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Melynda's (Melychang) Lodge!

Congrats on your lodge, Melynda! I can't wait to follow your homebirth journey! Smile

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Welcome to your lodge Smile

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Hooray, Another lodge! Congrats, I look forward to hearing your story!

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Welcome to your lodge! (have I mentioned how much I LOVE this idea??)

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Congrats on being so close, can't wait to hear about your journey.

Tell us about yourself.

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Yeah! I am so excited that I finally have a lodge. I have enjoyed reading everyone else's so much that I have really looked forward to this stepping stone. I hope I can do a lodge justice!

A little about me, I am 24 and as of Sunday married for one year to Mike. A great husband and he is going to be a great dad! I am not the best with details but if anyone listens to country music and knows of the song by George Strait "It Just Comes Naturally" That is how I think of our relationship!

I have been wanting a baby for two years, ever since I was fortunate enough to be able to attend my friend's birth of her daughter. It was the most amazing thing and so emotional. I wanted to cry whenever she had a contraction and I finally did bawl at one point. You would think that seeing a birth would deter me from wanting to have a child, but no it increased the desire like 100 fold! But I wanted to take care of a few things first like marriage and houses.

I have had an amazing pregnancy! I am really astonished because the only pregnancy I have experienced was my friend's and for her it was horrible. I really enjoy being pregnant. My only complaint is sometimes I wish my baby would move more. But then from what I have heard, it could be a good thing after the baby is born.

So right now I am exhausted and really looking forward to finishing work. 3 more days, tomorrow is going to be horrible because I have a staff meeting in the evening so I will be working for 13 hrs! Thankfully I have a fairly easy job, which I love.

Today was also my home visit! It was great despite the stress of trying to get my house clean. I am not a clean freak but I get so stressed when people come over. The visit went very well, uneventful, but my mw and I got to talk about the various situations that could come up during the birth. Like Karly had mentioned in her lodge, I don't have any fear yet but I do want to find it and get in touch with my fear so that it doesn't hit my like a train during labour or something.

Well, that is my novel for now. Thanks for this wonderful venue to express my thoughts and recieve fabulous support.

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YAY for almost being on maternity leave! I have been fortunate to not work through this pregnancy, I'd have probably died, quit, or been fired Smile

I am so glad your homevisit went well, that's exciting! And I agree, better to deal with any fears early than to get broadsided. I think we have both been reading too much "Birthing From Within". Smile

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I'm so thrilled to follow another homebirth lodge. You ladies are so inspirational. I'm glad things are going so well!!

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Hi Melynda and welcome to your lodge! How very exciting. I love your picture of your hubbie and puppy dog - it is absolutely adorable.

I think that is so incredible that you got to attend your friend's birth first hand and see how "it all works"! How very inspirational.

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Hi Melynda---look forward to sharing this time with you!

How cool that you were able to attend your friend's birth--I think that is great and that people either respond to the experience with a big I'm going natural or quick give me meds Wink Glad you found it inspirational...

Glad you had a good home visit. Mine is on Monday and I'm eager to figure out "logistics" and such....plus it will make it so much more real.

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YAY for maternity leave soon;-) So excited to share this journey with you!

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Congrats on your lodge! I look forward to reading about your homebirth!

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I made it through my 13 hr day! And I was able to come home and not be snippy to my dh! I have been rather mean to him lately, especially when I am tired. The poor guy gets all my frustration.

But tomorrow should be a good day and I will be able to wrap up all the loose ends at work. I trained my replacement today and I am so glad that we clicked because now I feel better about leaving my job. I support adults with developmental disabilities in their jobs. My client and I have worked really hard over the past year at getting her job to be more valued and meaningful. She has worked at Chapters for 8 yrs and over the course of time with the change in stores and management, she went from scanning discontinued books to dusting. So we worked with the management to allow her to shelve books. I was really worried about her losing this task because of my leaving, but I feel confident in my replacement. I just don't like the thought of staff leaving and ruining her job.

The exciting thing that has happend pregnancy wise is that my belly button is getting flatter! I had a deep innie and I have been watching it disappear since Christmas. I actually wanted to get a permanent marker and draw a circle around my belly button and watch it grow! I am strangely fascinated by my belly button and I am wondering if it will pop out.

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COngrats on your lodge.
I am glad to hear I am not hte only one obsessing about my belly button.
I still haven't popped yet either and doubt I will. Apparently if you have any amount of belly fat combined wiht a deep innie you might never.
I am ok wiht that though people seem to think it is weird. Why they are looking at my belly button it beyond me but Ohh well Smile

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Glad to hear all is going well:) Can't wait to hear your story!

