Thread: Pernille's (PernilleP) Lodge!!

Congratulations on your lodge! I am looking forward to sharing your with you!

Yay, another lodge! Congratulations!

Again, I say, so many lodges!!

Welcome to yours! This is so exciting! Congratulations!!

Thanks guys. Now it finally feels like I am on the home stretch after reading all the other lodges for months

First a little about us:

My name is Pernille (33) and I have been married to DH Matt (34) for, let's see, 3 years by now. I am origiannly from Denmark but have been in the US since college. We still joke that we had a greencard wedding especially since we eloped to city hall 3 years ago but didn't have our "wedding" until this past June. Most people, including the inlaws, think we are newly weds because we never told we had gotten married. It is a long story that I won't get into other than to say they are very catholic and DH is the first born and he didn't think they would understand. The reason I am even telling you this is because to most people I got pregnant pretty much on the honeymoon and while everyone are estatic about the baby they are surprised it happened so quickly.
Let me tell you so am I. DH never got the pleasure of trying to conceive ... you know the months of tons of sex. It happened the first cycle we tried. Probably has something to do with all the charting I did pre-trying but let's not tell him that I had heard so many stories of people going months or years of trying and I was hoping we wouldn't have to since I am not getting any younger and I had always said I wanted to have one popped out by 35. So we are having our first - a boy- right on target - the EDD is March 29th per the OB and LMP but I know it is later, again the obsessive charting. Per my records it is not until 4/4 and I have gotten the midwives to accept my date. I wanted to make sure I had some extra cushion before I had to start saying no to induction and also it is mental. That way I won't feel past due until 4/5. Wow writing this I sound like much more of a overly controlling planner than I really am

Now about the pregnancy... it has been very uneventfull which is great. slight morning sickness the first few months and just recently the normal woes of late pregnancy like achy back and swollen feet.
I started at my old OBs practice and I absolutely love him. We have a 10 year realtionship and I trust him more than any other doctor. However, it is a large practice and chances he would be the one on call for delivery was less than 10%. Coupled wiht the fact that the hospital would not allow you to use the birthing tubs wit the OB I switched to the Midwives in the same practice. At least there was only 4 of them. As I have posted before .... it did not go well and I officially left the practice and the hospital around 29 weeks pregnant. I am now with a wonderful midwife practice... they completely understand what I want and how I plan on getting there. I am still giving birth in a hospital but they have a Alternative birthing unit for natural births with permanent tubs and no strict hospital rules. I would have preferred a free standing birth center but they are not currently legal in my state.

Wow this is turning into a novel.. better stop for now and pick it up later.
Time to go find out what DH is laughing at. He has been downstairs laughing loudly for about half an hour now on and off. Wonder what he found on-line.... or he is probably listning to the howard stern show ... which I will never understand but ohh well.

Congrats on your lodge! I look forward to following you journey. I totally understand about being pleasantly surprised at getting a BFP so quickly. We were surprised how quickly it happened to us too, especially after years of BCP and being a little older.

Glad you found a birthing situation you are comfortable with.

Welcome to your lodge! I can't wait to hear more about your plans for your birth. It sounds like your in good hands & I hope you get just what your looking for!

I really loved reading your story. Congrats on getting so close.

I love the fact that you stood up for what you wanted and made the switch to the new MW's. The hospital birth you are having sounds so much like what I had. It will be wonderful for you!

Can't wait to continue following your lodge.

So I just got back from the obligatory OB visit that my MW makes all patients go to. It is basically a meet and greet with the OB that supports them just incase you need a c-section. At least this way you have seen his face before. It really felt like a complete waste of time. All he did was tell me I could call him anytime I needed him and that it would be my decision if I wanted a c/s unless ofcourse it was a major emergency at which time I probably wouldn't want to wait for him to show up and the surgery would be done by who ever was on call at the hopital. So why am I meeting you..... I am not planning on having a c/s unless it is an emergency. Ohh well now that is done. Made DH a little annoyed because he has a show tonight and should have been with the boys loading the gear. He plays guitar in a few local bands that actually get pretty good shows around town. It is his time with his boyfriends (as I lovingly call them) and I think he is getting a little worried that it will soon be over for him. I keep telling him he can continue just not 3 times a week

Other than that life is pretty uneventful. I can't wait to starting to feel something. I haven't felt the slightest sign that I could have a baby anytime or at least I don't think so. I just want the first real contraction so I know what I am feeling is real. I have been slightly crampy today but on a scale of 1-10 (7 being my normal painful period cramps) it has been a 3. Probably just indegestion.

More later when some thing exciting happens

Welcome and congrats on your lodge! My husband and I got pregnant on our first cycle too - definitely my charting coupled with our constant BD-ing that week

In a super good mood today because I just found out DH gets paternity leave.... paid even. He actually has a more lucrative leave than I do which I would get into if I wasn't so darn excited.
I just spent the last 30 min pouring over the calendar to try to come up with a plan for him. He gets 3 weeks paid paternity leave and can take FMLA after that to total 12 weeks. I am so happy we get to do some Father/Son bonding when he is little and it will serve as a great way to find out if DH can actually be a SAHD.

His parents are completely on board with the idea and support our decision 100%. It ultimately is a financial one since daycare of nanny's are so expensive here and he doesn't make enough to make it worth while. Now if he was a doctor making in the 6 figures it might have been a tougher choice but as it stands the decision was easy.
My parents don't quite get it. Coming from a social democracy the concept of daycare costs in the $500-$600 range a week is completely foreign to them. I think they have a hard time understanding why he would want to stay home when he has a good job.

Any of you have SAHDs? I would love some insights to the potential difficulties we will run into.