manage maybe 5 or 7 tilts and then I'm breathless and exhausted, and I end up just curling on my side on the floor, tilting forward as much as I can. I hate feeling so weak!

Haven't figured out any good way to prop myself head-down at an angle yet. No stairs in the house, and when I tried to lean off the bed onto the carpet at an angle, I was only able to hold my body straight for a short time--haven't figured out any object to use to support me. (Could maybe use the bookshelf boards somehow, but they're just pine 2x8 boards and I really don't want splinters...)

Tonight, I went for two walks (because it FINALLY cooled down around here; it's been awfully humid and high 90-degrees for the last week). During each walk, I was having contractions regularly every 2 minutes. But not super-strong ones; I could keep walking, and keep talking (although at the very strongest point my sentences would get kind of choppy because it was hard to breathe).

Called the midwife in between walks--uh-oh, she's at another birth already! So she said to rest, drink lots of water, take it easy... and tell Xander to wait and not come out tonight! lol

At this point I'd be happy to go ahead and do an unassisted homebirth with just myself and my husband, but I don't think I'll have real labor tonight. I'm still getting the medium-strength contractions (that's what I'm calling the ones that wrap around my back and cause enough pain that I can feel them peak, but they're not the "strong" ones where I can feel the muscles tightening up all the way around my body, including the lower part of my belly), but they don't seem at all regular--11 minutes, 6 minutes, 2 minutes, 3 minutes, 9 minutes...

I think part of what happened was stress at work--Monday and Tuesday I was really struggling to get some programs running for a client of the company--the code was written and working, but we were having all kinds of little issues that kept us from getting it out onto the servers and running where the client could access it. I was very stressed (I was afraid of going into labor before we got it all working, and I'm the senior person in our department for this kind of program--the others don't have the experience to be able to debug very well yet), and I worked 12-hour days both days.

Finally got the system running at the end of the day Tuesday--that was a HUGE relief. And these fake? contractions that had completely disappeared while I was stressed (I had maybe 4 contractions a day those days) started to come back. Which was a relief; during those few days there, I felt like my body was running in reverse and getting FARTHER from going into labor instead of closer! I guess getting stressed right at the end really isn't a helpful thing...

So, there's my whiny post... hopefully next time I come on I'll have something to report that seems like progress instead of hovering in this nowhere-land, waiting for something to finally happen...

Meghan

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Ugh - what you're going through sounds terrible. I tilted myself on the seat of an armchair, but like you, it was really uncomfortable after only a little while. And I felt like I was going to hurt myself getting into position. What about leaning forward over a ball while DH massages your back? That's what I'm going to suggest for tonight's entertainment.

Ha ha about blowing your nose. I wish I had as much mucus coming out the other end.

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Meghan--I am with you sister--you have more going on then me with that baby--sending you major labor vibes!

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I would definately try a birth ball if I were you. I love sitting on mine, I even use it at the computer! You can try an ironing board so you don't get any splinters! Lol Good luck Momma, it won't be much longer, if it hasn't already happened!

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Good luck Meghan, hopefully all the contractions you are having will get nice and consistent so you can have that baby!!

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A birth ball's been sounding really nice... thanks for suggesting it, both of you, I think I just needed that little push to look into whether I can get one anywhere... My midwife's got one, but she also has several of us all due in the second half of this month so I don't think she's going to want me to keep it at my house pre-labor. Maybe they sell something similar at Target, for yoga? Seems like I've seen big balls there...

I'm having the WEIRDEST contractions the past couple of days. Lying down, I get about one every hour, strong enough to wake me up and send me lurching for the bathroom (hard to walk straight when my legs are half-numb) and to force me to sit up, anyway, because my stomach is too squashed to lay down comfortably.

Sitting, I mostly don't feel anything (probably I'd get those once-per-hour contractions if I actually sat for that long at a time without moving).

Standing, I get the contractions a little more regularly, and I can feel them across my belly, down low, and across my back... but they stop being regular as soon as I sit down or lie down.

And WALKING... well, every time I got for a walk for the past three days I get regular contractions every 2 minutes!!! Walked for almost an hour two nights ago, and it was steady every 2 minutes the entire time. But as soon as I got home and sat down... gone.

I've never even heard of someone having contractions that close together, that can just up and fade away as soon as you're not walking anymore. Grrr. Very frustrating!! :evil:

I'm chalking it up to Xander not being turned around right. On Thursday, he was snugged head-down against my cervix, but facing forward instead of backward. If I'm feeling his position correctly, he moved back up again sometime in the last day or two and he's been squiggling around all over since then (although, thank anything you want, NOT head-up). Yesterday when he had the hiccups, I'm pretty sure his head was cupped against my left hip instead of centered down like it has been for the past three or four weeks.

