Pernille's (PernilleP) Lodge!!

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Pernille's (PernilleP) Lodge!!

Congratulations on your lodge! I am looking forward to sharing your with you!

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Yay, another lodge! Congratulations!

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Again, I say, so many lodges!!

Welcome to yours! This is so exciting! Congratulations!!

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Thanks guys. Now it finally feels like I am on the home stretch after reading all the other lodges for months Smile

First a little about us:

My name is Pernille (33) and I have been married to DH Matt (34) for, let's see, 3 years by now. I am origiannly from Denmark but have been in the US since college. We still joke that we had a greencard wedding especially since we eloped to city hall 3 years ago but didn't have our "wedding" until this past June. Most people, including the inlaws, think we are newly weds because we never told we had gotten married. It is a long story that I won't get into other than to say they are very catholic and DH is the first born and he didn't think they would understand. The reason I am even telling you this is because to most people I got pregnant pretty much on the honeymoon Wink and while everyone are estatic about the baby they are surprised it happened so quickly.
Let me tell you so am I. DH never got the pleasure of trying to conceive ... you know the months of tons of sex. It happened the first cycle we tried. Probably has something to do with all the charting I did pre-trying but let's not tell him that Smile I had heard so many stories of people going months or years of trying and I was hoping we wouldn't have to since I am not getting any younger and I had always said I wanted to have one popped out by 35. So we are having our first - a boy- right on target - the EDD is March 29th per the OB and LMP but I know it is later, again the obsessive charting. Per my records it is not until 4/4 and I have gotten the midwives to accept my date. I wanted to make sure I had some extra cushion before I had to start saying no to induction and also it is mental. That way I won't feel past due until 4/5. Wow writing this I sound like much more of a overly controlling planner than I really am Smile

Now about the pregnancy... it has been very uneventfull which is great. slight morning sickness the first few months and just recently the normal woes of late pregnancy like achy back and swollen feet.
I started at my old OBs practice and I absolutely love him. We have a 10 year realtionship and I trust him more than any other doctor. However, it is a large practice and chances he would be the one on call for delivery was less than 10%. Coupled wiht the fact that the hospital would not allow you to use the birthing tubs wit the OB I switched to the Midwives in the same practice. At least there was only 4 of them. As I have posted before .... it did not go well and I officially left the practice and the hospital around 29 weeks pregnant. I am now with a wonderful midwife practice... they completely understand what I want and how I plan on getting there. I am still giving birth in a hospital but they have a Alternative birthing unit for natural births with permanent tubs and no strict hospital rules. I would have preferred a free standing birth center but they are not currently legal in my state.

Wow this is turning into a novel.. better stop for now and pick it up later.
Time to go find out what DH is laughing at. He has been downstairs laughing loudly for about half an hour now on and off. Wonder what he found on-line.... or he is probably listning to the howard stern show ... which I will never understand but ohh well.

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Congrats on your lodge! I look forward to following you journey. I totally understand about being pleasantly surprised at getting a BFP so quickly. We were surprised how quickly it happened to us too, especially after years of BCP and being a little older.

Glad you found a birthing situation you are comfortable with. Smile

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Welcome to your lodge! I can't wait to hear more about your plans for your birth. It sounds like your in good hands & I hope you get just what your looking for!

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I really loved reading your story. Congrats on getting so close.

I love the fact that you stood up for what you wanted and made the switch to the new MW's. The hospital birth you are having sounds so much like what I had. It will be wonderful for you!

Can't wait to continue following your lodge.

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So I just got back from the obligatory OB visit that my MW makes all patients go to. It is basically a meet and greet with the OB that supports them just incase you need a c-section. At least this way you have seen his face before. It really felt like a complete waste of time. All he did was tell me I could call him anytime I needed him and that it would be my decision if I wanted a c/s unless ofcourse it was a major emergency at which time I probably wouldn't want to wait for him to show up and the surgery would be done by who ever was on call at the hopital. So why am I meeting you..... I am not planning on having a c/s unless it is an emergency. Ohh well now that is done. Made DH a little annoyed because he has a show tonight and should have been with the boys loading the gear. He plays guitar in a few local bands that actually get pretty good shows around town. It is his time with his boyfriends (as I lovingly call them) and I think he is getting a little worried that it will soon be over for him. I keep telling him he can continue just not 3 times a week Wink

Other than that life is pretty uneventful. I can't wait to starting to feel something. I haven't felt the slightest sign that I could have a baby anytime or at least I don't think so. I just want the first real contraction so I know what I am feeling is real. I have been slightly crampy today but on a scale of 1-10 (7 being my normal painful period cramps) it has been a 3. Probably just indegestion.

