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Phoenix's (phoenixavathar) Lodge!!!

Welcome to your lodge and congratulations! How are you feeling at this point in your journey?

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Congratulations on your lodge! Looking forward to reading your journey!

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Hey, congratulations! I'm a little jealous that I never got there, but I didn't exactly get a natural birth, either. So, I'll just live vicariously through you Wink and I'm looking forward to reading about your journey Smile

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Congrats! Can't wait to read your story.

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Hi ladies!
YAY! I have a lodge! This is VERY exciting! And since I'm up with this nasty cold/allergy/congestion thing...I think I'll write a little of my story.

Basically...I've been pregnant 3 times. The first time was right as we got married...and unfortunately that ended in a miscarriage at 6 weeks. I was pretty devastated and couldn't figure out why something like that would happen. I got pregnant again about 1 1/2 years later...and my DH and I had decided that it was going to be a homebirth. We employed our friend who was a direct entry midwife. We saw her first at 8'ish weeks...couldn't find a heartbeat but we didn't worry about it because it was early. Couldn't find it again at 12 weeks...and then at 14 weeks I lost it. Both of this miscarriages turned out most likely to be 'blighted ova' according to the ER's. At that point I just thought that my body didn't know how to get pregnant the right way.

Then, back in the spring I realized I was late again. I was REALLY worried...thought that it would be another false alarm - and I didn't want to spend another summer thinking I was pregnant when I really wasn't. I didn't even take a pregnancy test until I was over a month late :-). I just didn't want to get my hopes up...and gave my body ample time to take care of the situation if it was indeed another blighted ovum. Turns out that my first appointment at 13 weeks at the OB we found a heartbeat! It was the first time DH and I had ever heard that beautiful sound and we were ECSTATIC!!!!

I've switched healthcare providers quite a few times since we found that heartbeat. The first time we were going to a very nice OB...but then we moved 2 hours away and realized we couldn't keep going to her. I then took the advice of a friend of my mom's and went to an OB that was a little closer. She was EVIL. OK, maybe evil isn't the right word...but I can guarantee that I would've ended up in a needless C-section with her as she was very intervention happy. After our 20 week ultrasound, with the look of death on her face, our OB told us that our baby had a bright spot on his heart...and she made it sound like it was the end. I almost died. She made us an appointment with a perinatologist the next morning...and he calmed our fears and let us know that it was a VERY common thing and that our baby would probably be just fine. He also noticed that he had a slightly dilated kidney. So we scheduled another u/s for 6 weeks later...and at that appointment his kidney had gone back to normal and the peri said he looked great. I sort of feel like my OB overreacted and made us really freak out without giving us much hope...so around 20 weeks we left her and found a birth center just 10 minutes down the road from our new home. It was perfect! We've been going there ever since and plan to have a waterbirth. My DH was born at home...as were his 3 brothers. He even helped deliver his youngest brother. So he really wanted a homebirth...but I realized that I wasn't quite ready for that yet...so the birth center was a wonderful compromise for us.

So here we are at 38 weeks...our little boy who we have decided to name Logan has been moving around like a little monkey and it has been the most wonderful feeling ever.

So far my pregnancy has been WONDERFUL. I had a little nausea in the first trimester. But otherwise, I haven't had any real cravings (except orange juice), since I have a long torso, I never got the "out of breath" feeling (at least not yet!), and I've really enjoyed the entire process! I'm a bellydancer and have been performing and teaching up until about a month ago when I decided to take it easy for the last month.

Wow...this ended up being REALLY long...and here I am still drinking my tea. I managed to stay fairly healthy throughout most of this pregnancy (had a crappy cold back in September)...but now I'm getting some sort of sinus thing and its driving me batty! I just want to goto sleep! So it's me and a nice hot cup of tea at my computer until I feel comfy enough to sleep.

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I hope these next few weeks go smoothly for you! I hadn't realized till I read this that you have had two miscarriages. I'm so glad you made it through this pregnancy and are about to have a very healthy little boy! Way to go! I can't wait to hear your birth story. As the disappointment of the possibility that I won't have a natural birth sets in I'm really anxious to hear those stories of those of you who will have the birth you want.