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I am so glad your long day went well and your replacement will take good care of your clients...It would be really hard to leave these people you care about otherwise.

LOL, about your belly button...I used to be really obsessed that mine would turn into an outie...it's just completely flattened out and I can feel the muscle hole in the center. I make my mom and DH feel it all the time. They just roll their eyes at me!

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Hey Melynda!! We are all so close! Glad you had a good homevisit, and that you are sooo close to being done with work. What wonderful work to be involved in, I hope your replacement will be able to maintain what you've done for your client.
Congrats on your lodge!!

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Well, I am finished work! What a surreal moment. I don't plan on going back to the same place after mat leave, so it is a very strange way to finish work. It is not like quitting at all.

But I am looking forward to taking care of me and the baby over the next couple of weeks. I have been so tired with work and everything else that I have really neglected my health. I haven't been eating very well or exercising, but this will now change! I am looking forward to walking lots and aquasize and making good meals! When I talk like this my dh gets really excited because he likes the idea of a house wife!

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Welcome to your lodge! I love these things. I can't wait to follow your journey with you!

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Congrats on your last day of work, Melynda! I still have one more week to go. How great that you are able to take this time to get back to taking care of you and baby. Smile

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Yeah for being done with work, that is awesome! It's good to take some time for you and the baby, and get yourself together for the big event!

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Way to go on your last day of work! I can't wait for that time for me. What kind of good meals do you plan on making?

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For Christmas my parents gave my dh and I a gift certificate to get a new tub for the birth. The previous owners painted over the tub, and it was gross and the paint would flake off if you had a bath. So we had been hemming and hahing for the last couples months trying to figure out the best and most affordable way to replace the tub. What made it difficult was that the previous owners had tiled the whole bathroom. But my dh and his brother finally decided to start demoling (sp?) and then see how bad of a job the previous owners had done and go from there. So they started today and made excellent progress! It looks like I will have a brand new tub by next weekend!! I am so excited, I think it will be so helpful for the birth.

Today I have been feeling a little off, tired mainly but then around dinner I got a head ache and felt nauseous. I am hoping that I am not coming down with anything! Not good timing, but maybe my body just trying to recuperate after the last week.

Stacie- I am not totally sure what I am going to make, I want to try some new recipes. Mainly just cooking at home, will be a good start!

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Oh, I'm so glad that you can get a new tub! I love bathrooms.

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Yeah for a new tub! That sounds like lots of fun! Hope they get everything back together in time:) As far as how your feeling, I hope tomorrow finds you feeling well again being sick wouldn't be any fun at all.

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Good luck on the bathroom remodel, it'll be so nice once it's done. We just got a new tub too and it's heavenly, extra-deep & everything! Biggrin

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Today I had such a great day! I got up and went to Aquasize and then walked home, it took me about 40 mins, I am much slower now and it was a bit icy. Then in the afternoon went for another walk with my SIL and niece! I am always amazed at how good I feel after exercise! It is strange that I am so reluctant to do it most times.

My baby still likes to keep me on my toes. S/he doesn't move much and seems to know how long to push not moving just to stress me out enough and then it starts moving around! Somedays!

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How great that you don't have to get up and go to work this morning! Yeah for maternity leave!

A new bathtub will be so exciting! Are you nervous that it is being done so close to the birth? I would be.

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Wow, I can't believe you walked that far! I don't think I would have had the get up and go to do that when I was that prego:) It does feel good to be active though. How was your first day not going to work?

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Today I had such a great day! I got up and went to Aquasize and then walked home, it took me about 40 mins, I am much slower now and it was a bit icy. Then in the afternoon went for another walk with my SIL and niece! I am always amazed at how good I feel after exercise! It is strange that I am so reluctant to do it most times.

ITA...it's not a big deal to get motivated normally, but this last month or so, I really need to push myself, but it feels so much better when I do it...I think the increased circulation really helps.

Sorry your little one is giving you attitude already, LOL! I don't think my daughter ever has kicked around as much as some babies (nothing really painful), but at least she is fairly consistent...although I have had a few stressful moments. :?

Hope your tub is progressing well. It sounds like it will be wonderful and hopefully just in time. Wink

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Today I had my 37 wk appt. It was the usual boring appt. but my baby is doing well, good heartbeat and has switched now to my right side, hopefully s/he doesn't switch to posterior. I love just visiting with my mw's! Somedays I wish I had more questions to ask just so we could chat longer. I love that my mw's don't stress about my weight gain. I am trying to not gain to much but at least this way I don't need to stress.

I am enjoying my time off and tomorrow will be a great day because I am meeting up with my SIL and dh's best friend's wife (who is due 4 days before me) for a spa day and I will be going for a massage! Which I am so excited for.

