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Your pregnancy pictures are really beautiful and your birth plan sounds great. Biggrin

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My DH's cousin's birth story

So today I had a nice surprise phone call from my DH's cousin - who I haven't really had a chance to ever connect with - but who just had a baby in August. We have been trying to connect more lately, so she called to see if there was any news and to see how I was feeling.
During our hour long conversation (which ranged from babies to epidurals to episiotomies to religion!) we learned all about her birthing experience - which was actually pretty frightening as far as pain goes. She had a lot of intense pain, vomiting every few minutes, and finally after 10 hours of it, succumbed to an epidural which she didn't want in the beginning. She told me this story with such joy in her heart though. It wasn't a "I'm going to scare you now" kind of story. It was just a "this is what it was like for me." I thought after chatting with her I'd be completely freaked out...but strangely, the exact opposite happened! I feel more ready than ever at this point! I feel like...if she could tell me this story that seemed to me to be pretty traumatic...and tell it with all of this excitement and happiness...then certainly I can go through the same thing (one of the worst case scenarios!) and be fine in the end as well :-).
I'm now TRULY looking forward to this. Biggrin

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that's great!! I think it's so important to be prepared for the pain. At least for me it is. Glad you're looking forward to it! It's funny, a few weeks ago I was a little wary of going through childbirth again. But if I had the chance to relive one day in my life, it would be Owen's birth, hands down. That changed my outlook, I'm now looking forward to it, which is a great feeling.

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That is SO good to know! Even in all of the pain that obviously comes with birth, it seems that as soon as the babies are born, mom's are completely ready in their minds to do it again Smile (well, most of the time). I guess if that wasn't the case, there would be far fewer people in the world ;-).

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You sound like after the conversation with DH's cousin you are in the right place. Hang on to that! Don't be surprised if you should drift away from it and back again - just know that you ARE ready for your birth, even if at one time or another you might not feel like it. You sound so great though, I'm sure you can just coast right on into labor without losing that great mindset. (OK, I'm totally rambling. :lol:)

Your birth plan sounds great. I don't think it's too long at all. Hell, it's about 1/2 as long as mine was!

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Really cool shots and great birth plan! Hope things will start happening soon for you. I have a feeling it will be a great birth story.

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I'm glad the birth plan looks ok :-). Being a first-timer I really didn't know what was necessary to put it in, and what they would just look at and laugh :-). Hopefully they won't think anything I have on there will be ridiculous - especially at the birth center.

I'm coming to the conclusion that most likely I'm going to be at least a week late with this little guy. hehehe...it figures. I'm the type of person who HATES being late for stuff :-)...and DH is ALWAYS late for stuff (though he was born on time). I think this baby is trying to teach me a lesson in patience :-). So...I'm thinking maybe a week from this weekend...maybe even Valentine's Day! Though I really hope not!
I've gotten to the point where I wish no one ever told me my due date. Because honestly...I'd be feeling GREAT right now if I wasn't having due date anxiety :-).

Since I have been a bit uptight lately, my DH made sure to remedy that last night :-). He set up our massage table in the baby's room...completely with pillows for side support, candle-lighting, and the Dalai Lama chanting in the background. OOOOOOOOOOH was it wonderful! He gave me the sweetest, most relaxing massage. It felt amazing! And I got the most restful night's sleep! Even this morning I feel like I'm in a new space. Like I told DH...if he gives me nice massages every night...I could probably make it 'til Valentine's Day ;-).

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What a fantastic hubbie! The massage sounds so lovely.

I think your birth plan is great. I haven't even begun to think of one yet, but I definitely think everything is reasonable and are things I would want too.

Try not to think about the dates too much (although I know it's easier said than done!)

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Well, I had a moment of excitement today.
This morning...as I was typing an email to a friend, I got this crampy feeling that sort of felt like a cross between having to goto the bathroom, and a period cramp. It actually made me sweat! And as soon as it came on...it was gone. It felt as if it lasted a little less than a minute or so. I was thinking "This could be it!!!" and got VERY excited. But alas...nothing else happened for the remainder of the day :-(. But hey,...maybe its a little twinge of something happening :-).

After that I decided to step it up a notch. I made spicy African peanut soup for lunch (that didn't spur any crampiness) and then I did some bellydancing - which was super uncomfortable! And then DH and I went for a long walk through the mall tonight. We got some pizza while I was there for dinner...and I started feeling a bit icky...sort of a slight nausea and I couldn't finish my piece of pizza (which is strange for me!) So who knows! Maybe something will happen soon Smile

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thanks for the update, I hope things really get started for you soon!

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Phoenix what fantastic pictures! I absolutely love them. Thank you for posting them Smile Thinking of you today and that full moon that is knocking on the door...............

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Hey Pheonix!! I am soo late getting here, but I'm finally caught up...
I think you're doing wonderfully! Just remember, this baby is going to come when it's good and ready. And you don't want to rush it b/c Logan knows when he's done with everything he needs to do in there! Human beings are amazingly competent that way!
My DS was born gestationally full-term at 36 wks, yet, I know another woman who was induced at 42 wks w/ her first and the baby came out covered in lanugo (sp) and underdeveloped! W/ her second, she lied to the OB's abt how pg she was and gave birth naturally after 11 mos to a perfectly healthy, full-term baby. don't let the time scare you, your baby and your body know best when to birth this baby - due dates are a made up concept. And they cause just as much trouble as other obstetrical interventions!

Also, a note on positive thinking and hospital transfer.
Firstly, another great movie to watch along the same lines is called The Secret. You can check it out at www.thesecret.tv. It is the same concepts, not in story format, but in clips and teachings and true stories. Very very interesting and compelling.
Same idea - our minds don't differentiate btwn yes and no - just the concepts behind the thoughts. And that is what you call into your life. For example, if you're thinking "I have to get out of debt, I don't want anymore debt, how am I going to get rid of all this debt" well, all your mind hears is "debt debt debt" and in comes more debt. But if instead you think, "I always have enough money, I am prosperous, I am financially stable" then that is what you will call into existence in your life.