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Phoenix, welcome to your lodge. What a relief that you found a birth center to fit your needs. That OB sounds exactly like so many others I've heard about, intervention happy and quite eager to spook the parents. Do you and your DH have everything ready for Logan?

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Hey Phoenix ~ welcome to your lodge! I loved reading your story and cant wait to follow you in these last few weeks or days until birth! Thinking of you.

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Congrats on your lodge! I am so glad everything has gone well for you this pregnancy. One of my friends had a similar experience with two miscarriages and she is now due in April and doing great like you seem to be. She also had a bit of a scare with her 20 week ultrasound, but her OB was less "alarmist" than yours and everything turned out fine. So glad that Logan is doing well and I bet you can't wait to meet him. Your birthing center sounds great and I can't wait to read about your experience. Smile

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Hey there! Welcome to your lodge! I had a m/c back in April, so I can relate to how nervous you were at first w/this pg. It took me awhile to stop being such a worry wart Smile

I hope your furniture comes soon and you can get your "nesting" in Smile I've got a stuffy head/ears too right now. I really hope it goes away before we give birth.

I'm looking forward to experiencing these last few wks w/you! KUP!!

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Congrats!!! I hope the rest is smooth sailing for you!

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congrats on your lodge hon! I'm looking forward to hearing about your continuing journey to mama-hood! :bighug:

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Congrats on your baby.

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Thanks everyone!!!

Oooh, Shazar...nope...don't got everything yet :-). As the ladies on my birth board know...we are still awaiting the arrival of a crib and changing table. It was promised to us 3 months ago by my DH's uncle who lives in NC...he was then suppose to have it shipped a couple weeks ago. As of last night, we have no idea if it was shipped yet...but there is severe doubt as he won't return our phone calls :-). Luckily we have a cosleeper in the meantime that we'll be using for a few months Smile

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Execllent!!! Congratulations Phoenix!!!!
I am so sorry for your losses.

Thank you for the honor of allowing us on your journey with you!!!

I'm so glad you found a birthcenter. I'm having mine at a birthcenter as well!

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I had my 38'ish week appt. tonight. Appt's have gotten so boring :-). I shouldn't complain...but it's the usual heartrate, weight check, blood pressure, and baby position check. Everything seemed to be good...heartrate = 151, my bp = 108/70 something, gained 2 pounds (yeah, I've gained A LOT during this pregnancy), and baby is head down. SHe seemed to think that he has his little feet facing my belly...though prior to today its been mostly butt. No wonder I haven't felt big huge butt movements today :-)...just some small kicks.

I'm still suffering from post-nasal drip and its driving me up a wall. Last night was practically sleepless...and today I'm wiped out. I sort of fear that this is pregnancy related...and not a cold. If it was a cold, at least I would know that it would end or get better in 7-10 days. But with this pregnancy stuff, it could last another 4 weeks if I end up going past my due date :-). That's a lot of sleepless nights! :-). The midwife did say that I could take my homeopathic goldenseal...since it is homeopathic and therefore very dilute. So I started trying to work that in tonight.

Peeking at the January birth boards and seeing all the pictures of the adorable babies, I'm just getting VERY anxious to see my little guy. I just can't wait until he is here. Each night I peek over at the cosleeper next to our bed and I picture Logan lying there sleeping soundly Smile (what are the chances of that? Wink hehehehe...)

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Oooh what a day I had yesterday! First, we headed into Cambridge to meet a friend for lunch...I ended up taking a bit of a fall as I crossed one of the pot-hole filled streets of Central Square...landed on my left knee and scraped it all up! Ugh...not a good start to my day :-).

It did get better though. Later on we went to my brother's bday party where my family gathered. Of course, since I'm "so big" (supposedly) much of the talk was about my giving birth naturally. I have a cousin who is my age who is simply freaked out about the idea of birth and thinks I'm nuts. She was going on about how she would simply get a c-section if she decided to have kids. I tried to tell her my views and what I've read and been told about the benefits of natural vs. elective c-section, etc. She wouldn't hear of it. All she could come up with was "aren't you worried about pooping on the delivery table when you push him out?" I said "nope...I'll be pushing in the water ;-)..."