More later when some thing exciting happens Wink

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Welcome and congrats on your lodge! My husband and I got pregnant on our first cycle too - definitely my charting coupled with our constant BD-ing that week Smile

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In a super good mood today because I just found out DH gets paternity leave.... paid even. He actually has a more lucrative leave than I do which I would get into if I wasn't so darn excited.
I just spent the last 30 min pouring over the calendar to try to come up with a plan for him. He gets 3 weeks paid paternity leave and can take FMLA after that to total 12 weeks. I am so happy we get to do some Father/Son bonding when he is little and it will serve as a great way to find out if DH can actually be a SAHD.

His parents are completely on board with the idea and support our decision 100%. It ultimately is a financial one since daycare of nanny's are so expensive here and he doesn't make enough to make it worth while. Now if he was a doctor making in the 6 figures it might have been a tougher choice but as it stands the decision was easy.
My parents don't quite get it. Coming from a social democracy the concept of daycare costs in the $500-$600 range a week is completely foreign to them. I think they have a hard time understanding why he would want to stay home when he has a good job.

Any of you have SAHDs? I would love some insights to the potential difficulties we will run into.

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That is wonderful that your husband gets paternity leave! And that he will have a chance to be a SAHD, my dad was at home with us and it was great. He did say it was the hardest job he has ever done but totally worth it.
What a great thing for your family.

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My hubby has been a SAHD for short periods a couple of times. He does very well with it and the children, I think, have benefited greatly from it. Right now he works and the kids are in daycare, but they are closer to him than most kids I know are with their father's and my husband is amazingly understanding and supportive of 'mom issues'. In fact he makes it a point to call a SAHM we know at least once a week and touch base with her, usually inviting her over for some tv watching without her kids to make sure she gives herself grown-up time.

Stef

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Congrats on your impending birthing, I can't wait to read your story.

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$500-$600/week in daycare? :shock: Holy crap! Where in the US do you live?

Glad to hear that you're feeling OK, and such great news about your DH's paternity leave! My DH only stayed home for 2 days after we came home. Sad I think SAHDs are more prevalent than ever - I think there's even a SAHD board here on preg.org, if you want to explore there. Smile

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Wow! What a lucky guy! I think my husband would be willing to stay home as well, which I think would be great, but I want to be home too! We'll have to see if we can swing it on salary. I think that's a great option though and what a great way for him to grow closer to the baby.

PS: I agree about daycare costs - holy moly!!

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So I still don't think I am getting any closer to actually having this baby. I know I should feel lucky that I am still sleeping fine and have no problems going to work everyday but it seems like time is standing still.

Hearning that Karly is in labor did however get me thinking..... holy crap this can happen anytime Wink She is due only a few days before me. I even think I am having a few sympathy contractions....... Ok wishful thinking but a girl can dream, right Wink

I am now ok to go for birthing in the alternative unit at the hospital. THat relaxes me so much to know. The rooms are wonderful. They have a freestanding birthing tub as well as a full bathroom wiht tub and shower. Also, no crappy single hospital bed. It is a nice queen size that we can all fit on after the baby is born. I feel so sorry for the partners who have to sleep in a recliner looking bed after having spent so many hours "on duty" with a laboring woman. While I know it is nothing like actually giving birth they must be tired as well.

Had my birht plan appointment with the midwives as well. Nothing to write home about that is for sure. I was actually kind of disappointed. She only went over when to call her etc. There was no talk about my birthplan. I know i should have just said something but I was so surprised. I had expected this to be the appointment where we would draft my birth plan and talk about options etc. Why else call the appointment hte birth plan appointment and schedule extra time. I guess I will have to finalize the one I have been working on and bring it in next time so we can discuss.

