Welcome to your lodge and congrats on making it this far!
Welcome to your lodge! I'm excited to read your story.
Congratulations on your lodge!
Congrats Melissa! Can't wait to hear your story
Welcome to your lodge, Melissa! Things are starting to get really busy on this board!
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Congrats on the lodge and I can't wait to read your story!
Thanks everyone! I'm so excited to finally have a lodge- I've been looking forward to this for quite a while! Sorry I have been mia- we're right in the middle of moving (we bought our first house!) and just finally got the computer hooked up in a temporary spot tonight!
Anyways, I'm Melissa, age 26(I just had my b-day on Friday!), DH is Chad, 29, and DD Michaela, 4. I met Chad when I was 12, and he was 15, through a mutual friend. We went on sort of a double date, but nothing came of it, since I was just 12, and a bit of a late bloomer at that! I remember once when I was in high school, I went with a bunch of friends to the fair, and rode the ferris wheel with Chad. He waited till it stopped at the top, then asked if I would "go steady" with him. I waited till we got off the ride, then told him I wasn't ready to date. Of course, less than a week later I was dating someone else! Honestly, I think Chad and I were meant to be together, just not that soon! Eventually, he went off and disappeared from my life, until I was 19, working at the local grocery store. He noticed me working there, and sent a mutual friend to get my number, and called me that night to ask me to a movie. After the movie, we went back to his place and talked for hourse-it was so comfortable between us! When he dropped me off at home, we kissed, and I just knew. He is my...I hate to use soul mate, because that sounds so trite. But that's pretty much it. He's also my very best friend in the whole wide world!
Just after I turned 20, we moved away together, and when I was 21, I got pregnant with Michaela. She was born February 4th, 2003, a month before my 22nd birthday. To this day, I firmly believe that a woman has no idea the depth of love she can feel until she holds her child in her arms.
So, that's some of my story, I'll come on another time to share Michaela's birth story, and to update on how everythings going as I count down the days to this baby's birth. Thanks for sharing this time with me!
Hey Melissa! What a great story, and a good thing Chad was so persistent! I love your story.
Happy Birthday! I love your story, thanks for sharing it!
Welcome to your lodge, Melissa! I love hearing those stories where so much time goes by and "Mr. Right" just keeps coming back into your life!
I can't wait to hear more about your journey, now that I'm back on the boards a bit myself!
Happy Birthday! DH and I just bought our first house, too, so I know how exciting that is! Congratulations on your new house and on your new family member! I can't wait to follow your birth journey.
I love our "love story" too! Sorry I can't post much lately, moving is still hectic!I have a doctors appt in half an hour, so I'll come back on to share if anything exciting happens (not likely!) and I'll definitely post Michaela's birth story! be back soon!
Happy belated Birthday and congratulations on the house!! A busy, busy time in your life;-) Thanks for sharing your love story...what a treasure to be able to share with your children!! Looking forward to sharing your journey.
Thanks Jen Sorry I could not get back on sooner- the internet stopped working for awhile, and we just got it fixed! My dr's appt went fine- the baby's just fine, hasn't descended in to my pelvis yet, so little chance of labor any time soon. There was protein in my urine again, so I had to go and get a more in depth urinalysis, and a blood test to check out my kidneys again. I'm pretty sure all is fine though.
For a little mini vent- in January dh went off to a stupid concert with his brother, all I asked for in return was 1 night out of town before the baby comes- one last kid free night, kwim? Since I plan on bfing, I won't be having a baby free 24 hours for a very very long time, and I didn't think it was too much to ask. It's not like I wanted a weeks vacation or anything! So dh forgot- why shouldn't he, it's not important to him, right? He's not going to be a food source! I am upset because we are down to the wire- less than 3 weeks to go! So he asks my mom to take Michaela over night so he can take me away- just for one night! We'll be less than 4 hours away from home, and the longest stretch of highway is 2.5 hours. My mom is acting like I want to go to the wilds of Africa for a week! It's just one night off! I'm so upset with her for begrudging me this! I'm pissed at dh for just letting my needs go by the wayside, and then acting like it's all my moms fault. Ummm hello- if you'd kept your promise to me in the first place, we wouldn't have this problem! So I pretty much have not been able to stop crying all day- it's been a pretty crappy one for me today. Sorry, I guess that vent wasn't really mini!
Can you and DH reach some sort of compromise but still get your night away? Maybe unplug the phone, TV & computer . . . light some candles, have a romantic dinner (carryout chinese right out of the containers always does it for us). I hope things work out, you absolutely need some "you" time before baby comes.
So we reached a compromise and had a night out in a "treat suite" 45 minutes away. It had a jacuzzi and a really nice shower- i thought it would be a great place to have a baby lol! So I feel better now,emotionally, and more in control of myself.