By the end of the conversation I guess I was just getting a little bothered by the fact that whenever I come in contact with someone who knows that I'm planning a natural delivery, they go on about how hard that's going to be and that they can't believe I'm going to go through with that. It bothers me that its such a novelty to most people!

Oooh, but a wonderful thing about yesterday...we went to our usual diner here in Salem that we goto on weekends, and the waitresses there have been all excited about this baby :-). Yesterday, one of our favorite waitresses who is an older woman who is ABSOLUTELY TINY (about 5'3" and thin as a rail) told me that she had all three of her children naturally and the SMALLEST one was 10 pounds. She was 2 weeks late. Her last child was 12 pounds!!

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A 12 pound baby! I can't imagine. My daughter was barely 7 pounds and I'm sure the twins will be 5 or 6 pounds.

Don't listen to people when they talk about natural birth in such a negative way. It's just their fear talking. You are a strong woman and you will be able to have the birth you want.

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"phoenixavathar" wrote:

All she could come up with was "aren't you worried about pooping on the delivery table when you push him out?"

LOL! That was one of the big c/s benefits mentioned on my birth board as well. Not that any of us wants to poop during delivery, but I prefer that to surgery, unless necessary. Wink

"phoenixavathar" wrote:

Yesterday, one of our favorite waitresses who is an older woman who is ABSOLUTELY TINY (about 5'3" and thin as a rail) told me that she had all three of her children naturally and the SMALLEST one was 10 pounds. She was 2 weeks late. Her last child was 12 pounds!!

I love it when people share such positive birth stories...I just wish they weren't so few and far between IRL! Glad you are ok after your fall. Smile

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Ugh - I never even told people that I was planning a natural birth because I just didn't feel like hearing those types of things. The pooping on the table thing though, that's too funny. What a strange and silly thing to worry about.

That's awesome that you're a belly dancer. I'm sure you are going to have the most beautiful labor and delivery since you've got such great control over your torso and pelvis.

And how cool that your DH helped deliver his brother. He's going to be a fantastic birthing partner.

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I'm having feelings that I'm DEFINITELY not going to be giving birth earlier than this little guy's due date :-). I've had no contractions, I don't think he's really dropped (I've been carrying low the entire time), and he seems to be as active as ever...
But it would be so nice to be exactly on time...since we are due on Imbolc...and a full moon :-). How cool would that be! Ah well...I can dream :-).

I'm definitely curious as to whether bellydance will help me through this delivery. When we were in hypnobirthing classes, they were trying to describe birth breathing (aka J-breathing) and basically it seemed to me to be simply an up to down bellyroll. I hope it helps :-). One of my favorite professional dancers out in California (who has been bellydancing since she was a toddler) has said that bellydance definitely did not help her with labor and delivery...and she ended up in a c-section. However...I believe she was having what most people now consider a pretty conventional birth....epidural and all. Baby was in distress and they went for a c-section. Maybe if she tried to do it more naturally, bellydance would have actually helped her out...who knows! Smile

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you can definitely do it, phoenix Smile it would be awesome if you gave birth on your duedate/full moon! I'm really interested to hear if you think belly dancing has helped your labor also!! You're due right before me, I can't wait to read your story and see logan Smile

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(x-posted)
So tonight was our "36 week meeting" that the birth center gives (I'm a little late in attending ...).
The one midwife that we are not so keen on did the meeting. Most of it was normal stuff...forms to fill out, what our rights are, PKU test info...etc etc etc.
Then came the tour of L&D - just in case we needed to be transferred to the hospital. It was here that I remembered just why I don't want a hospital birth. I swear I'm going to have nightmares. Now...I've never really been to a labor and delivery floor...in fact...most of the people that were with us said that it was one of the nicest L&D's they've seen. I'm sure it was...but it totally freaked me out since I'm SO afraid of my birth being medicalized. The labor room was serene...light pinks and mauves...pretty colors...but still an ugly ass hospital bed and all sorts of contraptions set up around the room. And the thought of c-section is just totally freaking me out right now. I'm so afraid of needing one that I swear I'm going to end up CAUSING myself to need one.
I've gotta find a way to let this all go...and remember that I will have a nice, calm, safe birth center birth. But with the hospital lingering over me...it's very difficult to let go of!