As far as transferring - and I hope this helps and doesn't hurt. Remember that you will only be transferred to the hospital if you or your baby's life is in danger - which most often won't happen. And hopefully your MW will have explained that to you and you too will be in emergency mode. Under those circumstances you will be so focused on making sure that everyone come out alive that you won't be worried about the hospital surroundings.
That being said, I am sure that you are going to have the wonderful natural birth experience that you plan and expect and that you won't ever have the chance to wonder what that hospital environment would have been like!!

Good luck sweetie!!!

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Thank you, Ayelet!!!!!

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Hey Phoenix, how are you today? I've been pretty antsy and uptight too. I will say I'm ready for my hormones to settle down but I know it will be awhile since BF brings on a whole different range of emotions Smile Your DH sounds like he gives awesome massages! You're lucky ~ my DH is getting better but not so great at it.

Your birth plan looks great! The only other things I had on mine were wanting to eat/drink during labor and no IV, and possibly wearing my own clothes instead of their gown, which I only put on there in case we ended up in L/D instead of the birth center. I did say I wanted a mirror for the birth and may want to help catch the baby, and that we didn't want to cut the cord until it stopped pulsating. We also said no pacifiers, bottles, supplements, etc. The birth center doesn't have students, but in case we end up in L/D I put that I don't want any observers, students interns or unneccessary staff in the room, and that I'd like dim lights w/my own music. There were a few other things but nothing major. I probably went overboard on some things, but like you I'm a FTM and wasn't sure what to include.

I think my little one is teaching me patience too! I'm not due until 2/14 but I've been 3+ cm for 2 wks now and got a little too excited at first!

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Theresa,
Thanks for the suggestions!! I think I'll add some of them to my birth plan :-).

As for how I'm feeling today - still antsy. No crampiness...nothing seems to be happening. Due date is tomorrow...and although DH and his family thinks I'll go on time...I REALLY think Logan will be late. So, I'm trying to get myself to be ok with that. I've also emailed an acupuncturist who does labor inducing acupuncture...so next week (once I hit 41 weeks) I may try that out.

I hope you are feeling well!!

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Happy Almost Due Date!!

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Thanks Ashley Smile
I wish I could say that I'm feeling something happening here...but unfortunately I've had a very non-exciting day. Even after a 2 mile walk to the bank and back! Ah well...he'll come when he's ready.

I think I will employ my DH's skills for another massage tonight, though :-). I'm going to try some nice relaxation visualizations to get me into the right mindset Smile

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We got SO many phone calls today asking if there was "any news." Don't these people (family members....close ones!) know that if there was "any news" that we would CALL THEM?! I'm feeling quite a bit of pressure....not physical baby pressure...emotional pressure. I feel like people are getting impatient with me. I realize that my pregnancy has NOTHING to do with these people...but still - it feels like I'm letting people down by not having any labor pains as of yet. It's ridiculous...I know. But when they are calling constantly and sounding SO disappointed and then asking my DH (these are mostly his relatives) all sorts of probing questions like "Well, did the doctors check her for dilation yet?? Is she effaced?? Did she lose her mucus plug??" It's like "NONE OF YOUR BUSINESS!" :-). Why can't people just be patient and trust that we will CERTAINLY call them when the time comes?

So, I had a bit of a break-down tonight...just sat at my computer and silently cried because I honestly don't know how long I can take it. I just want to move on with life and I can't take this limbo feeling. I guess it would help if we were in an ok place financially...but we're more than broke (even $3 short with rent this month...how sad is that?), it's incredibly cold outside, and I have had a sinus problem for over 3 weeks. All in all I'm just tired and want to be done.

Sorry for the whiney post. I'm hoping that some sleep will help....hopefully I can get some sleep tonight

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Oh sweetie! I know how that feels!! DS was the first grandchild on my side - and my mom always went early. So at least your family waited till close to your due date! My family started hassling me at 34 wks!!! (I only went to 36, but it still sucked, cuz I also felt done by that point)
I also know how you feel in the financial thing - Netanel's day care called yesterday - we were paying that w/ our emergency credit card and we maxed it out this month... I gotto start working again. I was nervous to go grocery shopping today b/c there's only $30 in our bank account until DH gets paid next week so I got so excited when my total came out to only 12.07! (suffice it to say, Netanel didn't get his drinkable yogurts that he loves and has been begging for...)
But let me tell you that a baby is a blessing. Somehow they have the ability to bring with them what they need. And that includes finances. I don't know how it works, but I do know that it does. When we had DS, DH was in a low paying job and I wasn't working at all. A few weeks after he was born, Yoram got a job offer that came out of no where that paid a little more and was a much better opportunity. Somehow babies have a way of influencing the world so they will be taken care of.
You seem like a really spiritual person - go inside yourself and communicate with your baby. Ask him when he's going to be born. Tell him your frustration and ask him if he still needs more time in there. I think you will find that you will get some peace of mind from your baby. He knows. And he can feel your thoughts. Focus on him, he'll answer you.

I hope sleep helped!

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Yeahhhhh!!! You're at the birth center still, so that must mean things got started for you after your water broke!! Yippeeee (((ELV))) for you Phoenix. I can't wait to hear all about your birth story. You are going to do AWESOME!!

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Can't wait to hear more, we're all rooting for you!

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It often seems like just when you can't handle it anymore (or feel like you can't) the baby gets going! (I know that's how it happened with me.) Can't wait to hear an update.

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