Physically, not so great, though. I'm really swollen in my hands, feet and ankles- bad enough that they ache a bit. Even my face is puffy. I'm feeling really run down, too. So I'm just trying to take it easy, and drinking lemon water and stuff. With Michaela, I got really bad swelling about a week before she was born, so I'm hoping this is just pre labor symptoms, and not anything serious.
While we have the internet working, I'm going to type out Michaela's birth story (it's been off and on lately)
At 7:30 am on the morning of February 4th, 2003, we went in for induction. According to the ultrasound dates, the baby was a week overdue. Since I had gestational diabetes (which I now think was a misdiagnosis), the obgyn agreed that a week was long enough to wait. Anyway, when I went into the hospital, I was 2 cm dialated, and they applied prstglndn gel to my cervix, monitered me and the baby for a bit, and sent me home. We had breakfast, hung around the house and nothing was happening, so we went back to the hospital around noon. They applied more of the gel, and as they were monitering me, I had my first contraction. I thought, cool, that was easy! We went to Smitty's for lunch. I can't remember how frequent the contrax were, but my mom and dh were both with me, so someone must have been keeping track. They were no big deal anyway, just an occasional squeeze to remind me that my baby was finally coming! Went home a bit later that afternoon, when the contractions started to get a bit more frequent and a little more intense. Still no big deal, but I would just rather be home. Dh and I took a nice nap together until the contrax were getting a bit too intense to sleep thru, then I went and took a warm bath. The tub was not deep enough to submerge my belly, so I was putting a wet facecloth on it, and then I switched positions so I was on hands and knees, dangling the belly into the water. I had no back labor, it was all in my stomach and crotch and legs. After awhile, I was tired of being in the tub so I headed downstairs for supper. We ate chicken stew- it was about 6:30pm. By 8:30 the contractions were coming pretty fast, and taking up most of my attention and concentration, so we headed to the hospital. I only vaguely remember the drive there, it's kind of a blur of contractions and hearing my mom telling dh hurry up, slow down. lol. When we got to the hospital, my mom wanted to get me a wheel chair, but I wanted to walk. I regretted that decision a bit, because walking hurt alot, like the baby was going to come ripping out of me. We went up to maternity, where I threw up my chicken stew( this time, only light foods in labor, lol) I was made to lie down on a bed, on my back, and hooked up to moniters (fetal and bp and my heartrate) and a glucose drip. The contrax were crushing and I asked for something for the pain, and they offered me an epi. I remember shouting "no epidural!" I don't think they ever did give me anythng for the pain. Eventually it got better anyway- i think it was a matter of accepting the contractions and not fighting them, and letting them do what they needed to do. Progress was slowing down, and they started having trouble finding the baby's h/b, so my water was broken and they inserted the internal fetal monitor- which hooks up to the baby's scalp. I was made to lie on my side. I hated the gushes of water when I had a contraction. It felt like I was peeing all over myself. At about 11pm, I needed to push. The nurse checked me and told me not to, there was still a rim of cervix left. I pushed anyway, I couldn't not push. The nurse saw me pushing, and realized that this baby was coming now. I was made to lie on my back and my mom held one leg and dh held the other. The pressure was so intense that I couldn't feel the contrax anymore, so I just pushed and pushed. I could hear the doctor counting, trying to get me to follow his guidance, but I could only do what my body would do. I could see my baby in my mind, the way the head gently rocked as she was forced down the birth canal. The vision was so detailed, right down to the brown hair on her head. It felt like a part of me was there with her, watching her come into the world. It was the most connected to another person I have ever felt in my entire life, it was like looking into the face of god, it was the most vivid and real moment I have ever experienced. There was no pain, only a great, numbing pressure. Then, her head was out, and I was told to stop pushing. The cord was around her neck. ONce the doctor moved it, I was allowed to push again, I felt one arm come out, then a slippery feeling as she was fully born. The doctor sang happy birthday- little daughter! He held her up for us to see, then dh got to cut the cord. They took her to the other side of the room right away because sheneeded oxygen. DH was looking at me, sobbing It's a girl! I loved him more at that moment then ever before. My mom brought her too me and put her in my arms- she was perfect and beautiful and instantly I loved her with an intensity that was- and still is- a little scary sometimes. She was covered in vernix still, and the doctor told me that she didn't look like a post-mature baby to him. Anyway, that's her birth story. Michaela Adrian, born Feb 4th, 2003 at 11:23 pm, weighed 7lbs 9oz and was a hair shy of 20 inches long. She had a little brown mohawk, just like the one I envisioned as she was coming down the birth canal! We were both healthy, and I needed one stitch for a small tear.
Wow, that was long! If you made it through, thanks for reading! It's amazing how vividly I remember, since it was more than 4 years ago!