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I totally understand how you feel with the realization that your baby can come any moment.

Your birthing unit sounds great! That is nice to have a regular bed and a big tub!

That is strange that you didn't discuss your birth plan in more detail. But I agree with you, bring it next time and kind of force the discussion.

Do you have a feeling about when you baby will come?

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So I had this long post written at work today and I hit the wrong key and everything was gone.... Of course I don't remember half of what I wrote so I'll make up something new Wink

I had completely forgotten what period cramps felt like until Sunday night.... ohh that is what I have been missing for the past many months... damn that hurts... Well there is no consistency to them nor are they getting any worse so I figure it is just my body starting to think about having a baby. The funny part is that this started pretty much right after DH and I put bets on teh due date. He picked April 1. I picked April 8 (i thought it would be really cool if we all had birthdays on the 8th day of the months) It just felt like the right day to me. I would be just a few days past my EDD which know is pretty normal for a first. We'll see if I make it that far.

Other than a few things that needs to still be packed and a few loads of laundry I am pretty ready. I almost feel a little bored after so many months of trying to do it all. I know I should just enjoy the peace and quiet, get some sleep and enjoy some DH time.

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I am super excited that so many new babies have been born the past few days. It actually makes me feel a whole lot better. At least I know there is a light at the end of the tunnel. I need that right now.... still no indication that I am having a baby anytime soon. Never had a contraction to date nor have I lost anything to signify impending or even maybe possible labor. The only sign pointing in the right direction is that he is definitely way heads down. And the good news ... he is not that big. They were guessing less than 7 pounds when he finally shows.

It is almost 2 am and I am still not sleeping. I don't know what is wrong with me today but I have been absolutely misserable. Brink of tears several times since getting home. There is just so much crap going on right now. Today was my last day in the office. I am still going to be working but from the comfort of my home. The day couldn't have come at a better time. I had my weekly appointment with the mw's yesterday and I was taken completely by surprise when my bloodpressure sky rocketed and the swelling in my feet exploded. They were concerned and took a baseline blood test which came back ok. They had me relax for a while and retook my bloodpressure. Laying down it was fine. So I was told to stay off my feet and get some rest this weekend. I know it is nothing to be super worried about but I just have a hard time dealing. So far this pregnancy has gone so well. No complications or red flags at all so I guess I just wasn't prepared.
On top of that DH is sick as a dog and is not taking care of me. He feels really bad about it but honestly I would rather he stay as far away from me as possible. I don't want to catch what ever he has. It does mean no sex to help get labor started which I was kind of planning on for hte weekend. Not that it goes well with the midwives order of taking it easy Smile

Lastly, work sucks. Who in their right mind would choose to give a review to a 9 month pregnant lady wiht high bloodpressure. Well my boss.
I actually like her but I was caught quite off guard by the review. All the things I thought I was good at apparently I am not. Being as emotional as I am right now I am questioning whether this company is the right place for me. I am a very direct person. I tell it as I see it and I have a very hard time playing the salesy kiss ass kind of HR person they apparently want. But by not being that type of person I am seen as not having my clients backs and from what I just learned demoralizing. I don't know what to do. The job is stressfull becuase my client groups are egocentric fakes who won't tell me to my face but will go to my boss to complain instead. So I thought I was giving htem the support they needed and they were bitching about me behind my back instead of coming out an telling me what they were missing. It just makes me so mad when poeple do that. It is not like we are in highschool anymore. These are people with 20 years in the job market who make over $200k. I am seriously considering spending the end of my leave looking for a new job but I know I am not being rational right now and need to just let it go so I can focus on what is really important... the baby. I just can't. I am obsessing about work everytime I try to get to sleep I feel the anger and the panic creep up on me. I wish DH made enough money to cover us so I wouldn't have to worry about work so much. But I am the primary income and he is planning on quitting and staying home with the baby.
I think I will put in a movie and hopefully that will take my mind off the horrible few days I had.

Sorry this is so long and negative. Hopefully tomorrow will be better.

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*hugs* Wow, hun, that's rough. Hopefully you are feeling better today, physically and emotionally.

Stef

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OB due date - check
conception due date - check
I am now officially past my EDD.