So that seems like good news, I guess... at least he's free to turn around the right way. And while writing this post, I do seem to be having regular strong contractions even just sitting here. I don't want to time them yet, though, I'm tired of having my hopes dashed!!!! But I guess they'll prevent me from even thinking seriously about trying to lie down and take a nap...

I think -maybe- he's even back to head-down and he might be facing backwards this time; I haven't felt any kicks or foot-squiggles to the front of my stomach at all this morning.

Cross your fingers for me, I'll update later...!!!

Meghan

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Oh, well, still nothing. I was able to nap for almost 3 hours--that helped some. My hopes that Xander has turned to face the right way were dashed as I woke up from my nap to feel him tracing circles on the front of my belly with his foot or knee. (As well as having hiccups again, which this time seemed to be centered straight down in my groin... so I wonder if he's gone and engaged backwards again.)

I'm a little afraid to try to convince him to come back up... what if instead of flipping to face the back, he decides to flip head-up? The stories of back labor I've heard sound awful, and I know they have a higher chance of ending in c-section because of an exhausted mother and non-progressing pregnancy... but the chances of a vaginal birth seem like they'd have to be higher than if my efforts to convince him to turn end up with a breech baby...

No way to know until after it's done, of course. Blum 3

Still having a fair amount of contractions when I'm sitting, but not regularly; like 6 minutes, 15 minutes, 10 minutes, etc. It's been raining outside all morning so now it's extremely humid with temperatures in the 90s... I -don't- think I'll be trying to go for a walk today (I'd probably pass out before I get out of the yard!!) I'm so happy we've got a window air conditioner to keep it comfortable in here.

Meghan

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Glad you had a nice long nap today! My MW was just telling me today how important it was to be rested and not let the early contactions stop me from getting rest.

It's been hot here too, but there are supposed to be some rain storms that come through tonight, hopefully it will cool everything down a bit!

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Sounds so frustrating Meghan! You are doing wonderfully however, it probably doesn't feel like it but your body is preparing itself for labor. Try to rest when you can... little Xander needs a well-rested Mama. Here's hoping your contractions become regular and feel more progressive!!

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I hope it did cool down for you--no rain came through, but some kind of front must have because we have nice strong breezes today, and it's still only 65 degrees here at 10 am. Smile SO much nicer than the 90s that we've been having!

Another night with very little sleep; I couldn't stop crying this morning because I was SO tired but I was driven out of bed at 6:30 am with the acid reflux. Fortunately, I managed to stop sobbing after about an hour and pull myself together so I could log on and get some work done...

Went out around 10 am to pick up some morning coffee with DH (it feels like such an extravagance, but it is -so- nice to have that little trip out of the house into the sunshine, and have a nice hot mocha to sip on--so we keep doing it).

By the time we got to the front of the line, I could barely get through ordering and then I headed straight for a table to sit down--I was feeling so wobbly!! I'd ordered a chocolate muffin on the spur of the moment and I gulped it down like I hadn't eaten in a week. I couldn't believe how badly my hands were shaking--I had trouble getting the coffee cup to my mouth without spilling. I think I must have just hit a really low blood sugar, because I can't figure out anything else it would be. Ate a packet of fruit snacks on the way back home (I keep some stashed in my purse), and had an apple with peanut butter once I got home, and I'm feeling much less shaky now. That was no fun! Blum 3

Pretty much no contractions at all today... once again, I guess I'm running backwards. Blum 3 Very confusing. I've decided to try to convince myself I've got at least two weeks left. It's not going to get me to stop scrutinizing every physical change in hopes that maybe it'll be today... but I hope I can at least keep myself from being disappointed each evening that today didn't turn out to be "it"...

Very, very glad I didn't stop working early--I'd be going insane!!

Meghan

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I hear you on the keeping occupied front. My course ended last week, so I am free as a bird and needing distraction!

I feel wobbly, too, but I think it's a mixture of loosy pelvis and probably the blood sugar crashes you describe. Keep up the good work, and hopefully the contractions will come back!

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My blood sugar will drop and that is exactly how I feel. That is smart to keep snacks in your purse. Hope you are able to get a little bit more sleep today!

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It's been a few days since we've heard from you. Anything exciting happen? I hope so!

Not sure if I should put "postpartum" or "prenatal" so I'll wait for news.

Hope all goes well.

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Sadly, nothing to report. Since nothing's changed, I haven't had the heart to come here and post...