That's a beautiful birth story! Thank you for sharing it with us!
Oh, I love that your doc sang happy birthday to her. How sweet!
Hopefully the swelling doesn't get too bad this time.
I can't believe I missed this one! Congratulations on your lodge, and thank you for sharing your love and birth stories!
I hope the swelling doesn't get too bad for you, just try to take it easy (ya, I know, easier said than done, right?)
I'm having horrible swelling too. My feet are so swollen the skin on my ankles has gone from reddish to white and they feel like I can barely flex them - like an overfilled water balloon! With any luck both you AND I will get lucky and go into labor soon to alleviate this, it's driving me nuts and I know you can't feel much better.
Cheers to the last few weeks (or days)!
Thanks everyone. The swelling isn't too bad, still off and on. Taryl, have you tried drinking water with lemon in it? It takes some getting used to the sour, but I've found it's really been helping keep the swelling under control.
What a great story of you and Chad...you are right, it seems like there should be a better term than soul mate, but I feel the same way about my DH. It is great to be married to your best friend.
Thanks for sharing Michaela's birth story. Very sweet. Isn't it amazing how little girls have their dads wrapped around their little fingers from the very beginning?
Wow, what a beautiful birth story, thanks so much for sharing that with us!
As for the swelling, if you can get ahold of watermelon, that works really well too
Sorry I keep disappearing- the net has been really off and on-mostly off- since we moved. Hopefully it'll be fixed by Monday or Tuesday. I had my first "exam" at my drs appt on thursday- cervix was still high, closed and posterior. baby is engaged, but still not too deep in my pelvis. I could have told the doctor that, but it was still disappointing to hear it lol. So we took a trip out 2 towns over- about 3 hours driving each way. I really wanted to go because there is a store there that sells cloth diapering stuff. I bought 2 Bummis super whisper wraps, prints, which completes my diaper stash. So I am really happy about that! I got the froggy print- which is my absolute favorite!- and the jungle print. I won't be leaving town again, though, cause halfway there, I swelled up like a balloon, and stayed swollen all day. My fingers still resemble sausages. Plus I have a lot of pelvic pressure now- especially when I try to use the bathroom. it is actually a bit difficult to pee! Anyways, we are almost fully ready for the baby (less than 2 weeks, you'd think we'd be ready!) All we need now is to finish getting the cradle together. And names. That's right, we still haven't chosen a name for either sex! Oh, we have a list, it's just deciding which name is best for our baby. I think part of the problem is that, since it took so long, and we had the 2 m/c's, and the uncertain beginnning of this pregnancy, it's been a little hard to bond with this baby. I know it's going to be fine once the baby is out and safely in my arms, but for now, I do confess to feeling just a tad removed, if that doesn't sound too terrible. Anyways, I'm going to post this now, before I lose my connection. I'll come back on as soon as I can.
Melissa, even though I've had names picked out for my children since I was, oh, five? I still think its a good idea if you wait until the little bean is born and tells you what the name is. I'm sure one of the names on that list will pop out at you, or perhaps something completely different! In any case, Enjoy your final days of pregnancy, and keep us posted!
Glad you had a fun trip to get your CDs...I love the froggy print whisper wrap. I have those and a bunch of Fuzzy Bunz, but haven't tried them out yet because her cord hasn't fallen off and it is easier to fold down disposables and not have to do the laundry yet. Good luck on the names...I am sure you will know which one is best when you look into the face of your little one.
Very nice birth story, thank you for sharing. Remembering must make you a little excited for this baby's entrance too.
I am a certified reflexologist. I recommend some reflexology to help with the swelling. You'll pee and pee all of that extra fluid out and your circulation will improve, it may even get you closer to labour too if baby is ready.
I've worked on people with swelling caused by fluid retention because of pregnancy and other reasons and a huge difference is made before we're even finished.
Good luck, can't wait to hear more.
Melissa, I loved reading Michaela's birth story! Hope your swelling is better, and you will be holding your little one soon!
Beautiful story Melissa! Thanks for sharing. Here's hoping your swelling goes down.
Thank you The swelling in my hands is getting better, but it's worse in my feet now. I think because the baby has dropped farther down. Anyways, I don't have a lot of time, so I'm just going to xp what I already said on the DWI board! Hope nobody minds!
We are still having trouble with our internet, so we will be getting a new jack on Wednesday and that should solve all our problems. Of course, yesterday we had a snowstorm, which messed with our power, since a whole bunch of lines were knocked down, 4 or 5 of which were on the highway I wish it would hurry up and be spring already! No labor yet the doc says if I do go over, they won't let me go more than 10 days, so I'm trying hard to imagine the 15th But the thought of being pg that much longer kills me! I'm having a lot of discomfort, cramping and some irregular contrax, so I hope it happens soon! Michaela actually talked to the baby today- she said I want you to come out now so I can say hi! I thought that was so sweet Anyways, we have a busy day today- I have to take the dog to the vet, pick up groceries and Michaela is in a skating show! She's going to be a teddy bear, it's gonna be so cute
The skating show sounds great. Take some pics for us! And here's hoping you get your internet/phone straightened. It's so frustrating dealing with the phone companies sometimes!