As I have read many times the days after your due date are the hardest. I just want him out and I feel horribly guilty for saying that.
I do believe he will come when he is ready but why couldn't that be now Smile
I am worried that my mom will miss the baby. She is flying in in 1 week (I know a week is a long time) from denmark and only staying a week. If I haven't had him by then I would just feel so horrible. I only get to see her once a year and while she is healthy I have to realize that trips like this will come to an end soon since she is now in her early 70s.

I mentioned this to my MW yesterday and she gave me a few options to start labor that would not include drugs. They have an accupunctuist they work with who has excellent results. Apparently only 1 woman so far has not gone into labor after 4 appointments.
I just feel guilty for considering not waiting it out especially since the reasoning is more social than medical. I feel fine - I could probably go another 2 weeks and not have any problems. My MW also checked me and I am 1cm and 50% effaced - so at least soemthing is happening.

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Happy due dates! Congrats on baking your little one so well. So are you against using "any" methods to get things going? Just wondering. I am not sure how well anything works if the baby isn't ready, but I felt ok trying things like EPO and RRLT and the acupuncture probably makes you feel good even if you don't go into labor. Good luck, no matter what you decide and I hope your little one makes an appearance to meet your mom.

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I am not against helping him along a little. I have been drinking RRL tea for weeks and started the EPO as well this week.
I am considering the Accupunture but will have to check when I can get in and the cost first.

I guess that is part of my internal conflict. Had my mom not booked her flight for next week I don't think I would be impatient and considering accupunture and having the MW sweep my membranes.

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I'm sorry, I completely missed your lodge Sad don't feel bad for being a bit impatient- I've been feeling impatient too! It's perfectly normal at this stage to just want the baby out of you! The methods you are considering are pretty mild, and if the baby is not ready to come out, they won't do anything, anyways. Good luck to you!

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I drank 2 boxs of RRLT in the week before Hadley was born, they didn't do alot for me! My midwifes all said sex was the thing that worked, of course the baby will only come when it's ready!

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Pernille, can I just add that I'm insanely jealous of your 1cm, 50% effacement? lol! Hope more happens for you really soon!

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Still nothing.... It is funny how I am wishing for pain just so I know something is really happening
Yesterday was pretty bad... I am starting to spiral downwards feeling like this will never happen and unable to deal wiht the pressure from the outside. Realistically I know it will happen soon it just doesn't feel that way. I pretty much didn't get out of bed yesterday because I felt so sorry for myself. Matt is being great about it. He told me to stop answering the phone and remember that this is an internal process. Nothing anyone else says matters. We cannot force this and it will happen soon. I know he is right but my emotions are running crazy and I just want to cry and tell him he doesn't understand it is not his body that has been taken over. Biting my tongue since he doesn't deserve that Smile He has been so supportive.
Have my appointment today so we will see what happens. I think I am going to have them do a sweep. If nothing comes of it I think I better arrange for a car service to pick up my mom on Wednesday and figure out a way to leave a key for her - that way i won't stress about her arrival. For some reason she thinks she will be coming straight to the hospital after getting off her flight. We never inteneded on her being at the birth so let's hope I am already there or at least on my way when she gets in. That way we won't have to have that conversation.

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(((hugs))) I'm sure that everything will happen soon! Until then try doing all of the things everyone recommends - walking, having sex, eating spicy food, and just enjoying time with your hubby (and enjoying sleep) Smile

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You are almost there! The end is so much harder than any other part of the pregnancy. I know there is nothing anyone can say to make you feel better and I felt like smothering my DH when he made sympathetic comments too. Frankly, even other women who haven't been pregnant can only surmise how much you want your baby out and your body back! Before I was pregnant, I was just thinking it would be like gaining weight, no big deal...You just don't realize what having a baby inside your abdominal cavity feels like!

Anyway, I hope that making some plans to handle your mom's arrival takes away some of that stress for you and I hope you don't have to deal with the conflict of having to tell her she isn't going to witness the birth. :?

GL and I had no signs at all and gave birth in 4 hours...It happens. Sending you some good thoughts and easy labor vibes.

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I hope your little one makes it here before your mom! I remember my mil wanted to be at our sons birth, and she was a little bit hurt that we didn't want her there. I'm so glad it was just us though!