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The labor room was serene...light pinks and mauves...pretty colors...but still an ugly ass hospital bed and all sorts of contraptions set up around the room

Oh I SO kwym!!! LOL I remember going in for our "just in case" tour and the nurse was all proud of the different ways the bed could be changed adapted, and showed us the squatting bar that attached to teh end of the bed. And all I could think was holy cow, if I'm squatting the LAST place I'm going to be doing it is 3 feet off the floor, bar or no bar! It's amazing the concessions that hospitals pretend to make. I also found out later that the freakin' bar is probably moot anyway since every OB attended birth at that hospital is delivered in lithotomy (this according to my MW who has priviledges there). Staggering!!!

Anyway... try not to sych yourself too much. Trust birth. Birth is reliable. Your body knows what to do, your baby knows what to do.

One letting go visualization that works for me goes like this. I picture that there is a physical tie of some sort that is attaching me to the person or situation that is bothering me. Then I give myself a big ol' pair of scissors, and I slice right through the sucker and watch the badness float up into the air and away like a warped helium balloon. It's quite comical, really, and makes me feel MUCH better. Wink The number of shocked-looking people who have been subjected to that in my imagination... good thing they don't know about it LOL!

sleep well mama

xo Robin

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Thank you, Robin!
I'm glad I'm not crazy. It seems like others that I mention this to think that I'm overreacting because these contraptions are in there to save my life...but I just don't see how any laboring woman would progress in a room that was soooo filled with scary looking intervention items. I think it would bring on so much fear in me and close me right up! I've gotta start working on my hypnobirthing affirmations again!

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i agree with the people who were telling you that they're there to save you or your baby's life, but why look at em if you dont have to, right?? you have the right to not want to look at those machines. i hadnt even thought about those machines in my labor room, but yeah they could be pretty scary. like robinna said, just keep those affirmations in your mind!!! you CAN do it without those machines Smile

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Sorry I'm late getting to your lodge!

You sound like you're doing great. I got tears in my eyes when I read your intro, when you first heard the heartbeat. That was my favorite moment of my entire pregnancy Biggrin

I know what you mean about looking at your birth board, and seeing all the pictures of the babies. It makes you so anxious. But, don't worry, it's worth the wait. Birth is so amazing and rewarding - I'm so excited for you!

Here is a quote that somebody on this board said before (I'm not sure who, sorry!). I saved it, and it inspired me that I didn't need a hospital birth.... "Most people think: When something goes wrong in childbirth, the interventions will be there to save mom and baby. The more logical statement is: When interventions are performed, something goes wrong in childbirth, and more invasive interventions are needed to save mom and baby."

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Sorry I'm so late getting here! Congrats on getting so far. I think it is awesome that you bellydance. I'm sure it will help you with the birth, can't hurt anyways! I am into ballroom dancing, and I'd like to think that I can use some of that grace and body control when the time comes Smile

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KisterBaby
Yes...exactly! At the birth center they have much of the same equipment in the rooms...but the bed is a normal regular full size bed...not a torture chamber contraption :-). And all of the equipment is sort of hidden behind pretty curtains and pictures. Its very unassuming :-). I wish they did that at the hospital too...but then again, hopefully I won't need to go there :-).

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I don't think your crazy either ~ I found the hosptial to be very stressful, so I think your spot on. I agree though, keep the thought of a peaceful birth at the forefront of your mind - try visualizing it and try and have it in your mind as you actually living it, not as you watching it - does that make sense? It makes a big difference that way Smile

I loved how the birth center here is set up, very homey like and comfy. I wasn't able to deliver there but much nicer than a hosp. that's FO-SHO!

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Tonight is our 39 week appointment and I have LOTS Of questions for our midwife since our hospital tour on Tuesday night. Most of the questions are regarding how they handle stalled labor. I would like to avoid pitocin at all costs...and want to see if they tend to transfer to the hospital right away if labor slows or is stalled. I'm hoping they don't because I REALLY do not want to be transferred over there. I'm also curious (and I don't know if they can answer this) if there are some midwives in the practice who are a little more "transfer-happy" (so to speak...I won't word it that way) than others. Just so that I can be prepared.