I don't even get the 2-minute-apart contractions when I go for walks anymore!! Which I suppose may be a good sign; at the last midwife visit, she said that he'd turned to be "mostly" facing the right way, so she thought my uterus would probably calm down and be less irritable. So maybe that's what's happening--he's more in the position he's supposed to be in.

He's definitely getting big--I gained two pounds over the past week, which is more than I've gained during any single week in this pregnancy so far. I'm really feeling it stretch my belly, and I feel more off-balance, too, like I'll topple over forward if I'm not careful how I walk. Some of that might be him shifting around to have the bulk of his weight in the front of my stomach instead of the back.

Absolutely no signs that anything's going to happen anytime soon... I'm starting to think this is going to be a July baby!! My second due date (based on fundus measurements) is June 28--maybe that one will come true. Smile Xander's already missed being born on my birthday, his dad's birthday, Father's Day, summer solstice... maybe he's waiting for the 4th of July?

Meghan

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Meghan, we absolutely want to hear from you even if "nothing" is happening. This teetering on the brink time when any minute could start labor is a tough time for any mom.

Glad to hear that you are well. Don't worry about the 2 lbs. And please keep us posted!

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Your midwife sounds great. It is amazing how much they move in this the final countdown. Maybe they get anxious, too, and can't quite decide where's best to lie. Mine went from correctly positioned for weeks to suddenly deciding it wanted it's back to the right, then it felt like we were back to back. Now I hope it's back to facing right.

My due date is the 28th, too, but the u/s due date was the 4th of July. I try not to dwell on dates, but an Independence Day baby would be fun. Fireworks every birthday!

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Hang in there Meghan... with such a broad range of due dates, I imagine it is tough! Oh, and don't worry at all about the 2lbs.

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Wish I knew what had changed, but the past two nights have been amazing--I slept solidly (well, except for the bathroom trips every 1.5 hours or so) for 7 hours last night! And the night before, I slept for 10 hours!!!

I don't think I've had more than 3 hours of straight sleep (without at least a 30-minute interruption) since I was 2 months pregnant, so this has been unbelievable. I can't remember when I last felt as good as I did waking up after that 10-hour sleep...

What's kept me up normally is the acid reflux, but it's mostly disappeared these last three days. I'm still chewing Rolaids every so often, but it's not a 3-an-hour habit like I'd been up to for a couple of weeks there. I guess Xander must have dropped lower, even though it doesn't feel any different... or maybe there was just some kind of hormone shift in my body...

Other than that, still no changes, except that Xander is getting big enough that when he starts to get active my muscles and ligaments get sore real fast. Blum 3 I start out the day feeling pretty good--I think lying down my muscles are relaxed enough that he doesn't really hurt them--but after a day of sitting at the computer working, I've got some quite sore spots where he's been pushing and kicking against my tense belly muscles.

Occasionally (like every other day or so) I'll get one of those contractions that's strong enough it shoots down my legs and I almost fall, but otherwise, just the painless (depending on whether he's got his shoulder or knee stuck in a bad spot!) contractions once in a while (like every time I stand up).

I haven't gone for many walks lately, because before this wonderful bout of being able to sleep, I was really feeling miserable--and walking around the house tired me out; I couldn't even imagine walking down to the park and back. Also, the past three days have been in the high 90s with very high humidity--I wasn't sure I'd be able to make it back from the park even if I did manage to walk down there!

Today looks gorgeous, though; we finally got to turn off the air conditioner and there's a wonderful, strong breeze and it feels like it's in the low 80s. As soon as I'm done working and free of the computer, I'm hoping to get out and take a nice (slow) walk around; it'll be good to be out of this room--I've barely left it for 5 days now!

I've decided it's becoming clear that Xander isn't actually going to come out; I'm just going to be stuck nine-months pregnant forever. I guess I can handle it, as long as I get breaks every once in a while like I did this past two days, where things don't feel as miserable physically. I'll start to get pretty out-of-shape, though, if I'm stuck sitting around like this for much longer, too sore and no energy to get up and move much.

I guess I'll have to work at it slowly, build up stamina and the ability to go on brisk walks instead of slow, rocking waddles... and Xander had better stop growing, he's already stretched my belly past any of the previous stretch marks, and every day the new marks are a bit bigger... I had enough of those already, thank you!

Meghan

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Good for you hanging in there at work! A walk in the breeze sounds delightful. I've finally got my hubbie coming with my for after supper walks (when we remember!). It really is a nice time. And what is it with these stretch marks! I hope they don't do much more in the next 5 weeks!

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Oh, sleep!! That must have been wonderful, and it makes such a difference in how you feel too. We must be having the same weather, because it has been brutally hot, but it finally cooled down today.

Enjoy your walk! (and you won't be nine months pregnant forever=;

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