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I hope that things get going for you soon! I know how stressful moms can be! Good luck to you and try to stay positive.

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:bighug: Hope your appointment went well yesterday, and that something happens for you really soon! We are in the same boat right now, and I know exactly what you mean about the feeling sorry for yourself thing. All I want is to be able to put socks on and breathe at the same time again! Good luck and labor vibes for you!

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Great that your dh is being supportive.

The end is tough, but look at your inner strength and wisdom coming through. You are almost there.

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I just read that the average gestation for a first time mom is 41.5 weeks Smile Baby will be here soon I'm sure!!! Hang in there!!!

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OK - something is finally happening... not enough to really say I will meet the baby soon but at least I have had my first contraction:)
Yeahhh ... not pleasant but managable. They came about every 15 min this morning then stopped for most of the day.

So .... I was wrong about the arrival day for my mom... she actually got here last night. Thank god I talked to her Monday and found out then or we would have left her stranded in the airport. Also, the weather was much better yesterday so her flight was on time which is would not have been today that is for sure.... I can't believe we have snow in Chicago in mid April. It has been nice to have someone around during the day so I don't really mind. We even talked about her coming with us to the hospital as long as she doesn't interfere and she promised she would behave Smile DH is supportive and doesn't mind her being there. I secretly think he feels better knowing it is not all up to him. This way when I freak out he has someone there who has actually given birth naturally before and who can tell me to relax.

Crossing my fingers that the baby makes his arrival soon - at least I am seeing progress which makes me feel better. DH is napping just in case which is cute. He is getting excited but still in waiting mode.

Have yet another appointment tomorrow - first the ultrasound the the stress test followed by my regular MW appointment. We'll see is there is any progress. The marathon appointment is then followed by the 5th accupunture appointment. I guess I am pretty difficult to "force" into labor since they kept claiming it takes 4 sessions Smile

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Yeah for progress! My DH felt the same way about my mom being at the birth...it takes some pressure off them. Smile

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Just a quick note to let you know that Mathias Leo was born yesterday at 1:10pm weighing in at 6 pounds 6 ounches - 19.5 inches. Still feel a little surreal but he is absolutely adorable and we both just stare at him in disbelief.
The birth was med free but not 100 % intervention free.
At the end we had to get the vacuum out since I was incapable of pushing him out - his hear rate kept dropping and would not stabilize.
After hearning that he had the cord wrapped around his neck 3 times and was holding on to it - it makes sense. Each time I pushed he pulled himself back up to stay safe. The midwife was a god sent. I simply could not have done it without her. As I was breaking down during pushing she cleared my head and got me refocused on the task at hand.
As of now I am stuck in the hospitale because of a significant blood loss and some clotting but doing fine. A more detailed birth story to follow.

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Hi! I've been lurking your lodge...I just want to say good luck and I can't wait to hear about when your little one arrives!

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Congratulations! I'm glad you are all doing well, keep resting. Can't wait to hear more details!

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Congrats! I hope you are feeling well and I look forward to seeing pictures!

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Congrats to you!!! Yay for med free....wow, cord three times around his neck-- poor guy!

And what a peanut for 42 weeks... I believe YOU had your dates right (and not the OB :wink:)

Can't wait to see pics and hear the details!

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Congrats on your little boy! I needed a vacuum-assisted delivery with my daughter for the same reason. Even after she was all the way out and they untangled the cord from her neck, she still wouldn't let go of it- little stinker. Smile

How you are feeling better and recover quickly. I can't wait to hear all about little Mathias!

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Congratulations!!

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Congrats on your new baby Pernille! Our baby's are less than 24 hours apart! I'm glad that he was born safely.

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Congrats and welcome to your LO! So glad they got him out safely. Sounds like you did a great job and glad you had a good MW. Can't wait to see pics!

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Congrats!

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Congrats! I hope you heal quickly!

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Congratulations!

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Congrats Pernille!! Can't wait to see pics of your little guy. I love the name Mathias by the way. Smile

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Just a few pictures - the first is from right after he was born - while they were working on me. THe second as we were getting ready to leave the hospital after about 48 hours.
I have to figure out how to resize but for now this works Smile

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Aww, he's darling. Congrats!

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