Today I'm feeling pretty run down. I slept last night from 9PM until almost 8AM this morning...and I'm still feeling groggy. I've been having some crampiness...nothing regular...in fact, I really can't even describe it. And the pelvic pressure is definitely increasing. I'm thinking that this weekend I may hit the malls and start walking :-).

I've also been going through TOTAL bellydance withdrawel!!! So, I was considering putting on some music and bopping away ... nothing too strenuous...but to help me build up energy and maybe help the baby move down a bit. Not to mention helping my withdrawel ;-).

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I'm a little worried that you're thinking too negatively about your birth. I'm starting to think that the tour you took was not a good idea.
Maybe try to start imagining your birth going as positively as possible. And going through that scenario as many times in your head as you need to. You mind needs to tell your body that it knows what to do.
I think bellydancing is a great idea. It might be a good time to zone out and stop thinking about your birth completely. Get back into your body and feel how much power is there.

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Sarah
I've DEFINITELY recognized that in myself...the negativity. Its more fear of the unknown than anything else. Though I've been working hard on trying fear-release types of things. Sometimes it helps me process it if I put it all right there in front of me. Then I realize "wow...I need to let go of that!" :-). So this definitely helps.
Its definitely something I continually need to work on though :-). I tend to be a "worst case scenario" type of person...and I need to let that go too. My mind always just wants to be prepared for the unknowable. I need to convince myself that whatever happens is going to happen and I really can't overly prepare myself...just gotta go with the flow :-).

I think I'll definitely do some bellydancing today. Nothing works better to get you "in the flow" Wink heehheheh

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I know it's easier said than done to let go of the fears and not worry so much. I often find that it's easier to DO something than to NOT DO something. So rather than think, "don't fear, don't worry, etc" I think "I am safe, I will be protected, all will be well, etc". I am also one of those types of people that gets too lodged in my head and wants to make a plan for everything. I can absolutely tell you (IMO) that you can prepare for birth, but you can't plan it out. It just happens and you have to go with it. There's nothing to gain by worrying about it ahead of time.

Hope your bellydancing does just the trick to put you in the zone. What music do you listen to when you bellydance? I have pretty eclectic tastes in music and am always on the lookout for something new.

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Good point! My hypnobirth instructor told us something similar, now that I think of it. She said our brains can't really decipher the idea of "I'm going to try" or "I'm not going to worry"...instead she said that our brains need definites and positives "I'm safe" (as you said), etc. I'm going to continue with my birth affirmations :-). I recited them twice yesterday...going to do it again in a little bit. I'm even considering writing them out individually and sticking them on my bedroom walls so that I can be reminded once in a while :-).

As for bellydance music...it depends on the day and my mood :-). Sometimes I go with the traditional Middle Eastern musicians...but more often I got with groups like Vas, Niyaz, Loreena McKennitt, Pentaphobe, etc Smile

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Phoenix, have you ever seen the movie "What the bleep do we know?!"

(http://imdb.com/title/tt0399877/)

I think it would be fair to say it's fairly out there, it's got Marlee Matlin in it and is about metaphysics and realities and energy and whatnot...there's really no good way to describe it, but it had a huge impact on me when I watched it (DH sort of rolled his eyes throughout)..."create your own reality" is a mantra for me now, and I find myself going back to these ideas about the impact of our thoughts and our energy more and more as I progress through this pregnancy and get closer to birth time.

I don't know if that might help at all....

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Jenn
I LOVE that movie...and I've read the book :-). And ya know what...I think I'll watch it again tomorrrow! Thank you for the reminder!!!

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"What the bleep do we know?!" - I keep meaning to read that book or see the movie.

How about the book A New Earth by Eckhart Tolle - it's all about realizing we are not our thoughts but we are the awareness behind those thoughts. About living in the present and not being so ruled by our egos and thinking. It's not new stuff - a lot of Zen concepts - but he writes very well. A New Earth really blows my mind. Just love it.

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Ohh I'm gonna have to go watch that movie, it sounds interesting.

