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In the edd list, it says "no ultrasound." Did you really have no ultrasound at all? Team Surprise is terrific. Do you have a hunch about whether you've got a boy or a girl in there?
Sarah, I am so excited for your lodge. It makes this getting so close to edd's much more of a reality! I am excited to hear more of your story!
Ericka~Mommy to David, Paul and Adam
Oh my goodness! This is a surprise. I don’t know why, but I really hadn’t expected to have a lodge even though I’ve been involved here quite a bit! It’s pretty exciting!
I’m at work right now and should be pretty busy this week, but I’ve always been able to squeeze a little bit of pg.org in here and there (by copy and pasting from word so it looks like I’m busy!!! ) so I don’t see why I can’t do that right now!
So just a little background (I have plenty of stories to tell I’m sure!) this is my first, and DH’s second, and we are both very happy. My pregnancy has been pretty smooth sailing, with a couple of hiccups here and there – though nothing serious. I’m planning to have a homebirth with a birthing pool, and we found a midwife who get along with great, so all seems to be shaping up well.
To answer selkiemom, no, I haven’t had an ultrasound at all. My MW is generally against them, but very supportive of whatever the parent’s decision is. I think that she is actually very surprised that we opted against the u/s because there are heart problems on both DH and my side (my brother, and SS). In fact, at my last appointment it was almost as if the MW was wanting us to change our minds because “she didn’t want to have a baby with heart problems die on her at the birth”. I think I alleviated those fears because none of the heart problems have been life threatening – except that the doctor messed up with SS’s case and that mistake DID make it life threatening! As a result he has had open heart surgery to correct the doctor’s mistake but the original ‘problem’ has never been an issue! Typical case of a medical system ‘oops’.
Anyway, I’m glad I’ve had no u/s because of the sheer number of people who have had false positives and have had a whole bunch of stress because of it. I know I’ve done everything I can right (I’m healthy and have been eating well and resting lots), been quite stress-free, and generally quite peaceful. The rest is up to chance and our ability to cope, and an ultrasound was not likely to change any outcome – so why have one?
DH has been awesome! He’s completely supportive of the homebirth, and really, seems to intuitively know a lot of the stuff that people have been posting as “news”. I ask him whether he’s read a whole bunch of books about it and stuff and he says “no, it just makes sense”. He must have been a MW in another life or something . I asked what he saw his roll as at the birth, and he said he didn’t know. But he’d fill whatever capacity was needed at the time. I know that for many people that’s a cop-out, but I know that for him, he is being completely truthful and he’ll be magnificent. He’s definitely a very calming influence on everyone around so the combination between him and the experience of MW is going to be great – especially if for some reason I need to go to the hospital.
We plan to have SS with us for the birth (8yo), and are very lucky that his mom also thinks that it’s very important, so she’s on board for driving him over if he happens to be under her care at that point in time. We just read a couple books this weekend (Welcome With Love, and one of the Dr. Sears kids books), and he is super excited about the whole thing. I think, of all of us, that he is most excited about whether it’s a boy or a girl so maybe we’ll have him announce it. We’ll see how it works out.
OK, enough for now!
Hey, I have a lodge!!!
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Oh! I think it's a girl!Originally Posted by selkiemom
Don't know why.
I always said I’d never be able to deal with a girl and didn’t want one, but as soon as I found out I was pregnant I’ve just “known” it was a girl. I went through a period of doubt, but it’s back in full force. Now we get to wait and find out whether I’m right!
Y'know, I had a feeling all along we were having a boy, even dreamed about him multiple times before my u/s. So when I had the u/s at my doctor's office and they told me it looked like a girl, I was shocked! A lot of people had told me I would just KNOW which it was.... I never felt at peace thinking about "her" and had a hard time getting used to the idea and referring to her by name.Originally Posted by sarahsunshine
Then 2 1/2 weeks later I did a 4D and lo and behold, there were boy parts! It ended up being the owner of the u/s place that did mine, and he knew I wasn't confident about having a girl. Afterward he looked at me and asked if I had really felt it was a girl, or I thought I was having a boy. When I told him boy, he said he had found few if any women that were wrong about their intuition on it!
So I'm realllllllly curious to see what you end up having! BTW, I've had some doubt creep in too, even with an obvious picture....
Sarah! Congratulations on your lodge! I'm not having an ultrasound, either, for the same reasons. I haven't even had a doppler yet, but if we can't hear the baby with the fetoscope at my next appt (20wks) I think I'll opt for a quick listen. I'm still debating it, though. Anyways, I'm looking forward to your birth story! Our stories are so similar (though this is the first for both me and DH) and I can't wait to read about the end of your pregnancy!
Congrats on your lodge, Sarah! Can't wait to hear about your homebirth and your little girl!
I think I had my first doppler about a month ago (30 wks). It was neat, and really the first time that I heard a clear heartbeat. I guess it was the position of the baby.Originally Posted by aylaanne
The whole heartbeat thing doesn't really excite me that much (I know it does some people). I guess I'm of the view that if I was worried that the baby was alive or not, then I'd already know if it wasn't moving much and then it would be important. But if the baby is active, does the heartbeat add anything to our knowledge? I suppose there could be a very obvious heart murmur...