Aww... I love those skating shows. I remember my first one, I was five and they dressed us up as ducklings, then stuck us in baby tubs. The older girls pulled us to the center of the ice, we all fell down a lot until we'd circled the baby tubs twice then we got towed back off the ice. It was about 5 minutes and my father took about 6 rolls of film LOL
That is a REALLY cute story, Stef! I can picture it in my head Michaela's show went great- and after the Saturday show, she got to meet Jose Swinard (I'm not sure how to spell it lol)- a Canadian and international figure skating champion! She was so excited about the autographed pic she recieved My bil took a bunch of pics, so as soon as I get them, I'll post'em.
Anyways, I'm still pregnant lol. I think I lost a pretty big chunk of my mucus plug today- but it was white, not bloody at all. I've been having lots of menstrual like cramping, and some irregular contractions. I have the sinking feeling that I'm going to go past my due date. This makes me sad because I'm SO sick of being pregnant. My back hurts, I can't sleep, and I'm just ready to have my baby lol. And by the way, has anybody seen my ANKLES??? They seem to have been stolen and replaced by those of an elephant. Possibly while I was walking, and couldn't see either my ankles or the thieves...Seriously, they are so swollen, there are actually creases in them! I think it only got this bad with Michaela in the last few days before delivery...so I'm PRAYING this is a sign of approaching d-day. I would be so grateful if this baby arrived on it's due date! I bought a pineapple today, and have been eating it (I heard that fresh pineapple can help ripen the cervix) I don't want to do anything else because most of the herbals can mess with bp and I have not talked to my doctor. I figure pineapple is safe and if it doesn't work, at least it's yummy
Can't wait to see those pics, Melissa!
Sounds like things might be getting started for you, take it easy, you'll need all the energy you can get when things start really getting serious!
LOL Melissa I did the same thing with the pineapple during my last pregnancy. Hopefully it works better for you than it did for me.
How exciting for your daughter to meet such a great skater! A friend of mine did a skating camp with Kurt Browning back when he was an 'up and comer' and she STILL talks about it today!
ELV's for you.
Just got caught up on your lodge! Good luck! I hope you are still feeling well!
Ofcourse I have to recommend a reflexology session to help your poor swelling lower bits and to help your body prepare for labour.. not to mention it feels sooo good.
I'm sure you have a bucketload of certified practitioners out there on the crunchy coast.
I hope your baby is ready to come soon for you!
Here's to hoping that the pineapple helped get things going! Sending you ELV.
Lunabelle, I thought for sure there would be nothing available because the area we live in is a bit remote. I checked the phone book, and there is one place that does it. Unfortunately, they are very busy, and I wouldn't be able to get in till I didn't have this "problem" any more lol!
So far, the pineapple doesn't seem to be helping. I had a really crappy sleep last night- severe menstrual like cramps kept waking me up. So I think my body is hinting that something may happen at some point but not much right now. Still no other labor signs other than the cramps and the 'occasional' contraction, just to tease me I guess!
oh, Melissa, that sounds like early labor to me.
I'm sending good thoughts to you.
Hey Melissa... thinking of you and hoping that yummy pineapple is doing the trick!
I hope that the baby comes soon for you! Eat your pineapple!
I hope the baby is coming soon!!
I managed to eat the whole pineapple and now...nothing is happening I'm not even having cramps anymore! I know it's still 2 days till my due date, but...My brother is coming up for easter weekend, and I really want to be able to introduce him to his new neice or nephew! Come on baby, come out! On the funny side of things, Michaela talkes to the baby every day now, telling him/her it's time to come out! She told me today that I have to go to the doctor so he can tell me if the baby will come out, or when! I couldn't think of a way to explain to her that it doesn't work that way lol!
I hope your little one is going to show up for you very soon! I understand wanting the baby here to see your brother, my sister came from Canada when Hadley was born and it was very special.
LOL, Michaela sounds so adorable...my DH did that too, telling my DD that she had "over stayed her welcome" and should "come out and say hello"...she was born the next morning so maybe Michaela is on to something!
Kids are so adorable sometimes! Maybe the words from the big sister will do the trick. (One can only hope, right?)
PM me your city if you want. I bet you I can find you a certified reflexologist who's not too busy. None of the 9 or 10 reflexologists in this town are listed in the phonebook.. you really have to know how to find them.
I hope you have a pre-easter baby for your brother to see