Have you ever done birth art? Maybe that'll help you get all of your worries out so that you can move on, I know for me it helped me recognise what I was really stressing over, so that I could address it and move on.

I have a friend who was a bellydancer & did a lot of mild dancing while she was pg Smile I think it's a beautiful form of dancing.

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I had my 39 week appointment last night and it went really well :-). The m/w said the baby's head is "nice and low"...bp was good and his heartrate was good :-). All in all a good appointment...plus she helped me calm some of my fears about being transferred. I've come to the conclusion that even if we have to be transferred, it would be what the universe meant for us...and that everything will happen for a reason. So I just need to be accepting...go with the flow...and know that I have done all that I can do. I feel good about that (it's about time!)
Of course, the m/w also gave us (as my DH says) a "prescription for sex" :-). He just happened to tell her that I haven't had an orgasm in forever (because I was afraid of causing pre-term labor...yes, I know...not very bright) so she was like "You NEED to have a pregnancy orgasm! They are great!" :-). So of course DH will not let me hear the end of that one :-).

I think this weekend we're going to go do some walking at a medieval faire that we goto each year. Should be fun...and maybe it will ensure that this little guy's head is in just the right position should he want to come out this week. PLUS there will be bellydancing...and who can resist??!
Biggrin

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I'm so glad your appointment went well and that your midwife prescribed some pleasure for you! Wink

Have a great time at the faire this weekend!!

(p.s. I know Salem & the North Shore quite well - lived in Swampscott for many years!)

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It's been a very uneventful weekend for me baby-wise. There has been no progress as far as how I'm feeling...and I'm wondering what it will feel like to actually start labor. I'm getting anxious...and feeling like something should be happening by now. But...I still have 5 days until my due date...so I'm probably all fine.

I'm REALLY not good with surprises. I'm the type of girl who unwraps her xmas gifts before xmas just to take a peak. My DH has taken to buying me gifts on Xmas eve because he knows I'll just peak early otherwise :-). So this waiting for an unknown date and time to just suddenly go into labor has definitely been a trying experience for me! It's like the universe is saying "I'll teach you to be impatient!" It doesn't help that everytime I call a friend or relative, the first thing they ask is if I'm in labor or if I've had the baby yet. UGH! It's so frustrating. And SO many people on my birthboard have had their babies...people due on or after my due date. It sort of makes you feel a bit left out...like something is wrong. I know everything is fine and most likely I'll be late as many first time moms are...but still...I feel like something should be happening by now :-).
So, yesterday...even though it was 23 degrees out here in Salem, a friend came over and we all went for a nice long walk around town. Today I went to my mom's and she and I went for a nice long walk around her condo complex. And I think I'll start making a habit of doing this this week. Everyone's prediction was originally that Logan would be born this weekend. Well, everyone was wrong :-).

I hate feeling so anxious. I wish I could just go with the flow of it all...and maybe if I had more to do during these long days I could. But with DH working (he's in sales...on the road all the time) and all of my friends working...and me just sitting home - the only thing I find myself doing is thinking about it!

OK...enough of my whining :-).

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Oh yes...and last night I hung out with a good friend who has a history of intensely horrible monthly menstrual cramping. She was telling me that lately she's been able to sit with her cramps and basically turn them into orgasms. WOW! She's going to be great in labor :-). So, I picked her brain to find out what she does...basically what most natural birth practitioners say "go into the pain" etc etc. I'm actually sort of looking forward to trying it out :-).

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"phoenixavathar" wrote:

Oh yes...and last night I hung out with a good friend who has a history of intensely horrible monthly menstrual cramping. She was telling me that lately she's been able to sit with her cramps and basically turn them into orgasms. WOW! She's going to be great in labor :-). So, I picked her brain to find out what she does...basically what most natural birth practitioners say "go into the pain" etc etc. I'm actually sort of looking forward to trying it out :-).

wow! that's really neat!

The last few days go soooooooo slowly. It's hard. Just rest, a lot! Soon, you'll be participating in the most exhausting and exciting thing of your life. I'm so excited for you!

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Hang in there, Sweetie. The end is really tough. But pretty soon you will get to try out this natural birthing stuff first hand.