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Enjoy your massage!! I'm so jealous!

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I totally agree about the exercise-- not only do I feel better afterwards, but I sleep better at night when I've had a good walk or swim. I'm impressed you are out walking in Canada :wink:.

GL with the new tub! I swear I always decide to tear something out or put in something new at the end of my pg...one time it was a new range in our kitchen, and wouldn't you know it the night I went into labor we had the kitchen torn up to high heavens (gratefully my dad had it all re-assembled before we returned home....yay!)

Enjoy these last few weeks. I'll be done with work in another ten days and am so looking forward to it. I've never taken time off before baby arrived...so this will be a new experience for me that I'm looking forward to embracing!

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It actually is not that impressive for me to be out walking. I live in a very strange climate. Today it was 14 degree (about 56 in Fahrenheit) and so nice and sunny! But next week we are expecting snow. Definitely nothing compared to what Taryl has right now!

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I have been taking it nice and easy the last couple of days. Just slowly getting the house together and soon (by Monday) it will be easier because I won't have a bunch of tools laying around and my bathroom should be done!!

I think I may have had some contractions last night, I can't really describe it because I was sleeping but I woke up with a strange tightening/cramping feeling in my belly. The feeling lasted a while but then disappeared. It was strange. But interesting too bad I wasn't more awake at the time.

But I can't have this baby until after next Saturday. Mainly because I want my mom to be at the birth and she is involved in planning and hosting a province wide conference. Plus I want to go to the conference too.

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I'm glad to hear that you are getting a chance to relax, you deserve it.

Stay in there baby! Listen to your mama, not until after next Saturday! Smile

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I am so excited for you and your new tub! :kaos2:

Maybe you are having BH contractions? Did they hurt? I get them all the time, but a lot when I sleep. Usually I can sleep through them, unless they are pushing the baby into my bladder. When I lay down to fall asleep and get them, they also push her butt into my lungs, which can make it a little hard to breathe. I know they are normal for me because I have had them consistently since very early in the pregnancy...I guess they will eventually they will become more painful or at least develop some pattern.

Here's to hoping your little one lets you enjoy your mom's conference!

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Caution: Reader Beware ! This is post is full of stress and over-reacting.

My baby is driving me nuts! S/he keeps switching sides. From December until the end of February, s/he was head down and on the left side, then two weeks ago s/he switched sides and now seems to be switching throughout day. On one side I guess it could be a good thing because the baby is on the small side and still has lots of room but on the other side I am worried that the baby will go into a posterior position. Which of course is really not that big of a thing, it just means back labour.

I know I am stressing over nothing......I guess I need something to stress about, everything else has gone well.

For any BDTD Moms - Did you get to the uncomfortable stage?

I have been quite comfortable and still sleep well and really have no complaints. So I am wondering if the uncomfortable stage is a precursor to labour. I am really enjoying being pregnant and I wonder if I will need to get to that part. I have begun to think, especially with Karly going into labour and all the other births on my board that my baby and i are really to comfortable with eachother and s/he will never want to come out. Somedays I am totally cool with my baby staying where s/he is, happy no crying etc. So I have been talking to my baby to let her know that I do want to meet her and she can come when she is ready.

If you make it this far, thanks for reading my ramblings. Tomorrow will be a better!

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I am in a much better head space now, it helped to rant a bit in my last post. I am now much more hopeful and feeling very positive about everything. Everything is going perfectly.

Tonight dh and I went and got some maternity photos done. I think they are going to look incredible. Hopefully I can afford a nice package.

I was talking to my MIL about going away for the conference this weekend. She was very worried about me driving 3 hours and what happens if I go into labour, etc? If I was a little more bold, I wish I had told her, don't worry I will just have the baby at your house! She lives half way between the conference and my house.

So tomorrow is my 38 wk appt. I love my midwife appts. even thought they are boring and nothing really happens but I still enjoy being able to get to know them better and hear my babies heartbeat.

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Awe, you make me feel like a lazy slug! I can barely make it out of the house to go to two appts. each week! As for the uncomfortable stage, I have gotten to the point where it is nearly unbearable (too much abdominal pressure, back pain, hip pain) and my midwife does seem to think that is a very close precursor to labor.

As for contractions, since I am officially having prodromal labor I would describe mine as almost feeling like the baby is stretching, there is pressure atg the top of my bump and then a bit more down very low, like around my bikini line (but not yet cervical pressure). It seems to hold tight for half a minute to a minute and then release. When they go for an hour or two I find my lower back muscles and abdominal muscles feel very fatigued, like I did too many situps.

Sitting upright during these definitely feels better than laying down, and when I have one while trying to keep walking that is the only time I'd say they really hurt.

We'll see if you and I are progressing or not...

That you are staying healthy and active is a very good thing and will make your labor easier, for sure. Make SURE you post some of those maternity shots, they always turn out so lovely!

And feel free to vent, sometimes I feel that is all I use my lodge for - whining. But it definitely makes me feel better and I figure whining to you guys is better than taking it out on my hubby after he''s spent a long day working!

Tomorrow we BOTH have 38 week appts, so make sure you share how yours goes (and I will do the same).

Labor progress vibes heading your way Smile

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Too funny about having the baby at your MIL's house. Wouldn't that be a surprise for her! Smile

Glad to hear things are progressing and I agree with Taryl, I'd love to see your shots when they are done!

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I spent the weekend away. I went to the conference that my Mom organized about 3 hrs away. I had a good time but not as good of a time as I was anticipating. I was really looking forward to the weekend away. But the weird thing is that I really wanted to be home and I really missed my dh. I have never been homesick, but that is really how I felt, and I was very emotional and teary. Especially today, I spent most of the morning crying or fighting back tears.
One fun thing about the conference is that everyone was impressed that I was up and walking around, wearing heels and dancing!

But I am home now and man does it feel good!

I am ready for this baby to come! Soon, I am beginning to worry that the baby will be late, and I won't be able to have my home birth. I don't feel any closer to having a baby at all! Sometimes I wish my mw's did internal checks, then I would know if I am close or not.

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Good for you for getting out this weekend--- but I can relate on the "homesick"--that is how I felt during my last work trip two weeks ago.

Hang in there-- our babies WILL come-- and no worries-- doing internals really doesn't tell you a bit about when labor will strike. Both times I've gone from totally closed, not effaced at all and baby floating to having the baby a day or two later.....

Relax and enjoy this time with dh!

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Heels??!!! That is amazing! I'm in awe of you.

You're getting really close, and it's a normal nesting behavior to want to be near your dh.

Hang in there.

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I bet if you really wanted an internal, you could ask. I stressed about asking my midwives for one too, as I didn't want to seem... I don't know, too medicalized or something! I was having major anxiety but finally just asked for one, to ease my mind, and Lorna didn't even bat an eyelash!

Audra's right, they don't really tell much unless you're looking at needing some sort of intervention, but they can certainly ease one's mind. On the other hand it is a double-edged sword because if you find out you HAVEN'T progressed it can be very disheartening. Still, you should ask for one if you want one, there's no harm in doing one and no shame in having one done!

I also worry about the baby being late - I stressed so much that I wouldn't make it to 37 weeks and would miss my homebirth, and wouldn't you know two or three days after my stresses turned to a NEW worry - that I'd STILL miss my homebirth, just on the other end! We'll find ways to worry no matter what, legit or not... but if you really show signs of being too overdue it is likely your midwives will start trying many tricks to get it started, including things like pelvic tilts, membrane sweeps, black and blue cohosh.... they want you to have a homebirth as much as you do, and many midwives, as long as you are still looking healthy, will be more than willing to0 fudge a few days off your EDD to allow for a 42+ week delivery. It really depends, but don't worry just yet.

I should take my own advice >_

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Hi Melynda! I just had a chance to catch up on your lodge and it sounds like you are doing great...the other ladies are right, checking you wouldn't really indicate much, but I wish I had been checked on my appt two days before Kailey was born. I was high and closed at my 35 week appt and she was too low in my pelvis to be felt externally at my 37 week appt, but who knows if I was dilated or not...and she popped right out.

Anyway, I am really excited for you to meet your little one and can't wait to hear the story. Hang in there!

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Last night I started to feel my bh again and they happened fairly regularily about every 10 minutes (but I refused to really time them because I didn't want to get excited) for at least 4 hours or more. I was able to sleep through them but now I am wondering if it could mean that labour is close? I am a little hesitant to go to aquasize this morning but I think I will go for a walk and see if that does anything. I gues we will see.

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How exciting, Melynda! Good luck getting things moving with your walk!

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I think I am going to try and not focus on when the baby is going to come but I am going to plan a due date party for next Tuesday.

Does anyone have any ideas on what to do?
My one thought is to go to my favorite restaurant for dinner.

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Well, if the baby comes pretty soon you may not want to be out of the house quite yet, depending on how rough the labor is on you... but if you think you'll wanna go out on the town your favorite restaurant sounds PERFECT!

As for the BHs, we'll go through this together today, it looks like. Maybe BOTH babies will decide to show up soon! I'm thinking good progress vibes for you!

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Aren't there certain foods that can allegedly bring on labor? I say go out for the spiciest Mexican food you can tolerate . . . either that or Thai. That little one will be raring to go! Biggrin

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