By the way, I went to Salem, MA for my anniversay two years ago, and we had so much fun. It's neat to think of you there in that witchy pirate town where the first American candy was invented.

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I agree, the end really is tough! It sounds like despire the irritating questions, you have a lot of friends & family around to help you out and keep you company.

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Just wondering how you're feeling today? It's a good idea to do some things to distrat you from feeling like you want the baby to be here right NOW! Rent some movies, or pick up a new book to read, some magazines, go for walks, bubble baths, chat online, whatever. I know how tough it gets towards the end feeling like you're going to be pregnant forever. Hang in there. You're doing a great job!

Joined: 09/01/06
Posts: 35

I'm feeling a little antsy today...but not too bad. DH worked from home and that always helps :-). We tried to go for a walk but ended up getting to the end of the street and turning around because my face was completely frozen :-). It's DARN cold here!!!
I think I may have found some sewing projects to work on for the next few days...so that should keep me occupied :-)! Let's hope!

Joined: 09/01/06
Posts: 35

I'm up...
Up with congestion and some anxiety - though I don't know really what the anxiety is about. Can't pinpoint it...just can't sleep. So I'm drinking some herbal tea and putzing around on the internet. DH and I took some pregnancy pics the other night. He's been dying to do it...though we really wanted professional ones - but we really couldn't afford it. So we took some amateur photos :-). I've been playing around with them...because I'm bored, and because I want to hide the stretch marks somehow ;-).
Here are some artsy Paint Shop Pro edited versions of a couple:

Joined: 09/01/06
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My birth plan...

So DH and I put together our birth plan (which supposedly at my birth center is suppose to be a 'birth essay'...but it seems to make more sense to put it into bullet point type format than essay format). They told us to concentrate on the stuff we aren't sure that the birth center will provide. We were going to do that...but then we thought that if we need to be transferred, we better have our butts covered so that we can still strive for a natural birth.
So here's what we got:
Labor
- I intend to progress through labor and birth as naturally as possible - with no medications or unnecessary interventions
- I would like to labor in the birthing tub when appropriate
- In the event that I am transferred to the hospital, please do not offer routine pain medication - as we will be utilizing hypnobirthing techniques
- If labor slows down or stalls, I do not want to be given pitocin to speed up the process. I would like to utilize as many natural methods as possible to start labor up again
- My birth companion is my husband, though I would like the opportunity for my mother to come in for support as needed.

Episiotomy
- Please DO NOT perform an episiotomy to prevent tearing; we'd like to make use of compresses, massage, coaching for slow birth of baby's head, and positioning other than lying down to avoid need for episiotomy.

Delivery
- I would like the opportunity to deliver in the birthing tub (waterbirth forms have been signed).
- If birthing tub is not an option, I would like to deliver in whatever position feels best for me at the time.
- I would like my baby to be placed on my stomach immediately after delivery
- I wish to breastfeed my baby right away; please delay any newborn procedures until the baby has had the opportunity to breastfeed.
- Please allow placenta to be delivered naturally without pitocin or pulling on the cord.

After Delivery
- Please allow Jay to cut the umbilical cord
- Please perform all physical exams and procedures in the room with me. If anything needs to be done outside of the delivery room, Jay will accompany the baby at all times.
- Please do not give newborn injections other than Vitamin K shot (NO Hep B vaccine nor eye ointment are to be administered)
- We have chosen that our son not be circumcised
- In the event that we need to stay at the hospital, I would like my baby to stay in the room with me.

C-section
In the event that an emergency c-section is needed, I would like my husband present at all times during the surgery, and for our baby to be given directly to him once delivered.

Well,...that's it. I feel like its too long...but I can't imagine taking anything out. Is there anything I might be missing? Is there anything on there that you ladies think really isn't necessary? This is my first time :-)...so I am sorta clueless.
Thanks!

Joined: 03/16/15
Posts: 53852

Lovely photos. Really really special! And I have to say that's the most creative technique for hiding stretchmarks I've ever seen.

I like the birth plan too and will think about it some, but I don't have any comments on it now.

My my, aren't you nesting?!

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